My MIL pretty much keeps her comments to herself because she used to say rude things to my husband and he put her in her place. The person I have harder time with is my father in law.
My dad isn't nearly as great of a dad as my FIL is to my husband and I know my husband has vented to his dad about my father bc there's been times in the past that my dads lack of follow through has really hurt me. What hurts worse is when my FIL will make rude/unnecessary comments or jokes about my parents.
Yes they can be shitty but they are my parents and you don't have the right to make dumb comments about them on things that happened years ago.
So I can totally get where one of the PP's is coming from. It's makes me livid and my husband does his best to get his dad to not do it.
One plus side I have in laws who do treat me like a daughter and only want the best for us, talking about my dad negatively is the only complaint I have.
I love this thread. You are my people! I struggle with MIL issues on the daily, and it's not that she has one liners that sting, but her behavior is so outrageously childish/inappropriate that I have to give myself a pep talk every time I'm going to interact with her. She doesn't know boundaries.
Exhibit A: When DH and I were engaged and building a house, we had 2 weeks before closing when we also had to be out of our apartment, so we stayed with my soon-to-be ILs. They have a beautiful home and they were very thoughtful and kind to let us stay with them (for this we were thankful!). However, we stayed in DH's childhood bedroom, and I guess I just assumed that our stuff was still our private business. I was wrong. I came home from work one evening to find my delicates hung all around their upstairs bathroom! She had gone into our room to do our laundry, and then hung up all of my lace thongs and g-strings for my future FIL and BIL to see in plain sight! I was mortified.
Exhibit B: We have drawn a line on the gift giving. DD is starting to associate MIL's visits with new toys, and that's definitely not inline with our values. She grew so upset with DH about not being able to bring over a new toy a couple weeks ago that she said, "FINE. I'm just going to bring it and you can just throw it away!" (Insert childlike tantrum of stomping and fist shaking)
Exhibit C: I'll wake up some mornings in the summer, look out the window, and she's in our garden. I'm a very independent person, and it rubs me the wrong way when someone steps into my home or my yard to do my work without asking. In fact, I think it's incredibly rude. She makes me feel small and incompetent half the time when she tells me what I should have been doing in the garden or how I should better clean the windows.
Exhibit When we built our house, we painted the interior ourselves to save some money for other upgrades. MIL came over and started throwing a fit that we were going to have a brown accent wall in our bedroom (our bedroom). She told us that it was a horrible decision and it was going to hurt our resale. Um, what? First of all, I promise you that you don't have to come into our bedroom ever again after this day so you won't be subjected to our "hideous" brown accent wall. Second, paint does not hurt resale. She left crying (this is not an exaggeration) and didn't come back for hours. When she did, she couldn't talk about it.
I'll think of any one liners that can more clearly indicate the level of ridiculousness. Until then, I'll be enjoying everyone else's posts. I feel like I'm in good company!!
My MIL has been awesome for the most part, but she started telling me what I can't name my baby. Um, I'm going to name my baby whatever I want. She's now on the list of people who doesn't get to hear name ideas. She also makes fun of the names my friends have given their children. They're unusual names (ex. Horatio) but WTF? They're my friends beautiful sweet children! Stop making fun of their names!
Oh man I could write a book. Everyone tells me how nice she is and how lucky I am to have her but her comments are annoying!!!
'Cover your chest and stop showing cleavage; you will dry out your milk and it will impact your breastfeeding.'
'You look too skinny to be pregnant-are you starving the baby and yourself to try to be cute?'
When DH tells her on FaceTime we are having a boy (with our first baby). Her response: 'great. I already have three of those. Couldn't you make a girl?!'
To my sister at my baby shower: 'please don't touch your sisters belly. We all know you aren't married and live in sin and we don't want you to give the baby your bad karma.'
She is effin crazy!!!!!
Oh man I could write a book. Everyone tells me how nice she is and how lucky I am to have her but her comments are annoying!!!
'Cover your chest and stop showing cleavage; you will dry out your milk and it will impact your breastfeeding.'
'You look too skinny to be pregnant-are you starving the baby and yourself to try to be cute?'
When DH tells her on FaceTime we are having a boy (with our first baby). Her response: 'great. I already have three of those. Couldn't you make a girl?!'
