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caranichole

geetargirl05 said:

@caranichole‌ I poked my head over at the SAHM drama... holy cow. There's so many posts it's overwhelming.

Yup! It's totally bonkers over there!

hgielrebmik

Cantisa said:

@Emerald27 YGPM

SOOOO Question....is all sexual activity banned for 6 weeks PP or just intercourse? ;-)

My discharge papers say 4-6 weeks, so there's that....(shhh....don't tell my DH). I wonder if it's because I didn't have any tearing this time. At 8 days PP I feel *almost* normal downstairs.

bumpuser10309732

@apk4‌ I'm sorry you're having a rough day. I know how the disappointment feels when DH is supposed to be home and he's not. Try to tell yourself you won't be in my situation ;-) he'll come home and the things that seemed big at the time won't be anymore.

[Deleted User]

@MrsBabe614 Thank you! I needed that. 

[Deleted User]

@TicketTuesday, I just saw your HDBD photo and you look adorable!! I don't know how you manage to look so good at 39 weeks. I applaud you. 

erinchrisitne424

I haven't been able to catch up, but I figured while I was catching up I would ask: If your son and husband were sick and you had a scheduled c-section in a couple days would it be irrational to call you OB and see if they could push it back a couple days. It is just a RCS I am not having any health issues why it couldn't be later. It is scheduled for 10/20. I am also on antibiotics for a cold I couldn't kick for a few weeks and I just had them filled yesterday (z-pack so I am on them 5 days). Any and all thoughts are appreciated, I have been thinking about calling all day to see if they would be able to push it back.

TheOtherJacobsons

@SPurp13 People don't talk about childbirth before you are a mother. It's really weird. It's like a secret society initiation. You can count on every mother to tell you their birth story or a part of their birth story when they come to visit. My doula and HB instructor told me this would happen and it really is a trip. They also want to hear yours, which is weird too! Suddenly everyone wants to talk about it. Part of this is that they need to work through something, so they tell it again and again. You'll need to do this too. It's therapeutic and totally normal. It just means that you can't count on your friends or family telling you about their experience before you have yours. This is both good and bad. The good part of this is that you don't hear their story and so it doesn't affect how you go into your labor mentally. The bad part is that it adds to the anxiety of the unexpected and unknown. I am in the camp of not telling my story to someone. I did tell my gay married couple BFFs mostly because they were interested and no one had ever told them what it was like before because... why? In general, it feels strange to talk about it to someone who has not had kids, so don't fault your friend. 

As far as excruciating pain goes, I have read through the C/S check ins and it seems perfectly manageable. It doesn't seem like any of these ladies are in that level of pain. Except of course the woman who posted the "Horrible Labor, Perfect Baby" post, which I seriously recommend you not read if you haven't read it already. It was not a normal situation and shouldn't enter your mind as something that would be likely to happen to you. 

Modesty really does go out the window when you have your kid. You simply can't worry about it. You can also choose when people come over and how many visitors you have. Keep in mind, most people will only be able to visit you on the weekend. You have the entire week to walk around your house in your yoga pants and bra or no bra as the case may be. You most certainly can excuse yourself and feed your baby. Most people will not overstay their welcome. Unless they are not parents and then they might... I haven't really had the heart to tell those friends to GTFO, but I would definitely give you that advice to tell them you need to rest or something so that they leave.

The baby will sleep a ton in the first few weeks, so you will definitely get the hang of it. I don't think you'll need your mom and quite honestly, I would just allow her to come visit to meet the baby and then go home. It has done wonders for me to have done that and we have definitely commiserated over that situation before. You will probably want the alone time, so try not to stress about your ability to handle it. 

In the first few months all you really need to worry about is feeding your baby and keeping that baby happy. Everything else is really not worth your time to worry about. DH will pick up the slack when he can. You do have one of those mythical unicorn husbands after all. Make lists of things you need and he will get them for you. Don't worry about leaving the house or doing anything but being with and loving your baby. That's it. 

Feel better?

nightowl1989

@SPurp13 It's going to be okay. I have doubts, too. I'm sure we all do. I mean, the closer the date gets the less and less I feel I'm ready and able to be a mom but someone pointed out to me the other day that we surprise ourselves and that even if being a mom doesn't come naturally at first, you'll get the hang of it. Just like everyone else has said...take it one day at a time.

@PurpleHippo19 That is awesome!

bumpuser10309732

savagek7 said:

So much crying. Yesterday was about my dog being sad. Today is about trying to decide if I should start pumping and introduce a bottle to Archer in order to save my sanity every night. The way I look at it, the worst that could happen is he won't take my nipple afterward and we'll have to exclusively pump, which would mean lost bonding time. But, I literally *cannot* keep up with these MOTN feedings where he's constantly on there. I need DH's help. Also, my nipples are super tender and I feel like they need a break... Ugh.

