I had my 7th baby at home in the water and i thoughy peoples heads would explode! She was born safely and it was amazing to see her swim up to me and me take her in my arms. And then be able to go to my own bathroom and bed!!! While it isn't for everyone, if you know absolutely dick about something you should just keep yoir mouth shut. Ugh. And i wanted another homebirth for this baby and i can't find anyone but when i ask around people ask me why i would want to risk my life. Smh. Ignorance.
This will be my 2nd. My first birth was amazing and I can't wait to do it again! There are a lot of misconceptions about home birth, which is really sad to me. Crawling into your own bed with family and all the comforts of home... Yes please! I'm sorry you can't find anyone that will do a home birth, that sucks! @enigmaanjel
It does And my 8th was a home birth transfer for my labor stalling for a couple of hours. I was livid! We gt to the hospital... I went from 6-9.5 cms in a lite over an hour and the dr came in and said he wasnt comfy doi g a vag birth on a home birth transfer...forced me into a horrible c section where he was so rough. I had infection after and fluid on my brain from the spinal....and then on my record put failure to progress!!! I will tell you that midwife felt so guilty and horroble for even suggesting we transfer. And now i found an ob that will give me a chance at a natural birth in a birthing suite, but she has soooo many rules i just feel she has set me up for failure. i am beyond bummed.
"So how ya feelin'? Been getting sick like all the time?" Well I guess I've had some morning sickness, but hey my first ultrasound is coming up lets talk about that!
Everytime I mention not feeling well or not sleeping or any other comment my coteacher at work just says "well you're pregnant" or "it's just bc your pregnant" why is that an excuse and how is that supposed to make me feel? Yes I am pregnant but that doesn't mean I don't feel like crap some days. If she doesn't want to hear it then maybe she shouldn't ask me.
I'm just tired of pretending to care when people give advice or voice concerns. I really want to say when did you go back to school to become an Obgyn? My favorite polite, but assertive reply is, "well, my doctor said its okay." Obviously I'm not going to put our baby in jeopardy, but I'm not gonna sit around helpless either.
Our due date is 12/24 and I am already so sick of hearing "that poor child having a birthday around christmas". Listen douchecaboose - we tried getting pregnant for close to three years. Sorry that I'm happy to be having a baby at all!!
With my first, I got so sick of hearing "sleep when theu sleep"... I never did but now a year later I'm sleeping when they sleep bc I know with 2u2 sleep will be hard to come by for a while
With my first, I got so sick of hearing "sleep when theu sleep"... I never did but now a year later I'm sleeping when they sleep bc I know with 2u2 sleep will be hard to come by for a while
Yes! That is the worst!
Ok, yeah, I'll sleep when the baby sleeps and never:
-take a shower -eat -use the bathroom -wash dishes -do laundry
I had a lovely conversation (read:sarcasm) about perineal stretching to prevent tearing and was gifted a bottle of coconut oil. It was especially awkward & I'm not sure how to now avoid the person forever. )
I guess we all have different tolerances for weird! I will be using coconut and Helichrysum essential oils for peri massage. DH can help or I can massage solo. My doc also does peri massage and no episiotomy. I'm all for it if helps to prevent or limit tearing.
This post wasn't so much about the topic of the conversation (which I would happily discuss with a doctor/midwife etc) it was more the awkwardness of the actual conversation with someone who I don't know all that well. I'm sticking with the rule of thumb: if I didn't discuss my vagina with you before I got pregnant..chances are I don't want to now!
With my first, I got so sick of hearing "sleep when theu sleep"... I never did but now a year later I'm sleeping when they sleep bc I know with 2u2 sleep will be hard to come by for a while
Yes! That is the worst!
Ok, yeah, I'll sleep when the baby sleeps and never:
-take a shower -eat -use the bathroom -wash dishes -do laundry
Etc.
Aside from going to the bathroom, I sacrificed ALL those things for like eight or ten weeks if I could nap!
