So I'm struggling a bit. My little man drank through what little milk supply I had on hand this morning (I'm a low producer). I pump around the clock but we supplement as needed. My husband usually handles that because in my hormonal state it really affects me. It's the whole "I cant feed my baby" thing. Completely irrational, I know!! Well, I had to make my first bottle of formula today and let me tell you, it was a heck of a lot easier to do than hooking myself up to the "dairy farm machine" and pumping it out! It's been a month of me agonizing over every ml/ounce that I may be done and start the weaning process. I always said that when LO starts catching up to my production that I would stop. I wish I could have produced more and I feel like such a failure that I can't. It's such a psychological/hormonal thing that I can snap myself out of it. Ugh...
You shouldn't feel like a failure, you should be proud of how much you accomplished by feeding for this long despite low supply - some thing which is completely out of your control. Your baby is being fed, and is clearly much loved by you - and in my book that makes you a awesome mother! Breastmilk is great but so is formula, and most importantly your child needs a happy healthy mother.
LO is currently gowing through her second growth spurt (only a week apart..) and I'm pretty sure I've actually reached the limit of my patience. I just want one effing night of sleep ~X(
Thanks everyone for your support. It is much appreciated!! I started to go 6 hours between pumps and I woke up this morning really engorged. Ouch. Yet I somehow produced the most milk EVER? The same thing happened last night. Less pumps and more milk. Is that possible?!
Here's a laugh for you all. I have an Aunt who just called asking if tomorrow would be a good time to visit LO. I said sure. She asked what time specifically b/c she wants to visit when he's awake. She then asked if he was on a schedule yet so she can guarantee his alertness.....W.T.FFFF Granted, the woman does not have children but really? You think I could predict the wakefulness of a 3 week old? I hate people.
No actual sleep last night. Yet I'm not even sure how much I managed to nurse my cluster feeding baby because I think I feel asleep every time he attached to the boob and hormones kicked in. Then he'd pull off and refuse to relatch and just fussed all night while I rocked and bounced him I think at one point I just lay in bed and listened to him fuss and wondered why no one was taking care of that baby. I was so exhausted I forgot I had a newborn?? I'd feel like a bad mom but 3 weeks in to carrying for this guy and a toddler day and night without a break, I'm proud to make it this far before having such a pathetic night. And that baby was just fussing not screaming so even though its not my style to let the kids fuss on their own I know it's not the end of the world. It does makes me sad that I can't be perfect for them but I guess that's a lesson they need to learn to. Onward to a new day of nursing, playing, and trying to get a few tiny things done. I might get to thank you notes or birth announcements before this kid turns 1 next June but right now I can't even get the laundry done.
Woke up from a cosleeping nap to LO making his hungry cries. So delirious, found myself thinking, "There's something that gets him to stop crying every time... What is it?! Oh. Right. Feed him. That's you, wake up, lady!" Such a weird out of body/mind experience! It only lasted a second thankfully.
I so feel you @btm013 . That's exactly how I feel and I secretly just want to go to formula but it seems like everyone wants me to keep trying. My DH keeps after me too on how stress won't help but he doesn't understand how hard it is. He's also sleeping downstairs on work nights
Went to the Peds today and LO is up to 5lbs 5 oz at 2 weeks! She was born at 4lbs 11oz so we are so happy Also talked with the doctor about starting the switch to formula. I'm still thinking of breast feeding a few times a day by the time we fully adjust to formula but I just can't mentally and physically do breast feeding for much longer. Plus with nursing school the last thing I want to do is pump while I'm on the floor at clinical. Breast feeding is getting easier..or rather I'm just getting more used to it.
Is it possible to over feed a 3 week old? I'm using formula and he's eating about 5oz every 4 hours (at night it's a little bit longer of stretches). He's not spitting up or anything. His pediatrician told me he would be eating about an oz per every week old he is. Some advice would be helpful.
Mine is going through a growth spurt at 3 weeks so don't stress. She will eat 4 to 5 oz every 4 hours. She also tends to sleep more after those big meals.
Going to our first game today. LO is pretty chill so I'm not worried about him but we live in a small town were even people driving by stop and ask to see him...? I'm going to have to spray people down with hand sanitizer before they all start reaching out to touch him. I just know my anxiety is going to be nuts.
Going to our first game today. LO is pretty chill so I'm not worried about him but we live in a small town were even people driving by stop and ask to see him...? I'm going to have to spray people down with hand sanitizer before they all start reaching out to touch him. I just know my anxiety is going to be nuts.
