Wait here: @BostonBaby1 and her lame ass pack of hounds. I'm sorry I have supported you all and answers questions and tries to repons with comic humor. Just because I curse I get reported. Fuck you all you catty old bitches lol
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women insane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to you the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings, I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
It's not your fault. I'm sad it's shut down but unfortunately some people just always need to make drama where there is none and that is not your fault. Maybe we should move else where?
I think the wrong post got shut down. It is not your fault. Obviously some people just want to start things. I hope you stay but I understand if you don't.
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women insane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to you the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings, I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
It's not your fault. I'm sad it's shut down but unfortunately some people just always need to make drama where there is none and that is not your fault. Maybe we should move else where?
Thank you for your understanding. Is that even possible? Can we move elsewhere? Again, I am so sorry about the other thread!
I think the wrong post got shut down. It is not your fault. Obviously some people just want to start things. I hope you stay but I understand if you don't.
Very true. It is apparent that this is the case, however I do think that whether I stay or leave should be up to you ladies that have been personally affected by the situation.
Thank you for your support and I am truly sorry about the other thread!
To all-
@Embuzz247@nik6499@Karawe@313Meg@Marchmellow2@redfallon@CMDD@amw2133@colsen4 and to all of the other ladies that have been active members of the search function thread....
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
What the actual F?! I hang with my family for the night and geez... Boston, don't let anyone get you worked up. Not worth it. And I don't think you ever said anything out of TOU so banning you would be unfair.
I think there is a huge difference in someone pointing out that they disagree with certain things/topics VS calling someone out. There is a fair amount of sarcasm and I love it. But I have never seen it directed at anyone in a mean way.
Hey Kimb311! How are you doing lady? (can't tag on my computer for some reason... ugh)
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
What the actual F?! I hang with my family for the night and geez... Boston, don't let anyone get you worked up. Not worth it. And I don't think you ever said anything out of TOU so banning you would be unfair.
I think there is a huge difference in someone pointing out that they disagree with certain things/topics VS calling someone out. There is a fair amount of sarcasm and I love it. But I have never seen it directed at anyone in a mean way.
Hey Kimb311! How are you doing lady? (can't tag on my computer for some reason... ugh)
Thank you sweetheart! I was upset because the post got shut down prior to my realizing that I was being goaded & also being trolled. By The time that it escalated to the now banned user attacking us blatantly as opposed to via private message and sarcasm, I was actually feeling a little bit better because I thought that you ladies would be able to see what it was that I was dealing with (at least partially.)
I just feel awful that everybody lost their happy outlet on this place. I am so sorry and definitely want to also add the apology to @kimb311 ... BTW, Meg can't call you out because she's on her computer.
To all-
@Embuzz247@nik6499@Karawe@313Meg@Marchmellow2@redfallon@CMDD and to all of the other ladies that have been active members of the search function thread....
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women insane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to you the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings, I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
It's not your fault. I'm sad it's shut down but unfortunately some people just always need to make drama where there is none and that is not your fault. Maybe we should move else where?
Thank you for your understanding. Is that even possible? Can we move elsewhere? Again, I am so sorry about the other thread!
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
I say shut the thread down. New threads can be started but you can't be replaced you are enjoyed way too much here to go anywhere. You don't need to apologize for anything especially not for someone who was baiting you into a nasty disagreement. You always handle yourself very well!! Obviously the numb agrees bc she got the ban hammer!!
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
I say shut the thread down. New threads can be started but you can't be replaced you are enjoyed way too much here to go anywhere. You don't need to apologize for anything especially not for someone who was baiting you into a nasty disagreement. You always handle yourself very well!! Obviously the numb agrees bc she got the ban hammer!!
Thank you so much for your kind words sweetheart! Of course I wanted to tag all of you ladies last night, but I was so upset and just wanted to write the post and then woke up DH and was crying hysterically for most of the night. Like I said to the now banned user., I was not crying about what she said to me, but rather that everybody would suffer because I foolishly responded prior to realizing what she was doing. I had asked him another thread what the definition of trolling was. I now understand it.
It was shut down. Everyone take the hint. For us to continue to discuss it anywhere is counterproductive. I also don't know why anyone, ANY OF US, would willfully get worked up over something so trivial in our lives. Willfully get worked up when many of us are currently dealing with very real issues and real grief.
