October 2015 Moms

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  • I am about fed up with the way some parents feed their children. I'm a 4th grade teacher, and I have students that come to school with soda, a family sized bag of chips and some kind of treat. Pay attention to what you send your children with. There are plenty of healthy options that are cheap. And yes.. I am judging you

    yes momma!!!!!!!!! Yes this exactly ....I say the same thing ..my son constantly want soday or chips or crap all because other kids in his class have it...the kicker HE DOEANT EVEN LIKE THEM AS MUCH!!!!! the junk food not the kids lolzzz....what is your view on the water bottle, I get so much crap from dh for sending a bottle of water with my son to school, but I prefer him drinking water then anything else wch BTW my son can't go a day w.o!





  • I don't mind water in my room since I'm drinking all the time too! They don't cause much of a distraction.

    I actually called a mom one time because it was so bad. The response I got was , " Oh I had him pack his own lunch. I guess he was not choosing the right things". Haha you think... He is 10 years old!
  • edited June 2015
    Every person that learns my son has down syndrome seems to think it is ok to ask if I got prenatal testing... it's not really your business. I am all for educating the public, but asking someone questions like this when you are a stranger is kind of rude (especially if it is because you are nosey, and not trying to learn from it) 

    (For the record, no I did not...and I get asked this even when I go grocery shopping. I'd be less offended if it was a genuine wanting to learn thing...but most people want to know so they can judge it "why didn't you, i bet you wish you had" yadda)
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  • Sorry people are assholes @emeraudecephiro

    Even though having my own kids and dealing with strangers ignorant judging and open rudeness I still hate to hear it.  I just try to use the experiences for teaching moments for my kids about how not to be a grade A douchebag.  




  • I am about fed up with the way some parents feed their children. I'm a 4th grade teacher, and I have students that come to school with soda, a family sized bag of chips and some kind of treat. Pay attention to what you send your children with. There are plenty of healthy options that are cheap. And yes.. I am judging you


    yes momma!!!!!!!!! Yes this exactly ....I say the same thing ..my son constantly want soday or chips or crap all because other kids in his class have it...the kicker HE DOEANT EVEN LIKE THEM AS MUCH!!!!! the junk food not the kids lolzzz....what is your view on the water bottle, I get so much crap from dh for sending a bottle of water with my son to school, but I prefer him drinking water then anything else wch BTW my son can't go a day w.o!

    My son will be sent with his own water bottle. Water fountains gross me out. So many mouths/ germs - yuck!
  • Every person that learns my son has down syndrome seems to think it is ok to ask if I got prenatal testing... it's not really your business. I am all for educating the public, but asking someone questions like this when you are a stranger is kind of rude (especially if it is because you are nosey, and not trying to learn from it) 


    (For the record, no I did not...and I get asked this even when I go grocery shopping. I'd be less offended if it was a genuine wanting to learn thing...but most people want to know so they can judge it "why didn't you, i bet you wish you had" yadda)
    What I'd want to ask that person is why, why would you wish you had? To most it wouldn't make a difference. It would just cause you to spend the rest of your pregnancy worrying about things out of your control and that's not healthy for either of you.

    People are so dumb.
  • I am about fed up with the way some parents feed their children. I'm a 4th grade teacher, and I have students that come to school with soda, a family sized bag of chips and some kind of treat. Pay attention to what you send your children with. There are plenty of healthy options that are cheap. And yes.. I am judging you

    yes momma!!!!!!!!! Yes this exactly ....I say the same thing ..my son constantly want soday or chips or crap all because other kids in his class have it...the kicker HE DOEANT EVEN LIKE THEM AS MUCH!!!!! the junk food not the kids lolzzz....what is your view on the water bottle, I get so much crap from dh for sending a bottle of water with my son to school, but I prefer him drinking water then anything else wch BTW my son can't go a day w.o!
    My son will be sent with his own water bottle. Water fountains gross me out. So many mouths/ germs - yuck!

    totally gross! And because I wanted him to prefer water over juice or soda, we had started this way way b4 school started ! Glad to say he's a healthy active young boy!





