Uo, Fffc and randoms?

Hyaline · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

DH just came home for lunch and he got the job he's been groomed for for 15 years. They are going to start the two year transition now! We knew he was the successor, but we've been waiting for his boss to retire, which 7 years ago we were told it would be 5 years. I think he's been feeling like he's in limbo and wanting to do something bigger with his career, instead of sitting around and waiting for someone to retire. We just seriously started looking into another business opportunity for him two weeks ago. He was so happy!

Should I make him a special dinner at home or take him out?

Go out! Then you're celebrating, too, instead of doing dishes. After all, you've supported his goals all this time--it's kinda your win, too

Celebrate together!

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

On another note, my company attracts a lot of weirdos because it deals with new technology. One "entrepreneur" as he claimed just left me a mumbling message. It was the tone and voice I would expect to get on a male phone sex line. I wish I could play it for you guys.

MarisaKathleen · November 2014

Sigh. The spa I interviewed for? She just emailed me. She wants me to come back in and talk further about compensation.

WWS12 do?

I kinda feel like I should just say thanks but no thanks. If she gave me such a low ball offer before, how much better could it possibly be, you know? I've resigned myself to sticking with my job through summer. I certainly don't want to quit now before Christmas when I get 2 weeks off all paid.

Ugh. Tell me what to do.

BeebopandBuddy · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

DH just came home for lunch and he got the job he's been groomed for for 15 years. They are going to start the two year transition now! We knew he was the successor, but we've been waiting for his boss to retire, which 7 years ago we were told it would be 5 years. I think he's been feeling like he's in limbo and wanting to do something bigger with his career, instead of sitting around and waiting for someone to retire. We just seriously started looking into another business opportunity for him two weeks ago. He was so happy!

Should I make him a special dinner at home or take him out?

Lol, where is @jenndub‌ to suggest a BJ? J/K, take him out to a nice dinner. That's awesome!

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hmp1 · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

DH just came home for lunch and he got the job he's been groomed for for 15 years. They are going to start the two year transition now! We knew he was the successor, but we've been waiting for his boss to retire, which 7 years ago we were told it would be 5 years. I think he's been feeling like he's in limbo and wanting to do something bigger with his career, instead of sitting around and waiting for someone to retire. We just seriously started looking into another business opportunity for him two weeks ago. He was so happy!

Should I make him a special dinner at home or take him out?

Awesome! Does this mean dream home is closer than you thought?

melody921 · November 2014

loislayn said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I bet it's advocare. Does anyone here do advocare? My babysitter is on it and asked to tell us about it and I firmly said no - hard to believe, I know! I didn't want to blur our business relationship.

Newp. A few friends do and no thanx. I'm not a serious enough athlete to need supplements and weight loss drinks are futile.

If I don't chew, it's like I didn't eat, so I am anti-weight loss drink.

melody921 · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

ETA maybe I should put a trigger warning on this? I mention a privacy violation when I was a young child.

When I was in preschool I had a 10-14ish yo boy touch my genitals (idk, I remember he was quite old). My mom was in the next room over, checking on us frequently, and my brother and the older boy's cousin were playing with us. I was pretty much just playing on my own in the same room with the boys. They were making 'tents' and I wanted in of course, he did it in the tent while the other boys were adding more tent blankets. Anyway, that is so freaking young. I never said anything to anyone. It didn't scar me. I just feel like I know shit can happen and want to have good communication with W, and good checks in place to keep her safe.

I think stuff like that happens more than we realize @tinyhumantoe, and I say better to make kids aware of what is and is not OK when it comes to other people's actions. When I was a crime reporter, I was shocked at the number of perverts -- kid and adult -- in the world, and you know the ones arrested are only a small percentage of the actual creepers out there.

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melody921 · November 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

Sigh. The spa I interviewed for? She just emailed me. She wants me to come back in and talk further about compensation.

WWS12 do?

I kinda feel like I should just say thanks but no thanks. If she gave me such a low ball offer before, how much better could it possibly be, you know? I've resigned myself to sticking with my job through summer. I certainly don't want to quit now before Christmas when I get 2 weeks off all paid.

Ugh. Tell me what to do.

I would go back and talk to her again, be firm on what you absolutely must make and tell her that with the holidays and the need to give appropriate notice to your current job, you can start after the new year.

MarisaKathleen · November 2014

I guess I never associated feeling blessed, or commenting on being blessed to be just a religious thing.