Can you put him in a Moby or other carrier to protect him a little more?
Can this please be a flame free question? What do you do when you're done nursing LO? He just hangs out at my boob, like a drunk with his beer bottle still halfway hanging out his mouth. I'd like to put my nipple away because his breath dries it out, but moving wakes him... Do I just reposition? (Jeez, I'm awkward!)
@virginiaunicorn11 I slowly move my boob away from him and sometimes it works and sometimes it wakes him up. I'd like to know if there's a secret to this too!!
Desperately in need of some encouragement...planned for a natural birth and had a perfectly healthy pregnancy all throughout. Little man was head down at every position check and ready to go. Went into labor on the 6th and everything was still perfect. Once we got to the hospital (we left when contractions were 2.5 minutes apart and water had already broke) we found out that sometime in the previous 48 hours he had flipped completely breech which left a c-section as the only option since my water had broke. That has been hard to process since I am very anti-drugs and interventions, but I was getting over it. Now he isn't gaining weight fast enough and they said if he doesn't gain significantly by Tuesday we have to start him on a formula supplement. I feel so guilty and angry at my body for not doing what it is supposed to do and feeling like I can't meet the basic needs of my son. He is feeding every 2 to 3 hours with a wet diaper at every feeding and a poopy diaper at many feedings, so I don't understand why he isn't gaining appropriately. Any encouragement or even advice is appreciated. Thanks ladies!
It's really great to hear that I am not alone in some aspects. Didn't have a very good night last night were EBF and I tried to start pumping which went pretty good for my first time. However DD clusterfed all day after that so I am worried she wasn't getting enough milk. On a good note today was her 2 week appointment and has grown half an inch and gained almost a pound since the last appointment. I am a little annoyed that it is assumed that babies are formula fed. Everyone is surprised and gives weird looks when we tell them we are BF even the nurses at the hospital and pediatrician. The only one who is supporting is our pediatrician as long as DD is growing good. What kind of world do we live in where BF isn't first choice even if you try and fail in my opinion it is something that should at least be tried.
Desperately in need of some encouragement...planned for a natural birth and had a perfectly healthy pregnancy all throughout. Little man was head down at every position check and ready to go. Went into labor on the 6th and everything was still perfect. Once we got to the hospital (we left when contractions were 2.5 minutes apart and water had already broke) we found out that sometime in the previous 48 hours he had flipped completely breech which left a c-section as the only option since my water had broke. That has been hard to process since I am very anti-drugs and interventions, but I was getting over it. Now he isn't gaining weight fast enough and they said if he doesn't gain significantly by Tuesday we have to start him on a formula supplement. I feel so guilty and angry at my body for not doing what it is supposed to do and feeling like I can't meet the basic needs of my son. He is feeding every 2 to 3 hours with a wet diaper at every feeding and a poopy diaper at many feedings, so I don't understand why he isn't gaining appropriately. Any encouragement or even advice is appreciated. Thanks ladies!
taunyabruton don't feel guilty! Our bodies do weird things after birth. And nothing is your fault, or LO's fault. The bottom line is that as long as LO is healthy you are doing the right thing. We planned on BF'ing and had supply, tongue-tie, latching and drastic weight loss issues. We moved to formula and I beat myself up over it for several days until I realized it doesn't matter. Or it only matters as much as you let it. If breastfeeding is important to you, continue to do whatever you are doing and work with others who can help you. If you put in the effort to be successful, then that's awesome. If it doesn't work out, that's ok too.
And remember there could be all kinds of issues - I've had friends whose LOs were allergic to their breastmilk, or some of the things the mom was eating like soy, that appeared in breastmilk. So I have no idea, but that could be one reason he's not gaining weight despite the fact you are feeding him the right volumes at the right intervals. I'm hopeful you and your doctor can do some trial and error to figure it out! Our doc at one point said they could test a poopy diaper to see what was being retained or not by the baby - perhaps you can see if your doc does this. Ours says they get results in about an hour.
Well started integrating formula into our LOs feeding schedule. Just once a day for a few days. Well after her first feeding she pretty much spit it all up im assuming by the amount that came out of her. So now I'm worried about everything. Does anyone who did this come across the same thing? My friend told me to try it again tomorrow and if it happens again to try a different formula the next day. Today we used Enfamil gentlease Any suggestions?
