@magburt I know right?! The whole show she was talking about being close to nature, which I can sympathize with, but then it was in a closed tent. Just seemed like they went through a whole lot of stress for very little payoff. But it was her decision I guess. She ended up passing out from blood loss afterward, but she was okay once they got her into a warm house and she rested a little. I'm hungry for more crazy pregnancy shows!!
My sister saying "good luck" when I say I'm going to breastfeed, my sister tried to breastfeed for a whole 5 minutes and gave up when the baby wouldn't latch....but you know she has had 3 kids so she an expert....
And people at work...when I say one little thing about my back hurting or it's getting harder to bend down they say "oh its going to get way worse"...I know!! Ugh! Just shut up and stop acting like you know everything!
Both my sister and sister-in-law suffered infertility but were both blessed with twins within the last 18 months. I'm tired of being asked if I'm sure there is just one in there!!
I told my mom I was pregnant right at 4 weeks, and from then until about 10 weeks, she told me it wasn't too late to do something about it.
With my first pregnancy, DH would not stop saying "you're the one who wanted to get pregnant" every time some new and awful symptom appeared. 6 months in, i was ready to karate chop his throat.
Yes the you'll never sleep again advice.. Always from everyone. Unfortunately I'm a nurse and if there is one thing I already know about is sleep deprivation.
I'm sick of people asking what makes we like, then expressing their opinions when I tell them. Now the answer is no, we don't know yet...they'll find out when the baby is born!!!
Telling people you are using a midwife/having a natural birth will get you the BEST ADVICE EVER!!! "There is no way I could have done it, trust me, all you will want are the drugs" or "What if (insert every scenario that ever involved a complication with a birth here)? Then what???" I like to reply with a "If you think that I made this decision without a good amount of research backing it, you are wrong." Some people research more about what they buy on Amazon then they do about their prenatal care and delivery.
Haha! This 100%! Try also adding in that you are planning a home water birth... The shock and horror on people's faces is my favorite part. Then comes the unsolicited advice.
I had my 7th baby at home in the water and i thoughy peoples heads would explode! She was born safely and it was amazing to see her swim up to me and me take her in my arms. And then be able to go to my own bathroom and bed!!! While it isn't for everyone, if you know absolutely dick about something you should just keep yoir mouth shut. Ugh. And i wanted another homebirth for this baby and i can't find anyone but when i ask around people ask me why i would want to risk my life. Smh. Ignorance.
I spent a week on the beach with my mom and MIL and every time I wore my swimsuit or a tighter fitting shirt I heard "oh look, your belly has really popped out today!" I finally looked at my mom and said "it's not my belly. I am bloated. And once I go poop it will go down." And she STILL didn't get the hint.
Walk in the house bloated to the skies. Poop. Return from the bathroom flat as a washboard and see if they faint.
I told my mom I was pregnant right at 4 weeks, and from then until about 10 weeks, she told me it wasn't too late to do something about it.
With my first pregnancy, DH would not stop saying "you're the one who wanted to get pregnant" every time some new and awful symptom appeared. 6 months in, i was ready to karate chop his throat.
Ugh. I know the feeling. (About dh) I also get (from him) you're not that pregnant yet. Though that has stopped for the most part.
This is my 3rd LO and they are all less then 2 years apart so everyone likes to say "wow, your gonna be busy" yep cause right now all i do is sit around on the couch all day eating junk food and watching netflix! I have 2 toddlers....I'm already busy!!!
I am WAY over coworkers who don't know saying , " you look tired." That's like saying. "you look like S!@#". It is rude. I want to say if you did this job, in this heat, after being up sick half the night you would not look so hot yourself! Once I'm "out" the polite smile and knod will expire!
I had my 7th baby at home in the water and i thoughy peoples heads would explode! She was born safely and it was amazing to see her swim up to me and me take her in my arms. And then be able to go to my own bathroom and bed!!! While it isn't for everyone, if you know absolutely dick about something you should just keep yoir mouth shut. Ugh. And i wanted another homebirth for this baby and i can't find anyone but when i ask around people ask me why i would want to risk my life. Smh. Ignorance.
This will be my 2nd. My first birth was amazing and I can't wait to do it again! There are a lot of misconceptions about home birth, which is really sad to me. Crawling into your own bed with family and all the comforts of home... Yes please! I'm sorry you can't find anyone that will do a home birth, that sucks! @enigmaanjel
I had a lovely conversation (read:sarcasm) about perineal stretching to prevent tearing and was gifted a bottle of coconut oil. It was especially awkward & I'm not sure how to now avoid the person forever. )
Oh my goodness. I'm commenting again, because I forgot all the negative comments when you tell people you want a natural childbirth. Everything from, "You'll change your mind," to "Just wait until the pain kicks in, you'll be begging for medicine."
