My UO is that i hate when people get all "yay we know science" when the biggest thing in science is that it evolves and changes. Facts are only facts until they aren't anymore.
See to me, the biggest thing about science is that a hypothesis is made, experiments are run, data is collected, and conclusions are made from the data that support or do not support the hypothesis. That is pretty much the scientific method.
Do things change in science? Of course. I like to think that this is part of the learning process that goes on. But the thing that I think the scientific community is good at (or tries to be good at) is sharing their data and testing and rerunning each other's experiments. And stating when they get a different result from their experiment, and then trying to figure out where the difference came from.
I also don't understand the disregarding of "facts" because they might change in the future. How should we base our decisions if not on the facts that are generally accepted by the scientific community?
I make no claim to have done research on baby wearing. I am sure there are benefits, otherwise why do it. I just see it and think A) I am WAAAY too much of a sweaty betty for that to ever be comfortable for me or baby. I am guessing most people don't use them correctly because their baby does not look comfortable at all, I am pretty sure their limbs shouldn't be turning colors. C) it makes my back throb just looking at it.
Again just my opinion.
The leash thing just reminds me of a dog that that isn't good at taking walks yet, mom is pulling one way, kid is pulling another way and I just picture a dog pulling on a leash yelping and going crazy.
U can tell who jist made a mistake n who is lazy cuz U smrt n no how to detect tone even on the internet i think U cool or smtng lol luv the sloth @brooklynbroussard
Yeah yeah, I'm an asshole.
ETA: @BrooklynBroussard, I really do think you're cool. I hope that came across right! (See how bad grammar can mess you up, people?!)
The biggest UO I have is that 78% of the time, I wish I never got pregnant. (It used to be 100% of the time, so I'm getting better.) I am pregnancy's biggest advocate, don't get me wrong, I think I just made a poorly timed decision for myself because of my age.
My UO opinion that is less heavy is that I HATE the total disregard for grammar here. I don't even care if that makes me a big B, it blows. I'm not talking about an obvious auto-correct mistake or simple misspelling, I'm talking about people whose posts I can not even read because my brain can't go that slow, it hurts. (At first I actually tagged someone here, then deleted it because I guess that would be mean. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, I just want to be able to read your posts.)
Last UO: I WANT A CIGARETTE. (I quit. I just really want one.)
Don't worry, I'm in therapy.
This totally is UO on the bump, because people totally get upset if you point out bad grammar. There are posters whom I love what they have to say, but it really hurts my head to read it. I don't like massive run on sentences, made up words, etc. Ugh.
Ugh if I open a post and it's a gigantic run on sentence I just close it. I used to try to parse it into pieces, but no. I can't.
I make no claim to have done research on baby wearing. I am sure there are benefits, otherwise why do it. I just see it and think A) I am WAAAY too much of a sweaty betty for that to ever be comfortable for me or baby. I am guessing most people don't use them correctly because their baby does not look comfortable at all, I am pretty sure their limbs shouldn't be turning colors. C) it makes my back throb just looking at it.
Again just my opinion.
The leash thing just reminds me of a dog that that isn't good at taking walks yet, mom is pulling one way, kid is pulling another way and I just picture a dog pulling on a leash yelping and going crazy.
Hyper, full of energy, not good at listening, doesn't follow directions, always pulling, going crazy. Yep could both describe our dog and toddler.
Before I was a mom, I thought the leash was weird too. Another mom said to me, "Then you have never lost your child at Disney World." True dat. I still have never used a leash, nor been to Disney World, but I get it.
@komorebi Yes! My father out here in California calls anything grilled BBQ. I hate anything BBQ, so it drives me nuts! Just call it grilled
@BrooklynBroussard this may be a California thing. We always said barbequed chicken growing up when really it was just grilled. Probably because BBQ is not really a big thing in a lot of places in CA.
Same here. We own two of our own (american bulldog and Staffordshire Bull Terrier) and currently I have one more foster Cane Corso until the new owner moves end of July. We are big bully breed advocates and foster them since many times they are the breeds filling up the shelters. Our dogs were our kids before having actual humans and for some reason I keep expanding that part of our family and think I need to save all the animals!
This is probably unpopular, but I'm excited to use some of the zingers I've been saving up in my mind as retorts to people who make terrible comments to me--but no one has said anything bad enough for me to use them!