To my sister at my baby shower: 'please don't touch your sisters belly. We all know you aren't married and live in sin and we don't want you to give the baby your bad karma.'
She is effin crazy!!!!!
Oh my goodness!! I can't believe she actually said that to your sister!
It's not really a short one-liner but almost a year ago my MIL decided to attend catholic church for 2 weeks. She then called us and began pressuring us to have our daughter baptized. I told her, as a Baptist, we don't do baby baptisms like that and it's a decision our daughter can come to make when she's ready. Her response "well, that's fine for later in her life. But, if something happened to her now, it would kill me knowing she doesn't get to go to heaven." I didn't even have words. I just hung up on her.
Oh man I could write a book. Everyone tells me how nice she is and how lucky I am to have her but her comments are annoying!!!
'Cover your chest and stop showing cleavage; you will dry out your milk and it will impact your breastfeeding.'
'You look too skinny to be pregnant-are you starving the baby and yourself to try to be cute?'
When DH tells her on FaceTime we are having a boy (with our first baby). Her response: 'great. I already have three of those. Couldn't you make a girl?!'
To my sister at my baby shower: 'please don't touch your sisters belly. We all know you aren't married and live in sin and we don't want you to give the baby your bad karma.'
She is effin crazy!!!!!
Oh my goodness!! I can't believe she actually said that to your sister!
I'm so glad I wasn't the only one thinking this! I can only imagine what my sister would have said!
Oh my goodness ladies, some of your MIL's need to be on serious meds! My MIL and I get along great, but she definitely has her moments, mostly to my own mama. For example, when my mom was discussing baby shower plans, my MIL says to her "we just gave them money for the wedding so we shouldn't have a big baby shower". First of all, yes, they did help us for the wedding. So did my parents, and we contributed financially as well. My mom is paying for the entire baby shower (which makes sense, she isn't asking for any money from my MIL). So why should she have a say in how many people are invited? My MIL is very sweet and they help us out financially (wedding, our first house) but then they hold it over our heads later. We never even ask for the help, they just offer it on their own. I told my hubs that I don't want to accept their help anymore because of that.
I love this thread. You are my people! I struggle with MIL issues on the daily, and it's not that she has one liners that sting, but her behavior is so outrageously childish/inappropriate that I have to give myself a pep talk every time I'm going to interact with her. She doesn't know boundaries.
Exhibit A: When DH and I were engaged and building a house, we had 2 weeks before closing when we also had to be out of our apartment, so we stayed with my soon-to-be ILs. They have a beautiful home and they were very thoughtful and kind to let us stay with them (for this we were thankful!). However, we stayed in DH's childhood bedroom, and I guess I just assumed that our stuff was still our private business. I was wrong. I came home from work one evening to find my delicates hung all around their upstairs bathroom! She had gone into our room to do our laundry, and then hung up all of my lace thongs and g-strings for my future FIL and BIL to see in plain sight! I was mortified.
Exhibit B: We have drawn a line on the gift giving. DD is starting to associate MIL's visits with new toys, and that's definitely not inline with our values. She grew so upset with DH about not being able to bring over a new toy a couple weeks ago that she said, "FINE. I'm just going to bring it and you can just throw it away!" (Insert childlike tantrum of stomping and fist shaking)
Exhibit C: I'll wake up some mornings in the summer, look out the window, and she's in our garden. I'm a very independent person, and it rubs me the wrong way when someone steps into my home or my yard to do my work without asking. In fact, I think it's incredibly rude. She makes me feel small and incompetent half the time when she tells me what I should have been doing in the garden or how I should better clean the windows.
Exhibit When we built our house, we painted the interior ourselves to save some money for other upgrades. MIL came over and started throwing a fit that we were going to have a brown accent wall in our bedroom (our bedroom). She told us that it was a horrible decision and it was going to hurt our resale. Um, what? First of all, I promise you that you don't have to come into our bedroom ever again after this day so you won't be subjected to our "hideous" brown accent wall. Second, paint does not hurt resale. She left crying (this is not an exaggeration) and didn't come back for hours. When she did, she couldn't talk about it.
I'll think of any one liners that can more clearly indicate the level of ridiculousness. Until then, I'll be enjoying everyone else's posts. I feel like I'm in good company!!
She cried over an accent wall? Because if/when the time comes to sell your house you can't slap some neutral paint on that wall?