With my first, I got so sick of hearing "sleep when theu sleep"... I never did but now a year later I'm sleeping when they sleep bc I know with 2u2 sleep will be hard to come by for a while
Yes! That is the worst!
Ok, yeah, I'll sleep when the baby sleeps and never:
-take a shower
-eat
-use the bathroom
-wash dishes
-do laundry
Etc.
Aside from going to the bathroom, I sacrificed ALL those things for like eight or ten weeks if I could nap!
I couldn't sleep when my baby slept for a long time because she would only nap if I was holding her.
My mom is freaked out that I'm having a home birth. So she keeps telling me stories of home births gone wrong. Haha. I'm like, I know mom, that's why there is a plan B and there are hospital induced complications as well!
And in my first trimester right after I would tell people I was pregnant around 10 weeks, some would ask if I had morning sickness. I told them I felt queasy for a week, but got acupuncture and it went away. Well, they kept telling me just to wait for it and there is still time for the sickness to come on. I'm deathly afraid of throwing up and was finally starting to feel less anxiety about getting morning sickness. But their comments made the anxiety come back a bit because I thought I could get hit with it at any moment. Well, I'm almost 15 weeks and haven't even been close to throwing up the whole time.
Other than that, I welcome all bad advice and the annoying things people say to you when your pregnant. Because that's just what comes with pregnancy and I will gladly endure it if it means I am having my precious baby we have wanted for so long! After a couple miscarriages, it helped me look at the pregnancy annoyances through a different lense.
Funny that this comment is coming after the last comment made, but I hatteeeeeeee it when people tell me that they never experienced morning sickness. Makes me feel like there's something wrong with me for being so sick. On the other hand, I love hearing about women who had worse morning sickness than I do. Makes me appreciate my queasiness!
Nothing specific but I am sick of hearing stuff from MEN! Men who have never even had children or been around pregnancy before in particular, like my boyfriend and his step grandfather who lives in the apartment above us. Its like they all think they're experts and my pregnancy is abnormal because they don't actually know anything! I've had very mild morning sickness like not every day and only once a day when I do have it but to those idiots that's extreme morning sickness. I want to send them all to a pregnancy class.
Going off of the hair coloring.. I'm in need of a color, and everyone is on my case about it.. Even after I told them I checked with the doctor and she gave me the green light. STILL they insist I wait until the baby is born.. I told th wether they like it or not, it's going to happen.. I'm not going to look grungy my whole pregnancy!!!!
Co-workers keep telling me I'm starting to show. Yes, yes I am aware. I am pregnant with twins, that is what happens. Can they just please get used to it! Then they say I'm on my way to being the Duggars. Uuuuugghh, having three kids is Not 19 - thank you and stop talking now.
Omg i have been compared to the duggars. First off...i can't stand thosr people. So it's very insulting Secondly, my older kids don't raise my younger ones. I do. The only time my kids pair up is when we go in public. They hold hands. Otherwise...i cook, i clean, i brush their teeth and bathe them. No one else does. Yes, i am having baby 9. Yes, i can handle it. Most people couldn't. Big families are not for everyone. Hell i know a girl with two kids who can't handle them. I am sick of people asking if i am trying to get my own show. I would never exploit my children. Ever. Talking to me that way is a sure fire way of getting my foot in your ass. I have no problem telling people to shut up. Don't care who they are. I quit coddling other's feelings when people stopped thinking before they spoke. I Was actually told yesterday that tlc canceled the duggars and i should call tlc and tell them i need my own show. People....
I hate when people PUSH AND JUDGE others about breast feeding. It's not for everyone, and that's ok. I hate when women put other moms to be down for not breast feeding.
