My grandmother openly admits she hates the name we chose....

FirstTimeMum2015 · May 2015

Anyone else announce the baby names they've picked?? We've had these names picked out for 3 years, every since we started TTC. They mean a lot to us and we have our reasons for picking each name. Being only 16 weeks we don't know the sex of the baby so we announced both names on Mother's Day. My grandmother just happened to have lunch at my husbands golf course this afternoon and told him that she didn't like the boy name. By her saying this it feel as though she is saying, you need to change it ASAP! What the hell is wrong with her?! What gives her the right to be so rude?! That is so insulting! I would never say that to expecting parents.

What do I say? Do I say anything? I am the type of person who will definitely say something the next time I see her. I want to tell her that what she said was rude, insulting, non of her business and hurt our feelings. if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Pontot31 · May 2015

I would stop all name talk.

We don't share our names at all because no one will tell you they don't like it once the baby is here.

Don't talk to them any more about names. They'll forget and be fine when the baby is here.

Ceridwen77 · May 2015

And this is why no one in our family will have any insight into the names we are considering or pick until the baby is born. Agree with @Pontot31 just don't react anymore or talk about it further

katiedhunter · May 2015

That's the chance you take when you tell names. People always have opinions! They aren't always the nicest opinions either. I'd just let it go. You can't make everyone happy and as long as you and DH love the name it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. That's why we kept our second DS name a secret till we told everyone he was here! Once the kids named it's hard to say you don't like it! Lol

nano1 · May 2015

I know a Mackenzie Mae and I always thought that was the sweetest name! As for what to tell granny, I don't know what to say, but that was rude of her.

wedding crazed · May 2015

This is #4 and we have definitely leaned the hard way to not share names at all. We keep it a secret, although I am sure some people would still say they hated the name even after, but most won't at that point. And I have to not care what they think as really a lot of my friends and family picked names that I don't like either. I would probably let it go instead of starting a fight about it with my Grandma.

oliarnmom1517 · May 2015

I told my mom the name we picked out for a boy and she looked at me and said "are you sure" and I'm 100% on the names we have chosen because I don't feel like arguing over another boy name with my husband lol as long as you like the names you have chosen it shouldn't matter what other think..

kmkrushi · May 2015

I had several people not like the name I picked for DD. Once she was born and as she's grown they've realized how well it fits her. People are allowed to have opinions on the names you pick, hopefully over time they adjust or grow to like them. You can't make them like it, and you can't make them not speak their mind. Sorry.

FirstTimeMum2015 · May 2015

My grandmother thinks it's OK to say what ever is on her mind no matter who it may offend or hurt. She has done crap like this over the last few years and it only seems to be getting worse the older she gets. She is well aware of what she is saying and who she is saying it to. Not many people have stepped up and told her that she needs to keep her rude opinions to herself. From my point of view, I will be telling her what I think and I hope she realizes she can't go around saying crap like that. I want to make her stop and think about what she is about to say.

I'd rather have someone lie and say those names are nice and keep their negative thoughts to themselves than tell someone flat out that name is terrible. White lies don't hurt, especially in this case.

I don't expect everyone to like the names, but I do expect that you will RESPECT our decision.

anneof2 · May 2015

I wouldn't say anything, and I wouldn't say the names to anyone else. There is always going to be people who don't like the name. In fact, I don't like most of the names that some of my friends and family have chosen for their children.

I know someone who named their child Elf. Do you think you would have said something to her if you knew that she was going to do that? This is why she announced after signing and submitting the paperwork. Even I would have tried to stop her, and I avoid confrontation like the plague!

I won't be sharing names with anyone. I don't want to hear any potential negative comments on my children's names, most of my family speaks their mind without the consideration of consequences, so I am very careful what I say to them in general anyway.

kmkrushi · May 2015

I think you're being a little over sensitive on this. Saying you don't like a name isn't being rude really. It's expressing an opinion. I actually don't care for either of the names you picked.

Your grandmother didn't call you stupid. She didn't say your child is going to be ugly or anything like that. Disagreeing with you doesn't make her rude.

FirstTimeMum2015 · May 2015

@anneof2 sounds like we live in the same family! LOL! I don't see my family too often so this will make it easier to avoid the name talk again. However, my mom said that if my grandmother does decide to gossip (yep a lot of that goes on too) she's positive my aunt's will set her straight. PS: my grandmother is my dad's mom, not my mom's mom.

