Yeah kinda figure I'm just regulating me and dh decided to test bfn kinda figure but just waiting for AF to get her so we can try!!! Its so crazy how how quickly u can over night do everything to prevent pregnancy and then one day want to be pg so bad, we cannot wait!!!!
Thank you @BerkeVaugh! It does help, I was on BC for roughly 12 years as well. Right now I am just trying not too stress to much over getting back to normal.
Hi! I'm new to this board and fairly new to TTC. This is month four. I'm totally confused because I don't know if I'm DPO 12 or DPO 5. This is my second month using OPKs and I had very strong positives twice this month (a week apart). I was on BC for 10 years so my cycle has been very unpredictable. AF either comes today or right before Christmas. If nothing by the 25th, I'm going to test and hope for a Christmas miracle
@E&CAyers -- That is why we recommend charting your BBT. It's the only accurate way to know when/if you've ovulated, and therefore know when you would expect AF. I highly suggest looking in to FF and TCOYF.
Thanks izza2 for the quick reply. If nothing happens this cycle I'm going to take next month off (mental break) from tracking and just BD every two to three days. After that, I'll order a BBT thermometer the day AF shows up. Any suggestions for a thermometer?
I do not post here very often but I am so frustrated and down. I'm on my 7th month TTC and several BFN. There have been several times I convinced myself I had symptoms regardless of how hard I tried not to. Some of my cousins recently had babies and I just want to cry when I see pictures on FB. Its starting to get to my husband too, we thought it would have happened by now. I feel like i wasted so much time as a teen worrying about getting pregnant.... didn't realize it was this hard.... I started temping 2 months ago but I'm finding it difficult. I don't always temp at the same time in the morning so I think the might be why they are off. ANY advice would be appreciated.
I think when you need to have a break down about TTC go for it. Allow yourself X amount of time to cry, be angry, etc. but then when the time is up, get up and let it go. Then really and truthfully get it in your head that this could take a long time and that's ok.
Thank you for sharing. That put tears in my eyes! My husband and I have been trying to conceive for a little over a year. He already has 2 kids so in my mind I'm the reason it hasn't happened yet. I get so frustrated at myself and people really don't understand till they have tried for so long. I used to think it would be so easy to get pregnant. I really appreciate getting to read everyone's posts and knowing I'm not alone in this.
If you see a line, its positive... My husband said he didn't see it, but I did, and low and behold I have a 2 1/2 year old now. Lol Good luck. Retest in 2 days. Go digital.
Hello, I am new to this board, and new to community boards in general. But DH and I have been TTC 'officially' for about 4 months now. I have been off if BC for 1 year and we have been using the pull out method until 4 months ago. DH is finally ready so this is my 4th cycle and I am in my 2ww. I should get AF next week. But hopefully I don't. It has been very encouraging reading these posts. I too have had several friends become pregnant in the last 2 years, not even trying or trying for the first time. I started to get severely depressed because at the time we weren't even trying, DH wasn't ready. Now we are trying I hoped so much that it would happen right away, I did everything I could think of to prepare. But here we are 4 cycles later. We will see next week!
Welcome, asholivo! I can definitely relate to your situation. Been married for almost 2 years now, DH wasn't ready until this year. I too was depressed and now that we've been TTC, it's also been frustrating - even though we haven't TTC'd for that long. Before we officially TTC, I'd been temping and using the CBFM. I used to use CB OPKs, but I found the monitor much better for me.
Thank you jb129!!! If I don't get a BFP next week I am going to start the monitors or OPK. I tried temping but I get up too often in the middle of the night. Good luck
These are all great ideas! I am in my 2nd ever 2ww and am not having as much trouble with it this time than I did the first time around. I LOVE the idea of banning yourself from googling symptoms. That is genius!
I also have decided that each month I am going to plan a new cocktail recipe to try when/if I get my period. It is really giving me something to look forward to as I have decided to not drink any alcohol during the 2ww, even though studies show that that's not a big deal anyway. At any rate, it gives me something to get excited about even if I do get a BFN!