I have one friend ( my best friend, who teaches next door to me)that's been pregnant and if I experience a symptom she didn't I'm exaggerating or wrong. Like if I have a couple hour episode of intermittent barfing "no-when I threw up it was once in a day-you must have the flu". Cool thanks. Love her to death but ughhhh
I have one friend ( my best friend, who teaches next door to me)that's been pregnant and if I experience a symptom she didn't I'm exaggerating or wrong. Like if I have a couple hour episode of intermittent barfing "no-when I threw up it was once in a day-you must have the flu". Cool thanks. Love her to death but ughhhh
Ugh my mom is like this. She had four perfect symptomless pregnancies so every time I complain about something she just looks at me like I grew a second head and tells me to stop exaggerating and how it's not that bad and I'm just lazy because apparently feeling like I'll puke my guts out if I so much as breathe isn't a legitimate excuse to lay around all day.
I have one friend ( my best friend, who teaches next door to me)that's been pregnant and if I experience a symptom she didn't I'm exaggerating or wrong. Like if I have a couple hour episode of intermittent barfing "no-when I threw up it was once in a day-you must have the flu". Cool thanks. Love her to death but ughhhh
Ugh my mom is like this. She had four perfect symptomless pregnancies so every time I complain about something she just looks at me like I grew a second head and tells me to stop exaggerating and how it's not that bad and I'm just lazy because apparently feeling like I'll puke my guts out if I so much as breathe isn't a legitimate excuse to lay around all day.
That would get on my nerves. I hate when people cannot comprehend things outside of their own experience. You know, if it didn't happen to them, it's not possible.
My MIL is a really tiny woman, probably 90 lbs soaking wet. I'm pretty small myself but have to consciously watch what I eat to stay that way. Well she keeps insisting I won't show until 25 weeks at least because that's when she started showing and I'm 12 weeks and already have a little bloat/bump and know I won't last nearly that long. I know she's going to think I'm fat and crazy if I show before then since she thinks that's the norm! Ugh and to be honest I really want a bump before then anyways! She's a nice lady but way overestimates my ability to stay small haha
I get more annoyed by WHO is giving advice. "Oh, yes, unmarried MALE with no children. Tell me more about what I should and should not be doing while pregnant. You know...based on all your experience with pregnancy."
I get more annoyed by WHO is giving advice. "Oh, yes, unmarried MALE with no children. Tell me more about what I should and should not be doing while pregnant. You know...based on all your experience with pregnancy."
We have six month old twins and the thing I've heard the most this time around is "Do you know what prevents pregnancy?" Yup, obviously I'm well aware. If we are happy I'm not really sure why anyone else thinks they have a reason not to be. And definitely heard enough of "You will never sleep again" and "How do you plan on caring for three children?" The same way we care for the two we have. Geez.
Here's something else I'm tired of hearing: GUESS IF I AM HAVING A BOY OR GIRL?!? Sorry, I'm yelling. Why can't we be patient?!? Yes, I'm anxious and excited but I can wait. I'm gonna lose my cool. Lol.
My husband's family is horrible! I have spina bifida and all of a sudden they're expects on that condition. I'm sure they just looked on Wikipedia! I had his grandma tell me I needed to move back to Idaho and have the baby there instead of Texas where I live because she thinks I am for sure gonna be on bed rest and my husband won't be able to take care of me apparently. There is no one else I would rather be with! It's his baby too and it's not like I want his psycho grandma taking care of me.
Someone literally said to me the other day, "well you have to take care of them." No shit. Excuse my language but good Lord help me not to slap someone. I also second (or third or fourth) the annoying comments I get when I say I'm tired.
My due date is Dec 24. I'm tired of that 'oh well that's a problem' look when I tell people. Well I can't pick the due date geez! Are you sure there's just one in there? Yep, I've seen the ultrasound. You're eating for two now. No, I'm really not. And someone actually asked me of it was planned... well none of your business but yes. I've been married for four years so is that ok? People are crazy!
"What happens if you're in the hospital on Christmas Day?" If baby decides it's time then DH and I will be noticably absent from our usual holiday activities... I mean, what other answer is acceptable?
