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Unique Names! Help!
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Re: Unique Names! Help!
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BFP-10/25/14, EDD-6/23/15 7/6/15
Just remember, your taste is your taste and you get to pick the name. I hope you find something!
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BFP-7/15/14, CP-7/27/14
BFP-10/25/14, EDD-6/23/15 7/6/15
I hope for your daughter's sake you don't follow suit. Give her the same respect you would give your son - a strong, non-made up name that shows she is just as worthy of being taken seriously as her male counterparts.
https://www.businessinsider.com/how-your-name-affects-your-success-2014-8
(Note: I plan on pulling this one out when my husband makes all his super hard to pronounce/spell Gaelic name suggestions.)
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I don't think there's anything wrong with acknowledging that people of different groups (not just racial, but religious, socioeconomic, etc.) tend toward different kinds of names, and ones that don't represent what the majority choose are not looked on as legitimate. IMO this is just another example of the group that's in power deciding the "rules." Made up names are stupid. Don't veer from the traditional spelling. The kid has to have the father's last name. Whatever it is, there's no reason that "we" feel this way aside from some sense of tradition and "knowing what's right." If things were different, there would be no problem with interesting, made-up, unique names or names like Cinnamon or Diamond. Really, explain the difference between Diamond and Ruby (or Pearl, Opal, Amber . . .). Why is one OK and one not? (The Ny'Eve one confuses me because "naive" generally doesn't have good connotations, I'll admit that straight away). I'll also admit that I, being from the dominant group, do plan on sticking to the "rules," although the last name thing gets to me, I won't deny that.
OP, if I were in your shoes, I would consider looking at some black women from history and choosing to honor someone that's worked in a field or fought for things you value. You might find a perfect mix of a rare, beautiful, name with a great story behind it that represents you and your family's various cultures. "Sojourner" might be a little too far out there, but you get the picture! Good luck, I'm realizing naming humans is serious business!
Guess where I've lived on and off for the last 4 years?
The fucking CONGO. It doesn't get much more black than the Congo.
You know what parents don't name their children there? Made up nonsense that can't even be pronounced phonetically by the rules of ANY language.
Kids there were named things like Moses, Bakitha, Mary, Esperance, Kindu, Blessing, Beatrice, Peter, JeanPaul, etc. No wacky made up shit.
So fuck off with the "white people" thing... for crying out loud.
Not popular in the US, but at least they are actual words.
I'm not a Rachel, but I personally love the name! It must be because I'm a white boring Amanda.
It is a real word, that is true, but so are Cinnamon and Diamond, that's all I'm saying. There's something going on with people deciding which words are OK to use and which aren't and then telling other people that their new word-names don't cut it.
Also, there's obviously a huge difference between Congolese people living in the Congo and African Americans living in the US. It doesn't really make any sense to say that black people in Africa don't name their kids the same way that black people in the US do. Tell me you wouldn't side-eye the parents that name their little white American girl Blessing. OK, maybe you wouldn't because you've heard it a lot, but maybe . . . I don't know, Miracle? Hallelujah? Hymn?
I just think it's pretty ridiculous to pretend that there's not a racial/cultural slant to the whole topic of "legitimate" names, or to pretend that the OP's comment about white people not being tolerant of made up names that black people sometimes use isn't accurate. You can get mad at someone for playing the "race card" if you want, but I don't see why admitting it in the open makes people so uncomfortable. Totally not directing this mini-rant just at you, @Trampslikeus, but I guess I feel pretty strongly about it!
I have seen this multiple times on multiple threads and yet have JUST figured it out...hangs head in shame...
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By my example I mean this is NOT a "black" vs "white" thing, because outside of the US, thats not a thing.
So to be all "uhhhg white people" instead of "uhhg everyone who isn't part of ONE specific North American Subculture" is pulling the race card, I think. I mean, white people invent names too, they just throw random Y's all over the place.
But then we're getting way too serious about a silly topic.
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