UO Thursday

SweetnSassy23 · June 2015

Put your unpopular opinions in here!

elmann1 · June 2015

Pregnancy is cruel. Sure we get this super amazing miracle out of it but for 9 months, we get abused. (Last night I had killer heartburn and leg cramps... Slept a whopping 3 hours total. Awesome)

Birdee212 · June 2015

@elmann1 Same. My throat is on fire from throwing up acid all night. I hope you're able to get some rest today!

I had a really good UO yesterday but now I can't remember what it was. Maybe I should start writing this stuff down.

midge519 · June 2015

I don't think this is an UO but it's my vent right now. Grandma stop staying MY baby to my child. This is not your child it is mine and I'm sure he doesn't like hearing my from other people(or in my imagination I see him flailing every time she says it, literally since I told her I'm pregnant) And Dammit if you tell my belly one more time that he was supposed to be a girl. He isn't. We showed you the ultrasound. Yes I know everyone wanted a girl and yes we would have loved one too. But we are having a boy and we love him! Stop saying what he was supposed to be. He is perfect!

Carmofrap · June 2015

My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha.
I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.

I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.

LiveNLove44 · June 2015

UO: I think small talk at the gym is rude. I hate that it looks like I'm just being a *itch because I want to get my workout in and get out. I go in with a set amount of time before I have to hurry back home to be with DD so DH can go to work, and I don't want to chitchat about the garage sales in the area. I feel like our gym regulars are in that same mindset, but my MIL acts like I'm ignoring just her if I see her at the gym. Nope. It's everyone. I'm here to workout.

Birdee212 · June 2015

Ok, here's one: I'm sick of the baby name posts. There. I said it. I've responded to a few, but generally they irritate me. I equate them with those "is this a boy or a girl" ultrasound posts that clogged up the feed a while back. If you have to ask strangers on an internet forum which name you should go with, then you're not confident enough in those names and therefore probably shouldn't use any of them. This is a decision better left between you and the father. And if you really want advice or ideas, there is a baby names board and Google.

Sorry if that sounded harsh, but I'm a miserable cow these days.

SweetnSassy23 · June 2015

Birdee212 said:

Ok, here's one: I'm sick of the baby name posts. There. I said it. I've responded to a few, but generally they irritate me. I equate them with those "is this a boy or a girl" ultrasound posts that clogged up the feed a while back. If you have to ask strangers on an internet forum which name you should go with, then you're not confident enough in those names and therefore probably shouldn't use any of them. This is a decision better left between you and the father. And if you really want advice or ideas, there is a baby names board and Google. Sorry if that sounded harsh, but I'm a miserable cow these days.

I like the poll options. Then I can just vote and go on my way.

Carmofrap · June 2015

@Birdee212 Haha! I am with you but I will say when I finally figure out a name I'm posting that alllll over the boards. Possibly throwing a celebratory party and heck if baby is already two weeks old by the time I figure out a good one we agree on maybe I'll even include hard alcohol. haha.

MirandaC1984 · June 2015

Carmofrap said:

My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha.
I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.

I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.

I always appreciate when someone actually posts what should be an "unpopular opinion". I am a FTM so I have no experience to speak of. I can see where what you've said is likely to be very true. If anything, preparing the nursery has been a great way for my husband and I to bond with our unborn son and with each other. It has been a labor of love. I also think him having his own room is great because we have a place to store all of the baby stuff we get. This is the first baby on both sides so everyone is going nuts. That being said, I'll be interested to see how I feel about all of the time/energy/money we put into this room a year from now.

anorthro · June 2015

Carmofrap said:
My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha.
I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.

I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.

I totally get this. We are decorating a nursery, but are being very careful about what we decorate with. There's a crib and a dresser, the walls are remaining white, and we aren't decorating with traditional baby decor - mainly with stuff that we wouldn't mind hanging elsewhere in the house once the kid is only enough to have a say. I also get being really excited and decorating the crap out of a nursery, but the practical part of me wins out.

smlowe9311 · June 2015

Having a hard time finding a birth control for after dd2 is born and its bumming me out. I know the pull out method isn't reliable and I'm tired of using barrier methods (we've only tried condoms and they don't work for dh so maybe I can try something). We only want two kids anyway so dh could always get snipped.

Also I am getting really tired of my mom asking if we've finished putting dd1's new room together. Yes, I appreciate the help you did painting very much but my goodness what do you care if I have all the wall decorations up yet? You aren't living in the room. Back off.