We have past the point where we are respectfully disagreeing. Let's not be so blind we don't see that.
"This" started because of what? Really, it doesn't matter because despite very well meanin efforts from all sides of the drama the issues still continue. So just decide to leave well enough alone. This is not a social justice issue, Bump ladies. We can let this die.
But life isn't fair so this is likely going to not happen. It's funny how all I did was go to sleep and come back to crazy town.
@BostonBaby1 all we need is a thread for our gifs and we are all ok. You have never been nor will you ever be catty. Let's move on, and just sit at a new table
We can start a new group as well isn't that an option?
It was shut down. Everyone take the hint. For us to continue to discuss it anywhere is counterproductive. I also don't know why anyone, ANY OF US, would willfully get worked up over something so trivial in our lives. Willfully get worked up when many of us are currently dealing with very real issues and real grief.
We have past the point where we are respectfully disagreeing. Let's not be so blind we don't see that.
"This" started because of what? Really, it doesn't matter because despite very well meanin efforts from all sides of the drama the issues still continue. So just decide to leave well enough alone. This is not a social justice issue, Bump ladies. We can let this die.
But life isn't fair so this is likely going to not happen.
It's funny how all I did was go to sleep and come back to crazy town.
There's always going to be some "drama" counterproductive or not. It's the bump. People live for it.
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
@BostonBaby1 you do not need to be banned!!!! We will get over the thread being shut down. It's really ok. I am very surprised that there seems to be such a divide. I really don't see any resolution and I would love to still communicate with my girls, while letting the group that hates us communicate however they see fit. Obviously we aren't going to get along here, it's just not working.
@BostonBaby1 don't beat yourself up over it! Most of us here love you and definitely don't want you gone! Pay no mind to the others! A thread is replaceable, you're not
All of these threads are disparaging to me as someone who is relatively new to TB. This cannot be fun for anyone. I'm on the board because I need someone to talk to who is not my family/ boyfriend. I completely understand differences in opinions. I think the other thread might have been closed because it seemed like some of the girls in the tight knit circle/ clique (for lack of a better word-- some women who have been here longer and more consistently than others) were using it to make fun of FTMs with questions. Shaming other women is not the purpose of this board, and something you think is ridiculous/stupid/laughable can hurt someone else if they read it. Making cruel jokes at someone else's expense to fit in is as old as time, and just plain tired.
Edit: I do not want anyone to leave or think I am attacking them. Like someone else's post (I can't find it now, was it on the search function post?) I just think a little empathy would go a long way.
It was shut down. Everyone take the hint. For us to continue to discuss it anywhere is counterproductive. I also don't know why anyone, ANY OF US, would willfully get worked up over something so trivial in our lives. Willfully get worked up when many of us are currently dealing with very real issues and real grief.
We have past the point where we are respectfully disagreeing. Let's not be so blind we don't see that.
"This" started because of what? Really, it doesn't matter because despite very well meanin efforts from all sides of the drama the issues still continue. So just decide to leave well enough alone. This is not a social justice issue, Bump ladies. We can let this die.
But life isn't fair so this is likely going to not happen. It's funny how all I did was go to sleep and come back to crazy town.
There's always going to be some "drama" counterproductive or not. It's the bump. People live for it.
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
Exactly. I think that it's only fair to allow people to know what happened, or at least to understand the general idea of what went down.
All of these threads are disparaging to me as someone who is relatively new to TB. This cannot be fun for anyone. I'm on the board because I need someone to talk to who is not my family/ boyfriend. I completely understand differences in opinions. I think the other thread might have been closed because it seemed like some of the girls in the tight knit circle/ clique (for lack of a better word-- some women who have been here longer and more consistently than others) were using it to make fun of FTMs with questions. Shaming other women is not the purpose of this board, and something you think is ridiculous/stupid/laughable can hurt someone else if they read it. Making cruel jokes at someone else's expense to fit in is as old as time, and just plain tired.
Edit: I do not want anyone to leave or think I am attacking them. Like someone else's post (I can't find it now, was it on the search function post?) I just think a little empathy would go a long way.
I actually was going to be a FTM myself. I don't think that the board got shut down because people are making disparaging comments about themselves. Most of the women that were active on the board are going to be FTMs, not all, but a lot. I definitely don't think that the intention of anybody was to have people feel that they were being made to be the brunt of a joke. I'm not going to go through what the point of the thread was because not only did the bump administration make clear that the thread was not to be taken elsewhere, but it is still up there to be read from the beginning.
