Community› The Bump Month Clubs› May 2015 Moms
May 2015 Moms
New Discussion

Amazing U/S :) :)

2

Re: Amazing U/S :) :)

  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • Loading the player...
  • khan08khan08 member
    MayMomx2 said:

    You're due close enough to May that this board is totally appropriate. It's not uncommon to go 41 weeks now. Putting you in MAY.

    I'm actually due June 2nd, but I will have an induction due to some of my health problems. (39 weeks, 5/26)

    Not sure why the behavior of some is so bitchy. But as a fellow hijacker, welcome! ;)

    Any who did you get any potty shots? Or are you team green? Found out the sex at 14 wesks with my last!

    Potty shots as in the pregnancy test? That's cool that you could find out that early. We won't be finding out till my 20-22 week appointment :/ We have decided to find out but, we are having the U/S tech put the results in an envelope. We're going to to get a bunch of balloons and open the box and Christmas! I am not sure I will be able to last that long :):)
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    Congrats on great ultrasound experience!!! :)
    Report Reply
  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • MrsTwiddyMrsTwiddy member
    @khan08 I would just give it up...once there's blood in the water it's over.
    Lilypie Second Birthday tickersimage





    Lilypie Maternity tickers image
    Report Reply
  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • bdbrandt2bdbrandt2 member
    That's awesome! It's so amazing to see them move around!
    Report Reply
  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • MayMomx2MayMomx2 member
    The bump has really spent a lot of money prompting this app. It was on my fb newsfeed every day until I downloaded it. If they get the large influx they're pushing for, things will start changing.

    I'm don't like group posts, I will be making new posts if I want to.
    Report Reply
  • stark01938209stark01938209 member
    This is some crazy stuff... /:)
    Report Reply
  • Pumpkin_PrincessPumpkin_Princess member
    blackpearl08 said:
    Glad you had a great appointment. I prefer the appointment threads but random good news here or there never hurts. WK posts are also a sign that you care about others and want to make this an inclusive community. I used to bump on my computer citing my first pregnancy, but my job and home life are so busy I just do it now on my phone in between appointments and during commutes so it has become an app to me.
    There is nothing wrong with going against the grain if you disagree with someone, but stating that you lurk for the sole purpose of overseeing things so that you can jump in and make sure that everyone plays nice in the sandbox doesn't come off as wanting to be part of the community. It comes across as pretentious and "holier than thou art." If something "needs fixed" (i.e. violation of TOU), then the mods will step in.
    image

    imageimage

    image


    Report Reply
  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • UnknownUnknown
    This content has been removed.
  • SassyPants150SassyPants150 member
    image

    image
    image
    image


    Report Reply
  • expecting1stlilmiracleexpecting1stlilmiracle member
    Wow i'm pretty disgusted by this thread. We're talking about compassion for losses by showing a lack of compassion to someone who without ill will posted a positive board. Maybe if you want to police the boards and limit what's posted based on your own beliefs, you should stick to a diary. Shame on you making a wonderful place to shard and exchange thoughts a hostile environment. You're mothers - grow up.
    For this Child I prayed...<3
    image

    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    marybeth080710 said:

    katietopaz said:


    marybeth080710 said:

    I think that if OP and her supporters don't already understand why this was inappropriate and insensitive, they never will. Because it is pretty obvious.

    No one is saying not to celebrate... But there is a place for news like this and that place isn't right above a post about how someone saw a missed miscarriage on their ultrasound. Good news should absolutely be celebrated,
    and it is, in the appointment thread.

    If everyone would use some empathy and common sense, this would not be an issue. But it seems some people are lacking both.

    Quite frankly, I think it was more than that--I know I personally don't have a problem with threads that are AW-ish and only good news. What rubbed me the wrong way in THIS thread was specifically the OP saying that the board seemed so sad and gloomy. I may be overly sensitive because I'm still in a bit of limbo, and because it breaks my heart to see so many, including regs, having had m/cs recently, but I thought that comment was tactless at best.

    ETA: I might have missed something, but I don't think I've seen people get up in arms at a thread just because it's AW or good news. So for those coming in to WK, I wish you'd read the whole board and see what is actually upsetting.
    Totally agree. And I did mean THIS specific thread. AW-ing happens, and it can get annoying, but everyone moves on. This felt different. It felt insensitive and braggy. The whole tone of the OP left a bad taste in my mouth.