Just wanted to offer some encouragement. The crying does stop eventually (yours and the baby) ;-) and introducing a bottle won't necessarily confuse baby boy. We bottle fed my nephew pretty much exclusively for the first 2 months and then after a while he wouldn't even take a bottle. So he went backwards! Don't stress out about something that hasn't even happened yet it's totally not worth your stress.

MuffinMom14

Thanks guys. I can't wait for this to be over so it will just be dealing with the moment, rather than the unknown.

And, I agree. This board is wonderful.

So, @keelyd‌. Toast and Greek yogurt for breakfast tomorrow? That's what I was thinking.

I guess they tell you not to eat in case you have to be put under, and then you can choke if you vomit. Which I did during surgery once before. But the odds of being put under has to be less than 1%, and the odds of throwing up have to be low on top of that. That's my argument, anyway.

[Deleted User]

I feel so stupid for asking but can someone explain what contractions feel like? I've been feeling crampy for the past 45 minutes but I don't really know what to make of it. I don't think they're timeable, and although some of the cramps are low, some of them are in the middle of my abdomen too. Maybe it's just gas? I've never had period cramps before in my life (seriously), so I'm not really sure what to compare them to. I did have a miscarriage last year and remember what those cramps felt like, but they hit really hard from pretty much nowhere and it's hard to remember the specifics other than it being terribly painful.  :-/

pnwlover12

FamousEa said:

My friend who's just entering 2nd tri kinda pissed me off. So I haven't been sleeping well at night-hips,back,heartburn,pregsomnia or fucking carpal tunnel keeps me awake. So today I'm texting with her and I was telling her how tired I was and that I dozed off briefly this am while DD was awake she woke me up By playing with my face and it was brief like 1-2 minutes(cause I'm sure I'm the first mom EVER to do that) she sends me a text saying " you shouldn't do that and I hope you won't do it with a newborn" Mmmkay judgey pants. Are you in 3rd tri? Do you have a VERY active 2 year old to chase around? Have you experienced sleep deprivation yet? No? That's what I thought considering you slept in until 11 this morning. Enjoy it while you can.

Tl;dr my friend pissed me off

Now to go catch up on this thread.

Oh fuck that shit! I would have told her to suck it. I've fallen asleep several times for a few minutes here and there. Our house didn't burn to the ground and my child is alive and well. Usually if I fall asleep, I just wake up to my toddler prying my eyelids open and saying MOM MOM MOM.

You can text me and complain anyday, lady.

gooberdoofus95

@Cantisa‌ what did your dentist say' )
but seriously I'm pretty sure sex is a no no while your still bleeding and should probably wait until your 6week checkup. Also your vajayjay will hate you if you gave her an infection after what she just went through!

caranichole

@theotherjacobsons I just randomly remembered that I forgot to answer your question about why sahm scared me. "Scared" was probably not the best word choice - 

When DD1 was born, I was a full-time student finishing my degree and about a month after I finished, I went to work Full-time up until last December. After the first year of working, I had DD2 and had what I now recognize was undiagnosed PPD. I spent a lot of time away from home, even when I wasn't working I took to bars frequently and was always looking for a way out of the house. 

That being said, as of last December, I became a SAHM myself and it has been so hard. I thought that slowly joining in that group would help me get better at it or something but I ended up feeling crappier about myself and my parenting. It really wasn't their fault that I felt crappy at all but then add on top of that arguments about whether or not to feed your LO pouches when I was doing it frequently (because they liked them as a snack and they were healthy), it just made me crazy and I had to stop. 

MollyC20

SPurp13 said:

Thanks guys. I can't wait for this to be over so it will just be dealing with the moment, rather than the unknown.

And, I agree. This board is wonderful.

So, @keelyd‌. Toast and Greek yogurt for breakfast tomorrow? That's what I was thinking.

I guess they tell you not to eat in case you have to be put under, and then you can choke if you vomit. Which I did during surgery once before. But the odds of being put under has to be less than 1%, and the odds of throwing up have to be low on top of that. That's my argument, anyway.

Another thing you don't think about and no one really talks about, is once your baby is born, it's like an instinct you never knew you had is there. This protective, basic, motherly instinct that's hard to even imagine. Sure there will be nights when you think "why won't you stop crying", but you are a different person once they're born and it's such an amazing experience you won't be focused on some of the other stuff you're freaked out about.

gooberdoofus95

@erinchrisitne424‌ if there's nothing medically wrong in which you absolutely need the SC right away then I personally would call and ask to change it. The last thing I would want to deal with is a sick newborn!