Birdee212 · June 2015

@Carmofrap We used to have a thread that listed our chosen names, but that feels like forever ago and we might want to do another one. I'm really judgey about baby names, though, so maybe I should just stay out of it. Lol

alinic916 · June 2015

SweetnSassy23 said:

Birdee212 said:

Ok, here's one: I'm sick of the baby name posts. There. I said it. I've responded to a few, but generally they irritate me. I equate them with those "is this a boy or a girl" ultrasound posts that clogged up the feed a while back. If you have to ask strangers on an internet forum which name you should go with, then you're not confident enough in those names and therefore probably shouldn't use any of them. This is a decision better left between you and the father. And if you really want advice or ideas, there is a baby names board and Google.

Sorry if that sounded harsh, but I'm a miserable cow these days.

I like the poll options. Then I can just vote and go on my way.

I like the poll ones too but that's it! The rest is annoying and no need to comment. But personally, I thi4you should be picking your own baby names, not asking strangers for advice!

LLynde5 · June 2015

Carmofrap said:
My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha.
I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.

I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.

My hope with the nursery is that the baby's stuff remains mostly in the nursery!! I hate going into my friends houses that are overflowing with baby stuff like only the baby lives there. I understand that it is more convenient but good lord put some stuff away!!

Birdee212 · June 2015

@SweetnSassy23 At the risk of sounding like a hypocrite, I do too. I can't pass up a poll regardless of the topic.

SweetnSassy23 · June 2015

Birdee212 said:

@SweetnSassy23 At the risk of sounding like a hypocrite, I do too. I can't pass up a poll regardless of the topic.

Let me love you
>:D<

Sometimes it's just nice to get feedback when you're undecided. I am very judgey on names too. I'll own it.

saintpaulJess · June 2015

Pregnancy is not a disability. I like to run, cycle, and lift heavy weights - pregnant or not. Lots of the looks I get are kind smiles, but too many are looks of incredulity.

jefinley1 · June 2015

LiveNLove44 said:

UO: I think small talk at the gym is rude. I hate that it looks like I'm just being a *itch because I want to get my workout in and get out. I go in with a set amount of time before I have to hurry back home to be with DD so DH can go to work, and I don't want to chitchat about the garage sales in the area. I feel like our gym regulars are in that same mindset, but my MIL acts like I'm ignoring just her if I see her at the gym. Nope. It's everyone. I'm here to workout.

You have just summed up my existence. I don't mind short, friendly, and informative greetings or conversations with strangers. In fact I quite like them. But inane and continuous babble just because (they seem to call it "Midwestern politeness" out here) when I'm trying to get things done just pisses me off.

Things that constantly run through my head. "Yes, I can already see it's cloudy today. It's Pittsburgh. I'm shocked." "How am I? Frankly a little stressed out, so I'm just going to keep very obviously focusing on just getting out of here while also trying to multitask. Oh wait, I can tell by the look on your face, I was supposed to say, 'Good thank you! I'm so blessed!'"

The struggle continues. I consistently get "What a *itch" face here.

SweetnSassy23 · June 2015

Lurking other BMBs and seeing women refer to their baby as full time at 37 weeks is really ticking me off. Probably not unpopular.

jefinley1 · June 2015

@SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early. I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.

millereliz13 · June 2015

anorthro said:

Carmofrap said:
My UO, please don't hate on me too hard. haha.
I think decorating and putting together a nursery is a huge waste of money and time and effort. Most babies sleep for the first six months in mom and dad's room in a bassinet. Then all you really need after that is a crib, a million and a half diapers and wipes and some health stuff for sucking noses and treating minor illnesses. Not to mention you go to huge effort to doll up a room nobody but you and facebook can appreciate because baby certainly isn't. Then when they are old enough to enjoy having a decorated room they aren't going to want nursery vibes anymore.

I may be slightly biased by my experience with my son. haha. But he never used a single thing in his nursery that was part of our bedroom. It was a waste.
I totally get this. We are decorating a nursery, but are being very careful about what we decorate with. There's a crib and a dresser, the walls are remaining white, and we aren't decorating with traditional baby decor - mainly with stuff that we wouldn't mind hanging elsewhere in the house once the kid is only enough to have a say. I also get being really excited and decorating the crap out of a nursery, but the practical part of me wins out.