That being said, I do feel very bad that you feel that this is a disparaging board for you. Hopefully that will change.
It was shut down. Everyone take the hint. For us to continue to discuss it anywhere is counterproductive. I also don't know why anyone, ANY OF US, would willfully get worked up over something so trivial in our lives. Willfully get worked up when many of us are currently dealing with very real issues and real grief.
We have past the point where we are respectfully disagreeing. Let's not be so blind we don't see that.
"This" started because of what? Really, it doesn't matter because despite very well meanin efforts from all sides of the drama the issues still continue. So just decide to leave well enough alone. This is not a social justice issue, Bump ladies. We can let this die.
But life isn't fair so this is likely going to not happen. It's funny how all I did was go to sleep and come back to crazy town.
There's always going to be some "drama" counterproductive or not. It's the bump. People live for it.
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
(Edited, because on my phone it's hard to tell where my comment starts and the quoting stops) my comment starts here:
People live for the Bump, or people live for the drama? I'm not sure which you mean.
If this is the best community someone has in their lives for their pregnancy or a loss, live for it. No one in their right mind would call that bad.
To live for drama, though? That is always fruitless. I feel that's where it's all headed.
My comments are always a broader commentary on the trend of a thread or "side." Collectively, the thread in question started to take a negative turn. I'm not here to point fingers or call anyone out. I'm just trying to offer a slightly different perspective so that we can all be more mindful.
What we are all doing now (now being the last 2 hours or so, from time stamps) is probably what should have happened a month ago. No one is being passive aggressive. No one is cursing. No one is calling anyone out. There was a lot of that before. I mean can we at least admit that internally? Now we are just calmly sharing not slightly nuanced opinions and hearing each other out.
In any case, I certainly hope that in the future people will be more cautious and sensitive when it comes to the topic of miscarriage.
Yes, life is not fair. However, losing a pregnancy (or multiple pregnancies) is not something to be taken lightly and it is definitely not something to throw into other peoples faces. That crosses a line that should never be crossed. In my honest opinion, there is absolutely no justification that rectifies that wrong. And I am not addressing anybody in particular, just making a statement putting out my opinion that when it comes to the loss of a baby or babies, just don't.
@BostonBaby1 First let me say that I think it is very brave and kind to remain on the board when you are obv such an important part of the community to many people! I salute you and am very sorry for your loss (I hate saying this, it seems so scripted and ungenuine in that stupid phrase-- speaking from loss of a parent). No one should have to feel that kind of grief.
I did read through all of the pages on that search function board (I am a lurker). And I did see some instances of cruel jokes (not a lot, but enough to make me remember them). I'm not going to quote them bc that's against the guidelines and I don't want to start ****. I just think that some of the main voices in the board are not looking back at what their friends are saying, or ignoring clear instances of snarkiness. Saying that no one said anything offensive doesn't make it true, and is exacerbating the argument by dismissing the the concerns of some moms, some of whom might not feel confident enough to say anything.
I'm not a gif-fer. Not my style (the child in me wants to clarify that I know how). But if I WERE a gif-fer, this would be a good place for one of folks hugging it out. I'm also not a hugger, just saying.
@BostonBaby1 love you girl!!! I know I'm a little late to the game today but as others have said, we'd rather have you and your support on here than a thread. I know you've helped me through some tougher days and I thank you! You are a hugely positive, supportive force and we are better for knowing you
@BostonBaby1 I guess Perhaps am misunderstanding the turn of this thread. I feel as if we are not welcome here, I only come here anymore for several girls I feel bonded too, and most of us hung out in the same place. other than those I have lost the desire to be here because evidently we are the only ones who are offensive, the ones calling us names are in the right and we are the problem. That's the message I feel like I am interpreting. Now it's early and I'm tired and pretty bothered but I guess I want contact with you ladies but I think I am done here.
@BostonBaby1 I guess Perhaps am misunderstanding the turn of this thread. I feel as if we are not welcome here, I only come here anymore for several girls I feel bonded too, and most of us hung out in the same place. other than those I have lost the desire to be here because evidently we are the only ones who are offensive, the ones calling us names are in the right and we are the problem. That's the message I feel like I am interpreting. Now it's early and I'm tired and pretty bothered but I guess I want contact with you ladies but I think I am done here.
