Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Wednesday Randoms
I kind of feel the same about working. I really enjoy working and don't think I could be a SAHM (financially or just because it's not a good fit for me right now, and I wouldn't enjoy it full time), but I do hope that I can change my work schedule or commute because I feel like this is going to be hard to maintain with two babies. We'll see!
Also random - it's free coffee week at Racetrac. I haven't been in yet because DS always wants a snack whenever we go in there (he loves the roller food - my current self is laughing at my "Sugar and junk food will hardly ever touch my sweet baby's lips" 2 years ago self), but I think I'll go after work today.
https://m.facebook.com/RaceTrac/photos/a.437812631646.230550.21110171646/10152524873231647/?type=1&source=45&refid=17
VioletGjoni - I love Kirklands too! Except I think they all closed in my area. Makes my wallet happier, but makes me kinda sad :-p I bet that room looks spectacular!
1. I was out of milk for DS this morning, so I stopped by Publix on the way to dropping him off at his DCPs, and I bought milk and also got a free cookie for DS from the bakery. Am I a bad mom for giving him a chocolate chip cookie before he ate breakfast? Lmk.
2. Someone at work brought in these huge (like 4-5 inch diameter) chocolate chip cookies, and I meant to only eat half and save the rest for tomorrow, but I kept breaking off pieces and eating it until I ate the whole thing.
Pre-lit trees are awesome!!! It's amazing how great they look- as long as you get one that looks somewhat real and isn't 'cheap' looking. I definitley reccomend them!
Eta: if your going to get one, I recommend spending a little more. The more expensive trees look more realistic and the lights don't go out as easily. My mom had a really nice one and it lasted 9 years before she had any issues with lights going out.
I LOVE real trees and colored lights. I know it's busy, but I love the happy chaos of colors. This year we'll be doing a fake tree (my brother and his fiancee bought us a fake tree back when we were living in Miami and real trees were redonkulously expensive) just so I don't have to worry about clean up if LO arrives early before we have a chance to put it away.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
"when did you get married?" wtf kinda comment is that! because you have to be married to have a kid? That came off as super rude. Assumptions..... you know. people can be so annoying.
I'm super thrilled about my girl making her debut in like 12 weeks--BUT--it's really starting to sink in. And by "it" I mean the fact that in order for her to be here, I ACTUALLY have to go through labor. FOR REALS. No backing out. Is anyone else suddenly not feeling ready for this?!!