What are you sick of hearing or worst advice?

adecembermom2015

Once you become pregnant everyone has a plethora of advice or things to tell you. What's the worst thing someone has said or what are you sick of hearing?

The moment a fellow teacher found out I was pregnant she started giving me nipple advice! She told me to make sure I let them drip dry and leave them moist after baby comes. *cringe* Thanks for the nipple chat, I don't know you like that.

ammnam14

I'm sick of my mom telling me to have lots and lots of sex. Like why mom?! Why are you telling me this! Bless her heart. Haha

adecembermom2015

@AudriannaMaria omg, that's a new one!!! lol. Sex is probably the last thing I want right now. Ice cream is the first thing I want right now...

VesperLove

I really hate when someone asks how I'm feeling and when I say "tired" or "exhausted" they reply with, "oh, just wait until the baby arrives!"

Thank you, I'm aware of that. Go away.

adecembermom2015

@kyleneum13 yes!!!! I've started replying that I feel like a beached whale and keep the tired to myself. Lol.

Also hate people telling me not to get fat. Thanks?! I'll try?! But I really want to eat that ice cream.

hummingbird35

I'm pretty sick of my boyfriend telling me I need to exercise more/ taking food away from me that he perceives to be unhealthy. And telling me that vegetarianism is depriving his baby (that, at least, was jokingly). Never should've bought him that d*** baby book. 

adecembermom2015

@VegDumpling DH made one comment about exercise and I about lost it. He's kept his little comments to himself since then. Lol.

He hasn't given my a hard time about being vegetarian, but he definitely wanted to tattle on me to doc about it. Doc had no concerns.

Shanna729

MIL keeps demanding "why aren't you showing yet?".

Because asshat, I'm only 11 weeks. Go away.

Ken122014

kyleneum13 said:

I really hate when someone asks how I'm feeling and when I say "tired" or "exhausted" they reply with, "oh, just wait until the baby arrives!"

Thank you, I'm aware of that. Go away.

To piggy back, instead of just wait until baby arrives, they say, "oh well that's all part of being pregnant! You should be excited!" I AM excited but I'm also exhausted and sick- just because I'm not jumping up and down with joy doesn't mean I'm not excited!

hummingbird35

@magburt the only thing my doc said is that I might consider a B12 vitamin in addition to my prenatal. Done. At least we aren't missing hot dogs and rare steaks!

adecembermom2015

Shanna729 said:

MIL keeps demanding "why aren't you showing yet?".

Because asshat, I'm only 11 weeks. Go away.

I had coworkers trying to tell me I WAS showing at like 8 weeks. Nah, just fat, but thanks for pointing that out. Lol.

ammnam14

@VegDumpling Amen to the baby book! The Army provides us a "Pregnancy Book" and has one page for dads..just one! It basically says don't worry about hurting the baby while having sexual relations and make sure your wife is comfy. So, he read his one page and now acts like he knows everything. It's quite comical lol.

adecembermom2015

VegDumpling said:

@magburt the only thing my doc said is that I might consider a B12 vitamin in addition to my prenatal. Done. At least we aren't missing hot dogs and rare steaks!

I just couldn't get into the hype of all the hot dog threads. Lol. Not my thing. I do enjoy a grilled veggie burger but not obsessed with them.

lstheo

I posted on fb recently about how I'd love to do a crazy hair color, like purple or magenta... I never said that I was going to do it or when just that I'd love to try it sometime. The amount of comments about "check with you ob!!!" And "is that safe" or "don't do it until after the pregnancy" were ridiculous.

Thanks everyone... I've checked and asked already just in case I want to color my hair. And some of the comments were so judging... Ugh. I'm tired of people (close family and friends) telling me or reminding me to check with my ob and do research before I do anything. *sarcastic*...b/c I'm not aware that I'm pregnant so I obviously haven't done any of the asking or research already.

hummingbird35

@AudriannaMaria why don't they sell one that just says, 'Do everything that your pregnant SO says.' We should all write one together. 

adecembermom2015

@Lflo17 color your hair purple and tell them to suck it. Lol.

adecembermom2015

Oops, double posted

ammnam14

That's the best idea I've ever read!