If you're saying "God Bless You" to someone (in a non-sneeze way) then I would assume that, but feeling blessed, or commenting on being blessed? I don't think that either of those things are mutually exclusive with a set of beliefs.

hmp1 · November 2014

shiggybop said:

shiggybop said:

I don't like the term "blessed" either. Then again, I'm an atheist, so I guess it's not a huge surprise. I feel like if someone is truly devought and religious, and is going through a tough time be it infertility, poverty or whatever it would feel as though they aren't in god's favor. I don't think about it all the time and have used the term, but it can be prickly.

People who are devout and religious understand mountains and valleys in life and praise God through every storm. It has nothing to do with God punishing you with IF or whatever.

That said, when I say I'm blessed, it doesn't mean "by the lord", it means I'm thankful, grateful, and happy about what I've been given.
It might not mean by god to you, but it does with some. I'm not personally offended, but I try to be careful with it depending on who I am talking to.

I do mean by God. I highly doubt anyone on my FB feed would be surprised or offended that I am a Christian.

ETA: And I had a pretty sucky year for my relationship with my husband and I never once felt out of favor with God. That statement seems so bizarre to me.

melody921 · November 2014

From the category of people should shut up: DS has been saying he wants to play the piano, so I found a teacher who can start him soon, the price and available time slot works for us. He's so excited. We mention it in the course of other conversation with family this weekend and DH's SM responds with, "Isn't he a little young?" I just said, "No, I don't think so." Maybe I just moved in weird circles, but I have known a ton of people who started music lessons even younger than 4 or 5. Besides, it was his idea, so what's the big deal?

Pokedot · November 2014

I just had to give DS the heimlich while on lunch. Talk about scary. He choked on a piece of banana when he got excited to see me.

melody921 · November 2014

Pokedot said:

I just had to give DS the heimlich while on lunch. Talk about scary. He choked on a piece of banana when he got excited to see me.

Holy crap. Glad he's OK, and glad you knew how to give it!

kelbel527 · November 2014

Pokedot said:

I just had to give DS the heimlich while on lunch. Talk about scary. He choked on a piece of banana when he got excited to see me.

OMG. That's scary. Glad he's okay. I always worry that would hesitate and not be able to do it correctly.

kelbel527 · November 2014

melody921 said:

From the category of people should shut up: DS has been saying he wants to play the piano, so I found a teacher who can start him soon, the price and available time slot works for us. He's so excited. We mention it in the course of other conversation with family this weekend and DH's SM responds with, "Isn't he a little young?" I just said, "No, I don't think so." Maybe I just moved in weird circles, but I have known a ton of people who started music lessons even younger than 4 or 5. Besides, it was his idea, so what's the big deal?

That does seem like a weird response. I feel like piano is one of those things that a lot of kids start young. I don't think our older one would enjoy it, but I can see Aedan getting into it once he's a year or two older.

MarisaKathleen · November 2014

melody921 said:

From the category of people should shut up: DS has been saying he wants to play the piano, so I found a teacher who can start him soon, the price and available time slot works for us. He's so excited. We mention it in the course of other conversation with family this weekend and DH's SM responds with, "Isn't he a little young?" I just said, "No, I don't think so." Maybe I just moved in weird circles, but I have known a ton of people who started music lessons even younger than 4 or 5. Besides, it was his idea, so what's the big deal?

@melody921, I started piano at 5 and stopped taking lessons when I was probably 17. I still play when I'm at my Mom's house where my piano lives.

I hated to practice when I was 5, but I remember at 6 I wanted to go and see Cats so bad (because duh, a play about Cats...) and my parents told me that if I could learn to play the easy version of 'Memory' they would take me. I had that sucker learned in 3 weeks. It's not too young. Especially if he has an interest. :-)

Pokedot · November 2014

If he has interest in it @melody921 go for it. I'm excited for the day when DS expresses interest in an activity. I'm hoping it's hockey

but I'd be happy with anything. It's good for them! He'll have a blast!

Pokedot · November 2014

Yes it was pretty scary but thankfully I knew what to do. I ended up having to scoop the banana out of the back of his mouth. My still shook up about it. Blah.

Hyaline · November 2014

loislayn said:

shiggybop said:

I don't like the term "blessed" either. Then again, I'm an atheist, so I guess it's not a huge surprise. I feel like if someone is truly devought and religious, and is going through a tough time be it infertility, poverty or whatever it would feel as though they aren't in god's favor. I don't think about it all the time and have used the term, but it can be prickly.