Desperately in need of some encouragement...planned for a natural birth and had a perfectly healthy pregnancy all throughout. Little man was head down at every position check and ready to go. Went into labor on the 6th and everything was still perfect. Once we got to the hospital (we left when contractions were 2.5 minutes apart and water had already broke) we found out that sometime in the previous 48 hours he had flipped completely breech which left a c-section as the only option since my water had broke. That has been hard to process since I am very anti-drugs and interventions, but I was getting over it. Now he isn't gaining weight fast enough and they said if he doesn't gain significantly by Tuesday we have to start him on a formula supplement. I feel so guilty and angry at my body for not doing what it is supposed to do and feeling like I can't meet the basic needs of my son. He is feeding every 2 to 3 hours with a wet diaper at every feeding and a poopy diaper at many feedings, so I don't understand why he isn't gaining appropriately. Any encouragement or even advice is appreciated. Thanks ladies!
My twins lost more than 10% of their birthweight, so they had to stay an extra day in the hospital and have formula as a supplement to nursing (my milk hadn't come in). So I pumped religiously, did every other feed with formula or breastmilk bottle. I felt so bad about needing to supplement at first, like my body was failing my babies.
I did the formula and pumping for 8 days, now at 2 weeks we are 100% breastmilk out of a bottle.
I still try nursing, but they don't latch very well yet. I'll keep trying. I do like the bottle feeding, though, because I know exactly how much they are getting at each feeding.
Hang in there! If you can pump, the formula might be a temporary solution to get that babe gaining weight.
Random question...for those who formula fed right when LO was born, did you deal a lot with with engorgement?
As I mentioned in the above posts, I started weaning off the pump yesterday (low supplier) so I can formula feed. I woke up so engorged this morning and dealing with what I imagine a clogged ductI made my husband pick up some cabbage on the way home. It's supposed to help with inflammation and dry things out. The smell is giving me a headache but boy, does it feel good. I don't know if it's a placebo effect but I'll take it! Anyone else have luck with cabbage - or anything else - to help with the process?
My baby boy is 4 weeks old today! I can't believe how fast he is growing! When we weighed him this week at breastfeeding class he had gained 12 ounces in a week! So happy considering how small he was when he was born!
Do any of you have trouble sleeping at night? I usually wind up holding him on the recliner all night watchIng Netflix and take a nap during the day when DH and MIL can watch him because I worry about SIDS. We have a pack n play in our room so I need to find a way to trust he will be okay in there. I also really miss sleeping with DH and I know he misses sleeping with me to. Was there anything that helped you to do this?
Baby boy is having a lot more alert times now. I love seeing his beautiful eyes. I'm trying to take advantage of those times with tummy time, reading stories, singing, and introducing some toys to him. He is turning his head and even trying to hold his head up. He is a strong little guy!
Hope everything is going well for all you other mamas!
My baby boy is 4 weeks old today! I can't believe how fast he is growing! When we weighed him this week at breastfeeding class he had gained 12 ounces in a week! So happy considering how small he was when he was born!
Do any of you have trouble sleeping at night? I usually wind up holding him on the recliner all night watchIng Netflix and take a nap during the day when DH and MIL can watch him because I worry about SIDS. We have a pack n play in our room so I need to find a way to trust he will be okay in there. I also really miss sleeping with DH and I know he misses sleeping with me to. Was there anything that helped you to do this?
Baby boy is having a lot more alert times now. I love seeing his beautiful eyes. I'm trying to take advantage of those times with tummy time, reading stories, singing, and introducing some toys to him. He is turning his head and even trying to hold his head up. He is a strong little guy!
Hope everything is going well for all you other mamas!
I think I got so badly sleep deprived his first few days that I had to sleep eventually. In the hospital I ended up holding him half the night, but that was because I was having difficulty getting him settled. But I was terrified of falling asleep in bed with him like that - and I think that knowing that having him in his bassinet is safer than falling asleep like that helped me sleep better.
SIDS terrifies me, but it is incredibly rare. I find with stuff like that it helps if I know I've done everything possible to prevent it - kind of like wearing your seatbelt in a car.
@katyertl I didn't breastfeed as long as you have but with DD the Dr said to try soy since its easier to digest. I can't say how well it would work since DD had an actual stomach deformity but you could always ask your Dr.
@virginiaunicorn11 DH swatted those little old ladies hands like flies we also sat far away to ease my germ anxiety. Schools are Yuck!!
...and do you not have to burp a baby when you're breastfeeding??? I didn't even know I could just let him sleep. Why am I so lost? I've read and read about BFing and still know nothing. DS goes into a hardcore milk coma. I'm going to start just letting him sleep.
