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Tacky to have a baby shower for your third?!?

evsgirl61510evsgirl61510 member
in June 2015 Moms
so I'm due with my third and final baby in June and this one is a baby girl. My older two are boys. I had showers for both boys but they are five years apart so I didn't really have any baby things by the time my second son came. This time my youngest son and her will be almost two years apart. But all I have are boy things! So would it be tacky if I had a shower for this baby too?
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  • babynailsbabynails member
    Yes.
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  • wegrowsheepwegrowsheep member
    Yep. And almost 6 years after having my first, I still have baby stuff. You know, just in case.
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  • sharice111sharice111 member
    Do you mean throw yourself a baby shower? If so that is very tacky. If you have friends or family who want to throw you a shower as a gift to you and you graciously accept I don't think that is tacky. I have thrown a shower for a friend for her 3rd in the exact same situation as you having her first girl, however she had no part in planning or anything it was a gift I have to her where I knew several other people who wanted to attend and give her gifts.
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  • Katerina&BabyKaterina&Baby member
    Unequivocally "yes".
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  • shawnaNichloeshawnaNichloe member
    edited January 2015
    Not when you got rid of EVERYTHING! ! I hate clutter so if my child out grew it it was out the door! Now I have to start from scratch and my in laws have already volunteered To give me one. It's not like your asking them to buy the entire nursery I am buying all the big stuff!! Go ahead and do it it's too much fun to pass up!
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  • canadianbride24canadianbride24 member
    Nope. Have one!
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    I think the variation of responses on this gives you your answer. Some people are going to think it's tacky, others won't. If you're willing to deal with the side eye and possibly talking behind your back that may happen and someone else has offered to throw one for you, go for it. If possible have a discussion with the host(ess) to make sure that it's low key since this is baby number 3.

    That being said, if you're considering throwing one yourself, absolutely not.
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  • effthisnoiseeffthisnoise member
    People don't have to attend a shower to give you a gift. If anyone wants to give you something for the new baby, they will give it to you without an invitation. Don't have a baby shower for a third kid, especially after having a shower for your second kid. If you hadn't had the shower for the second kid, having a shower for a baby of the opposite sex seven years after the first kid wouldn't be so bad; since you did, it looks incredibly gift grabby. Take PPs suggestions and have a Sip and See sometime after the baby is born. While it's not a gift-giving party, many of your guests will probably bring something anyway.

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  • CateOfChicagoCateOfChicago member
    Yes, tacky.
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  • megronmegron member
    I agree with almost everyone else, tacky.
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  • babybean9babybean9 member
    How embarrassing.
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    I'm not having another shower but I think my group of girlfriends will go out to lunch or dinner.

    This group of girlfriends are going away for the weekend. They will be celebrating one of our friends upcoming arrival. I think everyone is pitching in on a diaper bag. I made her a quilt. If I was to get asked if I want anything...I'll tell them no. I have everything...including clothes.

    We have hard year with this group of friends...divorces, rehab (for one girl) and my friend's 2 year old died in his sleep in Dec. I think we are looking forward for happy reasons to get together and celebrate.

    Here's the quilt I made...
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  • FloGirl82FloGirl82 member
    Yes, it's tacky. Especially if you are planning it. Like the PP said below:
    delujm0 said:
    Yes. If people want to buy you gifts they will do so without being invited to an organized event. 
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  • thelittlestbeethelittlestbee member
    @laurendutch what a sweet and thoughtful gift! 
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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    Tacky as hell.
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  • staciecoffeystaciecoffey member
    @laurendutch‌ , the quilt is beautiful!! What a thoughtful gift :)
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  • taboullio84taboullio84 member
    Tacky.
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  • starkbaby22starkbaby22 member
    I would NEVER throw myself a shower, but if someone offered to have one, I'd graciously accept.

    We literally sold all of our baby things thus past July and got a surprise BFP in September! My friends at work are having a sprinkle for us because we're having a boy and already have 2 girls so anything I've even kept as mementos is totally girl themed.

    We have purchased nearly all the big things. I'd say the most expensive thing on my registry/shopping list is the baby monitor and it's nothing fancy at about $70.

    I love to buy baby gifts and definitely fall into the category of buying stuff for people without being invited to an actual event. :)

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  • tiffanydurnin7tiffanydurnin7 member
    Yes tacky! If you are throwing it yourself, then you come across as selfish just wanting gifts. If a family member insists on throwing one for you, then politely ask for a "baby sprinkle". Only very very close family for brunch or lunch. Don't make a registry of things you think you want. They will get you what they want to get. Or consider having a "meet and greet" after the baby is born and if people want to bring diapers or other essentials, they will on their own. May sound mean but if you can afford a 3rd mouth to feed, then you should be able to afford their essentials too.
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