Because I was able to have a very beautiful natural delivery, the comments haven't started up this time around. At least I have experience on my side of they start this time. Lol.
We have two girls so we hear a lot of "Hopefully its a boy!"
....and what if its not...we're not gonna love it any less!!! Its like people won't be as excited for us if its another girl
Honestly, I'm good either way. Who doesn't love a little girl with their bows and outfits!! I have so much adorable girl stuff to reuse. And of course I'd love a boy. Change of pace and seeing my hubby bond with with his son. I wish people would just stop pushing for it. It will be what it will be!!
Omg i agree with the tired comments too.... But my mom who's going to be a first time grandma keeps rubbing my belly!!! I don't even have a bump really
@VegDumpling it seems almost everyone I encounter in Australia wants a natural birth. For the birth of my first lo, they tried to give me sweet air instead of an epidural. It did nothing but make me feel high and in pain. So I told them I am an American and I want drugs! My DH and I still laugh about that!
@amyjosh59 I was told the same thing by so many people for my first. We had no problems at all. It's like they want to set you up to fail since it didn't work for them.
I had a lovely conversation (read:sarcasm) about perineal stretching to prevent tearing and was gifted a bottle of coconut oil. It was especially awkward & I'm not sure how to now avoid the person forever. )
OMG! That's brutal! I made the mistake of googling that the other day and I may never get that image out of my head. Especially when they suggested that DH could do it....
Married September 2013, Excited to welcome Baby Thompson December 2015
Yesterday I had a lady at church ask me if it was planned and I'm like um ya of course and she's like oh ok good...first of all, none of your business, second, I've been married for over 5 years...what kind of question is that? And either way, we would be just as happy and excited whether it was planned or not. My sister said I shoulda told her "No I slept around and it's not DH's baby but he's come to terms with it" )
My DH keeps reminding me that I look like I have a beer belly...thanks...as if I don't already feel fat!
I'm also sick of all of the well meaning advice on what the eat, what to do, what not to do, how their pregnancy was...I am not you and I probably will not have most of what you had so stop trying to tell me about your pregnancy and let me enjoy mine.
Oh and the worst was my mother's very detailed and horrific description of breastfeeding and nipples bleeding and lumps in the breasts and fever...I was like thanks, did not need to know all that now...Formula it is...LOL (not really but it's an option after the conversation)
Yesterday I had a lady at church ask me if it was planned and I'm like um ya of course and she's like oh ok good...first of all, none of your business, second, I've been married for over 5 years...what kind of question is that? And either way, we would be just as happy and excited whether it was planned or not. My sister said I shoulda told her "No I slept around and it's not DH's baby but he's come to terms with it" )
My DH keeps reminding me that I look like I have a beer belly...thanks...as if I don't already feel fat!
I'm also sick of all of the well meaning advice on what the eat, what to do, what not to do, how their pregnancy was...I am not you and I probably will not have most of what you had so stop trying to tell me about your pregnancy and let me enjoy mine.
Oh and the worst was my mother's very detailed and horrific description of breastfeeding and nipples bleeding and lumps in the breasts and fever...I was like thanks, did not need to know all that now...Formula it is...LOL (not really but it's an option after the conversation)
ok. soooo i think theres alot of hormones in this post.. lol which is fine we are pregnant I bet it was a elder lady from your church than said that to you. I would of paid to be there if you sid what you were thinking lol. Elder people from church can get that way, different generation. Oh and yes im super afraid of the whole breastfeeding and nipples cracking, but I would rather know than freak out at bleeding nipples without a heads up. Enjoy your pregnancy hun! dont let anyone take that away from you. Of course its much easier to enjoy after you get over the first trimester (if you had a really bad one).
When I was 1-2 months away from having DD, I was at a gas station buying something inside, and the girl was amazed that I was still allowed to drive. I'd never heard that one before.
My asshole coworker told me that she only gained 17 pounds during her pregnancy and any weight gained in the first trimester is just because the mom is lazy and doesn't eat well.
My mom and her friends are constantly telling me to scrub my nipples with a washcloth to "toughen them up." What? Really?
Nooo! A lot of that is going to be things that they were told when they had babies that is outdated. My mom kept asking me if I was giving DD water when she was a newborn because that's what they did nearly 40 years ago.
I had a lovely conversation (read:sarcasm) about perineal stretching to prevent tearing and was gifted a bottle of coconut oil. It was especially awkward & I'm not sure how to now avoid the person forever. )
I guess we all have different tolerances for weird! I will be using coconut and Helichrysum essential oils for peri massage. DH can help or I can massage solo. My doc also does peri massage and no episiotomy. I'm all for it if helps to prevent or limit tearing.