@katyertl I didn't breastfeed as long as you have but with DD the Dr said to try soy since its easier to digest. I can't say how well it would work since DD had an actual stomach deformity but you could always ask your Dr.
@virginiaunicorn11 DH swatted those little old ladies hands like flies we also sat far away to ease my germ anxiety. Schools are Yuck!!
...and do you not have to burp a baby when you're breastfeeding??? I didn't even know I could just let him sleep. Why am I so lost? I've read and read about BFing and still know nothing. DS goes into a hardcore milk coma. I'm going to start just letting him sleep.
@devyns2nd Nicely done, baby and mama! But tell me more about not burping. I don't burp mine if he's in a milk coma but if I don't ever, he starts the projectile spit up, so I have to. Where did you hear it's not needed?
@esampson1983 - I put my LO in a bassinet part time and co-sleep part-time (which sometimes means just holding him while I'm propped upright). I've read that babies who are close enough to their mamas this way (to hear you breathe) do not fall into the deep sleep that causes SIDS. I know blankets are a large risk, so I'm extremely careful, and none get closer than his waist. I do not swaddle when he's in bed with me. We get to cuddle, and we both stir enough that this has reduced my fears - though in the beginning I worried more. I read this in The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, and it's worked well for us. But I hear you, it's a terrifying concern.
@katyertl I didn't breastfeed as long as you have but with DD the Dr said to try soy since its easier to digest. I can't say how well it would work since DD had an actual stomach deformity but you could always ask your Dr.
@virginiaunicorn11 DH swatted those little old ladies hands like flies we also sat far away to ease my germ anxiety. Schools are Yuck!!
...and do you not have to burp a baby when you're breastfeeding??? I didn't even know I could just let him sleep. Why am I so lost? I've read and read about BFing and still know nothing. DS goes into a hardcore milk coma. I'm going to start just letting him sleep.
@virginiaunicorn11 thanks for the info! The library sounds like a great idea. I wish I was able to feed directly from the breast instead of EP'ing. I don't know why LO refused it right from the start. I ordered a breast shield because I'm hoping maybe we can transition to part time on the breast because maybe the nipple is more like a bottle? Might not work, but I figure for under $10 its worth a try.
Desperately in need of some encouragement... Now he isn't gaining weight fast enough and they said if he doesn't gain significantly by Tuesday we have to start him on a formula supplement. I feel so guilty and angry at my body for not doing what it is supposed to do and feeling like I can't meet the basic needs of my son. He is feeding every 2 to 3 hours with a wet diaper at every feeding and a poopy diaper at many feedings, so I don't understand why he isn't gaining appropriately. Any encouragement or even advice is appreciated. Thanks ladies!
So sorry you're going through all that. I started supplementing this week too and agree it feels terrible. Haven't felt so bad about myself as a woman since it didn't look like I was going to be able to get pregnant in the first place. I let myself cry it out and process... And it hasn't been that bad, it's actually a relief, since I couldn't even pump which made it so stressful to go anywhere. Plus DS is much less fussy and BFing is more efficient. It's easier to relax and work on increasing supply knowing that he is getting what he needs for now.
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My baby boy is 4 weeks old today! I can't believe how fast he is growing! When we weighed him this week at breastfeeding class he had gained 12 ounces in a week! So happy considering how small he was when he was born!
Do any of you have trouble sleeping at night? I usually wind up holding him on the recliner all night watchIng Netflix and take a nap during the day when DH and MIL can watch him because I worry about SIDS. We have a pack n play in our room so I need to find a way to trust he will be okay in there. I also really miss sleeping with DH and I know he misses sleeping with me to. Was there anything that helped you to do this?
Baby boy is having a lot more alert times now. I love seeing his beautiful eyes. I'm trying to take advantage of those times with tummy time, reading stories, singing, and introducing some toys to him. He is turning his head and even trying to hold his head up. He is a strong little guy!
Hope everything is going well for all you other mamas!
Yes I am having trouble sleeping even though I'm exhausted. My anxiety is getting the best of me. I try to do relaxation, prayer, deep breathing but still having trouble. I'm also nervous to take her out alone. So far I've only gone to the pediatrician. This lack of sleep is not helping my anxiety. I feel more and more worries coming on. I guess I try to remind myself "this too shall pass." It's hard not to think about everything that I need to do or how it will be when I return to work or the overwhelming task of parenthood itself or that something could happen to baby. I'm doing my best though. Hope we get some good sleep soon!