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
Hi @asholivo !! I am new to these forums and boards as well. My hubby wasn't ready until right before we started trying (and he is still super scared and nervous about being a dad, albeit excited!) so I totally understand how you felt. We have only been trying for 2 cycles and so this is only my second ever 2ww, but you're right--these boards are an awesome source of support! One of my friends/coworkers is going to become a first-time dad any day now--his wife is 40 weeks and her due date is today--so it has been really hard in the past couple of months being around that...which makes me feel like an awful person because I really am excited! They got pregnant their first try, and it's so hard for me not to be jealous. However, I am so excited for their little bundle of joy to arrive! Emotions are complicated
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
@kellybean1988 I am sorry you are going through that right now, I really understand how hard that is! It is natural to have these feelings, especially jealousy. I went through that with a girl I work with who got pregnant right away, and when she had her precious little girl and I met her it surprisingly got easier for me. I dont really know how to explain it. But I hope somehow the same happens for you and that feeling goes away at least a little bit. Something else I have to keep reminding myself is that, even though it seems to happen all around me, only about 20% get pregnant the first month and it takes most couples 6 months to a year. So for right now good luck to both of us and I hope we don't have to wait too much longer
@asholivo Thanks so much for those words! I totally can see how it would get easier after the little one arrives. And I honestly am so excited for them because of how excited they are, so it will be fine And yes, you are so right about the stats! It is very common for people to have to try for a while. I remind myself of that all the time too! Thanks, that really helps! And good luck to you too!!
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
@lovelyLissaMarie There is a really great comprehensive list of all the abbreviations used on these boards in the ultimate guide for TTGP boards. It has a really great set of rules and guidelines as well for what and what not to post. You can find this link in the first section of MissAmeliaPond's comments of the "INTRODUCE YOURSELF!" board. Hope this helps!
@kellybean1988 I know that feeling! I currently know 2 people who are pregnant who got pregnant month one (one friend and one coworker). And all of my friends with children have been super unhelpful when I ask them for advice because they got pregnant month 1 or 2, and I know that's not realistic for most people so I take it all cautiously. I'm month 1 right now (in my first TWW) and it's tough to be surrounded by people who all got pregnant so quick and not have high hopes of the same unrealistic thing happening here!
@aliciabhen Tell me about it! How is it possible that statistically speaking, the majority of people take 6 months-1 year or longer to conceive, yet suddenly the majority of people in OUR lives surrounding us become the minority that conceive in 1 month!? Craziness. I'm sure much of it is psychological as well but it sure doesn't seem like it. lol! Oh well. It's only my 2nd cycle TTC as well so I'm just trying to stay positive through it all without the expectation of conceiving right away. We got this!
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
@kellybean199 and @aliciabhen - I can relate as I have two co-workers that are currently pregnant and 2 family members currently pregnant as well. I think people who get pregnant quickly are just fortunate that time around. I can share that with our 1st we got pregnant right away, only experienced one TWW and not even fully since I got a BFP at 9DPO - I was surprised but ecstatic and now here I am going into my 4th cycle TTC #2. I was bummed when the 1st cycle gave me a BFN but wasn't surprised knowing the statistics but it was a little harder getting it on the 2nd and especially the 3rd cycle since it happened so quickly the first time around. Again though it's all about staying positive and not stressing about it because it doesn't help.
I like the tips I've read on here though about surviving the wait and will be using some of them!
@TrulyBlessed22 ,thank you for sharing your story!! Here's hoping that you get a BFP sooner rather than later, and congrats on your little DD I think you're right as well--you never know what is happening in folks' lives! Yay positivity!
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
NP @kellybean188, happy to share - that's what the community is all about and it's important to know there isn't a "one size fits all" when it comes to TTC. I too hope we all find our respective Birth Month Boards soon and hopefully some of us will move on to the same boards and continue the friendships on there.
@kellybean1988@TrulyBlessed22 I agree! At this point all three of us are fortunate to actually still be relatively early in the process. I see so many women in the TWW who have been at this over a year and who still have such positive attitudes! And it gives us a chance to really get to know the community, make some friends, and establish some relationships before we finally move over to our BMBs!
Hi ladies! I'm so glad to read your comments and know that I am not the only one! My best friend of over a decade is currently 12 weeks along with her second! She was afraid to tell me because she didn't want to hurt my feelings, as DH and I have been actively trying since October! And yes, it was hard, but I was really happy for her! I'm currently on CD 51. AF hasn't regulated yet since going off BCP in September. I'm all too familiar with the TWW and how hard it can be! Ooofph!
@mrsdaddario Ugh I know the wait for regulation after BCPs. I actually stopped them in 2011 and it took me almost a year. Granted I am the exception and definitely not the rule! During that year I would skip months and then when AF decided to show she would stick around for wayyyy too long. It felt so good to start getting normal cycles back! FX that it happens for you soon!
Thank you! Yeah it's bizarre! I had two very normal periods, 30 and 32 days respectively, and then the next one was 49 days. When I finally got AF it was only 5 days long. So now CD 51, and two BFN. The TWW isn't the only wait that's wearing on me lol. It's also the wait of AF regulation!
But I've picked up new books to read and I'm also looking into book clubs in my area! I may even buy myself one of those adult coloring books. Anything to stay sane!