Yikes some of these MIL's sound scary! The only thing mine really does is make me hold my SIL's baby for long periods of time because I "need the practice". Then she'll sit and analyze me whole I hold her. I'm not really into holding other people's babies and it's annoying to have her watching me and judging my "potential."
She also knows we are team green but keeps asking when we find out what the baby is. When we remind her she's like "Oh right... Are you sure? Maybe just I can know."
MIL: "I had time to cook and clean and I had three kids. Guess I'm just super mom!!"
Me: (in my head) you were a full time stay at home mom, who ate out every night. Your kids were in school all day and you had no clue what they were doing when they weren't in school.
@MamaOwl15, YES! It was that moment when I realized we weren't in Kansas anymore with our ILs. That is kind of how she responds to most things when she doesn't get her way. She acts like I just killed her dog (which is clearly an atrocious act). DH and I always look at each other like, "WTF is that about?"
She also cries at other people's birthday parties because she is sad that her birthday wasn't like theirs (e.g., at a new bar opening, with a different set of friends, etc.). It's the oddest adult relationship I've ever been a part of, and it is still unpredictable.
My sister (god love her) has always been witty! She told my mil...well luckily for my sister and unborn nephew I am not a mean and malicious person so I would never wish ill will on either of them-can you say the same?! My mom and I almost shit our pants trying not to laugh. My mil looked like a deer in headlights and did not know what to say.
@ljburrelli without a doubt I would have slapped your MIL
Oh you have no idea...she has no filter and she makes you think violent thoughts. I wonder sometimes how she is my DH's mom. He is so laid back and she is just crazy!!!
The first time I saw MIL since we announced we were pregnant was on Mother's Day. I walked in and gave her a hug & said happy Mother's Day. Her response was "WOW! It's gonna be a girl, because you're getting huge everywhere!!"
My MIL is a crazy alcoholic, who quit raising her children after her husband died when they were early teens. She says she has "that post-matic disease" (meaning PTSD) from this and therefore will not work and expects people to provide for her.
At my wedding reception: MIL: mmm, there sure are some good looking guys here. You could find you a man! Me: You do know that I just married your son, right? I mean, the wedding dress didn't give it away... MIL: All I'm saying is that if I were you, I'd be over there with them.
After asking my preference for sex of the baby & I told her I had no preference: MIL: It's a boy. I know it's a boy. We only have boys in our family! Me: Well, I guess we'll find out soon. MIL: gets loud and says over and over, "oh, what? You don't want boys? You only want girls or something!?"
Whatever woman....It's a girl, btw. Haven't heard from her since.
I love reading these!
My MIL is a crazy alcoholic, who quit raising her children after her husband died when they were early teens. She says she has "that post-matic disease" (meaning PTSD) from this and therefore will not work and expects people to provide for her.
At my wedding reception:
MIL: mmm, there sure are some good looking guys here. You could find you a man!
Me: You do know that I just married your son, right? I mean, the wedding dress didn't give it away...
MIL: All I'm saying is that if I were you, I'd be over there with them.
After asking my preference for sex of the baby & I told her I had no preference:
MIL: It's a boy. I know it's a boy. We only have boys in our family!
Me: Well, I guess we'll find out soon.
MIL: gets loud and says over and over, "oh, what? You don't want boys? You only want girls or something!?"
Whatever woman....It's a girl, btw. Haven't heard from her since.
Pahahahahaha!!! OMG!!! I'm so amazed my husband turned out to be so.....so normal growing up with this kind of nonsense. Did yours come out alright basically taking care of himself?
I feel so awful for you ladies but I really needed to laugh today so thank you for sharing!!! I had an awful MIL with my first marriage but must have paid my dues because my MIL now is amazing. Feeling very lucky after reading these.
My MIL has done a number of things but few good ones that come to mind...
1. Wearing an all white dress to my wedding
2. Pressuring my husband and I for years to baptize our children catholic otherwise they wouldn't gonzo heaven. She even made a comment she was going to kidnap them and get them baptized without our consent.