@SPurp13‌ I can't wait to hear about your birth story because I bet it will be amazing, you got this girl! We are ALL here for you!

[Deleted User]

My mom just got into town and is staying at an extended stay hotel. My brother just sent me pictures of said hotel and commented, "It's nice and clean for the baby to stay, too."

Umm, my family is completely mistaken if they think I am letting my newborn stay at a hotel anytime without me at all. My mom can visit LO at my house. 

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crawford411 said:

My mom just got into town and is staying at an extended stay hotel. My brother just sent me pictures of said hotel and commented, "It's nice and clean for the baby to stay, too."

Umm, my family is completely mistaken if they think I am letting my newborn stay at a hotel anytime without me at all. My mom can visit LO at my house. 

That's cray.

Yeah I think they are a bit unrealistic about this whole first grandchild deal. There may be a rude awakening in store for both my family and my ILs.

LightBright515

I just want my milk to come in. I feel like I'm starving LO without being sure of the colostrum...

pnwlover12

Oh hell yes. Just confirmed that our insurance will cover baby boy's circumcision. I was not expecting this at all and it's a huge financial relief because my DH's work is going through a slow period right now. Gotta love commercial construction.

victoria+james

@knittymeggy‌ - My fingers are crossed for Parker!

@Cantisa‌ - Go for the nipple shield! The ONLY thing I don't like about it is that it adds one extra step when you're getting ready to feed LO.

@sabby2‌ - Right there with you! Mason screamed at me from 10pm until midnight then refused to sleep and fussed off and on the rest of the night. Here's hoping we get some more sleep tonight!

@SPurp13‌ - You're going to do wonderfully! Don't worry

hgielrebmik

I just got all excited because there was a DD on Jan 15. It was a total letdown.

MollyC20

TicketTuesday said:

Today's "mommy & DS day" has consisted of otter pops for breakfast, a morning bike ride to the park, Chickfiluh for lunch, and now we are snuggling up watching The Nightmare Before Christmas together, which will probably be followed by another bike ride. And several more otter pops. I'm letting him choose. As excited as I am for this baby, thinking about our last days together just the two of us makes my heart ache a little.

I'm the same way! Today we bought "How do Dinosaurs Say I Love You" book (we read the bed time one to DD every night and she makes us say "goodnight dinosaur" to her)

I was reading it for naptime and could not stop crying because it's so sweet and I've been so emotional each day wondering if it'd be the last with just her.

golfingdarwinfish

SPurp13 said:

Sorry for the confusion! It's tomorrow, but it's all I can think about today. I'm just sitting around, crying. Women who get excited to go through this amaze me.

Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.

@‌spurp13

I was a crying mess for days, and now I'm laying here waiting to be told to push, and I'm in sonewhat high spirits (maybe it's the drugs?). I feel like you and I have been in a similar place mentally, so I thought id share.

nightowl1989

You know...my mom told me I would know when I was in labor and then proceeded to admit that she didn't know she was until she started spotting and that she really felt no pain until her water broke 20 mins before she had to push. Seriously not helping.

MuffinMom14

nightowl1989 said:

You know...my mom told me I would know when I was in labor and then proceeded to admit that she didn't know she was until she started spotting and that she really felt no pain until her water broke 20 mins before she had to push. Seriously not helping.

My mom went to the hospital because her back hurt. When she got there, they said "you can't feel anything?" She said no, and they said, "I can feel your baby's head. Push."

So, excuse me if I don't take labor tips and late-stage pregnancy suggestions from her. I was born at 36 weeks, 5 pounds. She knows nothing about being uncomfortable or pushing a 10 pound baby out. So, stfu.

MuffinMom14

golfingdarwinfish said:

SPurp13 said:

Sorry for the confusion! It's tomorrow, but it's all I can think about today. I'm just sitting around, crying. Women who get excited to go through this amaze me.

Last night I was crying and my husband started to cry, and I was like, what's wrong, you don't have to go through this, and he said, "I have to be scared something will happen to you." I felt like an asshole.

@‌spurp13

I was a crying mess for days, and now I'm laying here waiting to be told to push, and I'm in sonewhat high spirits (maybe it's the drugs?). I feel like you and I have been in a similar place mentally, so I thought id share.

I love you for this, but focus, momma! Pay no attention to the needies in the rando thread!

pnwlover12

Disgusting TMI here...

But what the hell is going on in my colon? I wouldn't say my poop normally smells great, but my third tri poop is just wrong, probably worse than my H's. I'm grossed out.

MuffinMom14

pnwlover12 said:

Disgusting TMI here...

But what the hell is going on in my colon? I wouldn't say my poop normally smells great, but my third tri poop is just wrong, probably worse than my H's. I'm grossed out.