People who are devout and religious understand mountains and valleys in life and praise God through every storm. It has nothing to do with God punishing you with IF or whatever.

That said, when I say I'm blessed, it doesn't mean "by the lord", it means I'm thankful, grateful, and happy about what I've been given.

Exactly this--it's language that's understood by those who speak it. If I say I'm blessed, I don't mean that I'm deserving or that God loves me more. I mean that DESPITE probably not deserving all I have, I'm lucky enough to have it, and I'm grateful.

Hyaline · November 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

melody921 said:

From the category of people should shut up: DS has been saying he wants to play the piano, so I found a teacher who can start him soon, the price and available time slot works for us. He's so excited. We mention it in the course of other conversation with family this weekend and DH's SM responds with, "Isn't he a little young?" I just said, "No, I don't think so." Maybe I just moved in weird circles, but I have known a ton of people who started music lessons even younger than 4 or 5. Besides, it was his idea, so what's the big deal?

@melody921, I started piano at 5 and stopped taking lessons when I was probably 17. I still play when I'm at my Mom's house where my piano lives.

I hated to practice when I was 5, but I remember at 6 I wanted to go and see Cats so bad (because duh, a play about Cats...) and my parents told me that if I could learn to play the easy version of 'Memory' they would take me. I had that sucker learned in 3 weeks. It's not too young. Especially if he has an interest. :-)

Our friends have been encouraging me to start DD on violin next year. ETA because their kids started at 3.

Now, I probably won't, but I do forsee starting music lessons by the time she's 4 or 5, especially as she already shows an interest.

Hyaline · November 2014

melody921 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Sigh. The spa I interviewed for? She just emailed me. She wants me to come back in and talk further about compensation.

WWS12 do?

I kinda feel like I should just say thanks but no thanks. If she gave me such a low ball offer before, how much better could it possibly be, you know? I've resigned myself to sticking with my job through summer. I certainly don't want to quit now before Christmas when I get 2 weeks off all paid.

Ugh. Tell me what to do.

I would go back and talk to her again, be firm on what you absolutely must make and tell her that with the holidays and the need to give appropriate notice to your current job, you can start after the new year.

I agree. It can't hurt to go in with firm non-negotiables. The worst that can happen is she says it's a no-go. The best? You get exactly what you ask for and have a fab new job.

melody921 · November 2014

kelbel527 said:

melody921 said:

From the category of people should shut up: DS has been saying he wants to play the piano, so I found a teacher who can start him soon, the price and available time slot works for us. He's so excited. We mention it in the course of other conversation with family this weekend and DH's SM responds with, "Isn't he a little young?" I just said, "No, I don't think so." Maybe I just moved in weird circles, but I have known a ton of people who started music lessons even younger than 4 or 5. Besides, it was his idea, so what's the big deal?

That does seem like a weird response. I feel like piano is one of those things that a lot of kids start young. I don't think our older one would enjoy it, but I can see Aedan getting into it once he's a year or two older.

@kelbel527, DH would say that's bc she's weird, lol.

hmp1 · November 2014

MelsaX said:

Some stores in New Zealand are trying to use thanksgiving in the US as a reason to have a sale. Are you kidding me? We don't have thanksgiving here. Don't try and cash in on something that has nothing to do with our country.

Ha, are they actually calling it Thanksgiving Sales? I think Black Friday is actually named for the financial books, so they could still have Black Friday sales and not really be tied to the US's Thanksgiving.

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

loislayn said:

Yeah, you should probably sex him up a bit and let him buy a new toy. That's the wifely thing to do

It never crossed my mind to have sex with him or give him a bj. Damnit. Can't I just buy him a steak? Haha, I am the worst wife ever!

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

melody921 said:

Pokedot said:

I just had to give DS the heimlich while on lunch. Talk about scary. He choked on a piece of banana when he got excited to see me.

Holy crap. Glad he's OK, and glad you knew how to give it!

YIKES, that is scary! Glad you are all ok! I don't know what I'd do, I need to brush up on that and also take an infant cpr class before having this kid.

redneckmomma25 · November 2014

I'm here, I read it all, I've got nothing to add. Just wanted to say hi.

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

I just got my hair cut. My hair stylist moved salons and is getting sued. I read through her non-compete, non-solicit agreement. She is pretty much screwed. Her lawyer said the same.

Basically, whenever you go to leave the salon the owner can sue you for all lost income, as well as any training and recruitment fees, and the list goes on. She tried to settle for $10k and they rejected her offer.