3. Booting my sister from the delivery room while I was having my son because she made such a scene that my mom was in the room but she wasn't! She did this literally 5 minutes before I was about to push and caused my husband and I to argue
4. Told me kids being gay is wrong
5. Told me I have always been jealous of her and was tryin to keep her son away from her
6. And most recently had a fit when she found out I was taking my mom to Disneyland for Mother's Day and she was only getting dinner
I was staying at my MILs house Over a weekend and My 1 year old wasnt feeling well and woke up at 6am and was hungry. MIL comes into the kitchen all perky and i was wanting to get the milk and go back to bed. She says "so when are you going to get the baby baptized catholic?" Im like...not right now im not...im going back to bed" This always happens when my husband is conveniently not around. Boy she is lucky im patient
I CANNOT believe some of these! You ladies are saints for putting up with these nightmare MILs. Fortunately, mine doesn't speak a word of English and we get long great because of that! She's also very sweet, but I'm sure there would be things we would argue about occasionally if we understood each other!
The family member that truly drives me nuts is a cousin who is 2 years younger than me (she's 23h). When I told her I was pregnant she said nothing. Literally. Her response was, "do you want me to hand the phone to my mom so you can tell her." She has a really hard time being happy for others. She is a full alien.
Then, a few weeks later, we were talking and out of nowhere she was like, "I can't believe you're pregnant. I don't even like my gel nails after a few days..." I said, "um, i hardly think gel nails and a fetus are the same thing..." And she says, "they're both attached to you!!"
@LauraAbduzhalilova my mil doesn't speak English either and lives halfway across the world. So nice! She is very sweet but pretty overbearing, used to taking care of everyone. When we visited last summer she kept bringing me my shoes in the house because you're not supposed to go barefoot and kept bringing me food like every hour that I refused to eat Cuz I was already so full! She's coming to stay with us for 2 months in January and I'm going to have to learn how to be patient! My husband doesn't understand when I told him he's going to have to explain to her when we want things done our way, not hers! She wants us to use cloth diapers, which I don't want. He said, we'll she will wash them. Um no. Not gonna happen. She's only here two months so it's not worth it. Can't wait!
I just don't understand the mindset of some. Like wtf makes you think it's ever Ok to do or say these things?? In a couple of our situations I know we've mentioned alcoholism or needing to seek professional help. I'm hoping that's it because I can't imagine in my right mind thinking it's okay to be an asshole to my children.
Same here! My husband wants her to come stay with us when the baby is born but I'm already going to be so stressed! And they have weird things they do with newborns where he's from...
@LauraAbduzhalilova just remember, it's only a short time. I can do anything for 2 months (I guess). But it's definitely hard because I like things done my way and can't even communicate that to her when my husband isn't home. And it will be so awkward when he's at work and I'm home with her two days a week (I work 3 12 hour shifts a week). Good luck to both of us!
Reading all of these stories is hilarious/horrifying. I'm so sorry all you ladies have to deal with this crap.
My MIL is great, but she did annoy me a bit yesterday. My workflow has picked up quite a bit in the past couple of weeks, to the point where I'm working almost every night and every weekend. Add to that the fact that my work has a ton of summer events that I'm expected to attend and participate in, so even when I'm not technically working, I'm still doing something for work. Because of this, I've missed a few of my DH's baseball games (he coaches a little league team in town). My mom, sister, & grandma are all coming to town next weekend (they live 7 hours away) to help paint/decorate the nursery & shop for the baby. After DH's game yesterday (which I missed to work), his parents called to see what we were up to and he said that he was cleaning and putting the house together for when my family arrives. I guess his mom asked what I was doing and I was napping at the time. We went to an outdoor concert the night before and I was on my feet for 6 hours straight and for some reason being outside in 90+ degree weather, standing, for 6 hours really f-ed up my energy level the next day. Anyway, his mom was like, "You know, she's just pregnant. It's not like she is disabled or needs to avoid doing things." Yes, we all know I'm "just pregnant," but I'm also working my ass off. Luckily, my DH just responded by saying, "When we were growing up and dad was the primary bread earner and had to work a lot of extra hours at work, didn't you take on more responsibility at home? Well, this is just like that, so leave it alone." I love that man.
My MIL is a crazy alcoholic, who quit raising her children after her husband died when they were early teens. She says she has "that post-matic disease" (meaning PTSD) from this and therefore will not work and expects people to provide for her.
