I wanted a boy and a girl because it really devastates me to imagine my life without a daughter. DH is dead dead dead set on the fact that he only wants to two kids. I had gotten on board with that.
I'm really excited for a boy too because I love the boy I already have and I think DS and mini baby boy will be great together. But I was still really feeling like it would be a girl.
Mostly I'm extremely happy that the genetic tests came back clean so I'm happy for a healthy baby. I had a moment of sadness, that's all.
Lurker coming out to say: 1) Yea for clean test results! and 2) I know exactly what you're feeling right now. I guess my FFFC is that I cried when I found out DS2 was a boy. But I can promise you that you're in for an absolutely amazing experience by having two boys. Watching them interact is a constant source of amusement. I won't lie, I still hurt a little inside when I hear a friend is having a girl, but I would not trade the love I get from my two boys for anything. Please don't judge yourself; you're awesome and what you're feeling is totally okay.
@HilarityEnsued, congrats on your healthy baby boy! We are expecting baby boy #2 in January, and I had the same feelings as you. This may be our last baby, and I had a moment of disappointment about not having a daughter, but I know DS will love having a little brother, and we're excited.
Kind of related to "unmet needs" discussion - I love taking care of DD (9 months) But I almost always dread spending time with/taking care of DS (4 yo) I love him obviously, and I probably spend way more energy and time devoted to his happiness and well being than anyone else in the family - but he can be demanding in a lot of ways and totally exhausts me. He's always "go go go" and it is exhausting. This has been true since he was a baby. Sometimes DH takes him out on a weekend for the morning or afternoon, and it literally feels like a vacation just DD and me. I feel really guilty about it. I really look forward to alone time with DD but not DS. I truly feel like he needs a mom who's more social and outgoing, out and about all the time... I just can't be that person. So I guess his "need" will never be met by me.
I like Armand too, but only because I know a teeny tiny 50-some year old man who wears funny hats named Armand. I think it might fit him better than a baby.
DS is 1DAF
"I realize I say the word fuck a lot, and I'd like to apologize but I don't give a shit." -Lewis Black
I like Armand too, but only because I know a teeny tiny 50-some year old man who wears funny hats named Armand. I think it might fit him better than a baby.
I love love love old man names. I also really want to name a baby Stanley after my grampa who passed away a few years ago. DH hates it but because I'm so emotional when I talk about it he says I can have it if it means that much to me.
But, we live somewhere where having a bilingual name is a huge asset, so I think Armand would be better!
Given that there's a background, Stanley is adorable. I approve, tell your DH.
DS is 1DAF
"I realize I say the word fuck a lot, and I'd like to apologize but I don't give a shit." -Lewis Black
Greyson is turning 1 yr old on the 15th and DH is too busy with his car crap to care about helping me plan. Hello, it's your sons 1st birthday dude!!!!
@jesuisfatiguee I was kidding btw! Lame joke.
And congrats @HilarityEnsued! I understand the momentary disappointment. If we have another, I feel like I'll panic if it's a girl because I'm worried she'll have to go through what I did/have same issues I do, but I also think I'll be a little disappointed if it's another boy.
I'm weird.
Just saw it! Not lame. Cute and funny and I love that song.
Re: FFFC
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
Formerly Twilightmv