Not that I'm complaining about people generally being lovely folks (in fact, it rocks!), but I want to use at least ONE zinger for the stupid question/ belly rub/ ridiculous comment by a stranger!
Is that weird? It's weird. Whatever. I'm sure when I'm a balloon in Septemebr I'll get my chance!
Before I was a mom, I thought the leash was weird too. Another mom said to me, "Then you have never lost your child at Disney World." True dat. I still have never used a leash, nor been to Disney World, but I get it.
Definitely this.
My family used leashes with my nephews when they were toddlers. We only used them at places like Disneyland or Airports. I don't like seeing when kids are walking right next to a parent all the way through Disneyland because then it does look like they are being dragged but when you are waiting in line or waiting at the airport gate it is a huge help. Toddlers do not want to be held all the time and a little room to explore makes them a lot happier. One of my nephews loved his leash. The other one wasn't the biggest fan but preferred it over being held or being stuck in the stroller.
Our ST is. We got him when he was only 6 months and came from a very bad situation. Our American Bulldog is somewhat of a rescue. She is the sister of our last AB that passed away two years ago. These owners were moving to NYC and knew we had the brother and called us to take her. We gladly accepted and it was like a sign since we had lost the brother 6 months prior. Like humans, the brother/sisters very much remind of us each other. I'm with you on the dog lover thing, dogs are an excellent judge of character and if you don't like them and they don't like you, well I am watching "you."
@komorebi Yes! My father out here in California calls anything grilled BBQ. I hate anything BBQ, so it drives me nuts! Just call it grilled
@BrooklynBroussard this may be a California thing. We always said barbequed chicken growing up when really it was just grilled. Probably because BBQ is not really a big thing in a lot of places in CA.
I finally have a few which have already been mentioned: *I am beginning to hate the name posts and agree with pp's opinions on checking out the specific name board. Also that I participate in the polls because I don't believe my opinion should really count, therefore I don't state it. *The whole "how long are you really pregnant debate" between weeks and months annoys me terribly. Also I believe that no one can truly pin point the exact moment of conception. In my opinion all ultrasounds and LMP predictions and even E.D.D are very professional educated guesses. I'm a FTM and if I'm pregnant two weeks over I will not bitch and moan. I believe that letting your body take a natural course; with the exception that your not putting you or baby in danger, is the best route. *Weight posts: I just can't. EVERY SINGLE BODY AND PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT. I begin to side eye people who seem to start them just to flaunt that they haven't gained a pound. I use this term lightly because I really don't know anyone's intention. It's just the way I interpret the thread To me it's odd and another way women back handedly are judgy.
@komorebi Yes! My father out here in California calls anything grilled BBQ. I hate anything BBQ, so it drives me nuts! Just call it grilled
@BrooklynBroussard this may be a California thing. We always said barbequed chicken growing up when really it was just grilled. Probably because BBQ is not really a big thing in a lot of places in CA.
Lurkers...go back to your rightful home. I'm aware that I sound snotty and exclusionary, but my blood gets all riled up when I read a post and the Bumper identified herself as said lurker and then gives her opinion which further stirs the pot. What kind of time do you have on your hands to peruse more than one board!? If you're that interested in the topic then post it in your month. Mercy...
I totally agree when it's pot stirring, HOWEVER, I love it when I'm too tired or irritated to "science" and they step in and take care of business We have some really well-informed lurkers who can articulate the support we need sometimes. Any other time, I totally agree with you though!
Yes! I'm totally OK when they are being constructive, but then when they pull out the "grow up, you posted online, you can't get mad at people giving you their opinions" I go crazy. We all tend to get along pretty well and it's so agrivating when they are the only ones starting sh*t!
I don't like the phrase "I can't wait until xyz." Yes, yes you can, and you will! What you mean is "I'm looking forward to xyz." "Excited about xyz." "Anticipating xyz." Also I wish that "crazy," "insane," "mental," etc. would not be used so frequently and casually. Rarely do they capture what the speaker means and I think it's offensive. Language is a glorious tool box. Let's stop pulling out the same tired hammer and screwdriver.
@LiveNLove44 I started cracking up because I read your UO as I am sitting here...eating pasta salad.