Well looks like I'll be having to try next month! I can tell I am going to start my period tomrrow, I am so moody and irritable. Ugh I'm so frustrated! Here's to month #5!
@mrsdaddario FX that it resolves soon! If I remember correctly my cycles were all close to that too right after, about 60 days! At one point when it finally came it legitimately lasted on and off for a month. It was rough. But the good news is when all was said and done I ended up being more regular than I ever was before BC!
And awesome plan. Books are a great way to pass the time. I do the same! I've always wanted to join a book club. We do one at work but only twice a year.
@asholivo so sorry!! Here's hoping for success this cycle!!! I will probably see you in the WTO group soon if AF arrives in the next few days (telling myself that it will as I don't want hopes to get up).
@aliciabhen and @mrsdaddario , I just stopped BCP in late December of '15 and then we started trying. So far these first two cycles have been regular, but I am nervous that they might be erratic after this. We'll see! Hoping for the best! Wishing for success for both of you soon.
TTC January 2016 BFP May 17, 2016 DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
@kellybean1988 Thats awesome! Mine was so wonky I really am more of the exception than the rule. After two normal cycles for you I have faith they'll keep trending that way! I didn't have any normal ones after. Luckily for me I wasn't TTC when I went off BCP so I didn't have to worry about it, which I know isn't the case for everyone! Most people stop when they're ready to start TTC. And thank you! Here's hoping we all end up in BMBs soon!
We are in the early stages of TTC, 2 months, but I found myself getting upset this month that there wasn't a positive test. I wasn't feeling myself, nausea, didn't feel like I normally do when I'm getting my period. But in the end, it wasn't meant to be. I'm trying not to stress about it. Trying not to think the worst only 2 months in. I can just see it getting worse as the months go by. But I know it will happen when it's supposed to!
Honestly this month is rough, i feel like i am going crazy. We have been ttc since january, and every month has been 28 or 29 day cycle, but this month im on day 33 and nothing. I have taken two dollar store tests, one on sunday late night and the other on tuesday but both negative. Usually im really sick day leading up to period and i feel nothing. Last night i started feeling a tad tender on the side of my breasts. I know depending on the hormone or lack there of, some people can find out they are pregnant when they are two weeks late! I am planning on taking another test sat morn if aunt flow doesnt comeby then. Crossing my fingers its a positive test though. I feel like i want to try to busy myself but i keep finding myself doing more research instead. Argh!
This is horrible. Everyone keeps telling me to be happy, relax and just have fun with the whole thing. How can I have fun when every day turns out another BFN?! Seriously wish I could find a hobby fun enough to make me forget about all the stress
I just scrolled through Facebook....and this is what I saw: 2 PG announcements....baby clothes and items from trade and a post of memes about having babies....oh and a billion photos of my best friends little girl who was born today (which I don't mind. ..but still hard). Then I burst into tears...and thought why is this so hard? Why me? And then I feel like an idiot because compared to many of you ladies I'm at the start of my journey. If I feel like this now....I can't imagine what some of you must feel. You all are truly the strongest people I can imagine. You inspire me!
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I also have decided that each month I am going to plan a new cocktail recipe to try when/if I get my period. It is really giving me something to look forward to as I have decided to not drink any alcohol during the 2ww, even though studies show that that's not a big deal anyway. At any rate, it gives me something to get excited about even if I do get a BFN!
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
!! I am new to these forums and boards as well. My hubby wasn't ready until right before we started trying (and he is still super scared and nervous about being a dad, albeit excited!) so I totally understand how you felt. We have only been trying for 2 cycles and so this is only my second ever 2ww, but you're right--these boards are an awesome source of support! One of my friends/coworkers is going to become a first-time dad any day now--his wife is 40 weeks and her due date is today--so it has been really hard in the past couple of months being around that...which makes me feel like an awful person because I really am excited! They got pregnant their first try, and it's so hard for me not to be jealous. However, I am so excited for their little bundle of joy to arrive! Emotions are complicated
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
Thanks so much for those words! I totally can see how it would get easier after the little one arrives. And I honestly am so excited for them because of how excited they are, so it will be fine
And yes, you are so right about the stats! It is very common for people to have to try for a while. I remind myself of that all the time too! Thanks, that really helps! And good luck to you too!!
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
There is a really great comprehensive list of all the abbreviations used on these boards in the ultimate guide for TTGP boards. It has a really great set of rules and guidelines as well for what and what not to post. You can find this link in the first section of MissAmeliaPond's comments of the "INTRODUCE YOURSELF!" board. Hope this helps!