People are getting rude because i want to have a natural birth! I refuse to take any drugs im getting the same comments as @mrsmosely7 it's ridiculous women have done that since the beginning of time i will be fine!
A friend of mine who is also pregnant had someone tell her about their delivery horror story. Really? Why on earth would you tell a first time mom something that frightening? As if we're not nervous enough already.
Every single time I see my father in law he asks me, "you taking care of yourself, right?" Does he think I'm going to say "no, not really, is that important?"
Re: What are you sick of hearing or worst advice?
@enigmaanjel
It does
And my 8th was a home birth transfer for my labor stalling for a couple of hours. I was livid! We gt to the hospital... I went from 6-9.5 cms in a lite over an hour and the dr came in and said he wasnt comfy doi g a vag birth on a home birth transfer...forced me into a horrible c section where he was so rough. I had infection after and fluid on my brain from the spinal....and then on my record put failure to progress!!! I will tell you that midwife felt so guilty and horroble for even suggesting we transfer. And now i found an ob that will give me a chance at a natural birth in a birthing suite, but she has soooo many rules i just feel she has set me up for failure.
Well I guess I've had some morning sickness, but hey my first ultrasound is coming up lets talk about that!
Ok, yeah, I'll sleep when the baby sleeps and never:
-take a shower
-eat
-use the bathroom
-wash dishes
-do laundry
Etc.
Jamie
Jamie
And in my first trimester right after I would tell people I was pregnant around 10 weeks, some would ask if I had morning sickness. I told them I felt queasy for a week, but got acupuncture and it went away. Well, they kept telling me just to wait for it and there is still time for the sickness to come on. I'm deathly afraid of throwing up and was finally starting to feel less anxiety about getting morning sickness. But their comments made the anxiety come back a bit because I thought I could get hit with it at any moment. Well, I'm almost 15 weeks and haven't even been close to throwing up the whole time.
Other than that, I welcome all bad advice and the annoying things people say to you when your pregnant. Because that's just what comes with pregnancy and I will gladly endure it if it means I am having my precious baby we have wanted for so long! After a couple miscarriages, it helped me look at the pregnancy annoyances through a different lense.
On the other hand, I love hearing about women who had worse morning sickness than I do. Makes me appreciate my queasiness!
Secondly, my older kids don't raise my younger ones. I do. The only time my kids pair up is when we go in public. They hold hands. Otherwise...i cook, i clean, i brush their teeth and bathe them. No one else does. Yes, i am having baby 9. Yes, i can handle it. Most people couldn't. Big families are not for everyone. Hell i know a girl with two kids who can't handle them. I am sick of people asking if i am trying to get my own show. I would never exploit my children. Ever. Talking to me that way is a sure fire way of getting my foot in your ass. I have no problem telling people to shut up. Don't care who they are. I quit coddling other's feelings when people stopped thinking before they spoke. I Was actually told yesterday that tlc canceled the duggars and i should call tlc and tell them i need my own show. People....
Cool thanks.
Love her to death but ughhhh
Jamie
No shit.
Excuse my language but good Lord help me not to slap someone. I also second (or third or fourth) the annoying comments I get when I say I'm tired.
Are you sure there's just one in there? Yep, I've seen the ultrasound.
You're eating for two now. No, I'm really not.
And someone actually asked me of it was planned... well none of your business but yes. I've been married for four years so is that ok?
People are crazy!
Friend: "OMG, YOU'RE NEVER GOING TO GAIN ANY WEIGHT, NOT EVEN NOW THAT YOU'RE PREGNANT!"
^Please stop yelling at me in the gym. I've gained 3 lbs, btw. Obviously not enough for her.
DH: "Quit touching your belly so much. You wouldn't like someone poking and prodding at you."
^When you have a baby in your belly, you may do whatever you'd like. I will annoy this child as much as I want.
Mother: "You know, your body is going through a lot of changes right now."
^Gee, Ma, thanks for your words of wisdom.