@smlowe9311 They probably aren't that original and/or I'm sure plenty of gals have used them before, but a few I've been saving up are: Touching the persons belly back if they touch/ rub mine (and it's a stranger) "How much have you gained?" "How much have YOU gained?" "Did you mean to get pregnant?" / "Did you conceive naturally?" "Fuck off."
Kidding about the last one, but I love @BrooklynBroussard 's idea of a zinger thread! I don't remember seeing one before, and I could obviously use some more original zings
One more thought on science, the thing is some people actually understand the process, the strengths, the weaknesses and the limitations and other people just happen to believe what is commonly accepted but could never argue their position. I think that bothers me. And also demanding supporting evidence when the only evidence they put out are news articles. This isn't a bump specific thing. Facebook peeps are driving me insane with it.
One more thought on science, the thing is some people actually understand the process, the strengths, the weaknesses and the limitations and other people just happen to believe what is commonly accepted but could never argue their position. I think that bothers me. And also demanding supporting evidence when the only evidence they put out are news articles. This isn't a bump specific thing. Facebook peeps are driving me insane with it.
Yes I would agree, people who cannot support their "facts" with evidence are not practicing science. While I'm not a scientist, I do have a brother who is a scientist, and two brothers who are doctors, so I have a lot of respect for scientific studies. I'm also a data analyst/statistician, so I understand the methodology that is used in studies. So while I could never argue convincingly as to why I believe global warming is true, because I am not a climate scientist, I can say that I respect the scientific process and if 97% of climate scientists say it's true, I believe them. So I am of the opinion that is it ok to argue a position by saying "this is the generally accepted science and here is the study to back it up" even if I don't understand the actual science behind the study.
My UO is that I get a bit frustrated with all the posts worrying about their pregnancy. I try to be kind and compassionate, but I think it's a good reflection of this modern health paranoia in our society. I am choosing to not get worked up about any health concern unless it's one of the "red flag" symptoms. I personally think pregnancy is the most natural, stable, healthy thing we can do with our bodies. I really have a difficult time with the whole line of thinking around pregnancy being a medical condition.
I will say that there are people will real health problems, and I'm sure it is bothersome to them that these other posts almost trivialize it. I can't tell you how many times I've typed "see your doctor" on this site. What's the point?
My UO is that I get a bit frustrated with all the posts worrying about their pregnancy. I try to be kind and compassionate, but I think it's a good reflection of this modern health paranoia in our society. I am choosing to not get worked up about any health concern unless it's one of the "red flag" symptoms. I personally think pregnancy is the most natural, stable, healthy thing we can do with our bodies. I really have a difficult time with the whole line of thinking around pregnancy being a medical condition.
I will say that there are people will real health problems, and I'm sure it is bothersome to them that these other posts almost trivialize it. I can't tell you how many times I've typed "see your doctor" on this site. What's the point?
Yessss! Such as, "I cleaned with [insert common household cleaner]" or "I danced to the Wobble (well, that one hasn't been posted but you get where I'm going with this, haha), did I hurt the baby?." No, uh, you're fine, honey. It's hard to say that without coming off short or exasperated so I usually just cannot respond to those particular threads.
Related: my best friend is a (self-proclaimed) hypochondriac, so when she had the same headache for the second day in a row, and had convinced herself she had pre-eclampsia, she didn't post about it on her board for a bunch of "strangers" to offer advice, she called her OB. She was totally fine of course, as the persistent headache was her only actual symptom.
I hate to assume negative things, especially knowing first-hand that being a FTM can be alarming at times, but sometimes I really wonder if the posters of some "scares" are just...bored?
I fully intend to baby wear but I'll admit I'm a first timer so who knows if it's going to work for us but I'll give it a good try and hope for the best!
I fully despised the baby leashes until I had a child and realized that while I may never use one I get the purpose. My son could have been the poster child for these things he was the definition of hyper as a toddler! Funny enough he would see kids wearing them and ask me for one! He wanted a bear backpack like the other kids. So while they aren't for me I try not to judge when I see them, at least the parent cares.
