I had my 38 week appointment today and we finalized induction for next week. I'm in such a bad mood today, I don't want to go to work.
I wish DH was here, I wish I wasn't being induced, and I'm just bummed about doing so much alone. I'm sorry I keep complaining. Maybe I need a bump break until I can quit being a Debbie Downer.
On the up side, I'm at Sonic right now eating a cheeseburger at 10:45am. The girl that brought me my food said, "Wow, you're looking large!" I told her I was having the baby in a week and not to judge me for eating a cheeseburger at 10am. She said she wouldn't tell a soul and for me to enjoy every bite. I have her a $5 tip.
Don't worry about being a downer. We are here for you. Vent and complain all you need!!
A cheeseburger sounds so good right now. I don't care how early it is!
It's not Friday but I have a confession - I stopped reading yesterday's random and pretty much anything on our board because I got caught up in the sahm drama.
I posted there a few times in the past with hopes that getting to know those ladies would help me deal with my new life as a sahm...but really they scared the crap out of me.
It will be interesting to see if the dynamic of the board changes with most of the regs gone.
@Cantisa I forgot to add this, my friend who's breast feeding right now discovered she had a sensitivity to lanolin and switched to a lanolin free nipple cream she found at whole foods. I don't know if you have one near you but you could try ANY lanolin free to see if that helps too. She said since switching she has had pain free nursing sessions.
I am terribly allergic to lanolin. I use Nature Mama Nipple Butter from Target.
Ouch! Stupid question how do you know you're allergic?
My friends experience was burning and pain from her nipples while nursing. After using a lanolin free cream she said things were so much better.
It's not Friday but I have a confession - I stopped reading yesterday's random and pretty much anything on our board because I got caught up in the sahm drama.
I posted there a few times in the past with hopes that getting to know those ladies would help me deal with my new life as a sahm...but really they scared the crap out of me.
It will be interesting to see if the dynamic of the board changes with most of the regs gone.
Cliff's Notes or link to drama?
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
Possibly a tmi question:
I feel like at 3 days pp, most of the bleeding I'm experiencing is from my tears (and def isn't period like). Normal? Not?
I just barely stopped bleeding a week ago and I delivered last month. I am not sure how I would have been able to tell where the bleeding was coming from because it was all day every day. If it makes you feel any better, you're going to be bleeding for a while. It stopped shortly after it was a more watery first day period type bleeding.
It's not Friday but I have a confession - I stopped reading yesterday's random and pretty much anything on our board because I got caught up in the sahm drama.
I posted there a few times in the past with hopes that getting to know those ladies would help me deal with my new life as a sahm...but really they scared the crap out of me.
It will be interesting to see if the dynamic of the board changes with most of the regs gone.
I have turned into the lurkiest of lurkers. I am on here every day and by the time I catch up and start a reply and have to run away to deal with real life and then decide not to post it.
I miss being in on the current drama threads! Why did they scare you and if the thread is not obvious, where is it?
@keelyd ugh. My cats would pee on baby stuff too. It's a sign of them feeling insecure and they will keep doing it if they still smell it. My cats used to do it in the pack n play. Good luck!
@gooberdoofus95 the thought of people looking at you while you squat in public made me laugh. I can only imagine the looks on their faces. Oh well. It's working! That's awesome!
I stopped pumping 2 days ago and have been working to get a handle on my milk supply. It's been a bit of a transition, but I read up on BFing finally and understand now why I had overproduction issues. Kellymom.com really does rock. Also helped me understand cluster feeding and that super fussy time in the evening is normal.
Night before last I woke up soaked in milk and laying in milk soaked sheets. Got up. The kid was asleep and the reason I was so full was because DH started taking the 12 and 2am feedings, so by 4am I was fuuuuull. I was standing in front of the sink watching as the basin filled with milk as it just flowed out and I was like, fuck this, I am going to try and catch some of it. I ran to the kitchen, got a mixing bowl and stood over it. When the flow had stopped, I had 3 ounces that I then put in a bottle. I made sure to put pads in last night and this morning did the same thing with one breast and got 2 ounces. Shortly after she did wake up to eat, so I offered her the other breast. Right as let down happened, she stopped and pooped, but then I was spraying all over her face, so I grabbed the bowl and let it flow out while my kid laid on my lap pooping. I ended up adding another ounce to the bottle in the fridge.