I told my husband I didn't want an epidural and he said "No you cannot do that, I couldn't stand to see you in that much pain." So I guess that's sweet, right? Still going to try natural birth though. He then followed that statement with "I can't wait until.you grow out of this awkward stage of is she pregnant or just fat?" Lol. Gotta love him.
What pisses me off completely is that every single person I have told that I want to have a natural birth (with the exception of my mom and my midwife) has responded with "No you don't, trust me." I seriously want to tell these people to f off. I will probably scream at the next person who responds that way. I'm already to the point where I want to lie to people when they ask and not tell them at all.
There's a reason I want to plan a natural birth and it's not because I think I'm drugging my baby or want to experience the feeling on my vagina ripping, but I have a heart condition where if my vitals aren't 100% within normal ranges when I go into labor I will be denied an epi and I'd much rather mentally prepare for natural labor and delivery than plan the epi and be told no in the middle of labor and be a hot mess about it.
Yes yes to the responses people give when I say I'm doing a natural birth. I'm so tired of hearing about the pains of birth like its something I should be terrified of. Ok well maybe *I* personally am afraid of having foreign objects poked into my body and have had issues with this for years so would like to avoid it as much as possible. Even when I told my dr I plan on a natural birth because I am more afraid of something going in my spine and a catheter she said "well we'll see if you care once you're in pain". No I won't care! I don't want an epidural, I don't want a catheter and I don't want an IV line (something I'm sure I'll have to fight for). Obviously if something goes wrong and I have to have a c-section my #1 priority is the baby but in the chance that that doesn't happen I should get to choose what is best for me without all the scare tactics.
A woman at my church, with whom I am friends, came up to me and asked if she could touch my belly. Before I could even answer, she touched the top half of my stomach. All I could think was, that's not where my baby is! Yesterday she actually waited to hear the answer for whether or not I minded people touching my stomach. I told her nobody was yet since I wasn't showing lol. I'm really glad she didn't touch me where baby is, that would've been really awkward.
My mom told me about a conversation she had with a woman at her church, telling her I was pregnant. The woman said she thought so, since I had a little bump when I was home last (in early April, when I was about 4 weeks along). I told my mom there was no way I looked pregnant, that was my fat she saw (in the loose flowing sundress I wore).
At least finally when the women at her church ask me when I'm due, or how far along I am, or if I'm pregnant, I can finally answer them with something other than nope, just fat, thanks for asking :-w
@rachel10488 - scare tactics from your doc? If mine said something like that, I'd be doc shopping fast! I want the same things you want...best of luck to you!
@GardenMama116 I would say the scare tactics are more from everyone else who constantly says that to me, my Drs comment was in more of a joking tone but it still rubbed me the wrong way especially because I've already heard it so much. I actually was planning on shopping for a midwife after that appointment but a few days later had some scary bleeding and the way my dr handled it and was so on top of things changed my mind again
To all the ladies upset about reactions to wanting a natural child birth. I remember getting the same exact responses when I told people that with my pregnancy with my son. I was adamant that I could do it and felt like telling people to shut up every time. HOWEVER, it was a completely different ball game when in labor and I did end up having an epi and it was wonderful. I only say this because I'm sure people mean well and are trying to "warn" you but I do remember how annoying that was. My best advice about birth plans are to have something in mind but definitely keep an open mind about doing something else if you have to. Don't beat yourself up if you can't make a natural child birth happen. I just wanted to say that. I support everyone's wish/desire. All decisions about pregnancy are personal and people should really respect that.
I'm so sick of hearing my mom tell me to not work out (I'm a personal trainer and gym rat so my body is used to it) and anytime I "complain" of a symptom, she blames it on me working out. She feels I should lay down as soon as I get home from work and let everyone wait on me hand and foot. I just don't work that way. She is always saying "aren't you taking this healthy thing too far?" WHAT?!? Isn't that what I should be doing for the baby?!?! Drives me crazy every time.
This is my 4th pregnancy, but my last ended in miscarriage last October. Since announcing this pregnancy I have been hearing:
"You know what causes that, right?" My response to that is now "yes, we do. That's why we keep ending up like this".
"You're done after this one, aren't you?" Followed by "since you're having a c-section, it would be easy to go ahead and have your tubes tied".
I also have two girls, like a PP, and hear "oh I hope it's a boy! Your husband needs a son".
Well, we found out today we are having a beautiful and HEALTHY baby girl. Our second daughter was born with a genetic disorder and several heart defects. We are just thankful to have a healthy baby.
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And people at work...when I say one little thing about my back hurting or it's getting harder to bend down they say "oh its going to get way worse"...I know!! Ugh! Just shut up and stop acting like you know everything!