As for my previous post on not washing the baby clothes I get all the reasons they suggest you do it, I really do but unless my kid has a skin sensitivity I usually don't stress about it that much. Honestly aside from underwear I don't wash my clothes or my older kids clothes before wearing them. I know I'm also a walking contradiction because I'm a big germ-phobe when it comes to illnesses but I've never come across anyone or heard of anyone who caught a disease from a new garment of clothing. In a way we all contradict ourselves in one thing or another when it comes to health and cleanliness. I know if I picked up my kid from daycare and they were wearing a shirt with spaghetti stains and I had somewhere to go right after I have been known to buy a cheap shirt at target because I can't stand my kids looking dirty! I'm not running home to wash it obviously because if I had time to go home I'd just get a clean shirt from home. I dunno maybe that makes me discusting to some but for me it's not a huge issue.
@adcoxmt I sneezed and farted at the same time yesterday. I heard this can cause pre-term labor? My doctor says I'm absolutely insane, and that I need to go home but GUYS WHAT DO YOU THINK!!!!??
I'm so hands off and on my fourth kid, so I have a hard time even reading all of the "omg *insert health concern. " i know it's not nice or fair of me, but i just want to scream. I am equally annoyed by the "call the doctor asap" responses for things like Braxton hicks, and headaches and vaginal secretions. I'd never be off the phone if i called the midwives everytime my body seemed weird during pregnancy. And i get that I feel that way from experience and lowrisk status, but still...
@SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early.
I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.
It's old school thinking. The guidelines were actually just changed within the past year (I think). I forget the new terms but 40 is full term and 37 is early term?
39-41 weeks is now considered "full term." This is recent, as my son was considered "full term" being born 2 days shy of 37 weeks.
Still, what this means is a baby born at this stage will probably be fully developed and not have any major issues or need time in the NICU. It doesn't mean time to induce labor . . .
I finally have a few which have already been mentioned:
*I am beginning to hate the name posts and agree with pp's opinions on checking out the specific name board. Also that I participate in the polls because I don't believe my opinion should really count, therefore I don't state it.
*The whole "how long are you really pregnant debate" between weeks and months annoys me terribly. Also I believe that no one can truly pin point the exact moment of conception. In my opinion all ultrasounds and LMP predictions and even E.D.D are very professional educated guesses. I'm a FTM and if I'm pregnant two weeks over I will not bitch and moan. I believe that letting your body take a natural course; with the exception that your not putting you or baby in danger, is the best route.
*Weight posts: I just can't. EVERY SINGLE BODY AND PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT. I begin to side eye people who seem to start them just to flaunt that they haven't gained a pound. I use this term lightly because I really don't know anyone's intention. It's just the way I interpret the thread To me it's odd and another way women back handedly are judgy.
I "loved it" a bazillion times, but it really just means I loved it, didn't love it, loved it, didn't love it...well you get it. I couldn't agree more about each of your points.
leighann1 To search by board month....type in the subject you want to search and click on go. Then it brings up every time that word was mentioned in all boards. If you go up to the box where the subject appears that you typed you should see an arrow in the right hand side. Click on it for advanced search.....there you can choose what board to search on. That is my PSA for the day! Hope it helps!
I don't like the phrase "I can't wait until xyz." Yes, yes you can, and you will! What you mean is "I'm looking forward to xyz." "Excited about xyz." "Anticipating xyz."
Also I wish that "crazy," "insane," "mental," etc. would not be used so frequently and casually. Rarely do they capture what the speaker means and I think it's offensive.
Language is a glorious tool box. Let's stop pulling out the same tired hammer and screwdriver.
@BBaires I applaud your appreciation for word choice and language. I am sorry to say that I've found myself caring less about it when I post here at times. Sometimes I feel like if I write the way the majority of people write, then they'll appreciate what I've said more. I'll clean it up now that I know someone is watching.
This is totally irrational but weave..sew ins...extensions...fake hair and lashes are so bizarre and gross to me. I literally puke in my mouth if I can see the tracks/clips for your fake hair. JUST GROW YOUR OWN!!
Yes! And then when you're walking through a parking lot and find weave? Like how did it get so lost?
The parking lot and sometimes the grass of my apartment community is constantly littered with pieces of hair extensions and weaves . . . Gross!
@LiveNLove44 I started cracking up because I read your UO as I am sitting here...eating pasta salad.