I stopped pumping 2 days ago and have been working to get a handle on my milk supply. It's been a bit of a transition, but I read up on BFing finally and understand now why I had overproduction issues. Kellymom.com really does rock. Also helped me understand cluster feeding and that super fussy time in the evening is normal.
Night before last I woke up soaked in milk and laying in milk soaked sheets. Got up. The kid was asleep and the reason I was so full was because DH started taking the 12 and 2am feedings, so by 4am I was fuuuuull. I was standing in front of the sink watching as the basin filled with milk as it just flowed out and I was like, fuck this, I am going to try and catch some of it. I ran to the kitchen, got a mixing bowl and stood over it. When the flow had stopped, I had 3 ounces that I then put in a bottle. I made sure to put pads in last night and this morning did the same thing with one breast and got 2 ounces. Shortly after she did wake up to eat, so I offered her the other breast. Right as let down happened, she stopped and pooped, but then I was spraying all over her face, so I grabbed the bowl and let it flow out while my kid laid on my lap pooping. I ended up adding another ounce to the bottle in the fridge.
Ooooh the joys of parenthood.
My goodness!!! Well at least you have plenty of milk
I will have to check out that website! Thanks for sharing.
Ugh - I just left a message for the pedi. This kid does not poop! He nurses great and is alert and happy, but one poop a day is not going to cut it. ~X(
How much should they poop?? I don't remember DS pooping a ton as a newborn... Oops. :-S
That's what I was thinking. I remember our pedi telling us as long as she makes a wet diaper within 12 hrs and poops once a day they are getting enough "food" and aren't dehydrated.
Im on mobile and wouldn't even know where to begin to link but it seems there was potential mod abuse drama... Some regulars got banned and while members are claiming that they were unaware of their offenses, bj and some mods have suggested that the members don't know the whole story and they were forewarned.
Apparently bj is working on a doc that more clearly defined what offenses will receive a warning/banning and how many warnings (5) will warrant a banning.
But the more epic aspect of this is that majority of SAHM regulars have now jumped ship and began posting at another site. I know where but can't say because apparently thats how one of the regs got banned immediately. I'm sure I could PM it though should you be curious.
Someone went over to parenting to warn them that the drama might continue there because they think bj and mods are on a power trip. Bj and mods posted an announcement on both sahm and parenting with a pretty vague "clarification" of what was going on.
SOOOO Question....is all sexual activity banned for 6 weeks PP or just intercourse? ;-)
Wow, I'm just impressed you are interested at all.
I've been interested for a couple weeks now. I even woke up from a wet dream. Still no room at the inn though. I was brave enough to put a finger in while I was in the shower and it was surrounded on all sides. I would be scared to put anything larger than my index.
Im sort of jealous though because we had the same due date and they wont even TALK about induction until 41 weeks. Im scheduled for an NST on Tuesday at 41+1. Blah.
My parents are going to Florida for five days starting tomorrow. I am going to completely lose my shit without my mom's help. I expect to crash and burn spectacularly.
Me: 30 | DH: 4/12/85 - 6/16/14 | Quinn Patrick born 9/28/14
@SPurp13 you are going to do great. Just think this is all moving toward the end goal of holding your precious lo. It helped me to read the same couple of lines during contractions. It was a good distraction but not too difficult to do during a contraction.
SOOOO Question....is all sexual activity banned for 6 weeks PP or just intercourse? ;-)
Wow, I'm just impressed you are interested at all.
I've been interested for a couple weeks now. I even woke up from a wet dream. Still no room at the inn though. I was brave enough to put a finger in while I was in the shower and it was surrounded on all sides. I would be scared to put anything larger than my index.
About 3 days PP, I finally got brave enough to pull out a mirror and look at what the hell is going on down there. With all the stitches, it seriously felt like my vagina had been sewn shut. But I double checked, and it's still there!
It took me a little longer to build up the courage to do that, but same here! I was like, yep, that's my vagina. I expected it to be different somehow. Like all stretched out or something, but it wasn't.