VexyMommy · May 2015

My mother doesn't care for the girls names that I've chosen. That's her right. I'm not a huge fan of my name either. lol. People aren't going to be on board with every decision you make about your child and some of them will tell you about it. Some of them won't shut up about it to be honest. Those are the ones you should yell at, the others just smile and nod and don't waste your time on them.

dogsombrero · May 2015

kmkrushi said:

I think you're being a little over sensitive on this. Saying you don't like a name isn't being rude really. It's expressing an opinion. I actually don't care for either of the names you picked. Your grandmother didn't call you stupid. She didn't say your child is going to be ugly or anything like that. Disagreeing with you doesn't make her rude.

Pontot31 said:

I would stop all name talk. We don't share our names at all because no one will tell you they don't like it once the baby is here. Don't talk to them any more about names. They'll forget and be fine when the baby is here.

This and this. You will be equally rude by getting into a fight with your grandma because she expressed an opinion you didn't like. Stop the name talk and let it go. In the future don't share your name because everyone always has something to say.

dogsombrero · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:

Anyone else announce the baby names they've picked?? We've had these names picked out for 3 years, every since we started TTC. They mean a lot to us and we have our reasons for picking each name. Being only 16 weeks we don't know the sex of the baby so we announced both names, Sebastian James and Mackenzie Mae on Mother's Day. My grandmother just happened to have lunch at my husbands golf course this afternoon and told him that she didn't like the name Sebastian. What the hell is wrong with her?! What gives her the right to be so rude?! That is so insulting!

What do I say? Do I say anything? I am the type of person who will definitely say something the next time I see her. I want to tell her that what she said was rude, insulting, non of her business and hurt our feelings. I will also mention, that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

This is our first child but I can see how crazy mom's can be, so protective of their young. Mess with my baby, I mess with you!

Grrrrr!!!!! I'm fuming mad!!!

QFP JIC

ash413 · May 2015

I think you are making a big deal out of nothing, I'm not sure why you care that much. She is entitled to not like the name you have chosen, and if she was just voicing her opinion I don't really find her behavior rude.
I don't really care for the name either, does that make me rude now?

If that is what you guys have chosen, move on and don't pick a fight with grandma...

JLW0504 · May 2015

anneof2 said:
I wouldn't say anything, and I wouldn't say the names to anyone else. There is always going to be people who don't like the name. In fact, I don't like most of the names that some of my friends and family have chosen for their children.

I know someone who named their child Elf. Do you think you would have said something to her if you knew that she was going to do that? This is why she announced after signing and submitting the paperwork. Even I would have tried to stop her, and I avoid confrontation like the plague!

I won't be sharing names with anyone. I don't want to hear any potential negative comments on my children's names, most of my family speaks their mind without the consideration of consequences, so I am very careful what I say to them in general anyway.

Elf?? That poor child. WTF were those parents thinking? Were they even thinking?

VexyMommy · May 2015

I get mad at things that aren't really that serious too, so I get being really mad. Hormones suck sometimes and the same ones that make us cry at diaper commercials can make us pissed off at grandma. I also don't know what kind of family situation you have or about your existing relationship with your grandma. I'm in camp feel what you feel, just put things in perspective and calm down before taking any actions.

kmd91 · May 2015

At the end of the day, we all have different tastes in names. I don't like half the names people post on here that they've picked, but they do, so that's cool. I guarantee a lot of people will dislike the name we have picked for our son. If they want to express that, that's fine if it makes them feel better. It won't change anything, but people like to share their thoughts. Just a fact of life.

Peony1982 · May 2015

We also

FirstTimeMum2015 said:

My grandmother thinks it's OK to say what ever is on her mind no matter who it may offend or hurt. She has done crap like this over the last few years and it only seems to be getting worse the older she gets. She is well aware of what she is saying and who she is saying it to. Not many people have stepped up and told her that she needs to keep her rude opinions to herself. From my point of view, I will be telling her what I think and I hope she realizes she can't go around saying crap like that. I want to make her stop and think about what she is about to say.

I'd rather have someone lie and say those names are nice and keep their negative thoughts to themselves than tell someone flat out that name is terrible. White lies don't hurt, especially in this case.

I don't expect everyone to like the names, but I do expect that you will RESPECT our decision.

If you know she's vocal, why did you say anything? Don't poke the bear, ya know? Seems like it's just baiting drama.

ashleywuli · May 2015

I would never ever ever tell anyone the names we are picking. I do not need or want their opinions. I say go with the name you love and don't worry about what anyone else says. It's not their baby.

oliviaann91 · May 2015

My mother and grandmother both stated they disliked the girl names I picked out (Ava Caroline and Evelyn Grace.) We are having a boy, so I don't have to worry about it anymore. But do you know what I would have done if this baby had been a girl? Named her one of the above and not given a rats ass about what anyone had to say about it.
Your baby, your choice. It's not like once the child is 3 or 4 they will be telling him/her how much they hate their name. They will get used to it. And as a mother, you will have to get used to taking people's opinions and comments with a grain of salt. There will be plenty to come I assure you.
To avoid this problem now that we know the sex, we will only be telling family the baby's initials once we have a name picked. Also because we live in the South, AKA monogram capital of the galaxy and people will just lose their minds if they cant get some initials sewn onto a onesie beforehand.