All of these poor cosmetologists are trapped there and I had no idea. I have a $100 gift certificate and after I get my massage there, that business can kiss my ass forever.

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

@marisakathleen I would consider going. It depends how far off they were. What's to lose?

MarisaKathleen · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I just got my hair cut. My hair stylist moved salons and is getting sued. I read through her non-compete, non-solicit agreement. She is pretty much screwed. Her lawyer said the same.

Basically, whenever you go to leave the salon the owner can sue you for all lost income, as well as any training and recruitment fees, and the list goes on. She tried to settle for $10k and they rejected her offer. All of these poor cosmetologists are trapped there and I had no idea. I have a $100 gift certificate and after I get my massage there, that business can kiss my ass forever.

A lot of salons will do that--they'll stipulate that you can only go to a salon that's 25mi away or something like that. The big fancy spa I used to work at did that, which was shitty since they had locations downtown and in 2 suburbs roughly 20 miles in either direction. Pretty much screwed you unless you got fired.

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

hmp1 said:

Awesome! Does this mean dream home is closer than you thought?

I wish!

I think we're ready to buy land just as soon as we can find the right piece. We go driving and looking every weekend. I'm going to start putting notes in mailboxes - hi can I buy your land? Affording to build our house......... well, I think we're a year or two off. Salary 'increase' really doesn't happen with DH's job for awhile because we are buying his share of the business over the next 10 years. Whomp whomp.

@bunkinmama Walk away from your post and come back in 5-10 minutes. If it sounds good, post it!

hmp1 · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I just got my hair cut. My hair stylist moved salons and is getting sued. I read through her non-compete, non-solicit agreement. She is pretty much screwed. Her lawyer said the same.

Basically, whenever you go to leave the salon the owner can sue you for all lost income, as well as any training and recruitment fees, and the list goes on. She tried to settle for $10k and they rejected her offer. All of these poor cosmetologists are trapped there and I had no idea. I have a $100 gift certificate and after I get my massage there, that business can kiss my ass forever.

When DH was laid off from his previous company they told him to sign a non-compete. It was completely ridiculous (2 years of not working with or for a vendor that they had come in contact with due to the company or had any ties at all to the company or did any business with any of the companies clients) especially since they were calling it a lay off. Later that day, everyone in the office was told to sign it and they all did. It was so shitty. They just watched 5 people get let go (in an office of about 20), they were scared for their jobs and felt forced to sign a really crappy agreement. I can't imagine it would ever be held up in court due to the situation. Luckily we never had to find out since DH didn't sign it. He started working for a vendor 6 months later (they started courting him right away and it took 6 months to agree on salary).

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I just got my hair cut. My hair stylist moved salons and is getting sued. I read through her non-compete, non-solicit agreement. She is pretty much screwed. Her lawyer said the same.

Basically, whenever you go to leave the salon the owner can sue you for all lost income, as well as any training and recruitment fees, and the list goes on. She tried to settle for $10k and they rejected her offer. All of these poor cosmetologists are trapped there and I had no idea. I have a $100 gift certificate and after I get my massage there, that business can kiss my ass forever.

A lot of salons will do that--they'll stipulate that you can only go to a salon that's 25mi away or something like that. The big fancy spa I used to work at did that, which was shitty since they had locations downtown and in 2 suburbs roughly 20 miles in either direction. Pretty much screwed you unless you got fired.

Yah, that's sounds about the same. I guess she should have gotten herself fired.

It's confusing to me because when we have a non-compete for our engineers, it doesn't block them from their trade. It blocks them from companies in our industry for a certain amount of time but they can go be an EE anywhere else. This seems to block individuals from their trade/skill; it seems legally onerous. Good grief.

Pokedot · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

hmp1 said:

Awesome! Does this mean dream home is closer than you thought?
I wish!

I think we're ready to buy land just as soon as we can find the right piece. We go driving and looking every weekend. I'm going to start putting notes in mailboxes - hi can I buy your land? Affording to build our house......... well, I think we're a year or two off. Salary 'increase' really doesn't happen with DH's job for awhile because we are buying his share of the business over the next 10 years. Whomp whomp.

@bunkinmama Walk away from your post and come back in 5-10 minutes. If it sounds good, post it!

I know someone that did that. They sold their home and had to find a place. They went around town and left a flyer in mailboxes of the houses they like. Someone was in over their head and wanted an out on the house so they bought. Worked out perfect. Maybe you too! Either they think your a big weirdo or it peaks their interest!

hmp1 · November 2014

Pokedot said:

tinyhumantoe said:

hmp1 said:

Awesome! Does this mean dream home is closer than you thought?
I wish!