Here is the link--it's easier to just click this! https://www.thebump.com/community-glossary
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
I know that feeling! I currently know 2 people who are pregnant who got pregnant month one (one friend and one coworker). And all of my friends with children have been super unhelpful when I ask them for advice because they got pregnant month 1 or 2, and I know that's not realistic for most people so I take it all cautiously. I'm month 1 right now (in my first TWW) and it's tough to be surrounded by people who all got pregnant so quick and not have high hopes of the same unrealistic thing happening here!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Tell me about it! How is it possible that statistically speaking, the majority of people take 6 months-1 year or longer to conceive, yet suddenly the majority of people in OUR lives surrounding us become the minority that conceive in 1 month!? Craziness. I'm sure much of it is psychological as well but it sure doesn't seem like it. lol! Oh well. It's only my 2nd cycle TTC as well so I'm just trying to stay positive through it all without the expectation of conceiving right away.
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
@kellybean199 and @aliciabhen - I can relate as I have two co-workers that are currently pregnant and 2 family members currently pregnant as well. I think people who get pregnant quickly are just fortunate that time around. I can share that with our 1st we got pregnant right away, only experienced one TWW and not even fully since I got a BFP at 9DPO - I was surprised but ecstatic and now here I am going into my 4th cycle TTC #2. I was bummed when the 1st cycle gave me a BFN but wasn't surprised knowing the statistics but it was a little harder getting it on the 2nd and especially the 3rd cycle since it happened so quickly the first time around. Again though it's all about staying positive and not stressing about it because it doesn't help.
I like the tips I've read on here though about surviving the wait and will be using some of them!
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
NP @kellybean188, happy to share - that's what the community is all about and it's important to know there isn't a "one size fits all" when it comes to TTC. I too hope we all find our respective Birth Month Boards soon and hopefully some of us will move on to the same boards and continue the friendships on there.
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I agree! At this point all three of us are fortunate to actually still be relatively early in the process. I see so many women in the TWW who have been at this over a year and who still have such positive attitudes! And it gives us a chance to really get to know the community, make some friends, and establish some relationships before we finally move over to our BMBs!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Hi ladies! I'm so glad to read your comments and know that I am not the only one! My best friend of over a decade is currently 12 weeks along with her second! She was afraid to tell me because she didn't want to hurt my feelings, as DH and I have been actively trying since October! And yes, it was hard, but I was really happy for her! I'm currently on CD 51. AF hasn't regulated yet since going off BCP in September. I'm all too familiar with the TWW and how hard it can be! Ooofph!
Ugh I know the wait for regulation after BCPs. I actually stopped them in 2011 and it took me almost a year. Granted I am the exception and definitely not the rule! During that year I would skip months and then when AF decided to show she would stick around for wayyyy too long. It felt so good to start getting normal cycles back! FX that it happens for you soon!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Thank you! Yeah it's bizarre! I had two very normal periods, 30 and 32 days respectively, and then the next one was 49 days. When I finally got AF it was only 5 days long. So now CD 51, and two BFN. The TWW isn't the only wait that's wearing on me lol. It's also the wait of AF regulation!
But I've picked up new books to read and I'm also looking into book clubs in my area! I may even buy myself one of those adult coloring books. Anything to stay sane!
Bummer!! It IS so frustrating! Sorry to hear AF's impending doom.
FX that it resolves soon! If I remember correctly my cycles were all close to that too right after, about 60 days! At one point when it finally came it legitimately lasted on and off for a month. It was rough. But the good news is when all was said and done I ended up being more regular than I ever was before BC!
And awesome plan. Books are a great way to pass the time. I do the same! I've always wanted to join a book club. We do one at work but only twice a year.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
so sorry!! Here's hoping for success this cycle!!! I will probably see you in the WTO group soon if AF arrives in the next few days (telling myself that it will as I don't want hopes to get up).
@aliciabhen and @mrsdaddario , I just stopped BCP in late December of '15 and then we started trying. So far these first two cycles have been regular, but I am nervous that they might be erratic after this. We'll see! Hoping for the best! Wishing for success for both of you soon.
TTC January 2016
BFP May 17, 2016
DS born January 31st, 2017: Rory "Mac" MacKinnon
Ahhh good luck!! Keep us posted on if it stays regular! FX for you that is does! Still no AF over here. CD 53. Gimme a break AF lol!
Thats awesome! Mine was so wonky I really am more of the exception than the rule. After two normal cycles for you I have faith they'll keep trending that way! I didn't have any normal ones after. Luckily for me I wasn't TTC when I went off BCP so I didn't have to worry about it, which I know isn't the case for everyone! Most people stop when they're ready to start TTC.
And thank you! Here's hoping we all end up in BMBs soon!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Married 05/21/2011
TTC Since Feb 2016
RE: Dec 2016 Dx: PCOS
5 rounds of Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel + TI
BFP!!!! June 2017 // EDD: 04/01/2018
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