  • @taralohse Does your mom have intimacy issues? My mom didn't really have a mother, so she seems to have trouble getting close to me. It's like she wants to be close, but not too close. It's little things like saying "love ya" over a text, but never saying "I love you" in person. Side hugs only, never calling me or asking how my life is going. You mom may be the same way, and just feel weird about being to close. Or, I could be totally off and just venting about my own mother!
    BrooklynBroussard My mom and I have a great relationship! I call her over everything because I'm still such a baby and she lives far away lol. However, My MIL (who is doing all the posting) and my husband have a weird relationship. He isn't really close to his family and didn't have it easy growing up, which causes me to not have a super close relationship with them. That's why I KNOW when she puts stuff on my FB it's really all for show.. acting as if we're all so close or maybe even competing with my family? My husband is super close to my family and it feels like she posts stuff just to prove she's "involved." 



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  • Pregnancy is not a disability.  I like to run, cycle, and lift heavy weights - pregnant or not.  Lots of the looks I get are kind smiles, but too many are looks of incredulity.

    I would look at you with envy. I'm way too lazy being pregnant
  • Every person that learns my son has down syndrome seems to think it is ok to ask if I got prenatal testing... it's not really your business. I am all for educating the public, but asking someone questions like this when you are a stranger is kind of rude (especially if it is because you are nosey, and not trying to learn from it) 

    (For the record, no I did not...and I get asked this even when I go grocery shopping. I'd be less offended if it was a genuine wanting to learn thing...but most people want to know so they can judge it "why didn't you, i bet you wish you had" yadda)
    What I'd want to ask that person is why, why would you wish you had? To most it wouldn't make a difference. It would just cause you to spend the rest of your pregnancy worrying about things out of your control and that's not healthy for either of you. People are so dumb.
    I can understand why other people would want to do testing and to know. I did. I wanted to have all of the information and options available to me that I possibly could. With that said, that is such an intimate and personal decision that is absolutely no one else's business. In spite of how I feel about this for myself, I cannot think of a more cruel, ignorant, and inappropriate question to ask anyone, let alone someone who has a child with a disability or disorder. 

    I hesitate to even use those words, as the parents of these children I have experienced don't see their kids that way at all. They are perfect to them, just as all our children will be to each of us, and I think that's beautiful. Inherently by asking that question, people are implying that the parents were lazy and neglectful in their decision making through pregnancy, and that the child they obviously love really shouldn't be there. I am so sorry you would ever have to deal with this, truly. There are many more productive ways for people to educate themselves.  
  • jefinley1 said:

    @SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early.

    I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.

    They might be getting it from their Dr? Every Dr I've seen during my pregnancy this far has referred to 37 weeks as full term as well. I've been told anywhere from 37-42 is full term and depends on certain factors but I didn't ask for elaboration.
  • @SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early. I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.
    They might be getting it from their Dr? Every Dr I've seen during my pregnancy this far has referred to 37 weeks as full term as well. I've been told anywhere from 37-42 is full term and depends on certain factors but I didn't ask for elaboration.
    Also good to know. @LiveNLove44 's response was also really helpful. I genuinely only know what I have learned from my pregnancy this year, so am not aware of updates of terminology or medical phrasing that have happened recently. Frankly, I'm one of the people who would love it if baby girl decided she wanted to make an earlier appearance (within reason of course!). I don't think my mom was exactly disappointed that I came a solid 2.5 plus weeks before my official due date. I would never induce unless my midwife insisted it was medically necessary, but if I make it to week 41 and still have no baby, I will probably not exactly be throwing a party. 
  • Every person that learns my son has down syndrome seems to think it is ok to ask if I got prenatal testing... it's not really your business. I am all for educating the public, but asking someone questions like this when you are a stranger is kind of rude (especially if it is because you are nosey, and not trying to learn from it) 


    (For the record, no I did not...and I get asked this even when I go grocery shopping. I'd be less offended if it was a genuine wanting to learn thing...but most people want to know so they can judge it "why didn't you, i bet you wish you had" yadda)
    I know I shouldn't be shocked, but I am! People ask this?! What difference would it have made?! Gah. That makes me mad. It's none of their business!
  • This is my first UO I typically just read and occasionally like but damnit its been a long week.

    I am a FTM and may eat my words some day...

    Baby backpacks/carriers whatever the hell you want to call them drive me insane. You look ridiculous, your baby looks uncomfortable as fuck and I just don't get it. Yes you have your hands free but you also appear to be suffocating your baby and cutting off blood supply to all it's extremities.  The hippy slings don't bother me as much but still. 

    Its right up there with kids on leashes...

    Again, i don't know your situation mama and am FTM myself but its my opinion right? ;)
  • jefinley1 said:



    jefinley1 said:

    @SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early.

    I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.

