Like second baby showers, I find second weddings to be an etiquette grey zone. Especially if they are a) full blown big events, b) within 5 years of your first wedding, and c) accompanied by a gift registry. Did the $200 blender I give you in 2011 already break?
"She had a lively, playful disposition, which delighted in anything ridiculous"
@DarcyHermione In my area, it is very popular for leggings as pants. Whatevs, no fucks given right?
UO? : But tan leggings should not be worn as pants if your shirt isnt long enough to cover your booty. It looks like they are not wearing pants, gross.
@LDW176 I agree, actually I think showers/gifts for a 2nd wedding are even more distasteful than a 2nd baby shower (which under certain circumstances, many in fact, don't bother me in the least).
I'll add to your UO and state I find it somewhere between in poor taste and a bit laughable for a 2nd+time bride to wear white. Pale pink, silver, etc is tasteful and attractive.
@LDW176 I agree, actually I think showers/gifts for a 2nd wedding are even more distasteful than a 2nd baby shower (which under certain circumstances, many in fact, don't bother me in the least).
I'll add to your UO and state I find it somewhere between in poor taste and a bit laughable for a 2nd+time bride to wear white. Pale pink, silver, etc is tasteful and attractive.
edit to add the word baby
Oh man, it didn't even occur to me she could have another shower. She totally would too... blerg.
"She had a lively, playful disposition, which delighted in anything ridiculous"
My UO: I will and often do spend $60+ on a bra from victorias Secret. My DD's need support and I want to feel damn sexy with my matching panties even if I wear yoga pants every day.
I feel like the second wedding sentiments are super judgy. I am so happy for you if you never went through the heartbreak of divorce. But for those that do and find the love of their life on the other side of it they may want to celebrate that love. I absolutely don't judge someone wanting to celebrate their love and a second chance at happiness.
For the record I wore a champagne dress and had under 20 people at my second wedding. It was more expensive than my over 100ppl first wedding though.
I like made-up holidays like Valentine's Day, Grandparents' Day, Boss's Day (if you like your boss), etc. Even though I fully concede that they're just opportunities to make money for Hallmark and other corporate conglomerates, I appreciate the notion that we should pause to say, "I see you. I care about you. You matter." I dont want to wait for 1.5 hours for a table on valentine's day, and I'm not asking for jewelry, but I do think it's okay to make a point to put some candlesticks on the table, throw on some lipstick, and grill that steak.
@ToryKate sorry if I touched a nerve. I've been married 3 times. Yes I believe I qualify as having had desperate heartbreak not just once but, yes my mistake, two times. I equate a white wedding gown as a significant symbol, one that is not at all possible after a marriage. It is a rather judgy view you're right. I think its one tiny part of my Southern etiquette background I held on to, and not much more! I don't hate people that choose things different than me, just don't agree with it. I'll walk it back a little and say if the marriage was very short lived and no children were born from it then white worn 2nd x is more understandable. Don't let my voice get you down, I wish you a wonderfully happy and successful marriage- I do believe in happiness and 2nd, 3rd, etc chances.
edit to add, reread your statement,what? Champagne is gorgeous and exactly what I referred to in my silver/ light pink, etc statement
I feel like the second wedding sentiments are super judgy. I am so happy for you if you never went through the heartbreak of divorce. But for those that do and find the love of their life on the other side of it they may want to celebrate that love. I absolutely don't judge someone wanting to celebrate their love and a second chance at happiness.
For the record I wore a champagne dress and had under 20 people at my second wedding. It was more expensive than my over 100ppl first wedding though.
Oh I thought she meant having a PPD after not having the wedding of your dreams (one marriage, two "weddings").
@ToryKate sorry if I touched a nerve. I've been married 3 times. Yes I believe I qualify as having had desperate heartbreak not just once but, yes my mistake, two times. I equate a white wedding gown as a significant symbol, once that is not at all possible after a marriage. It is a rather judgey view you're right. I think its one tiny part of my Southern etiquette background I held on to, and not much more! I don't hate people that choose things different than me, just don't agree with it. I'll walk it back a little and say if the marriage was very short lived and no children were born from it then white worn 2nd x is more understandable. Don't let my voice get you down, I wish you a wonderfully happy and successful marriage- I do believe in happiness and 2nd, 3rd, etc chances.
This absolutely. The UO was on weddings, not marriages. Just as not believing in second baby showers doesn't mean you don't believe in multiple children.
"She had a lively, playful disposition, which delighted in anything ridiculous"
@hobbesgal you are right, the bride is entitled to wear whatever she chooses; but I personally think so many other colors are prettier/more flattering but generally wearing white is a symbol of innocence and sexual purity. For me neither were true for my 1st wedding either so there is that.
Wedding dress white doesn't mean virginity. It was started by Queen Victoria and symbolizes wealth. White dirties quickly and can't be worn over and over. Buying a white gown meant you had money to burn.
