Well this thread took an interesting turn. I am just really surprised that you didn't even consider that people may have opinions on the names you chose. Or thought that people would just smile and pretend they like the name(s) even if they didn't.
I'm a FTM too and since I know my family is opinionated (as you mentioned you know your grandmother is), I am not sharing any names before the birth. I agree with the others who said you should have expected this knowing how your grandmother is.
And what's the point of putting her in her place about it? What will a further argument about this actually achieve? I think you should heed the advice given & just let it go. You and your SO like the names, and that's what matters. You shouldn't get so worked up over this.
I shared names before DS was born (we were team green so we had a boy and girl name picked out). I did this ONLY because a) my family asked, b) I genuinely didnt care if they liked the names and c) I expected that they would give opinions (poitive and negative). People love to know what the baby name is and it is a personal selection so chances are... many people you encounter wont like what you pick. I see this as a good thing because if we all had the same taste in names, we would need an additional identifier for our kids as everyone would be [insert name here]. If you know you are sensitive to opinions on matters important to you such as baby names, then don't share the info. Everyone has differing opinions/likes/dislikes and that is what makes the world an interesting place. Interestingly enough, my husband and I picked Mackenzie should this baby be a girl (Team Green again) and we know lots of folks dont like it, but oh well... We love it! If you love it, don't let it bother you when people disagree with the selection (cause they will... Rest assured). My mother didnt like my son's name (Maddox), but once she held him a miracle happened. She loved it and now says it suits him well. While non-family most likely will never change their mind about the name you pick, family tend to cave when they hold that bundle of joy. Just saying...
Being our first child I thought it was perfectly fine to announce the names. Last thing I expected was for anyone to say to our face that they didn't like the name. Why do they even care? I have had friends, Aunt's, cousins, etc announce their baby's name and never once did I think it would be perfectly fine to say the parents, "I don't like your baby's name". Even if I thought the name was terrible I would never say that to them. The parents have their reasons for picking that name and who am I to tell them that name is terrible. I guess society has changed and people have no respect for other peoples feelings. Some people just weren't raised right. There's a time and a place for speaking your mind. There is never a place for speaking your mind when you know it is going to hurt someones feelings deliberately! It's not like were talking politics, money, religion, or war, it's a baby's name, smile, say it's nice and move on. You have no clue what that new mommy is going through. The last thing she needs is for someone to tear her down.
For the love of Pete, I just wanted advice on whether or not I should say something to my grandma and what to say.
I don't need your opinion of whether you like or don't like the names we've picked @ash413 akmkrushi .
We're supposed to be supporting each other, we're all expecting moms. Not kicking each other while were down. It was obvious I was upset about what my grandmother said and I don't need people I've never met telling me they don't like the name either. Or that I'm causing drama by announcing our baby names, sorry, that's what I thought excited expecting parents did?!
I would have never started this feed if I thought I would get crappy comments like this. I wish I could delete this effing post.
Back to my original statement: IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!
If you didn't want to hear opinions about your post seriously why post? I agree with the majority. Your grandmother has a right to express her feelings over the names. This is what happens when you share baby babes so early. There really is no need to get your back up. I'd personally rather hear the truth than be lied to but that's me. If you do want people commenting on your baby names, simple solution would be to not share them till baby is here. Some people will like the names you have chosen & others may not. Thats life. Oh & DD or dirty deleting is frowned upon you should really not do that. Just saying.
We've chosen not to share our names for that very reason, plus we might change our minds when baby arrives. My mother is dreadful for saying what she thinks instead of keeping it to herself and she doesn't just say it once either.
My grandma hated my name when my mom told her what she was going to name me before I was born. (My name is Megan). She made a huge fuss about how it was so weird and she would never call me that. My mom said it upset her at the time but as soon as I was here my grandma never mentioned it again and she always called me Megan. At the time she just hadn't heard a lot of people named that and so she thought it was weird and different. Megan ended up being the most popular girls name in my graduating class. Sometimes it is just a generational thing but I am sure everyone gets over it once the baby is here. My DH and I have shared the name for our baby boy early but it has family meaning and background so no one has complained about it (to our knowledge). It would suck if they did but my DH and I are so in love with it that we don't really care. He is our baby, not theirs.
We are team green and have picked out 1 boy name and 1 girl name. We have shared it with family. Some liked it and some didn't. Honestly I don't care if they like it or not. This child is not their child, they will not be raising it, and we are sticking with the names we picked. If you are worried about what people may say about the name then the best thing to do is not share it. If you want to share the name then just be prepared for what others may say whether it is good or bad.
Re: My grandmother openly admits she hates the name we chose....
I'm a FTM too and since I know my family is opinionated (as you mentioned you know your grandmother is), I am not sharing any names before the birth. I agree with the others who said you should have expected this knowing how your grandmother is.
And what's the point of putting her in her place about it? What will a further argument about this actually achieve? I think you should heed the advice given & just let it go. You and your SO like the names, and that's what matters. You shouldn't get so worked up over this.
I'm beginning to hate this board. I want my O13 back.