    They might be getting it from their Dr? Every Dr I've seen during my pregnancy this far has referred to 37 weeks as full term as well. I've been told anywhere from 37-42 is full term and depends on certain factors but I didn't ask for elaboration.

    Also good to know. @LiveNLove44 's response was also really helpful. I genuinely only know what I have learned from my pregnancy this year, so am not aware of updates of terminology or medical phrasing that have happened recently. Frankly, I'm one of the people who would love it if baby girl decided she wanted to make an earlier appearance (within reason of course!). I don't think my mom was exactly disappointed that I came a solid 2.5 plus weeks before my official due date. I would never induce unless my midwife insisted it was medically necessary, but if I make it to week 41 and still have no baby, I will probably not exactly be throwing a party. 

    Ditto. I would love for my son to come mid September instead of Oct!!
  • Not sure this counts as an UO but my fiancé keeps referring to the baby as "the kid" and it's driving me insane. He'll say "well when the kid gets here" and "we'll need someone to watch the kid" and "I'm going to be a dad for the first time. The kid is due is october."

    BABY!!!!! He's a baby!!! Not a kid.

    I might just snap.

    I've told him it bugs me too and he keeps doing it.
  • My UO is that I get a bit frustrated with all the posts worrying about their pregnancy. I try to be kind and compassionate, but I think it's a good reflection of this modern health paranoia in our society. I am choosing to not get worked up about any health concern unless it's one of the "red flag" symptoms. I personally think pregnancy is the most natural, stable, healthy thing we can do with our bodies. I really have a difficult time with the whole line of thinking around pregnancy being a medical condition. 

    I will say that there are people will real health problems, and I'm sure it is bothersome to them that these other posts almost trivialize it. I can't tell you how many times I've typed "see your doctor" on this site. What's the point?
    BrooklynBroussard I think you said it quiet perfectly! There are so many posts regarding things that are easy enough to discuss with your doctor... or even just google! We pay way too much to see our doctors and deliver a baby, they can take all our phone calls! 

    I posted a thread about my baby possibly having a pelvic kidney and asking to see if anyone else knew anyone with one or was in the same boat, barely any feedback! :( Which may be a good thing because maybe nobody else is in the same boat but it seems that the same types of posts over and over again get so many responses. 



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  • UO: I jist can't with the non-spelling. I'm a middle school English teacher, and I truly see the horrific things that are happening to our language because of text speak.my kids literally can't spell "because". I get phone typing (doing it now). Really, I do. Its just....ugh. I'd rather see spelling errors than thru/gr8/c u l8r/ etc.

    I feel like autotext might help this issue. It's harder to abbreviate than to just type the word. I go insane when I post and then realize there are errors. I'm almost always on my phone or kindle so I'm always getting screwed by autotext.
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    I don't regret my choice, and I would have liked to be more educated. The shock alone took a lot to bounce back from. I did get a test this time just so I could go to a more equipped hospital if necessary and have the genetic pediatrician available, plus my risks go up seeing I have a son with t21 already. I would have been a much bigger worrywart the first time. I am happy to answer questions, but time, place, and intention factor a lot :) I get people who say "Dont you wish yougot tested and just tried again?" IN FRONT OF HIM. Ugh. That is what bugs me. Sorry to vent. I love Vincent and he is the biggest light in my life and brings much more joy than sorrow to the world... but people are ignorant.
    Oh my gosh I would slap a bitch. As if a child with downs isnt a blessing! If you HAVE to say something so rotten, at least have the decency to not do it in front of the kid.. Gosh I'd be so angry in that situation. Why would you have tested and "just tried again", you have a gorgeous little boy and if people cant see that, theyre the ones with the problem. 
    I did opt to test when they found a soft marker on my little one, but just so we'd know and be able to prepare like you said. If my baby girl had tested positive she'd have still been a blessing. Just try again, pff, where do people get the nerve?! Sorry to rant with you there, but gosh that gets me angry. I'm SO sorry you have to deal with people being that ridiculously rude. 

  • @komorebi I think it's important to remember that all scientific fact is not created equally! Some scientific theory can be tested more conclusively than a lot of observable science. I think sometimes people drop what they think is a science bomb, and we all side eye their lack of understanding.

    I totally agree. I've done a lot of reading on biological anthropology since becoming a mother and I feel it's important to look at the infant as the dependent creature that it is. James McKenna has done a lot of really interesting research on sleeping and the biological imperatives of newborns.

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