MrsBwIVF

None of this sounds appealing at all!
For us, only immediate family and super close friends know because of our all our struggles, hoping to announce officially soon.
But the people that do know, are too scared to jinx it to give us any advice. After reading some of these, maybe we won't announce and I'll just let people think I'm fat until I pump out 2 babies!

adecembermom2015

The dos and don'ts for future dads. Chapter one: buy your wife all her cravings.

mepps

Uuuuugh, agreeing with the ladies above.
Getting so tired of hearing "well enjoy sleep while you still can lol" or any comment about how I'll never sleep again after the baby arrives.
Yes I'm aware

Shut uppppppp

adecembermom2015

@MrsBwIVF best of luck for your pregnancy! Twins?! How exciting! Be ready for double the advice.

MrsBwIVF

@magburt, I didn't even think of if that way yet, but you're probably right! Especially if I have one of each. Yikes. Maybe we will not tell anyone anything ever and just move to Alaska! We saw his l grandparents yesterday who know we are expecting and clearly know we've already had problems (what they know and how, no clue) but I think between the 2 of them, they told me to make sure I'm resting about 7 times in an hour. Then when we left, they kept reiterating I should be doing nothing and he should be doing everything because my only job is having a baby. Oh yes, only my mother knows it's twins until we're positive both are safe.

lstheo

magburt said:

@Lflo17 color your hair purple and tell them to suck it. Lol.

I think I might lol. I'm in a wedding August 1st and it's one of my best friends. She really want me to do it.

cristinapage72

Someone told me my face was getting round....I was so pissed, I said "so is yours" when she walked away.

mrsmosley7

Just wait until you have more than one, and people startskkng comments like, "You do know how to prevent it, right?"

Or...."Wow...you HAVE to be further along than you say. You're absolutely huge." Or "Don't plan on ever sleeping after the baby is born."

I just finished nursing my son, because the pregnancy hormones have drastically effected my milk supply, so this is the resulting conversation I had with my grandmother....

Me: "Yeah, I haven't pumped in almost 36 hours. Feels good to be free for awhile."

Grandma: "Well, Your boobs are still really big. Since your not making milk, I thought they would go down?"

Me: Well, it's only been 2 days. Technically, I'm sure there's still some milk in them...plus I'm pregnant. So, that always makes them bigger."

Grandma: "I don't know. They should of gone down. I hope you aren't stuck with them."

Really. I can't make this stuff up.


I'm sure I could think of more. But those are my favorites.

adecembermom2015

@mrsmosley7 oh grandma. Stop talking about boobs. Lol. My sis told me mine would turn to pancakes after breastfeeding. Neato! Can't wait!

asc88

My hubby's Grandma- "You should really eat more diet foods and diet drinks. You know they say fruits and veggies are good when you're pregnant. Maybe just try that along with some jogging?" I told her I would start jogging when she started jogging and left the room. Imagine her surprise when I told her I had only gained one pound so far. She said "REALLY? , well are they sure about your due date?!"
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Jazmine928

I'm tired of hearing "you're eating for three (twins) but they are so small you don't need to eat that much." Ummm actually no! Moms of twins who gain weight early on are more likely to carry full term and that's my goal! Having trouble gaining weight but I'm trying!!

rain0831boww

I haven't told anyone yet but during my last pregnancy, my grandmother would constantly act as if I was disabled. "Don't go up stairs!" "You shouldn't wear that because it'll hurt the baby!" I even lied about not being able to visit her as much because it got extremely annoying.

carsonsmommy0913

I spent a week on the beach with my mom and MIL and every time I wore my swimsuit or a tighter fitting shirt I heard "oh look, your belly has really popped out today!" I finally looked at my mom and said "it's not my belly. I am bloated. And once I go poop it will go down." And she STILL didn't get the hint. Needless to say I was ready to punch them both by Wednesday.

I think I'm just gonna stay home until the baby is born. That's okay, right?

czirbs

Reading these have made my day!

One - I am so sick of people (read: my MIL) asking how much longer they have to wait to tell people, that I'm tempted to just say they can tell people I'm pregnant after the baby is born.