    I just went back to page one just re-read the OP. I checked for "bragginess" and I really didn't find any. The initial post just reads as one from a mommy-to-be who was happy she saw her LO after going in for what appears to be a follow up on something that could have been going wrong. I really think this whole thing was blown way out of proportion. From accusing OP of being "braggy" to saying that she and her supporters or "WK" are insensitive to the ladies who are experiencing or have experienced a recent loss. IMO that's a whole lot of speculating on what's going thru these women's minds. I don't think anyone here, including the OP, was intentionally insensitive.
    Report Reply
  • Jazzyashes84Jazzyashes84 member
    abethany said:
    Who cares what board you're on!! Congrats. I'm sure you're so relieved!
    right!? Congrats!!! 
    TTC#2: 8/17/14 // BFP: 9/5/14
    image

    TTC#1: 7/30/11 // BFP: 8/22/11
    DS: Carson Robert 4/29/12
    image








    Report Reply
  • queenrichqueenrich member
    image

    hahaha I had to   ;))
    //  due 05.15.15 \\
    xoxo
    image
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    VeganOnTuesdays said:

    I don't understand why it is so damn hard to understand that there is a board "etiquette" for a reason. It is because we care about everyone on here. There are women at different crossroads in their pregnancy on THIS board, moms in limbo, moms waiting to know if everything is ok by their first U/S, moms that got great news, moms that lost their baby but still hang around for incredible support. THE REASON WE HAVE SPECIAL DAILY THREADS SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO AW IT UP IS BECAUSE WE RESPECT EVERY MOM AT EVERY STAGE OF THEIR JOURNEY. Why is it hard to understand that a mom who is going through a loss right now does not want to read about your awesome U/S and she wouldn't have to if you posted it in the right spot. Those threads are clearly marked so that you can chose to read them or not. This is a community. Stop pretending like you are the only fucking person here. 

    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    VeganOnTuesdays said:

    I don't understand why it is so damn hard to understand that there is a board "etiquette" for a reason. It is because we care about everyone on here. There are women at different crossroads in their pregnancy on THIS board, moms in limbo, moms waiting to know if everything is ok by their first U/S, moms that got great news, moms that lost their baby but still hang around for incredible support. THE REASON WE HAVE SPECIAL DAILY THREADS SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO AW IT UP IS BECAUSE WE RESPECT EVERY MOM AT EVERY STAGE OF THEIR JOURNEY. Why is it hard to understand that a mom who is going through a loss right now does not want to read about your awesome U/S and she wouldn't have to if you posted it in the right spot. Those threads are clearly marked so that you can chose to read them or not. This is a community. Stop pretending like you are the only fucking person here. 

    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.

    I lost a baby last year and I was due in June. The women of the June board still consider me a part of their board and I participate in a check in now since I'm pregnant. Maybe you should lurk a little more and understand how these boards really work because you don't sound like you "get it".
    My deepest condolences on your loss my dear. Again, this is a public forum for pregnant women due in May of 2015. Unbeknownst to any loss, women join this public pregnancy forum because they are pregnant and due in May of 2015. So you made a few Internet friends here and there and you like them, that does not change what this board is. Is your answer to my question you? Are we protecting you from the happy pregnancy post?
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    Knock what off? I'm only trying to make sense of things. I'm not a trouble maker and I'm not a drama queen. I do like to, as you put it, "lurk". I speak up when I feel the need. I'm not trying to argue with you, I just want you to look outside of your private "we know each other since TTC" group and understand the other 90% of women on this board. If I've been insensitive, I apologize. It was never my intention.
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    headovaheels said:

    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    VeganOnTuesdays said:

    I don't understand why it is so damn hard to understand that there is a board "etiquette" for a reason. It is because we care about everyone on here. There are women at different crossroads in their pregnancy on THIS board, moms in limbo, moms waiting to know if everything is ok by their first U/S, moms that got great news, moms that lost their baby but still hang around for incredible support. THE REASON WE HAVE SPECIAL DAILY THREADS SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO AW IT UP IS BECAUSE WE RESPECT EVERY MOM AT EVERY STAGE OF THEIR JOURNEY. Why is it hard to understand that a mom who is going through a loss right now does not want to read about your awesome U/S and she wouldn't have to if you posted it in the right spot. Those threads are clearly marked so that you can chose to read them or not. This is a community. Stop pretending like you are the only fucking person here. 

    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.

