Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Darbie914 - marry me? lol. too many comments of yours in here have me laughing so hard I fear I may pee. I couldn't love tit them hard enough.
Haaahaaha! This shit is why I love trolls.
However:
Source: https://www.greekmythology.com/Titans/Atlas/atlas.html
Surely they teach you that in Grad School, no?
Not very good at it. Maybe my attempt will lure a real WK out from the shadows.
JAYSUS YOU HAGGARD TROLL BEEYOTCHES! Don't any of you have a single ounce of sympathy? This girl only came looking 4 ur SUPPORT! Isn't this blog supposed to be a place for mommies to have All TheIr QueStiOnS answered and be supported no matter WAT? I can't believe how cruel and bullying you pregnant women are being!
Clearly this young lady is confused by a lot of things, despite her speshul college educayshun. Why can you not help her figure out who her baby daddy is? Why you gotta be so mean and nasty 2 her? I bet u rnt liek this in RL. If u r I am sorry 4 ur husbands and unborn children! I QUIT THIS BLOG!
Please watch the TOU violations (too many to count).
That goes for everyone. No name calling. Please don't release the OPs personal information (such as where she lives, goes to school, or what websites you can find her on). I have edited some comments.
I had a shitty day and left work 30 minutes late so I'm being nice. If you violated the TOU please consider this a warning, any more violations will be actual warnings that count against your 3.
Edit: wording
For suzyq0525
Best thread I've read in awhile lol! I love it when the bump goes all secret spy and catches people in their bullshit lies. You ladies rock!
Hey now I registered for 4 car seats, but I am having twins. Two infant carriers and two convertibles as back ups for our other car then as our main once they pass the weight limit for the carriers.
Ummm this is a public forum for anyone to post on. Its not "yours," welcome to the interwebz.
Eta quote
Please Stop!!
And this could explain the multiple boyfriends/partners in a short time span.
Yep, this! I didn't want to violate TOU, but her username came up with all kinds of fun websites when I googled it.
This just keeps getting better and better! Thanks M15 for making my work day even better.
That's like calling someone fat, but also saying that they themselves have fat fingers.
Oh wait..
Stop!!
I know what bullying is. This is...I have asked everyone to stop but y'all keep commenting on it.
So please stop!