@nik6499 I hope you didn't get that from my post. I definitely think that the other 'side' mistook my defense of intuition for support of some immature and heartless vitriol. I'm just saying that neither camp is blameless. I don't want anyone to leave or feel like they're not welcome. I just don't want opinions to be ridiculed-- i.e. someone who thinks they felt a flutter (not necessarily that OP).
@VegDumpling my thoughts exactly. Nobody is blameless. You can absolutely disagree with someone in a respectful manner without resulting to mockery or trying to ridicule them.
I'm 29, husband is 30 Together since 2006 Married 01.17.15
Wait here: @BostonBaby1 and her lame ass pack of hounds. I'm sorry I have supported you all and answers questions and tries to repons with comic humor. Just because I curse I get reported. Fuck you all you catty old bitches lol
@bostonbaby1 don't worry about anything. That thread was getting heated just like it has in the past but I don't believe any lines were crossed. I think bump admin was just trying to cut it off before anything got worse. Try to relax today, and stay.
Wait here: @BostonBaby1 and her lame ass pack of hounds. I'm sorry I have supported you all and answers questions and tries to repons with comic humor. Just because I curse I get reported. Fuck you all you catty old bitches lol
To all-
@Embuzz247@nik6499@Karawe@313Meg@Marchmellow2@redfallon@CMDD@amw2133@colsen4 and to all of the other ladies that have been active members of the search function thread....
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
You hush your mouth. I didn't see anything in that thread worthy of it being shut down, but I think anyone would rather have that than you banned. A disagreement in and of itself is not a TOU violation. If you're banned, I'm going to be rightfully cranky with you.
@VegDumpling thank you for your kind words, it certainly has been a lot of loss for me. Not that that makes it any worse than what anybody else has gone through or is going through. I lost my father to glioblastoma multiforme IV in December. I lost one pregnancy at the beginning of March (dd was 11/11/15), then I lost these two LOs. And in the meantime, my mother has been diagnosed with cancer for the third time and had her mastectomy the same day that we found out that we lost the second twin. Additionally, my MIL was diagnosed with moderately advanced Alzheimer's a few weeks before we got our most recent BFB. It is a lot for five months.
I was not implying that there were no comments made on the other thread that were not offensive or hurtful to anybody else. However, the intention was neither to hurt nor to degrade anybody. I know I personally used that thread as a means by which to vent on occasion. Having just been through everything that I listed, not to mention all of the other joys that come along with iVF, pregnancy and miscarriage, plus life itself… it can be a little frustrating when people fly off the handle about something that seems extraordinarily trivial to me.
That is not diminish the importance of the person to whom is happening. Just simply that it is extraordinarily distressful to people that have their own heavy burdens to bear right now. It is difficult to constantly read posts where people are having what seemed to be life crisis when there is absolutely nothing at all to be concerned about. I think that I have tried my very best to be supportive to the women on this thread. I try diligently to live my life with integrity and to try to treat others the way that I would like to be treated myself.
In any case, I feel that writing anything further at this point would be fruitless due to the fact that I have not slept and I am both physically and emotionally exhausted.
I love this post. I haven't posted anything and don't comment often because most of what I've read hasn't been very pleasant or helpful. This is my second pregnancy and it's been rough but I've been just dealing on my own because I don't want to get ambushed
Positive: my m/s is letting up and I'm not losing weight anymore!
Re: Life Is Not Fair
Thank you for your support and I am truly sorry about the other thread!
Boston, don't let anyone get you worked up. Not worth it. And I don't think you ever said anything out of TOU so banning you would be unfair.
I think there is a huge difference in someone pointing out that they disagree with certain things/topics VS calling someone out.
There is a fair amount of sarcasm and I love it. But I have never seen it directed at anyone in a mean way.
Hey Kimb311! How are you doing lady? (can't tag on my computer for some reason... ugh)
Boston, don't let anyone get you worked up. Not worth it. And I don't think you ever said anything out of TOU so banning you would be unfair.
I think there is a huge difference in someone pointing out that they disagree with certain things/topics VS calling someone out.
There is a fair amount of sarcasm and I love it. But I have never seen it directed at anyone in a mean way.