I keep praying I poop before 6am tomorrow. Not like it matters. I'm going to poop in front of 10 people anyway.

pnwlover12

SPurp13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

Disgusting TMI here...

But what the hell is going on in my colon? I wouldn't say my poop normally smells great, but my third tri poop is just wrong, probably worse than my H's. I'm grossed out.

I keep praying I poop before 6am tomorrow. Not like it matters. I'm going to poop in front of 10 people anyway.

I was so terrified I was going to poop when I pushed, and I don't think I did. Dh said he saw no fecal matter so if I did, the nurses were on that shit (hee hee) instantly and whisked it away.

MuffinMom14

theresat858 said:

Is anyone else having hot flashes? Not sure if it is a normal post partum thing.

I'm having them this week, but this thing is still inside.

MuffinMom14

pnwlover12 said:

SPurp13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

Disgusting TMI here...

But what the hell is going on in my colon? I wouldn't say my poop normally smells great, but my third tri poop is just wrong, probably worse than my H's. I'm grossed out.

I keep praying I poop before 6am tomorrow. Not like it matters. I'm going to poop in front of 10 people anyway.

I was so terrified I was going to poop when I pushed, and I don't think I did. Dh said he saw no fecal matter so if I did, the nurses were on that shit (hee hee) instantly and whisked it away.

I mean. It's so gross the whole thing to me. But I didn't choose the profession. It's not like a chef is delivering my baby (although the jailspitol doubling up jobs sounds about right). They chose it. It's probably not even gross to them.

bumpuser10309732

windwithfingers said:

My parents are going to Florida for five days starting tomorrow. I am going to completely lose my shit without my mom's help. I expect to crash and burn spectacularly.

Oh man I freaked out when DH had to leave for work. You can do it! Is there a friend/family member you can call if you feel like going insane?

bumpuser10309732

@pnwlover12‌ I'm booing over here that you still have an inside baby

hgielrebmik

SPurp13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

SPurp13 said:

pnwlover12 said:

Disgusting TMI here...

But what the hell is going on in my colon? I wouldn't say my poop normally smells great, but my third tri poop is just wrong, probably worse than my H's. I'm grossed out.

I keep praying I poop before 6am tomorrow. Not like it matters. I'm going to poop in front of 10 people anyway.

I was so terrified I was going to poop when I pushed, and I don't think I did. Dh said he saw no fecal matter so if I did, the nurses were on that shit (hee hee) instantly and whisked it away.

I mean. It's so gross the whole thing to me. But I didn't choose the profession. It's not like a chef is delivering my baby (although the jailspitol doubling up jobs sounds about right). They chose it. It's probably not even gross to them.

Trust me, in the moment, you won't care if you do. Well, that or I'm a special snowflake who takes no shame in pooping on the delivery table.

bumpuser10309732

@SPurp13‌ I know that you're freaked out now but in the heat of the moment something kicks in and you just do what you have to to get through it. When I was without DH I about lost my shit half a dozen times but something kept kicking in that told me I just need to do what needs to be done to make sure LO is safe. You just stop thinking about yourself and worrying about your tiny person. You're going to be a total badass!

BreandMikewedding

@savagek7‌ with my second lo I planned a vaginal birth and was super committed to bf. I ended up having a c-section and it was very surreal. I don't know if all c-section mom's feel like this, but I felt very disconnected from the baby. I didn't feel or see him come out of me and he was just suddenly there. I didn't have an instant bond. Then I tried to BF and literally had no milk. They had me pump to see how much milk I was producing and there was no moisture at all. I switched to formula feeding and never tried to BF again. My ds Is now 2.5 and we are super bonded! You can still bond doing everything you do on a daily basis with your lo. You won't have less of a bond if you bottle feed and you won't have less of a bond if lo goes to daycare. I know that is something else mom's worry about.

MollyC20

I know nobody wants to be induced (including me)... But I'm REALLY scared about labor because my doc is constantly AMAAAZED at how big my belly is (I'm only 5'0, and yesterday my belly measured 48 cm). He's done US's, and everyone's reaction is "WOW he's a big baby! Big head, big abdomen..." I'm really nervous about his shoulders getting stuck and having to break his collarbone, Or me tearing so bad I have a vaginus ... But no induction before 41 weeks (which I know is good and normal and big babies don't mean induction early... But cue freak out)

PLEASE COME SOON!!!!!

pnwlover12

MrsBabe614 said:

@pnwlover12‌ I'm booing over here that you still have an inside baby

Right?! How is this even possible.

Emerald27

I didn't poop when I delivered either baby, but I did have to poop several times while I was in labor...I think my body was clearing itself out prepping for baby.

So don't worry. You probably won't poop while delivering and even if you do, it's not a big deal and they clean it away fast!