As if it wasn't awful to open one Christmas card with a baby announcement on it today, but I opened two! They were both from friends whom had children the same year we had our DD, and now they are having babies in 2015 - when our baby was due. I should be 18 weeks today, and we were planning on announcing with a Christmas card this year too. Sigh.
This has to get easier someday.
Re: *trigger* Christmas cards
It will get a bit easier one day. There may always be triggers that impact you but they do get to be less over time.
We haven't received any announcements by christmas card, but I have seen lots of posts on facebook. Plus friends and family that already have kids, that send their family photo cards...I'm happy for them, but sad its only my husband and I with the dog on our card. We would've been able to announce our pregnancy on the cards too, but it wasn't our fate this time around.
Big hugs!
1st BFP 08/08/14 EDD 04/21/15 confirmed MMC 09/17/14 waited for natural m/c no luck, D&C 10/06/14
2nd BFP 02/06/15 EDD 10/13/15
Married 12/4/12
Began TTC 11/2012
Diagnosed as anovulatory 7/2013
Round #1 Clomid 50 mg 8/2013= BFN
Round#2 Clomid 50 mg 9/2013=BFN
First appointment with RE 9/27/2013
HSG showed left tube completely blocked, diagnosed with hypothyroid and began 50 mcg Synthroid, Vitamin D level low and began 2000 iu Vitamin D, Hubby's SA showed "super sperm" according to RE
Round#3 Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel trigger 10/2013= BFN
Round #4 Clomid 50 mg + Ovidrel trigger 11/2013=BFN
Round #5 Clomid 50 mg (no trigger, on vacation) 12/2012= BFN
Round #1 Femara 2.5 mg, no trigger, IUI cancelled due to early ovulation 1/2014= BFN
1/25/2014= BENCHED for the first time (two leftover follies on the right)
2/7/14 Diagnosed with MTHFR/Benched
4/2014 Round #2 Femara 5mg, IUI #1=BFN
4/28/14 positive opk with no treatment while on break, confirmed with ultrasound= BFN
5/16/14 5mg Femara + trigger + TI= BFN
6/2014 5mg Femara + trigger + TI= BFN
Awaiting IVF consultation appointment on 7/29/2014
8/8/14 Began BCP's to prep for IVF
9/16/14 Began Lupron injections
9/25/14 Began stimming for IVF #1 with Menopur and Bravelle
10/8/14 10 eggs retrieved
10/13/14 2 embryos transferred
10/21/14 BFP!!!
11/24/14 confirmed that baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, d&c scheduled
The worst part is one of those friends knows about our loss. I just wish she would have told us, rather than surprise us with a card. I definitely would not send announcement cards in the mail in the future, albeit how cute that can be.
DH and I purchased an ornament this year for "Sunny." It is a seashell that says "every life leaves something beautiful behind." I hung it the other day and part of me felt good knowing we are honouring our angel baby.
Sending hugs to all you ladies! I hope Christmas passes soon...