I think we're ready to buy land just as soon as we can find the right piece. We go driving and looking every weekend. I'm going to start putting notes in mailboxes - hi can I buy your land? Affording to build our house......... well, I think we're a year or two off. Salary 'increase' really doesn't happen with DH's job for awhile because we are buying his share of the business over the next 10 years. Whomp whomp.

@bunkinmama Walk away from your post and come back in 5-10 minutes. If it sounds good, post it!

I know someone that did that. They sold their home and had to find a place. They went around town and left a flyer in mailboxes of the houses they like. Someone was in over their head and wanted an out on the house so they bought. Worked out perfect. Maybe you too! Either they think your a big weirdo or it peaks their interest!

My parents sold a house because someone knocked on their door and asked if they would sell. My dad agreed and my mom was pretty pissed but he built her her dream home across the street so it worked out....until we moved again, ha.

tinyhumantoe · November 2014

@hmp1 that sounds like signing under duress.

If I can't take an agreement for my lawyer to review, I won't sign it. My stylist worked at this place since 2004, and in 2009 after a bunch of women left, everyone was pulled in one by one to sign an updated contract that was written to screw anyone who tried to leave. They either had to sign it, or pack their shit and leave. That would have qualified for signing under duress, but since she stayed until 2014 that defense would never hold up in court.

Newt69 · November 2014

Pokedot said:

tinyhumantoe said:

DH just came home for lunch and he got the job he's been groomed for for 15 years. They are going to start the two year transition now! We knew he was the successor, but we've been waiting for his boss to retire, which 7 years ago we were told it would be 5 years. I think he's been feeling like he's in limbo and wanting to do something bigger with his career, instead of sitting around and waiting for someone to retire. We just seriously started looking into another business opportunity for him two weeks ago. He was so happy!

Should I make him a special dinner at home or take him out?

That's so exciting for both him and you! I'd take him out since Thanksgiving you'll be stuffed with all the homemade food. Plus bonus, no dishes.

Just before DH got his current job we were looking at career move and physical move for us. It's like the stars aligned and everything fell into place. It's such a great feeling! Congrats!

Stuck

This gives me hope that the job I applied to in Friday will be my next job

Hyaline · November 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

MarisaKathleen said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I just got my hair cut. My hair stylist moved salons and is getting sued. I read through her non-compete, non-solicit agreement. She is pretty much screwed. Her lawyer said the same.

Basically, whenever you go to leave the salon the owner can sue you for all lost income, as well as any training and recruitment fees, and the list goes on. She tried to settle for $10k and they rejected her offer. All of these poor cosmetologists are trapped there and I had no idea. I have a $100 gift certificate and after I get my massage there, that business can kiss my ass forever.

A lot of salons will do that--they'll stipulate that you can only go to a salon that's 25mi away or something like that. The big fancy spa I used to work at did that, which was shitty since they had locations downtown and in 2 suburbs roughly 20 miles in either direction. Pretty much screwed you unless you got fired.

Yah, that's sounds about the same. I guess she should have gotten herself fired.

It's confusing to me because when we have a non-compete for our engineers, it doesn't block them from their trade. It blocks them from companies in our industry for a certain amount of time but they can go be an EE anywhere else. This seems to block individuals from their trade/skill; it seems legally onerous. Good grief.

Did anyone see this? https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/21/jimmy-johns-noncompete-ag_n_6024056.html

Basically, effing JIMMY JOHN'S has a non-compete. It's more than absurd--it's a way of controlling employees. Want to quit? Can't work anywhere else. So you'd better put up with whatever we pay you and however we treat you.

Hyaline · November 2014

hmp1 said:

MelsaX said:

Some stores in New Zealand are trying to use thanksgiving in the US as a reason to have a sale. Are you kidding me? We don't have thanksgiving here. Don't try and cash in on something that has nothing to do with our country.

Ha, are they actually calling it Thanksgiving Sales? I think Black Friday is actually named for the financial books, so they could still have Black Friday sales and not really be tied to the US's Thanksgiving.

Though it's still associated with Thanksgiving--the day after was/is the traditional "start" of the holiday shopping season and the day retailers expected to go "into the black" financially.

So if you don't have Thanksgiving...it's still kinda weird. Does NZ (or, really, any country without Thanksgiving) have an officialunofficial "start" to the holiday shopping season? Now I'm curious.

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