At my wedding reception: MIL: mmm, there sure are some good looking guys here. You could find you a man! Me: You do know that I just married your son, right? I mean, the wedding dress didn't give it away... MIL: All I'm saying is that if I were you, I'd be over there with them.
After asking my preference for sex of the baby & I told her I had no preference: MIL: It's a boy. I know it's a boy. We only have boys in our family! Me: Well, I guess we'll find out soon. MIL: gets loud and says over and over, "oh, what? You don't want boys? You only want girls or something!?"
Whatever woman....It's a girl, btw. Haven't heard from her since.
Pahahahahaha!!! OMG!!! I'm so amazed my husband turned out to be so.....so normal growing up with this kind of nonsense. Did yours come out alright basically taking care of himself?
I tell my husband all the time I don't understand how he came from her! The bad thing is, that his brother has 3 children that stay with her ALL the time. Therefore, she thinks that she's fit to care for children, which means I'm the evil one bc DH told her that she won't be able to keep this baby and she'll only be able to visit with her at our house.
Our town recently had a concert one night. She showed up drunk, while she had my niece & nephew with her. She made a scene in front of my parents' friends telling my mom how I wasn't going to keep my baby from her bc she's the grandma and she has rights. Later, when it was over I told my niece bye and asked where my nephew was. My niece said that they couldn't find him. My MIL says, "I do watch them, you know!!" Awesome job!
It's actually my step mother in law. One day I was helping her do the dishes and she's correcting me on everything, then turns to me and says "I'm just trying to teach you how to be a good wife." Wtf. I literally just walked away.
My MIL is a crazy alcoholic, who quit raising her children after her husband died when they were early teens. She says she has "that post-matic disease" (meaning PTSD) from this and therefore will not work and expects people to provide for her.
At my wedding reception: MIL: mmm, there sure are some good looking guys here. You could find you a man! Me: You do know that I just married your son, right? I mean, the wedding dress didn't give it away... MIL: All I'm saying is that if I were you, I'd be over there with them.
After asking my preference for sex of the baby & I told her I had no preference: MIL: It's a boy. I know it's a boy. We only have boys in our family! Me: Well, I guess we'll find out soon. MIL: gets loud and says over and over, "oh, what? You don't want boys? You only want girls or something!?"
Whatever woman....It's a girl, btw. Haven't heard from her since.
Pahahahahaha!!! OMG!!! I'm so amazed my husband turned out to be so.....so normal growing up with this kind of nonsense. Did yours come out alright basically taking care of himself?
I tell my husband all the time I don't understand how he came from her! The bad thing is, that his brother has 3 children that stay with her ALL the time. Therefore, she thinks that she's fit to care for children, which means I'm the evil one bc DH told her that she won't be able to keep this baby and she'll only be able to visit with her at our house.
Our town recently had a concert one night. She showed up drunk, while she had my niece & nephew with her. She made a scene in front of my parents' friends telling my mom how I wasn't going to keep my baby from her bc she's the grandma and she has rights. Later, when it was over I told my niece bye and asked where my nephew was. My niece said that they couldn't find him. My MIL says, "I do watch them, you know!!" Awesome job!
My MIL thinks she is going to be babysitting my children all the time because another girl (who is not related to her at all) let's her children call her grandma and stay with her all the time. Now, this girl is not all their in the head either and I would NEVER trust my MIL with my children. She will try to raise my children Jewish (I'm Baptist). She let's her husband who has had 3 strokes in the past year drive everywhere (the man can barely remember his name). Her "house" is disgusting (they live in an rv with 2 large dogs and multiple cats). And she doesn't take her mental health medicine. So, no, she won't be alone with my children. Plus, she lives an hour and a half away while my parents live 5 minutes and my sister lives 10 minutes... So who is the logical babysitter there?
Yesterday my MIL came over, and my little one said something about how she liked something, and my MIL says "OHHHH, I didn't know you liked that, I don't see you enough to know anything about you!" UM....she lives around the corner, she is here once a week or every other week. She's watched them a handful of times at her place, and pretty much has admitted she can't handle it. Soooo, I really don't get what she wants from me there. When shes here, she complains after about 20 mins that she's out of breath and needs a nap. She also told me once that it upsets her that I treat my mother better than I treat her....I didn't even know how to respond to that.
