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Re: Amazing U/S :) :)

  • Pintobean39Pintobean39 member
    headovaheels said:

    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    Pintobean39 said:

    headovaheels said:

    VeganOnTuesdays said:

    I don't understand why it is so damn hard to understand that there is a board "etiquette" for a reason. It is because we care about everyone on here. There are women at different crossroads in their pregnancy on THIS board, moms in limbo, moms waiting to know if everything is ok by their first U/S, moms that got great news, moms that lost their baby but still hang around for incredible support. THE REASON WE HAVE SPECIAL DAILY THREADS SO THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO AW IT UP IS BECAUSE WE RESPECT EVERY MOM AT EVERY STAGE OF THEIR JOURNEY. Why is it hard to understand that a mom who is going through a loss right now does not want to read about your awesome U/S and she wouldn't have to if you posted it in the right spot. Those threads are clearly marked so that you can chose to read them or not. This is a community. Stop pretending like you are the only fucking person here. 

    It isn't difficult to understand your reasoning. I get it. If you recently suffered a loss you probably don't want to read about a happy pregnancy. I get it. No need to yell. However, your logic is skewed. As I understand that most of the women who are suffering a loss are saying farewell to this Pregnancy board. So who exactly are we protecting by celebrating in the closet? I've been thru a miscarriage before as have many of my friends and relatives. I know it hurts and I know everyone copes differently. This however is a Birth board and I think it's safe to assume that if I suffer a miscarriage, I will no longer be part of this board because I'm no longer pregnant. Unless I'm totally wrong and this is not a pregnancy due in May 2015 board but instead it's a loss support board. I mean there are so many "unwritten rules" please enlighten me.

    I lost a baby last year and I was due in June. The women of the June board still consider me a part of their board and I participate in a check in now since I'm pregnant. Maybe you should lurk a little more and understand how these boards really work because you don't sound like you "get it".
    My deepest condolences on your loss my dear. Again, this is a public forum for pregnant women due in May of 2015. Unbeknownst to any loss, women join this public pregnancy forum because they are pregnant and due in May of 2015. So you made a few Internet friends here and there and you like them, that does not change what this board is. Is your answer to my question you? Are we protecting you from the happy pregnancy post?

    You are just one of those people that think the world revolves around "you". News flash, it doesn't!!

    Think of this forum like real life. You don't walk up to strangers and start showing your us pictures because they would look at you like you are stupid. Although, if you were in a support group with a bunch of women all due when you were you would tell them. If you were at a "meeting" and you saw one of your members found out they had a loss or heard some bad news would you announce at the top of your lungs your good news? If you did I promise someone would look at you like you are stupid and tell you to shut the fuck up. Why is it so hard for you to understand be considerate of others?
    No, I'm well aware that the world does not revolve around me. I really don't know what would give you that impression. And you Are right, if I did those things in real life then yeah it would be inappropriate. This however is a public pregnancy board. So talking about your pregnancy, happy or sad, is expected.


    See that's the part you don't "get" about this forum. We kinda use the same judgement as someone would in real life when it comes to being considerate to others. People talk about their pregnancies all the time on here, happy and sad, it's just expected in the appropriate places at the appropriate times just like real life.


    Maybe this board just isn't a good fit for you since you can't comprehend why everyone is expected to be considerate. That's why it's always appropriate to lurk and get a feel of how things work before you join. There are tons of Internet forums out there that you may fit in just nicely.
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  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    Gatorsgirl731 said:

    How is a public forum not real life?

    Meaning this is cyber world, you know, the Internet. In this particular case a public forum specifically for women who are pregnant.
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  • Pintobean39Pintobean39 member
    headovaheels said:

    Gatorsgirl731 said:

    How is a public forum not real life?

    Meaning this is cyber world, you know, the Internet. In this particular case a public forum specifically for women who are pregnant.
    So are you not a real person? Let me guess you are actually a 12yr old boy just playing around.
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  • bjackson2688bjackson2688 member
    @Gatorsgirl731‌ I just spit all over my computer reading twatwaffle. I think I love you? and I still can't stop laughing
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  • headovaheelsheadovaheels member
    @SunshyneShay‌ I understand. Ok ladies I have to get back to work. It was good chatting with you. Tomorrow is my first US. If there is anything worth sharing, I'll be sure to post it in the appointment thread. I still stand by my opinion that happy posters are not intentionally trying to be insensitive. That is really the only point I wanted to make. Have a fabulous day. :)
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  • Gatorsgirl731Gatorsgirl731 member
    headovaheels said:

    @SunshyneShay‌ I understand. Ok ladies I have to get back to work. It was good chatting with you. Tomorrow is my first US. If there is anything worth sharing, I'll be sure to post it in the appointment thread. I still stand by my opinion that happy posters are not intentionally trying to be insensitive. That is really the only point I wanted to make. Have a fabulous day. :)

    One last time. Posting a happy post because you don't know any better is one thing.

    This OP purposely posted this because "the board was sad and gloomy" and she thought her amazing US should make everyone happy. That is what people have the problem with.



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  • Sunshine4020Sunshine4020 member
    I can't help but imagine a pig's head on a stick right now... Lord of the Flies anyone? Who is holding the conch and has the right to speak?  :@) :P
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  • spoodryspoodry member
    You should be on any board you want, these ladies make me want to go to June 2015 personally and I'm due in May. Hormones are raging here and instead of supporting a fellow lady they are tearing her down. Humanity is good and bad, I've miscarried 3 times, I've seen every post of ladies miscarrying with anxiety for myself and sadness at knowing what they go through. Instead of taking the news turnaround from you as a learning experience that one of us may still go through they gang up to tell you everything they view as wrong, and that's wrong. You all: If you don't like a post then don't continue reading or post; save your baby the stress. It's not hard. It's a community right? Act like the best community we can be, support all. I said, "I'm sorry for your loss," on this forum and other forums, till I couldn't take reading about the loss anymore. You see my hormones make me tear up at the tiniest of things and cry profusely at losses on these boards. So I opt not to read them. They need to learn the same if they are unprepared for happy.
    I wish you continued happiness on your pregnancy all of you and those that have losses or are in limbo, I wish you all the support in the world.
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  • sml72978sml72978 member
    Popcorn is ready!
    Mother to Joelle (13), Jaxen (3) and Jayla (due 5/6)


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