Two - my mom texted me the other day to ask if I am taking good care of myself and the baby. I wanted to say: "Nope! I'm drinking, doing drugs, and riding all the roller coasters." Seriously, how stupid is that question?

Also semi-related to the topic, has anyone else had their belly touched already? I'm not even showing really and BOTH my parents did that to me yesterday.

ammnam14

I can be on this thread all day!

We're planning a fishing trip and for anyone that likes to fish knows how much prep goes into it! Last time we went we had two gallons of water, a cooler, chairs, 4 (why four? Idk!) Poles, two backpacks full of crap, another backpack full of snacks, and then one more bag full of bait. The point of this is that I refused to carry that much stuff again and hubby made it very clear that I'm pregnant and not disabled. Why can't you just baby me hubby and carry my poles? Lol.

To the PP about people touching your belly, YES. All the time! But I don't mind it much.

kategancla

I'm sick of being told that I need to take it easy like I'm suddenly made of glass. I can carry my back pack and mow the lawn as well as I could before I was pregnant!

I'm also tired of people telling me that this is such an exciting time. I'm a human incubator waiting for 9 months for something to happen. I wonder if those people enjoy watching paint dry.

kmdruck

Telling people you are using a midwife/having a natural birth will get you the BEST ADVICE EVER!!! "There is no way I could have done it, trust me, all you will want are the drugs" or "What if (insert every scenario that ever involved a complication with a birth here)? Then what???" I like to reply with a "If you think that I made this decision without a good amount of research backing it, you are wrong." Some people research more about what they buy on Amazon then they do about their prenatal care and delivery.

MorganW24

Katiemichdruck said:

Telling people you are using a midwife/having a natural birth will get you the BEST ADVICE EVER!!! "There is no way I could have done it, trust me, all you will want are the drugs" or "What if (insert every scenario that ever involved a complication with a birth here)? Then what???" I like to reply with a "If you think that I made this decision without a good amount of research backing it, you are wrong." Some people research more about what they buy on Amazon then they do about their prenatal care and delivery.

Haha! This 100%! Try also adding in that you are planning a home water birth... The shock and horror on people's faces is my favorite part. Then comes the unsolicited advice.

amw2133

MorganW24 said:

Katiemichdruck said:

Telling people you are using a midwife/having a natural birth will get you the BEST ADVICE EVER!!! "There is no way I could have done it, trust me, all you will want are the drugs" or "What if (insert every scenario that ever involved a complication with a birth here)? Then what???" I like to reply with a "If you think that I made this decision without a good amount of research backing it, you are wrong." Some people research more about what they buy on Amazon then they do about their prenatal care and delivery.

Haha! This 100%! Try also adding in that you are planning a home water birth... The shock and horror on people's faces is my favorite part. Then comes the unsolicited advice.

I try to just not tell people that I want a natural birth. I have had a few people tell me I'm crazy. But on the flip side a few people have now decided that I'm a hippie and one told me what a "wonderful experience it is when you feel your child's aura exit you body". No joke! I seriously did not know what to say so I stuck with "um...cool". Haha

jessejasonbaby

People still say the same to me not realizing that this is not my first rodeo. I have giveb birth before completely naturally. It really was not that bad.

enigmaanjel

"Don't you know what causes that?" I swear i wanna shove my fist down people's throats when they say this stupod shit. Grrrrr.

adecembermom2015

It's also super inappropriate for people to ask if it was planned or to ask if you are excited. Pet peeve.

hummingbird35

I get the opposite. Every mom in my prenatal yoga class plans on giving birth naturally. Response to my plan of getting an epidural: "But it could effect the baby! How will you even feel to push?" etc. There's judgment on both sides, it appears.

Sidenote: have you guys seen that show about women who want to give birth outside? They have their husbands build tents and they do it in a field in the middle of winter (at least that's what happened on the two episodes I watched. That seems a little nuts to me but one of the moms had done it like 5/6 times before or something.

Edit: just b/c I plan on having an epidural doesn't mean I didn't do the research. Seems kind of insulting to suggest that a mom who plans on getting medicine did about as much research as for buying something off Amazon. Everyone's body is different. Some women can give birth with a few pushes.