@smlowe9311 They probably aren't that original and/or I'm sure plenty of gals have used them before, but a few I've been saving up are:
Touching the persons belly back if they touch/ rub mine (and it's a stranger)
"How much have you gained?" "How much have YOU gained?"
"Did you mean to get pregnant?" / "Did you conceive naturally?" "Fuck off."
Kidding about the last one, but I love @BrooklynBroussard 's idea of a zinger thread! I don't remember seeing one before, and I could obviously use some more original zings
@Inord7, I do not judge your pasta salad. I appreciate that you represented it appropriately by calling it what it is.
My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha. I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.
I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.
I feel like it depends on who you're doing it for. I know my newborn daughter isn't going to care a bit about the effort I put into her nursery or whether or not I used pink and mint green as her color pallette. She may care around age 2 (DS has expressed opinions about how his room is decorated - blue and with cars).
But I genuinely enjoy decorating. I'm doing it for me. I've exercised restraint in order not to waste money. But the nursery is for mom, and if mom enjoys decorating, so be it. :-)
My UO - I know what breed of dog I want and I want this dog as a puppy. I'm not freakin Satan just because I'm not getting a dog from a rescue shelter!! We've rescued all my life. This is the first time I'm going to a breeder and I have never been met with so much negativity over a decision.
This is my first UO I typically just read and occasionally like but damnit its been a long week.
I am a FTM and may eat my words some day...
Baby backpacks/carriers whatever the hell you want to call them drive me insane. You look ridiculous, your baby looks uncomfortable as fuck and I just don't get it. Yes you have your hands free but you also appear to be suffocating your baby and cutting off blood supply to all it's extremities. The hippy slings don't bother me as much but still.
Its right up there with kids on leashes...
Again, i don't know your situation mama and am FTM myself but its my opinion right?
I would've side-eyed any mom with her kid on a leash before I had my own, but my toddler LIKES his "pack-pack." It's got about 2 diapers, some wipes and a Go Go Squeeze applesauce pouch in it at any given time, so it weights maybe 2 lbs. I don't make him carry it if he gets tired, but he asks to!
My UO - I know what breed of dog I want and I want this dog as a puppy. I'm not freakin Satan just because I'm not getting a dog from a rescue shelter!! We've rescued all my life. This is the first time I'm going to a breeder and I have never been met with so much negativity over a decision.
As long as the pup isnt from a puppy mill, I see nothing wrong with this! Puppy mills are something you want to avoid though as supporting such a practice is problematic, the poor animals arent taken care of properly at all. If you get the pup from a good breeder, why the heck not? If we hadn't stumbled upon the shelters website by chance when our pup was there (just 1 day!) we'd have gotten a lab from a breeder
My UO - I know what breed of dog I want and I want this dog as a puppy. I'm not freakin Satan just because I'm not getting a dog from a rescue shelter!! We've rescued all my life. This is the first time I'm going to a breeder and I have never been met with so much negativity over a decision.
Same here. I've never bought a pet before my Cav puppy. But I really really really wanted a spaniel, like my other rescue, and had even contacted all the local shelters and rescues. No spaniels in the shelters, and after submitting a 60-question survey + essay to the cocker rescue, I was told I wasn't a candidate because I'm pregnant. Apparently pregnant women surrender their dogs at alarming rates? Anyway, I had my heart set on this certain type of dog that I love, and buying seemed like my only option. I get side-eye too but who cares? I'm in lurve
Wow, I am late to this party so instead of jumping into these past 4 pages of whatever... I'm just going to list my UO.
Sometimes I really don't want to talk about being pregnant. I squirm anytime someone comments on my not-really-a-baby-bump belly, tells me I "look so good considering...", or asks me how I am feeling. It's always people who don't normally interact with me, but just because I'm pregnant feel like they need to say something. I just want it to stop.
@BrooklynBroussard Yes, yes, and yes a million times over. In that I completely agree, most people who get full of seemingly blind rage must be filling a void. Or it is definitely past the point of a debate, and fully turns into an "I am right and will keep attacking you until you submit" type conversation.
Re: UO Thursday
Again just my opinion.
The leash thing just reminds me of a dog that that isn't good at taking walks yet, mom is pulling one way, kid is pulling another way and I just picture a dog pulling on a leash yelping and going crazy.