Hey Kimb311! How are you doing lady? (can't tag on my computer for some reason... ugh)
Thank you sweetheart! I was upset because the post got shut down prior to my realizing that I was being goaded & also being trolled. By The time that it escalated to the now banned user attacking us blatantly as opposed to via private message and sarcasm, I was actually feeling a little bit better because I thought that you ladies would be able to see what it was that I was dealing with (at least partially.)
I just feel awful that everybody lost their happy outlet on this place. I am so sorry and definitely want to also add the apology to @kimb311 ... BTW, Meg can't call you out because she's on her computer.
You aren't going anywhere Boston.
I am so sorry!
We have past the point where we are respectfully disagreeing. Let's not be so blind we don't see that.
"This" started because of what? Really, it doesn't matter because despite very well meanin efforts from all sides of the drama the issues still continue. So just decide to leave well enough alone. This is not a social justice issue, Bump ladies. We can let this die.
But life isn't fair so this is likely going to not happen.
It's funny how all I did was go to sleep and come back to crazy town.
We can start a new group as well isn't that an option?
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
Exactly. I think that it's only fair to allow people to know what happened, or at least to understand the general idea of what went down.
That being said, I do feel very bad that you feel that this is a disparaging board for you. Hopefully that will change.
It's also not "dead" yet bc not everyone has seen what went down. And for those regs who spend a lot of time here, do care what their BMB is doing. I for 1, was tagged and wanted to let my "friend" know that she has my support and that I didn't see anything that crossed the line.
I'm not trying to fuel the letting the thread die idea... I'm just sayin'.
I hope this is well received and not meant as an argument nor to be negative. Because that's not my tone in my head.
(Edited, because on my phone it's hard to tell where my comment starts and the quoting stops) my comment starts here:
People live for the Bump, or people live for the drama? I'm not sure which you mean.
If this is the best community someone has in their lives for their pregnancy or a loss, live for it. No one in their right mind would call that bad.
To live for drama, though? That is always fruitless. I feel that's where it's all headed.
My comments are always a broader commentary on the trend of a thread or "side." Collectively, the thread in question started to take a negative turn. I'm not here to point fingers or call anyone out. I'm just trying to offer a slightly different perspective so that we can all be more mindful.
What we are all doing now (now being the last 2 hours or so, from time stamps) is probably what should have happened a month ago. No one is being passive aggressive. No one is cursing. No one is calling anyone out. There was a lot of that before. I mean can we at least admit that internally? Now we are just calmly sharing not slightly nuanced opinions and hearing each other out.
Yes, life is not fair. However, losing a pregnancy (or multiple pregnancies) is not something to be taken lightly and it is definitely not something to throw into other peoples faces. That crosses a line that should never be crossed. In my honest opinion, there is absolutely no justification that rectifies that wrong. And I am not addressing anybody in particular, just making a statement putting out my opinion that when it comes to the loss of a baby or babies, just don't.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
(Edited bc I didn't see she was already banned).
@bostonbaby1 don't worry about anything. That thread was getting heated just like it has in the past but I don't believe any lines were crossed. I think bump admin was just trying to cut it off before anything got worse. Try to relax today, and stay.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
I was not implying that there were no comments made on the other thread that were not offensive or hurtful to anybody else. However, the intention was neither to hurt nor to degrade anybody. I know I personally used that thread as a means by which to vent on occasion. Having just been through everything that I listed, not to mention all of the other joys that come along with iVF, pregnancy and miscarriage, plus life itself… it can be a little frustrating when people fly off the handle about something that seems extraordinarily trivial to me.
That is not diminish the importance of the person to whom is happening. Just simply that it is extraordinarily distressful to people that have their own heavy burdens to bear right now. It is difficult to constantly read posts where people are having what seemed to be life crisis when there is absolutely nothing at all to be concerned about. I think that I have tried my very best to be supportive to the women on this thread. I try diligently to live my life with integrity and to try to treat others the way that I would like to be treated myself.
In any case, I feel that writing anything further at this point would be fruitless due to the fact that I have not slept and I am both physically and emotionally exhausted.
Positive: my m/s is letting up and I'm not losing weight anymore!
@BostonBaby1 I 100% stand by you and if you get kicked off the boards I, as most others, will be terribly upset.
Now what to do with myself since my search function thread is closed.. Guess I'll actually have to get work done or something.
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018