Miscarriage without BFP

gscoville

dmariebuchanan said:

Ok so, I'm really not sure why I posted on here! I was hoping for feedback on moving on from this, whatever it is that happened to me. Instead I'm getting a lot of unprofessional opinions on whether I was actually pregnant. I could have written a book on everything that happened but wanted to keep it short to get to the point. I guess that was my oversight by not covering myself for what the Internet had to say! I think this time I'll leave it to the professionals and trust what my doctor and experienced nurse and midwife friend has to say. Thanks girls!

If the 'professionals' you're seeing are so convinced you had a miscarriage, why wouldn't they test for it?  Many ladies I've known who've had CPs or early losses had followup bloodwork to confirm things, even when still getting negative HPT tests their bloodwork still showed enough HCG present to confirm that a pregnancy was there.  I seriously sideye your medical team for throwing around possibilities that are unconfirmed, completely unfounded, without any evidence, and just plain guaranteed to make you feel worse rather than better.  I guess as someone who's gone through a loss myself, I don't quite get the strong desire you have to convince yourself you've had a loss.  You said yourself you don't know and that's so true, you can't know without a positive test, why wreck yourself thinking it was a loss if you don't have any confirmation of it?  I just don't get it.

gscoville

DovahFel said:

I really just want to hug and send all kinds of love to the mothers with losses right now.  Threads like this really suck.

I also just want to leave this here for.....reasons.



(Plus I wanted to gif Ben on the celebration of his engagement!)

Benny can shush me any time he likes, he's on my list and hubby is ok with it.

Thanks so much for the gif of my huge man crush @DovalFel, I really needed it today!!  :x

ramaholic

miaawallace said:

@ramaholic are you keeping taps on your signature of all the bans? 

Nah, I just remember that one.  Also, I clicked on the tag to make sure.

@Encchanted Super hugs for you.  I'm sorry some people cannot understand why they don't want to be loss mothers and I'm sorry you and all the other loss mothers out there have to deal with that bullshit on top of the losses themselves.  How disgustingly unfair of you, Universe.  My heart is with you all.  *biggest hugs*

nandaboob06

Encchanted said:

Why would you want to have your heart shattered into a million pieces? Why would you want to find yourself in tears in random places and at random times because you absolutely can't help it? Why would you want to have loss anniversaries and lost baby due dates? Why would you want to have the life you envisioned turn into dust? Why would you want to have nights where you wake up sobbing because you dreamed you got to hold your missing baby in your arms only to realize it was just a dream? Why would you want to still be hurting years later even if you've been lucky enough to have another child?

Why the fuck would anyone want to be part of this fucking awful club?

I want to not be.

You had a bad period. You did not have a loss. You also attempted to cheapen my lost child and the lost children of all the other loss mommas here. Except you can't.

Because they are and always will be our children.

Get out and don't come back.

This made me cry, @Encchanted‌ . So much truth.