She's also been up my butt about why I won't name my son after my husband....Because I don't want to, that's why! I love my husband, and his name is his name, but I don't want it for MY kid, that was your choice!!! Oh and, any name I like and I say DH doesn't like, she says she hates it. She did the same thing when we named the girls. It's driving me mad!!!!
Thought of another one.
It's actually my step mother in law. One day I was helping her do the dishes and she's correcting me on everything, then turns to me and says "I'm just trying to teach you how to be a good wife." Wtf. I literally just walked away.
@eat111315, I assume you walked away to get a notebook and pen so you could write that sh!t down.
It's actually my step mother in law. One day I was helping her do the dishes and she's correcting me on everything, then turns to me and says "I'm just trying to teach you how to be a good wife." Wtf. I literally just walked away.
@eat111315, I assume you walked away to get a notebook and pen so you could write that sh!t down.
Haha. Yes. Then I was like "could you also teach me how to marry a sugar daddy? Because you nailed that one. Twice."
I told my MIL I was breastfeeding and that it would be a while before she could take him overnight... Her response was "why are you doing that, Formula was made so you don't have to" ... UHMM what ?!
I finally got to talk to my MIL about how she felt about being a grandma...her quote was "it's not that I'm not excited.....it's just more of a reality that I'm getting old, I wish it would've happened 10 years ago when I was 40...." So when I your son was 14 you wanted your first grandchild? She doesn't look (or act) 50 at all! I don't want her to feel old....I'm hoping once our boy gets here she will have a different outlook!
I absolutely love this thread, I was blessed with an extremely controlling and passive aggressive MIL bless her heart. Before we had even conceived or thought of trying we were talking about family planning, and she informed me I needed to "get pregnant with twins the first time and be done with it". Just like she had done. When I told her that I think I would like to be pregnant more than once in my life she informed me that I was insane. I also had made the mistake in past years of sharing hypothetical names that i favored. Stella was my all time #1 pick for a girl and my hubby agreed in a millisecond. I was so excited and confident to share the name. What did my MIL do...bought a puppy 3 weeks later and named the damn dog Stella!! :-??
Re: SH*T my MIL Says..
My dad isn't nearly as great of a dad as my FIL is to my husband and I know my husband has vented to his dad about my father bc there's been times in the past that my dads lack of follow through has really hurt me. What hurts worse is when my FIL will make rude/unnecessary comments or jokes about my parents.
Yes they can be shitty but they are my parents and you don't have the right to make dumb comments about them on things that happened years ago.
So I can totally get where one of the PP's is coming from. It's makes me livid and my husband does his best to get his dad to not do it.
One plus side I have in laws who do treat me like a daughter and only want the best for us, talking about my dad negatively is the only complaint I have.
Married: 05/14/2011
DS Was Born: 02/10/2013
EDD: 10/19/2015
She also knows we are team green but keeps asking when we find out what the baby is. When we remind her she's like "Oh right... Are you sure? Maybe just I can know."
Me: (in my head) you were a full time stay at home mom, who ate out every night. Your kids were in school all day and you had no clue what they were doing when they weren't in school.
Out loud: "oh, good for you." Head explodes.
Married: 05/14/2011
DS Was Born: 02/10/2013
EDD: 10/19/2015
Oh you have no idea...she has no filter and she makes you think violent thoughts. I wonder sometimes how she is my DH's mom. He is so laid back and she is just crazy!!!
Married: 05/14/2011
DS Was Born: 02/10/2013
EDD: 10/19/2015
My MIL is a crazy alcoholic, who quit raising her children after her husband died when they were early teens. She says she has "that post-matic disease" (meaning PTSD) from this and therefore will not work and expects people to provide for her.
At my wedding reception:
MIL: mmm, there sure are some good looking guys here. You could find you a man!
Me: You do know that I just married your son, right? I mean, the wedding dress didn't give it away...
MIL: All I'm saying is that if I were you, I'd be over there with them.
After asking my preference for sex of the baby & I told her I had no preference:
MIL: It's a boy. I know it's a boy. We only have boys in our family!
Me: Well, I guess we'll find out soon.
MIL: gets loud and says over and over, "oh, what? You don't want boys? You only want girls or something!?"
Whatever woman....It's a girl, btw. Haven't heard from her since.