Newborn photographer came out today & she was fabulous! While she was here I had to feed LO a couple times to keep her content & sleepy. I fed her at one point on a nipple that was cracked & dry (kind of a scab on it) & when we went to resume the pictures, LO spit up breast milk & blood on the photographer & one of her white wraps. I was terrified & mortified. Turns out it was from my dry, cracked nipple. (& the photographer was super sweet about it-saying she works with babies & has one, this is all normal for her!). So after that, I was terrified to nurse on that side for the rest of the day. I did some research though & pumped at dinner to relieve some milk & then kept putting breast milk on it & letting it air dry. First nighttime feeding, we used that side & she nursed & slept like a champ! Yes!!! Anyone had LO spit up some BM mixed with blood from nip? Poor DH almost ran us to the hospital he was so worried at first.
@virginiaunicorn11 so my aunt (LC and pediatric PA) says some babies don't need to be burped. Breastfeed babies don't take in much air. I had no idea. I've been burping LO after each breast and apparently making my life harder for nothing. So it's ok to not burp a normal breastfeed baby...ever
This doesn't include bottle fed or fussy babies though.
I saw someone mentioned their wrap, the boba maybe? I am wanting one! We have the backpack style, but it's for a certain weight... So I can't use it yet!
Which wraps do YOU like best? & did you find it cheaper online/somewhere else? I know most are around $40 in stores.
@krystleshel I got the Boba recently and it's been amazing! I got it at a little boutique in town and it was the same price as I kept seeing online.
I was talking to my mother about BFing and she said she never burped me afterwards. Made me feel sooo much better after DH had a hissy because I don't ever burp after LO is done, just halfway through and he hardly ever actually burps.
@krystleshel I was gifted a Moby and love it. Don't know how it's differs from a Boba. The first time I used it was tricky, but I used 30 second YouTube tutorial and was a pro by the third time. What I like is DH is much larger than me and can also use it, because it's not sized.
@devyns2nd That is SO helpful, thank you for those details!
@esampson1983 I co-sleep with LO very carefully and have read that doing so, if done properly (no blankets, no swaddle), helps reduce SIDS risk because baby is in tune with mama and doesn't fall into that super deep sleep. Not sure if that's true (because I know blankets are a major cause), but I do know I am hyper-aware of his presence and breathing, and we both stir and adjust to each other. I was anxious the first few nights, but now I am more comfortable and less anxious if he's next to me. It's also nice to wake up and cuddle together as a family - DH has commented on what a nice way it is to wake up. I miss DH's arms around me, but this isn't a bad replacement at all!
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Thanks everyone for your support. It is much appreciated!! I started to go 6 hours between pumps and I woke up this morning really engorged. Ouch. Yet I somehow produced the most milk EVER? The same thing happened last night. Less pumps and more milk. Is that possible?!
Here's a laugh for you all. I have an Aunt who just called asking if tomorrow would be a good time to visit LO. I said sure. She asked what time specifically b/c she wants to visit when he's awake. She then asked if he was on a schedule yet so she can guarantee his alertness.....W.T.FFFF Granted, the woman does not have children but really? You think I could predict the wakefulness of a 3 week old? I hate people.
Such a weird out of body/mind experience! It only lasted a second thankfully.
Also talked with the doctor about starting the switch to formula. I'm still thinking of breast feeding a few times a day by the time we fully adjust to formula but I just can't mentally and physically do breast feeding for much longer. Plus with nursing school the last thing I want to do is pump while I'm on the floor at clinical.
Breast feeding is getting easier..or rather I'm just getting more used to it.
What do you do when you're done nursing LO? He just hangs out at my boob, like a drunk with his beer bottle still halfway hanging out his mouth. I'd like to put my nipple away because his breath dries it out, but moving wakes him... Do I just reposition?
(Jeez, I'm awkward!)
I slowly move my boob away from him and sometimes it works and sometimes it wakes him up. I'd like to know if there's a secret to this too!!
On a good note today was her 2 week appointment and has grown half an inch and gained almost a pound since the last appointment.
I am a little annoyed that it is assumed that babies are formula fed. Everyone is surprised and gives weird looks when we tell them we are BF even the nurses at the hospital and pediatrician. The only one who is supporting is our pediatrician as long as DD is growing good. What kind of world do we live in where BF isn't first choice even if you try and fail in my opinion it is something that should at least be tried.