We are the same way. We are decorating with a Marvel comics theme. Yep, we have the crib, rocker, dresser and half size bookshelf. I ordered some baby Avengers prints, but that's the only "traditional" baby decorations. I bought a Captian America rug, light switch cover, and night light. We moved my Thor's Hammer, Avengers Russian Stacking Doll, Dancing Baby Groot and are putting some of our Marvel Funko Pops back there. We are mostly raiding our own collection for decorations. And if he doesn't like it in a few years, it'll be easy to change.

gabrielafrnqyepez · June 2015

I prefer being called a b*#$! And having no one mess with me and not bother with me then to be the nice all smiles girl and have any onentry and take advantage! ...I did the nice thing for a very long time didn't get me too far! Now I say what I mean when I want ! ....I learned ppl don't like the truth!

jefinley1 · June 2015

@gabrielafrnqyepez Haha. I generally find most people use the word *itch to describe assertive and direct women that don't "know their place," and refuse to use cutesy passive language. So I've also re-appropriated it to be something of a compliment. My friend and I tease that we're the nicest *itches you'll ever meet.

SweetnSassy23 · June 2015

jefinley1 said:

@SweetnSassy23 Not that I would be crossing my legs if baby decided she just wanted to come a bit early, but how would thinking that 37 weeks is full term even be a thing? I was my mom's first baby and I came at around 37 weeks, but although I was considered healthy and ready, I was also most certainly early. I should clarify that I am genuinely asking because I am confused and if people actually think this, I'm on the same page with you.

It's old school thinking. The guidelines were actually just changed within the past year (I think). I forget the new terms but 40 is full term and 37 is early term?

DeeGreer · June 2015

This is totally irrational but weave..sew ins...extensions...fake hair and lashes are so bizarre and gross to me. I literally puke in my mouth if I can see the tracks/clips for your fake hair. JUST GROW YOUR OWN!!

jefinley1 · June 2015

Interesting. I've just always though 40 was the official done date when you include the first two weeks after your last period and before conception. Thanks for the info!

Birdee212 · June 2015

DeeGreer said:
This is totally irrational but weave..sew ins...extensions...fake hair and lashes are so bizarre and gross to me. I literally puke in my mouth if I can see the tracks/clips for your fake hair. JUST GROW YOUR OWN!!

This. The post head-shave Britney years were particularly egregious.

jenn2132 · June 2015

My UO:
I don't like to wash my babies clothes before he/she wears them. I never did with my other two kids and I probably won't with this baby.

Carmofrap · June 2015

@jenn2132 i'm assuming you know why you're supposed to so I won't burden you with that haha. But the obsessive health freak in me just about had a heart attack and died. Lol my husband would take our son out when he was little and he would always come back in some kind of new outfit and I would have a minor freak out every time.

gabrielafrnqyepez · June 2015

jefinley1 said:

@gabrielafrnqyepez Haha. I generally find most people use the word *itch to describe assertive and direct women that don't "know their place," and refuse to use cutesy passive language. So I've also re-appropriated it to be something of a compliment. My friend and I tease that we're the nicest *itches you'll ever meet.

loovee it!!! Certain women like my MIL aren't too font of my straight shooter style !!!! But my sister says what u say she calls me the badest B$*%& in the family because everyone talks about one another but no one ever has the balls to say it to the actual person! Like w my father and his wife wanting to give me handme down...thanks but no thank you, is she wanted to ask why? Then she should expect a real answer not some fluff and even still I was nice and said its because DH want to buy everything its our first bb together.. She goes on and on about how we should not spend blah blah blah...so I said wait OK honestly its because you guys aren't the cleanest and 2 baby's have used all the stuff!!!! She had gunk in the baby's bottle ...after it was disinfected... Wdf!!!!!!!!!! I've told this story twice on here already ..I just can't deal w certain things...!!!!!

shannond21228 · June 2015

From what I've read:
Early Term- 37 weeks - 38 weeks 6 days
Full Term- 39 weeks - 40 weeks 6 days
Late Term- 41 weeks - 41 weeks 6 days
Post Term- 42 weeks and beyond
The reason they are changing the terminology is to deter patients and doctors from scheduling medically unnecessary deliveries by inductions or c-section before 39 weeks.

