hi, I'm new here. I believe that I was about 4 weeks pregnant but I never got a positive on a test. I had all the symptoms and they were very different than I had ever experienced, so I knew it was only time that stood between me and a BFP. I was max 11dpo when my brown spotting turned red and overnight I was kept up with INTENSE cramping and clotted blood half the night. I've called my doctor and spoke to a good friend that is a midwife and L&D nurse and they both assume early miscarriage and that my levels just weren't high enough to get a positive on a test. I'm really frustrated as I have no idea how it would have happened, plus the uncertainty of knowing if I were truly pregnant is nagging. We just started trying this month so I have no idea what it means for us from here on.
Re: Miscarriage without BFP
That does not equal 4 weeks pregnant?
Edit: I am sorry that you are going through this and are confused. Definitely suggest reading the newbie blog at the top of the page and download FF and start temping if you aren't already doing so.
Welcome.
Hysteroscopy 10/28/14 - septum removed
HSG 10/31/14 - All Clear!
As for where to go from here, the best advice I have is to read the newbie blog, start temping so you know when you are ovulating, and continue having sex when you are fertile.
Good luck.
BFP #1: 10-25-11, MC: 11-1-11 @ 5w5d
BFP#2: 12-29-11, DS born September 2012
TFAS: July 2014, BFP#3: 12-29-14, EDD 9-9-15
However, if it turns out to have been an early miscarriage (normally that could be a chemical pregnancy, meaning the pregnancy was only confirmed by chemical means, but this one was not), they are extremely common. Most women who have them go on to have healthy pregnancies. Two things to remember as you start out: Your body is not a machine, things change. Don't trouble trouble until trouble troubles you. I wish you well moving forward.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
Is it possible you had a chemical pregnancy? Sure, and if that is truly the case then I'm sorry. But if I had to make an educated guess, I'm guessing your period was heavier than usual because sometimes it happens and you noticed all these "symptoms" because you were actively looking for them.
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
FYI, you probably had all those symptoms either because your body was finally producing it's own hormones after being on bcp or you were just hyper aware since you were ttc.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Also, I'm not just hoping against everything that suddenly I was pregnant this first month, I just paid close attention to my body, which is suggested by all sorts of forums and medical journals when Ttc. I also consulted my doctor and midwife friend, like I said, who heard the same symptoms that I wrote here and both had the same opinion that I likely miscarried too early to Turn a test.
Lurk here and you will see several posts from newbies convinced they are pregnant because they have all the symptoms in the world and they are "late" (but they are never late!) but keep getting BFNs. Most of them are not pregnant either.
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Let's do a little menstrual math. You said if the day you had unprotected sex was the day you ovulated, you were 9 dpo when you started bleeding red. So the spotting started 4 days before you started bleeding red, which is 5 dpo, before you could have implanted --> not implantation bleeding.
But here you are saying you were 11 dpo when you started bleeding red, which if you had sex 9 days earlier, means you had unprotected sex 2 days after you ovulated --> not possible to be pregnant.
So either way, it is really, really unlikely that your spotting is implantation bleeding. And much more likely that you ovulated earlier than you normally do and had a heavy period.
Edited for spelling.
BFP #1: 10-25-11, MC: 11-1-11 @ 5w5d
BFP#2: 12-29-11, DS born September 2012
TFAS: July 2014, BFP#3: 12-29-14, EDD 9-9-15
I think this time I'll leave it to the professionals and trust what my doctor and experienced nurse and midwife friend has to say. Thanks girls!
TTC #1: Oct. 2014
Hysteroscopy 10/28/14 - septum removed
HSG 10/31/14 - All Clear!
You could write a book of symptoms, but unless it included a positive hpt, I can't really feel sorry for your fake miscarriage...
By your logic, every period is a possible miscarriage and I have had dozens of them.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
2) A straight up yes/no pregnant/not pregnant blood test at a clinic or hospital is actually probably less accurate, especially for an early loss, than a HPT. Most labs have a certain level of hCG set for what they will consider pregnant (at mine it's around 25). So unless you were able to get your doctor/midwife/whatever friend to prescribe you a quantitative beta to be run, it's unlikely you would get any other response from a needless blood test.
3) Your doctor/friend/midwife/whatever can only go off of what you told them. Which I'm sure at this point you embellished to suit your needs. No decent doctor is going to tell you that you miscarried without medical evidence. Possibly they told you what you seem to have wanted to hear.
4) The miscarriage club is not a cool club. Why on earth do you want to convince yourself of it? You had an early heavy period. You just started TTC. You don't need to rush to a doctor for everything. Even if it was a miscarriage, there is absolutely fuck all that can be or would be done about it. It's a horrible thing, but one chemical pregnancy, as painful as they could be, doesn't necessarily effect anything about fertility.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
Surprise BFP# 5 - 9/2/16 - Due 5/13/17
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@bibliothecary Your gif died for no reason, wtf?
Edit: Nvm, it started working again.
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Home tests are actually just as sensitive as blood. In fact, with one of my losses I tested positive on two different tests, and negative with bloodwork the following day.
You had your period, and it was heavier than normal.
I totally agree. MC sucks, so so badly. I tested positive on 2 different tests as well on a Friday, by Monday seeing my Dr nothing showed up. MC's are not something you want to try to convince yourself about. You weren't pregnant and probably just had a late cycle. Be thankful for that and not having to deal with a loss.
However, don't let whatever this is/was get to you. Just keep trying. Definitely read he newbie blog and sign up for FF. GL
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Nope. I know I'm now 13 DPO because I'm charting. I also know I'm not pregnant because I'm charting. It's just AF being a tease for a solid week before she shows up here. You seem like you've done a lot of research, OP. But wherever you are getting your facts from is bullshit.
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