Sorry for the confusion! It's tomorrow, but it's all I can think about today. I'm just sitting around, crying. Women who get excited to go through this amaze me.
Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.
DD often will put on shoes (usually mine) and grab one of her purses. Then she tells me "bye!" And that shes going to mamaws house.
Twice now, she has done this and instead of going to Mamaws house, now she is going to "find Lydia" which is our baby girl's name. I thought it was so cute and was like "Yes, please go find where Lydia is at!"
I am currently sitting in the Safeway parking lot nursing in the front seat. The kid in the car next to me is fascinated. Awkward...
Reminds me of my little brother. A friend of mine was nursing her baby in my hotel room and he was also fascinated. My friend said something to him about how she was feeding her baby and he said, "It's cool and really weird at the same time". I think he was 10.
@Cantisa I couldn't contain myself after 5 weeks last time and my Dr was totally fine with it. I think they are mainly worried about infection from germs on objects/body parts being inserted. You could "clarify" with your dr. Trust me this is not going to be the most shocking question they have heard.
Sorry for the confusion! It's tomorrow, but it's all I can think about today. I'm just sitting around, crying. Women who get excited to go through this amaze me.
Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.
That is a very real concern, but one that is understandable to not consider. DH talked about that a lot in our HB sessions. They worry about mom and baby being alright. They have absolutely no control over the situation. They just have to be there for you and trust that the doctors/midwives/etc will make sure you two are fine. That and they have to be strong for you too.
So, what exactly is so terrifying to you right now? Maybe we can work through it here. Unless you posted about it before and I suck for not keeping up on TB required reading.
My ds1 has a fever. I think it's just a virus which is almost more frustrating because I can't give him something to cure it. It just has to run it's course. My mil arrives on Friday and then my rcs is Monday. I am really hoping he is better by then. And of course, because he's not feeling good, he only wants mommy and wants me to carry him everywhere which is not easy when he is over 40 pounds. And he wants lots of kisses so I am hoping I don't get what he has.
In better news: I finally finished my dd's big sister necklace last night and I wrapped all the sibling presents. My ds asked me what the presents were and I reminded him that he got a present for the baby. He doesn't know yet that the baby is going to give him a present too. He asked me if the baby was going to come out of me and then said he is going to give the baby a kiss and that "his" baby is nice. It was so sweet! He is so excited to have a little brother!
I am currently sitting in the Safeway parking lot nursing in the front seat. The kid in the car next to me is fascinated. Awkward...
Reminds me of my little brother. A friend of mine was nursing her baby in my hotel room and he was also fascinated. My friend said something to him about how she was feeding her baby and he said, "It's cool and really weird at the same time". I think he was 10.
The little girl (maybe 4 or 5) was totally cute. By the time Gray finished, she was nursing her doll. Her dad (who was waiting in the car with her) was absolutely embarrassed and turning red!
So much crying. Yesterday was about my dog being sad. Today is about trying to decide if I should start pumping and introduce a bottle to Archer in order to save my sanity every night. The way I look at it, the worst that could happen is he won't take my nipple afterward and we'll have to exclusively pump, which would mean lost bonding time. But, I literally *cannot* keep up with these MOTN feedings where he's constantly on there. I need DH's help. Also, my nipples are super tender and I feel like they need a break... Ugh.
It makes me sad when I read about women being upset over loss of bonding time if they aren't BFing. Every minute of the day gives the opportunity for bonding time. Every diaper change, bath, snuggle, everytime you pick up your crying baby, is bonding time. Bfing didn't work for us the first time, and I still bonded with DD. Don't worry about not being close to your baby if you don't end up BFing, he knows who his momma is, and he loves you.
Sorry for the confusion! It's tomorrow, but it's all I can think about today. I'm just sitting around, crying. Women who get excited to go through this amaze me.
Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.
That is a very real concern, but one that is understandable to not consider. DH talked about that a lot in our HB sessions. They worry about mom and baby being alright. They have absolutely no control over the situation. They just have to be there for you and trust that the doctors/midwives/etc will make sure you two are fine. That and they have to be strong for you too.
So, what exactly is so terrifying to you right now? Maybe we can work through it here. Unless you posted about it before and I suck for not keeping up on TB required reading.