Ok, now this makes so much more sense.
https://www.movoto.com/blog/opinions/missouri-taste-test/
*I am beginning to hate the name posts and agree with pp's opinions on checking out the specific name board. Also that I participate in the polls because I don't believe my opinion should really count, therefore I don't state it.
*The whole "how long are you really pregnant debate" between weeks and months annoys me terribly. Also I believe that no one can truly pin point the exact moment of conception. In my opinion all ultrasounds and LMP predictions and even E.D.D are very professional educated guesses. I'm a FTM and if I'm pregnant two weeks over I will not bitch and moan. I believe that letting your body take a natural course; with the exception that your not putting you or baby in danger, is the best route.
*Weight posts: I just can't. EVERY SINGLE BODY AND PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT. I begin to side eye people who seem to start them just to flaunt that they haven't gained a pound. I use this term lightly because I really don't know anyone's intention. It's just the way I interpret the thread To me it's odd and another way women back handedly are judgy.
Yes! I'm totally OK when they are being constructive, but then when they pull out the "grow up, you posted online, you can't get mad at people giving you their opinions" I go crazy. We all tend to get along pretty well and it's so agrivating when they are the only ones starting sh*t!
Also I wish that "crazy," "insane," "mental," etc. would not be used so frequently and casually. Rarely do they capture what the speaker means and I think it's offensive.
Language is a glorious tool box. Let's stop pulling out the same tired hammer and screwdriver.
@smlowe9311 They probably aren't that original and/or I'm sure plenty of gals have used them before, but a few I've been saving up are:
Touching the persons belly back if they touch/ rub mine (and it's a stranger)
"How much have you gained?" "How much have YOU gained?"
"Did you mean to get pregnant?" / "Did you conceive naturally?" "Fuck off."
Kidding about the last one, but I love @BrooklynBroussard 's idea of a zinger thread! I don't remember seeing one before, and I could obviously use some more original zings
P.S. that is said with the most sarcastic love ever because I think you're hilarious and I love your gifs
I fully despised the baby leashes until I had a child and realized that while I may never use one I get the purpose. My son could have been the poster child for these things he was the definition of hyper as a toddler! Funny enough he would see kids wearing them and ask me for one! He wanted a bear backpack like the other kids. So while they aren't for me I try not to judge when I see them, at least the parent cares.
As for my previous post on not washing the baby clothes I get all the reasons they suggest you do it, I really do but unless my kid has a skin sensitivity I usually don't stress about it that much. Honestly aside from underwear I don't wash my clothes or my older kids clothes before wearing them. I know I'm also a walking contradiction because I'm a big germ-phobe when it comes to illnesses but I've never come across anyone or heard of anyone who caught a disease from a new garment of clothing. In a way we all contradict ourselves in one thing or another when it comes to health and cleanliness. I know if I picked up my kid from daycare and they were wearing a shirt with spaghetti stains and I had somewhere to go right after I have been known to buy a cheap shirt at target because I can't stand my kids looking dirty! I'm not running home to wash it obviously because if I had time to go home I'd just get a clean shirt from home. I dunno maybe that makes me discusting to some but for me it's not a huge issue.
@BrooklynBroussard I'm so not etiquette!
39-41 weeks is now considered "full term." This is recent, as my son was considered "full term" being born 2 days shy of 37 weeks.
Still, what this means is a baby born at this stage will probably be fully developed and not have any major issues or need time in the NICU. It doesn't mean time to induce labor . . .
The parking lot and sometimes the grass of my apartment community is constantly littered with pieces of hair extensions and weaves . . . Gross!
But I genuinely enjoy decorating. I'm doing it for me. I've exercised restraint in order not to waste money. But the nursery is for mom, and if mom enjoys decorating, so be it. :-)
I would've side-eyed any mom with her kid on a leash before I had my own, but my toddler LIKES his "pack-pack." It's got about 2 diapers, some wipes and a Go Go Squeeze applesauce pouch in it at any given time, so it weights maybe 2 lbs. I don't make him carry it if he gets tired, but he asks to!
Sometimes I really don't want to talk about being pregnant. I squirm anytime someone comments on my not-really-a-baby-bump belly, tells me I "look so good considering...", or asks me how I am feeling. It's always people who don't normally interact with me, but just because I'm pregnant feel like they need to say something. I just want it to stop.