MadBloom · May 2015

Peony1982 said:
We also

FirstTimeMum2015 said:

My grandmother thinks it's OK to say what ever is on her mind no matter who it may offend or hurt. She has done crap like this over the last few years and it only seems to be getting worse the older she gets. She is well aware of what she is saying and who she is saying it to. Not many people have stepped up and told her that she needs to keep her rude opinions to herself. From my point of view, I will be telling her what I think and I hope she realizes she can't go around saying crap like that. I want to make her stop and think about what she is about to say.

I'd rather have someone lie and say those names are nice and keep their negative thoughts to themselves than tell someone flat out that name is terrible. White lies don't hurt, especially in this case.

I don't expect everyone to like the names, but I do expect that you will RESPECT our decision.

If you know she's vocal, why did you say anything? Don't poke the bear, ya know? Seems like it's just baiting drama.

I agree here. Don't poke the bear. Seems like it'll cause unnecessary family drama. She will love the name once there's a new baby attached to it. I'd ignor her opinion.

It's like when my mom told me I ruined my daughter for everyone else because I nursed her to sleep. I said, "meh, that's your opinion, I think she's pretty great just the way she is." And that was that. Sometimes you have to roll your eyes and get on with life.

MadBloom · May 2015

MadBloom said:

Peony1982 said:
We also

FirstTimeMum2015 said:

My grandmother thinks it's OK to say what ever is on her mind no matter who it may offend or hurt. She has done crap like this over the last few years and it only seems to be getting worse the older she gets. She is well aware of what she is saying and who she is saying it to. Not many people have stepped up and told her that she needs to keep her rude opinions to herself. From my point of view, I will be telling her what I think and I hope she realizes she can't go around saying crap like that. I want to make her stop and think about what she is about to say.

I'd rather have someone lie and say those names are nice and keep their negative thoughts to themselves than tell someone flat out that name is terrible. White lies don't hurt, especially in this case.

I don't expect everyone to like the names, but I do expect that you will RESPECT our decision.

If you know she's vocal, why did you say anything? Don't poke the bear, ya know? Seems like it's just baiting drama.

Edit: weird quote fail. My comments start here.

I agree here. Don't poke the bear. Seems like it'll cause unnecessary family drama. She will love the name once there's a new baby attached to it. I'd ignor her opinion.

It's like when my mom told me I ruined my daughter for everyone else because I nursed her to sleep. I said, "meh, that's your opinion, I think she's pretty great just the way she is." And that was that. Sometimes you have to roll your eyes and get on with life.

FirstTimeMum2015 · May 2015

Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.

I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .

We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

doodleoodle · May 2015

I wouldn't say anything to your grandmother.

Pontot31 · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:
Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Yikes. No need to get all upset and highlight things.
Everyone gave you advice.
They gave you examples. Not everyone will like your name choices. It's a fact.

dogsombrero · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:

Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

It sounds as though you did not like the advice you recieved which was unanimously: Do not say anything to your grandmother and stop talking about the names because you are bound to get both positive and negative responses from a variety of people. You have already edited you post which is why I quoted you because the post screamed "agree with me or I'm going to pout". Ladies prep thy bingo cards.

lulamagoo · May 2015

OP, nobody was hateful in their comments. Simmer down. You posted a discussion and people discussed it.

Peony1982 · May 2015

"Society has changed and people aren't raised right". But we're talking about your grandmother. Ooooooh Kay. Ps - you start a discussion about names then think nobody will give an opinion on said names? But since you got pissy about it, I like Sebastian. However I think Mackenzie is terrible. That's my OPINION. And it's hardly unpopular. See #4.
https://www.babynamewizard.com/archives/2011/4/the-most-hated-baby-names-in-america?page=3

abrink63 · May 2015

@peony1982 is my Bump idol.

MargaretC5 · May 2015

I told everyone name for DS before he was born. I even posted it on FB. We called my bump by DS's name. I am planning to do it again this time once we know the sex. We named him George after DH's Grandfather. My MIL sounds a lot like your Grandmother, at my baby shower everyone was using his name and she just says "I don't like George. It is an old man's name." I was really surprised, we named him after her father who she was close with. There was not much I could do, my MIL is partly deaf and cannot hear a word I say and I probably would not of said anything to her anyway. I think the name grew on he. She loves him and never said another word about the name after he was born.