LiveNLove44 · June 2015

@jefinley1, I'm glad I'm not the only one! I used to do it more to deter the weirdos from gawking and making me uncomfortable, but now I wear my "*itch face" at the the gym to ensure I can get a proper workout in before I have to leave!

ETA: My keyboard isn't as fast as my super fast typing, so it misses some words.

adcoxmt · June 2015

Can we just stop with the stretch marks posts? I totally understand the fear of the dreaded stretch marks, I do. No matter how wonderful and exciting it is to be growing a beautiful little baby...they suck. I got a ton on my thighs from shooting up to 5'11" by 8th grade - simply unavoidable. I understand one post about it as I'm sure moisturizing effectively can at least keep the marks from being worse than they need to be, but if you're gonna get them, you're gonna get them. Sitting in a pool of coconut oil for your entire pregnancy cant prevent them.

I don't mean to offend anyone who is legitimately looking for any way to avoid them, I understand wholeheartedly. I would do just about anything if I thought it would actually prevent them... but surely we don't need a new post every day asking the same question?

jenb0203 · June 2015

UO: we have so many generous people at my office that have been buying lunches for all employees lately. I get really upset when people take more than their share or add extra side dishes to a deli sandwich like really? Does your meal have to be 1.5 times more than everyone else?! Also I really hate people telling me I am eating for 2. Yeah no, my baby isn't even a full baby yet and I am not using this as an excuse to pig out!

Ugh- gross!

smlowe9311 · June 2015

shannond21228 said:
From what I've read:
Early Term- 37 weeks - 38 weeks 6 days
Full Term- 39 weeks - 40 weeks 6 days
Late Term- 41 weeks - 41 weeks 6 days
Post Term- 42 weeks and beyond
The reason they are changing the terminology is to deter patients and doctors from scheduling medically unnecessary deliveries by inductions or c-section before 39 weeks.

I'm still in awe that people would want medically unnecessary inductions/c-sections before 39 weeks and think it's kind of sad that people don't/won't listen to the doctors/midwives/medical professionals on something like that or that the doctors/medical professionals would still go through with it. We're talking about your baby's health. Sorry you might be uncomfortable for a few more weeks.

jenb0203 · June 2015

I agree @saintpaulJess I can still do stuff! And what is the deal with stretching or like reaching for stuff? Um prenatal yoga has us stretching all the time!!

gabrielafrnqyepez · June 2015

jenn2132 said:

My UO: I don't like to wash my babies clothes before he/she wears them. I never did with my other two kids and I probably won't with this baby.

you do you momma.......but ....I worked in the fashion district in NYC for some time...my specialty was kids clothes...we once received a memo from over seas where 99% of garments are made that stated all the things that had been reported were kids were coming down with all sorts of skin disease because ppl were not carefully washing garments before wearing them!!!!!!!!! I saw very disturbing pictures, then I went on to work for a underwear design company also had the same memo...what ended up happening was that a small article was printed out on papers azd an actual news thing was done on it very cassualy warning consumers to wash things b4 wearing them !!!

jefinley1 · June 2015

@gabrielafrnqyepez I hate when people push me to explain a decision that is obviously my own or mine and my husband's and then proceed to judge me for it. Often my explanation might hurt feelings or offend, which is why I don't have any desire to explain it. I'm also super stubborn and don't like being bullied into doing or saying anything in frustration that doesn't represent the person that I want to be (I take the nice in nicest *itch very seriously), so when people nag and try to wear me down with guilt for doing or not explaining why I'm doing something that is only my business, I just stop responding and literally ignore them. They're the ones being inappropriate and I refuse to stoop to their level.

That said, I admit that whether because I just haven't thought through what I'm saying well enough, or because I'm exhausted or really offended myself, I occasionally crack a little bit and the super blunt comes out.

morganabyrd · June 2015

Lurkers...go back to your rightful home. I'm aware that I sound snotty and exclusionary, but my blood gets all riled up when I read a post and the Bumper identified herself as said lurker and then gives her opinion which further stirs the pot. What kind of time do you have on your hands to peruse more than one board!? If you're that interested in the topic then post it in your month. Mercy...

gabrielafrnqyepez · June 2015

@jefinley1 with this pregnancy I refuse to answer my done after I pick up my son from school, because around that time after him and I do hw I'm at my moodiest and its happened were I'm answering pp so directly that I've been asked if I'm mad at them or smtn !!!! I try to be as polite as possible but sometimes I just can't!

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