    I lost a baby last year and I was due in June. The women of the June board still consider me a part of their board and I participate in a check in now since I'm pregnant. Maybe you should lurk a little more and understand how these boards really work because you don't sound like you "get it".
    My deepest condolences on your loss my dear. Again, this is a public forum for pregnant women due in May of 2015. Unbeknownst to any loss, women join this public pregnancy forum because they are pregnant and due in May of 2015. So you made a few Internet friends here and there and you like them, that does not change what this board is. Is your answer to my question you? Are we protecting you from the happy pregnancy post?
    robotpcr said:


    headovaheels said:


    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.

    How about the ladies who are currently posting on this board and are in limbo?  Imagine how it must feel to get bad news at an ultrasound that there is likely something wrong and the first post you see on this board is a post titled like this one.  You can avoid the appointment thread if you can't handle seeing those positive updates but there's no avoiding a thread titled like this. 

    And I absolutely consider the ladies we've lost to be a part of May15.  That's a cruel thing to say.


    I'm not saying the ladies who have suffered a loss are not welcome here. I do think that if they stick around then they are hoping see happy outcomes for the rest of the group.
    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    edited October 2014
    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    VeganOnTuesdays said:

    I don't understand why it is so damn hard to understand that there is a board "etiquette" for a reason. It is because we care about everyone on here. There are women at different crossroads in their pregnancy on THIS board, moms in limbo, moms waiting to know if everything is ok by their first U/S, moms that got great news, moms that lost their baby but still hang around for incredible support. THE REASON WE HAVE SPECIAL DAILY THREADS SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO AW IT UP IS BECAUSE WE RESPECT EVERY MOM AT EVERY STAGE OF THEIR JOURNEY. Why is it hard to understand that a mom who is going through a loss right now does not want to read about your awesome U/S and she wouldn't have to if you posted it in the right spot. Those threads are clearly marked so that you can chose to read them or not. This is a community. Stop pretending like you are the only fucking person here. 

    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.

    I lost a baby last year and I was due in June. The women of the June board still consider me a part of their board and I participate in a check in now since I'm pregnant. Maybe you should lurk a little more and understand how these boards really work because you don't sound like you "get it".
    My deepest condolences on your loss my dear. Again, this is a public forum for pregnant women due in May of 2015. Unbeknownst to any loss, women join this public pregnancy forum because they are pregnant and due in May of 2015. So you made a few Internet friends here and there and you like them, that does not change what this board is. Is your answer to my question you? Are we protecting you from the happy pregnancy post?

    You are just one of those people that think the world revolves around "you". News flash, it doesn't!!

    Think of this forum like real life. You don't walk up to strangers and start showing your us pictures because they would look at you like you are stupid. Although, if you were in a support group with a bunch of women all due when you were you would tell them. If you were at a "meeting" and you saw one of your members found out they had a loss or heard some bad news would you announce at the top of your lungs your good news? If you did I promise someone would look at you like you are stupid and tell you to shut the fuck up. Why is it so hard for you to understand be considerate of others?
    No, I'm well aware that the world does not revolve around me. I really don't know what would give you that impression. And you Are right, if I did those things in real life then yeah it would be inappropriate. This however is a public pregnancy board. So talking about your pregnancy, happy or sad, is expected.
    Report Reply
  • Lalalady54Lalalady54 member
    @headovaheels‌ I don't get the "it's public" argument. So just because anyone can be here it means they can be inconsiderate?

    Sure anyone can be here but we should still be considerate and respectful to those around us.
    BFP #1-- 8-25-12, DD Born 5-1-13 
    BFP #2-- 5-6-14, MMC 6-13-14, D&C 6-13-14
    BFP #3 -- 8-26-14, EDD 5-10-15 

    Report Reply
  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    No @VeganOnTuesdays‌, they shouldn't. But apparently inconsideration is subjective. Being happy about your pregnancy is not inconsiderate to me. What difference does it make if you click on it directly from the newsfeed or click on the AW thread (still in the news feed) and read it there. Either way you choose to click on it.
    Report Reply
  • lgsdesignerlgsdesigner member
    edited October 2014

    Look…it’s great all went well for your u/s, but it’s not great you can’t show empathy for your BMB girls who lost their little ones.

    I think it’s time for you to pack your bags and head over to the April board. They may or may not better receive your lack of compassion, and your overly zealous AW approach.

    Image and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPic

    image
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"