And remember there could be all kinds of issues - I've had friends whose LOs were allergic to their breastmilk, or some of the things the mom was eating like soy, that appeared in breastmilk. So I have no idea, but that could be one reason he's not gaining weight despite the fact you are feeding him the right volumes at the right intervals. I'm hopeful you and your doctor can do some trial and error to figure it out! Our doc at one point said they could test a poopy diaper to see what was being retained or not by the baby - perhaps you can see if your doc does this. Ours says they get results in about an hour.
So now I'm worried about everything. Does anyone who did this come across the same thing? My friend told me to try it again tomorrow and if it happens again to try a different formula the next day. Today we used Enfamil gentlease
Any suggestions?
I did the formula and pumping for 8 days, now at 2 weeks we are 100% breastmilk out of a bottle.
I still try nursing, but they don't latch very well yet. I'll keep trying. I do like the bottle feeding, though, because I know exactly how much they are getting at each feeding.
Hang in there! If you can pump, the formula might be a temporary solution to get that babe gaining weight.
I need to check out this Boba!
Random question...for those who formula fed right when LO was born, did you deal a lot with with engorgement?
As I mentioned in the above posts, I started weaning off the pump yesterday (low supplier) so I can formula feed. I woke up so engorged this morning and dealing with what I imagine a clogged ductI made my husband pick up some cabbage on the way home. It's supposed to help with inflammation and dry things out. The smell is giving me a headache but boy, does it feel good. I don't know if it's a placebo effect but I'll take it! Anyone else have luck with cabbage - or anything else - to help with the process?
Do any of you have trouble sleeping at night? I usually wind up holding him on the recliner all night watchIng Netflix and take a nap during the day when DH and MIL can watch him because I worry about SIDS. We have a pack n play in our room so I need to find a way to trust he will be okay in there. I also really miss sleeping with DH and I know he misses sleeping with me to. Was there anything that helped you to do this?
Baby boy is having a lot more alert times now. I love seeing his beautiful eyes. I'm trying to take advantage of those times with tummy time, reading stories, singing, and introducing some toys to him. He is turning his head and even trying to hold his head up. He is a strong little guy!
Hope everything is going well for all you other mamas!
SIDS terrifies me, but it is incredibly rare. I find with stuff like that it helps if I know I've done everything possible to prevent it - kind of like wearing your seatbelt in a car.
@virginiaunicorn11 DH swatted those little old ladies hands like flies
...and do you not have to burp a baby when you're breastfeeding??? I didn't even know I could just let him sleep. Why am I so lost? I've read and read about BFing and still know nothing. DS goes into a hardcore milk coma. I'm going to start just letting him sleep.
@esampson1983 - I put my LO in a bassinet part time and co-sleep part-time (which sometimes means just holding him while I'm propped upright). I've read that babies who are close enough to their mamas this way (to hear you breathe) do not fall into the deep sleep that causes SIDS. I know blankets are a large risk, so I'm extremely careful, and none get closer than his waist. I do not swaddle when he's in bed with me. We get to cuddle, and we both stir enough that this has reduced my fears - though in the beginning I worried more. I read this in The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, and it's worked well for us. But I hear you, it's a terrifying concern.
So after that, I was terrified to nurse on that side for the rest of the day. I did some research though & pumped at dinner to relieve some milk & then kept putting breast milk on it & letting it air dry. First nighttime feeding, we used that side & she nursed & slept like a champ! Yes!!!
Anyone had LO spit up some BM mixed with blood from nip? Poor DH almost ran us to the hospital he was so worried at first.
This doesn't include bottle fed or fussy babies though.
I am wanting one! We have the backpack style, but it's for a certain weight... So I can't use it yet!
Which wraps do YOU like best? & did you find it cheaper online/somewhere else? I know most are around $40 in stores.
I got the Boba recently and it's been amazing! I got it at a little boutique in town and it was the same price as I kept seeing online.
I was talking to my mother about BFing and she said she never burped me afterwards. Made me feel sooo much better after DH had a hissy because I don't ever burp after LO is done, just halfway through and he hardly ever actually burps.
@devyns2nd That is SO helpful, thank you for those details!
@esampson1983 I co-sleep with LO very carefully and have read that doing so, if done properly (no blankets, no swaddle), helps reduce SIDS risk because baby is in tune with mama and doesn't fall into that super deep sleep. Not sure if that's true (because I know blankets are a major cause), but I do know I am hyper-aware of his presence and breathing, and we both stir and adjust to each other. I was anxious the first few nights, but now I am more comfortable and less anxious if he's next to me. It's also nice to wake up and cuddle together as a family - DH has commented on what a nice way it is to wake up. I miss DH's arms around me, but this isn't a bad replacement at all!