But second time brides arent allowed to have nice things Joy!! No fancy dresses or parties for them. Stepmother says so
I think themed engagement photos are tacky. I live in TN where every engagement or baby anouncement is done in an overgrown field with one abandoned vehicle. The people will lay or sit awkwardly on or in the vehicle and will often dress like they're going to a nice dinner, which makes no sense given the location. Idk, I have murderfeels for most country things. I need to move.
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The significance of white and the gown only being worn once was also a symbol of wealth just as @Joy2611 stated. Those are from the Victorian age, I believe the last 300 years have also contributed to the idea that white=purity.
I'm fat and shouldn't wear leggings but they are so damn comfy. I purposely am always on the lookout for shirts to wear with leggings because i would live in them if I could. I'm sure I offend people when i wear them but fat girls need comfort and style too!
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I hate HATE carving pumpkins. I think it's the worst holiday activity ever created.
Agreed. The fucking worst. I do love eating the roasted seeds though, but only if someone else craves the pumpkin of course.
I hate hate hate carving pumpkins. I always screw up the carving and it ends up a hot mess. I like scooping the guts though!
I feel the same about messing up on the carving part but I think it is fun to scoop them out! I haven't done it this year yet and probably won't, unless DH feels it is needed than I might.
@ToryKate sorry if I touched a nerve. I've been married 3 times. Yes I believe I qualify as having had desperate heartbreak not just once but, yes my mistake, two times. I equate a white wedding gown as a significant symbol, once that is not at all possible after a marriage. It is a rather judgey view you're right. I think its one tiny part of my Southern etiquette background I held on to, and not much more! I don't hate people that choose things different than me, just don't agree with it. I'll walk it back a little and say if the marriage was very short lived and no children were born from it then white worn 2nd x is more understandable. Don't let my voice get you down, I wish you a wonderfully happy and successful marriage- I do believe in happiness and 2nd, 3rd, etc chances.
This absolutely. The UO was on weddings, not marriages. Just as not believing in second baby showers doesn't mean you don't believe in multiple children.
Do you really think baby showers and weddings are on par? A more accurate comparison would be a baby shower and a bridal shower, or engagement party. But a wedding cost up to tens of thousands of dollars and take months to plan. It is ideally the happy couple giving back to their guests at the reception. A baby shower is $100 in decorations and maybe $500 in food if you go big. No matter how you cut it baby showers are gift grabby. That's why it only makes sense to have one. With most weddings the couple doesn't recoup in gifts the cost of the wedding, and they're not supposed to!
*Their are some cultures where the guests are supposed to give a gift or money equal to the cost of having them at the wedding, but that is not what I am talking about.
When people chew food with their mouth open!!! Did your parents never teach you manners!
Get it, you guise?? Cause it's a poplar opinion? PUNZZZZZZZ
My bad... all this talk of things that bother us and I got carried away because this kills me! Sometimes people try to argue with me on chewing with their mouth open saying it is more comfortable to eat that way... ummm no haha
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I also hate the symptoms portion of those treads for deterring knowledgable people from joining the conversation.
I don't like movies. They're too long, too graphic/emotional/formulaic etc, and I think they're a waste of time and money.
Maybe you're watching the wrong movies.
I'm open to suggestions.I have ADHD though so any movie longer than an hour and a half is hard for me to sit through. I start out playing 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon in the middle of the movie and before long I'm asking Google about the life span of squirrels. Maybe this is the real reason I don't like them.
I get where you are coming from, I cant re-watch movies. My husband can and it drives me crazy! What is the point of watching something you already know the ending to? And to make me a hypocrite I can re-read books all day long
Have you tried movies with a couple different plot lines going? Like "Love Actually" or "New Years Eve"? Those are both romcom-ish though, maybe someone else has examples of other genres.
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UO? : But tan leggings should not be worn as pants if your shirt isnt long enough to cover your booty. It looks like they are not wearing pants, gross.
I'm wearing leggings as pants today. In my defense I'm wearing a long shirt and I didn't have any clean pants.
Continuing with food UO. I hate strawberries. I don't like how they feel in my mouth.
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I think there's a difference between dressing tastefully in yogas and letting everyone see your ass.
DH brags about this. I will never stop.
I'm so glad that didn't catch on with anyone I know.
I like made-up holidays like Valentine's Day, Grandparents' Day, Boss's Day (if you like your boss), etc. Even though I fully concede that they're just opportunities to make money for Hallmark and other corporate conglomerates, I appreciate the notion that we should pause to say, "I see you. I care about you. You matter." I dont want to wait for 1.5 hours for a table on valentine's day, and I'm not asking for jewelry, but I do think it's okay to make a point to put some candlesticks on the table, throw on some lipstick, and grill that steak.
I wish more regs would post in 2WW and WTO. I think some ladies (myself included) need more opinions and knowledge in there because I know I don't want to start a thread to ask a question all the time.**in no way am I saying those that DO post and give advice there aren't knowledgeable.
I also hate the symptoms portion of those treads for deterring knowledgable people from joining the conversation.