When we told my MIL we were prgnant this time her response was "oh no, not again". Oh well you you cannot please then all.

Short version: if she does not like the name don't worry about it. No need to talk to her about it.

kmkrushi · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:
Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Holy crap on a cracker! Slow your roll! Disagreeing with you is not being rude. Speaking your mind and having an opinion is not rude. However your reaction to others having a different opinion than yours seems rude. There's no need to Internet yell and highlight.

helsbels222 · May 2015

What's the big deal that she disagrees with you? Some people will like the name you pick and others won't. Just say "thank you for your opinion" and be done with it. It's your life and your baby, you do whatever the hell you want!

mmk29 · May 2015

My mother didn't like my sons name, I didn't care.

FirstTimeMum2015 said:
Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Most of your comment seems to be not nice, please take your own advice. As for you asking for advice about your grandmother, you're overreacting and I would never disrespect my grandmother. Why are you going to start a fight with a family member over something that doesn't matter. You're going to name your child whatever you want, why start a fight over it? This is the first thing in a long list of things you're just going to have to get over as a parent.

CEB37 · May 2015

Holy overreaction. Big deal she doesn't like the name. She's sure to love your baby and at the end of the day that's all that mattes. Personally I agree with your grandmother and don't really care for your choices, but that's life. Not everyone is going to agree with you. Toughen up or parenthood is going to shred you to pieces.

katiechickie · May 2015

My sister said my boy name sounds like a name from a soap opera. I'm not gonna lie I was a little offended. Now we are not gonna share our names with anyone else

miristod · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:
Anyone else announce the baby names they've picked?? We've had these names picked out for 3 years, every since we started TTC. They mean a lot to us and we have our reasons for picking each name. Being only 16 weeks we don't know the sex of the baby so we announced both names on Mother's Day. My grandmother just happened to have lunch at my husbands golf course this afternoon and told him that she didn't like the boy name. By her saying this it feel as though she is saying, you need to change it ASAP! What the hell is wrong with her?! What gives her the right to be so rude?! That is so insulting! I would never say that to expecting parents.

What do I say? Do I say anything? I am the type of person who will definitely say something the next time I see her. I want to tell her that what she said was rude, insulting, non of her business and hurt our feelings. if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

I wouldn't say anything my husband and I announced the names we have chosen to my family and several members said they didn't like the boy name so I advised them that they should not name their sons that LOL I wouldn't let this bother you too much if she is this opinionated about a name just wait until she has an opinion about your parenting you know what they say opinions are like assholes everyone has one

do what feels best to you and hubby

ash413 · May 2015

FirstTimeMum2015 said:
Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.

For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!

I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.

Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!

Luckily I provide my opinions voluntarily whether needed or requested

I'm sorry I was under the impression you wrote this post for um...opinions. it is the Internet you don't get to dictate that everyone age with you.
You need to cool your jets and stop making everything into a fight.

There is a difference between"not saying anything nice" and not saying anything you like which appears to be the issue.

Peony1982 · May 2015

abrink63 said:
@peony1982 is my Bump idol.

Aw shucks.

poupoule · May 2015

That post is fun

Ok so here is my advice, because my grandmother seem to have the same kind of behavior. Our house has a red fence, everytime she sees it she complains we should paint it. Even though I argued it had just be repainted and it was not worth the money to repaint right now... anyway.

Names. Saying it before the baby is born, is an invitation to asking people their opinion. My parents like the name we chose, but they keep telling me "as long as you have not seen her face, you can't be sure of it". And even though I am 99% sure we picked the right one. I know they are right.

I am not saying it to my grandmother, because I do not want her opinion, but if she ever said she hated it (which I definitely see her say that) I would tell her what my dad says to me. "This is what we picked, but who knows what her face will be, we may change or we may not". If your grandmother is like mine, she will see it her way and leave you alone, and not be unhappy about it. In 5 month you can name your baby with that name, she was warned, but was hoping, and had the time to get used to it.

I am not saying the name we picked on this forum because I like it too much and don't want to share here until the birth. Anyway clearly as a french person, I do not have the same culture and 90% of the name I see around here are either unknown to me, surprising, shocking, or I can't even pronounce them correctly. I mistake girl names for boy names, and boy names for girl names. So why would I expect people to like my name anyway ?

I get why you are angry at her for saying that, and not to your face but to your husband's, even more frustrating. But she is a grandma, from another generation, and don't have the same personality as you.

Good luck

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