With my first pregnancy, DH would not stop saying "you're the one who wanted to get pregnant" every time some new and awful symptom appeared. 6 months in, i was ready to karate chop his throat.
Always from everyone. Unfortunately I'm a nurse and if there is one thing I already know about is sleep deprivation.
If i listened to everybody that tried that crap with me, I'd be eating nothing but powdered unicorn horn.
I had my 7th baby at home in the water and i thoughy peoples heads would explode! She was born safely and it was amazing to see her swim up to me and me take her in my arms. And then be able to go to my own bathroom and bed!!! While it isn't for everyone, if you know absolutely dick about something you should just keep yoir mouth shut. Ugh. And i wanted another homebirth for this baby and i can't find anyone but when i ask around people ask me why i would want to risk my life. Smh. Ignorance.
This will be my 2nd. My first birth was amazing and I can't wait to do it again! There are a lot of misconceptions about home birth, which is really sad to me. Crawling into your own bed with family and all the comforts of home... Yes please! I'm sorry you can't find anyone that will do a home birth, that sucks!
@enigmaanjel
Because I was able to have a very beautiful natural delivery, the comments haven't started up this time around. At least I have experience on my side of they start this time. Lol.
@amyjosh59 I was told the same thing by so many people for my first. We had no problems at all. It's like they want to set you up to fail since it didn't work for them.
Yesterday I had a lady at church ask me if it was planned and I'm like um ya of course and she's like oh ok good...first of all, none of your business, second, I've been married for over 5 years...what kind of question is that? And either way, we would be just as happy and excited whether it was planned or not. My sister said I shoulda told her "No I slept around and it's not DH's baby but he's come to terms with it"
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My DH keeps reminding me that I look like I have a beer belly...thanks...as if I don't already feel fat!
I'm also sick of all of the well meaning advice on what the eat, what to do, what not to do, how their pregnancy was...I am not you and I probably will not have most of what you had so stop trying to tell me about your pregnancy and let me enjoy mine.
Oh and the worst was my mother's very detailed and horrific description of breastfeeding and nipples bleeding and lumps in the breasts and fever...I was like thanks, did not need to know all that now...Formula it is...LOL (not really but it's an option after the conversation)
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There's a reason I want to plan a natural birth and it's not because I think I'm drugging my baby or want to experience the feeling on my vagina ripping, but I have a heart condition where if my vitals aren't 100% within normal ranges when I go into labor I will be denied an epi and I'd much rather mentally prepare for natural labor and delivery than plan the epi and be told no in the middle of labor and be a hot mess about it.
My mom told me about a conversation she had with a woman at her church, telling her I was pregnant. The woman said she thought so, since I had a little bump when I was home last (in early April, when I was about 4 weeks along). I told my mom there was no way I looked pregnant, that was my fat she saw (in the loose flowing sundress I wore).
At least finally when the women at her church ask me when I'm due, or how far along I am, or if I'm pregnant, I can finally answer them with something other than nope, just fat, thanks for asking :-w
To all the ladies upset about reactions to wanting a natural child birth. I remember getting the same exact responses when I told people that with my pregnancy with my son. I was adamant that I could do it and felt like telling people to shut up every time. HOWEVER, it was a completely different ball game when in labor and I did end up having an epi and it was wonderful. I only say this because I'm sure people mean well and are trying to "warn" you but I do remember how annoying that was. My best advice about birth plans are to have something in mind but definitely keep an open mind about doing something else if you have to. Don't beat yourself up if you can't make a natural child birth happen. I just wanted to say that. I support everyone's wish/desire. All decisions about pregnancy are personal and people should really respect that.
I'm so sick of hearing my mom tell me to not work out (I'm a personal trainer and gym rat so my body is used to it) and anytime I "complain" of a symptom, she blames it on me working out. She feels I should lay down as soon as I get home from work and let everyone wait on me hand and foot. I just don't work that way. She is always saying "aren't you taking this healthy thing too far?" WHAT?!? Isn't that what I should be doing for the baby?!?! Drives me crazy every time.
Me:34 DH:41 1 son: 6 2 step sons: 18, 12
BFP: 4/24/08 - Missed Miscarriage found 5/29/08
BFP: 11/21/08 - DS born 7/13/09
BFP:5/8/14 - Chemical pregnancy
BFP: 4/11/15....stick baby stick!!!
"You know what causes that, right?" My response to that is now "yes, we do. That's why we keep ending up like this".
"You're done after this one, aren't you?" Followed by "since you're having a c-section, it would be easy to go ahead and have your tubes tied".
I also have two girls, like a PP, and hear "oh I hope it's a boy! Your husband needs a son".
Well, we found out today we are having a beautiful and HEALTHY baby girl. Our second daughter was born with a genetic disorder and several heart defects. We are just thankful to have a healthy baby.