Ya this community is the worst if you are looking for support or encouragement. I would go somewhere else. I wish it was't like that but the people here don't run this site very well, and it's not going to change especially when the so called MOD's join in on the bullying.
If you want that I would go to another site. This site is best served for shooting the shit and light conversation nothing more nothing less.
Where is a mod bullying her ? There is a ton of great info and support/encouragement on this site, just given in a no bullshit way,and you have to give it , to get it, you can't just waltz in somewhere and demand they support you & hold your hand.
If you dislike it so much, why bother being here & posting ?
This site is well known for it's bullying and is well known for the MOD's not doing anything and actually joining in on the bullying.
I don't care what other people's reasons are for using this site I learned my lesson when I tried to have a serious/deep conversation I don't so that anymore. I come here have light meaningless conversation and move about my day. If I want deep conversation without judgment I have sites I use that are better suited for that. This site in my experience isn't going to be that for that majority of people. There is one group of women who runs things here and if you don't fit into that group you can forget about it.
There is plenty of support and judgement free conversation here. But you have to give support to get support. I'm currently wearing a pair of lucky socks sent to me by one of the girls on my board before my IVF cycle. I was just flipping through my photos and looking at some of the care packages we've sent out to loss moms this year. And I can't even begin to tell you how many texts and calls I got after my IVF cycle was cancelled from other members here.
But that's because I've been here for 2 years and formed authentic relationships with people. That kind of love doesn't happen overnight.
That's great but a lot of us don't ever get to see that side of this site because the very first times we ever try to post anything we are immediately attacked. It's hard to build relationships when people here are bad at letting newcomers in. It's very clique here and that can be a turn off for new people looking to come in and join.
So, as someone that made a very bad introduction on this board (my first comment was annoying/ ill-informed/ naive ) I am going to disagree with this. I was the one that made the mistake by not lurking long enough and not getting a "feel" for the board. Now that I am posting more comments, reading more posts, and becoming better educated about this board's etiquette, I can honestly say I have been pretty welcomed here.
The thing is that I made a mistake and I owned up to it, plus I made a sincere apology about it. Because of that, the women here have been helpful AND have given me an educated dose of reality. Will they call out your BS? You bet. Will you get realistic and helpful advice here? YES.
The women here are not "bad at letting newcomers in." They just don't like dealing with stupid questions that they have heard/answered a million times before or that can be easily answered with a Google search.
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The thing is that I made a mistake and I owned up to it, plus I made a sincere apology about it. Because of that, the women here have been helpful AND have given me an educated dose of reality. Will they call out your BS? You bet. Will you get realistic and helpful advice here? YES.
The women here are not "bad at letting newcomers in." They just don't like dealing with stupid questions that they have heard/answered a million times before or that can be easily answered with a Google search.
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