1. Wearing an all white dress to my wedding
2. Pressuring my husband and I for years to baptize our children catholic otherwise they wouldn't gonzo heaven. She even made a comment she was going to kidnap them and get them baptized without our consent.
3. Booting my sister from the delivery room while I was having my son because she made such a scene that my mom was in the room but she wasn't! She did this literally 5 minutes before I was about to push and caused my husband and I to argue
4. Told me kids being gay is wrong
5. Told me I have always been jealous of her and was tryin to keep her son away from her
6. And most recently had a fit when she found out I was taking my mom to Disneyland for Mother's Day and she was only getting dinner
The family member that truly drives me nuts is a cousin who is 2 years younger than me (she's 23h). When I told her I was pregnant she said nothing. Literally. Her response was, "do you want me to hand the phone to my mom so you can tell her." She has a really hard time being happy for others. She is a full alien.
Then, a few weeks later, we were talking and out of nowhere she was like, "I can't believe you're pregnant. I don't even like my gel nails after a few days..." I said, "um, i hardly think gel nails and a fetus are the same thing..." And she says, "they're both attached to you!!"
Am I in the Twilight Zone!?!
Good heavens do yall see that autocorrect mess?
She's coming to stay with us for 2 months in January and I'm going to have to learn how to be patient! My husband doesn't understand when I told him he's going to have to explain to her when we want things done our way, not hers! She wants us to use cloth diapers, which I don't want. He said, we'll she will wash them. Um no. Not gonna happen. She's only here two months so it's not worth it. Can't wait!
She has three children and three other grandchildren. She knew what an ultrasound looks like.
I tell my husband all the time I don't understand how he came from her! The bad thing is, that his brother has 3 children that stay with her ALL the time. Therefore, she thinks that she's fit to care for children, which means I'm the evil one bc DH told her that she won't be able to keep this baby and she'll only be able to visit with her at our house.
Our town recently had a concert one night. She showed up drunk, while she had my niece & nephew with her. She made a scene in front of my parents' friends telling my mom how I wasn't going to keep my baby from her bc she's the grandma and she has rights. Later, when it was over I told my niece bye and asked where my nephew was. My niece said that they couldn't find him. My MIL says, "I do watch them, you know!!" Awesome job!
It's actually my step mother in law. One day I was helping her do the dishes and she's correcting me on everything, then turns to me and says "I'm just trying to teach you how to be a good wife." Wtf. I literally just walked away.
Our town recently had a concert one night. She showed up drunk, while she had my niece & nephew with her. She made a scene in front of my parents' friends telling my mom how I wasn't going to keep my baby from her bc she's the grandma and she has rights. Later, when it was over I told my niece bye and asked where my nephew was. My niece said that they couldn't find him. My MIL says, "I do watch them, you know!!" Awesome job!
My MIL thinks she is going to be babysitting my children all the time because another girl (who is not related to her at all) let's her children call her grandma and stay with her all the time. Now, this girl is not all their in the head either and I would NEVER trust my MIL with my children. She will try to raise my children Jewish (I'm Baptist). She let's her husband who has had 3 strokes in the past year drive everywhere (the man can barely remember his name). Her "house" is disgusting (they live in an rv with 2 large dogs and multiple cats). And she doesn't take her mental health medicine. So, no, she won't be alone with my children. Plus, she lives an hour and a half away while my parents live 5 minutes and my sister lives 10 minutes... So who is the logical babysitter there?
She's also been up my butt about why I won't name my son after my husband....Because I don't want to, that's why! I love my husband, and his name is his name, but I don't want it for MY kid, that was your choice!!! Oh and, any name I like and I say DH doesn't like, she says she hates it. She did the same thing when we named the girls. It's driving me mad!!!!
Haha. Yes. Then I was like "could you also teach me how to marry a sugar daddy? Because you nailed that one. Twice."
Before we had even conceived or thought of trying we were talking about family planning, and she informed me I needed to "get pregnant with twins the first time and be done with it". Just like she had done. When I told her that I think I would like to be pregnant more than once in my life she informed me that I was insane.
I also had made the mistake in past years of sharing hypothetical names that i favored. Stella was my all time #1 pick for a girl and my hubby agreed in a millisecond. I was so excited and confident to share the name. What did my MIL do...bought a puppy 3 weeks later and named the damn dog Stella!! :-??