Well. I'm just crazy right now. It's all just crazy word vomit in my brain.
I just think reading the aftermath stories are doing me no good. My friend with two babies never told me any of this, and she seemed fine the day she came home. I have to worry about being in excruciating pain for weeks while my house is full of people I don't want. And how will I feed her with all these people? I am 100% not comfortable with being in various stages of undress. I don't let people see me without makeup on.
Then, I'm scared of being alone with the baby when she's 2.5 weeks old, so I'll have no choice but to have my mom come. I just think I want to be alone, but no one cares.
I'm also irrationally upset about calling at 4am to see if I can go in. I already am not allowed to eat, so now I won't sleep either. How can I do this without two very basic needs?
I feel very childish and immature worrying about myself and my pain and comfort when I should be worrying about having a healthy baby.
Purp, just take it one day at a time. You make the rules. If you have visitors over and need to BF and aren't comfortable in front of others, excuse yourself to a different room. People will understand. Also, you might be scared to be alone with the baby now, but I bet by 2.5 weeks you will feel more than confident with it. Things will be hairy at first, but you do get the hang of things fairly quickly. You got this.
Re: Wednesday Randomsssssss
A cheeseburger sounds so good right now. I don't care how early it is!
I posted there a few times in the past with hopes that getting to know those ladies would help me deal with my new life as a sahm...but really they scared the crap out of me.
It will be interesting to see if the dynamic of the board changes with most of the regs gone.
My friends experience was burning and pain from her nipples while nursing. After using a lanolin free cream she said things were so much better.
Coconut oil is a good alternative!
That back pain last night sure felt like back labor. And nothin. Still pregnant.
My goodness!!! Well at least you have plenty of milk
I will have to check out that website! Thanks for sharing.
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Im on mobile and wouldn't even know where to begin to link but it seems there was potential mod abuse drama... Some regulars got banned and while members are claiming that they were unaware of their offenses, bj and some mods have suggested that the members don't know the whole story and they were forewarned.
Apparently bj is working on a doc that more clearly defined what offenses will receive a warning/banning and how many warnings (5) will warrant a banning.
But the more epic aspect of this is that majority of SAHM regulars have now jumped ship and began posting at another site. I know where but can't say because apparently thats how one of the regs got banned immediately. I'm sure I could PM it though should you be curious.
Someone went over to parenting to warn them that the drama might continue there because they think bj and mods are on a power trip. Bj and mods posted an announcement on both sahm and parenting with a pretty vague "clarification" of what was going on.
Im sort of jealous though because we had the same due date and they wont even TALK about induction until 41 weeks. Im scheduled for an NST on Tuesday at 41+1. Blah.
Wave at him.
:-h
Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.
Twice now, she has done this and instead of going to Mamaws house, now she is going to "find Lydia" which is our baby girl's name. I thought it was so cute and was like "Yes, please go find where Lydia is at!"
In better news: I finally finished my dd's big sister necklace last night and I wrapped all the sibling presents. My ds asked me what the presents were and I reminded him that he got a present for the baby. He doesn't know yet that the baby is going to give him a present too.
:-h
I totally did! The dad was so embarrassed
The little girl (maybe 4 or 5) was totally cute. By the time Gray finished, she was nursing her doll. Her dad (who was waiting in the car with her) was absolutely embarrassed and turning red!
Well. I'm just crazy right now. It's all just crazy word vomit in my brain.
I just think reading the aftermath stories are doing me no good. My friend with two babies never told me any of this, and she seemed fine the day she came home. I have to worry about being in excruciating pain for weeks while my house is full of people I don't want. And how will I feed her with all these people? I am 100% not comfortable with being in various stages of undress. I don't let people see me without makeup on.
Then, I'm scared of being alone with the baby when she's 2.5 weeks old, so I'll have no choice but to have my mom come. I just think I want to be alone, but no one cares.
I'm also irrationally upset about calling at 4am to see if I can go in. I already am not allowed to eat, so now I won't sleep either. How can I do this without two very basic needs?
I feel very childish and immature worrying about myself and my pain and comfort when I should be worrying about having a healthy baby.