Wednesday Randoms

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I need some randoms

What's on your mind?

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ladyamanuet said:

I am really annoyed with my bank right now and even more annoyed that I have to spend my lunch break going into a branch to deal with it. BOO.

I am starting to really bum hard about not being able to be home more.  I don't think I could pull off being a full time SAHM, but I really wish I could work like 8-3 so I could be home after school for J's daughters now, and our daughter in the future....

I am starting to really freak out that J hasn't found a new job.  I know that it takes time, especially in this economy, but if he doesn't have something lined up before Thanksgiving, he is likely out of a job, and I don't know what we'll do since that is 2 months before the baby comes.....

Things come in 3's, eh? That just means things will now start to get better.

So much on your plate, I'm sorry. Especially job hunting. I really hope he finds one quickly *hugs*

Maebb

@ladyamanuet‌, I hope J's able to find a job!

I kind of feel the same about working. I really enjoy working and don't think I could be a SAHM (financially or just because it's not a good fit for me right now, and I wouldn't enjoy it full time), but I do hope that I can change my work schedule or commute because I feel like this is going to be hard to maintain with two babies. We'll see!

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... and I'm nervous about being a SAHM, since we're on that subject.

Minus this bed rest gig, I've never not worked. I've worked since I was 16.  And only stopped working once we moved to Canada because I'm not legally allowed (and couldn't anyway now).  But I can't actually work until my paperwork all goes through and the perm residency process is done.  So I'll be a SAHM by default.  And while I'm really excited I'll get to be home all day with her, I'm kinda nervous because I never assumed I would be one. I enjoy/need my adult interaction, I enjoy working and I hope I have the patience.

Maebb

I Googled "donut cake" pictures for @HappyMonkey817‌'s birthday, and now I really want one. Dang it.

Also random - it's free coffee week at Racetrac. I haven't been in yet because DS always wants a snack whenever we go in there (he loves the roller food - my current self is laughing at my "Sugar and junk food will hardly ever touch my sweet baby's lips" 2 years ago self), but I think I'll go after work today.

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bouguerba

My mom is so horrible she kept me up allllll night she was drunk and I was spending the night (big mistake) and she kept touching my hair or back then when I kept screaming to stop she started talking or playing the tv super loud then she hit me 4 or 5 times because she's stupid so I left earlier then needed for school and now I'm exhausted and super mad...AND I have 2 tests today...sorry my random was a rant buttttttt aghhh I had to get that out!!

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Firefly3911 said:

... and I'm nervous about being a SAHM, since we're on that subject.

Minus this bed rest gig, I've never not worked. I've worked since I was 16.  And only stopped working once we moved to Canada because I'm not legally allowed (and couldn't anyway now).  But I can't actually work until my paperwork all goes through and the perm residency process is done.  So I'll be a SAHM by default.  And while I'm really excited I'll get to be home all day with her, I'm kinda nervous because I never assumed I would be one. I enjoy/need my adult interaction, I enjoy working and I hope I have the patience.

----------- We can do face time/Skype sessions so we both get our adult talk time.

DEAL!  

I feel starving today and I'm watching the clock for lunch...  you know time goes slow when you watch the clock every minute?

Maebb

@bouguerba‌, that sounds like an unhealthy and potentially unsafe situation for you and baby. Is there someone else you can talk to? It sounds like you don't live with your mom full-time. Does this happen often with your mom? I hope you have a good place to live and your mom is able to get help. Good luck on your tests today.

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ExcitedMama2 said:

... and I'm nervous about being a SAHM, since we're on that subject.

Minus this bed rest gig, I've never not worked. I've worked since I was 16.  And only stopped working once we moved to Canada because I'm not legally allowed (and couldn't anyway now).  But I can't actually work until my paperwork all goes through and the perm residency process is done.  So I'll be a SAHM by default.  And while I'm really excited I'll get to be home all day with her, I'm kinda nervous because I never assumed I would be one. I enjoy/need my adult interaction, I enjoy working and I hope I have the patience.

Are there any volunteer positions you could do? Even if you get a sitter for a couple hours a week or something. Might be nice to get out once in a while! But like @ladyamanuet‌ said...we'll be your adult interaction!

I didn't get much time to live here before I landed in the hospital, so I'm not even sure what's around or what I can do.  I might research that

bouguerba

@maebb yeah it was a one time thing but still I was so mad..I live with my husband..he was away for work but i don't know... now Im just mad about the whole situation...thanks though

MusicFanatic

Whenever people talk about Christmas it reminds me I'll have a baby before then :-O

I listened to Christmas music last week.  I was in the mood. But not there this week. It was colder last week? It made me festive.

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I love pop tarts.  I like the pumpkin pie ones they usually have for fall. 

infinity092813

I'm hungry.  I eat every few hours and I'm still hungry.  In fact, I'm hungry even while I'm eating.  I woke up at 2:30am last night hungry & asked my DH if he was hungry too and he said not really. :P

AlfiesMOM

I posted last week (or Monday I forget) about the other guy I work with getting a larger raise then me. Well when going through next years budget with my boss today he told me he told me the guy will be getting laid off. I guess we have a real budget crunch and so we have to lay 7 people off. He asked me if I would be up for taking on a little more responsibility next year.... He also said he felt really terrible and was going to put him in for a raise so when his severence gets paid out he is at least at the higher salary. It all makes sense now... glad I didn't say anything! Its the worse part about having access to his email is I only get snap shots of the whole story!!

pleirey

VioletGjoni  - I love Kirklands too!  Except I think they all closed in my area.  Makes my wallet happier, but makes me kinda sad :-p  I bet that room looks spectacular!

peggels24

My sisters and BFF surprised me with a shower on Sunday - it was fantastic and I'm still reeling from how much stuff we got.  I also had a lot of people bring hand-me-downs to the shower in addition to the new stuff so I might wind up returning some of the bigger items that I have duplicates of (which means I can buy my monitor that I finally decided on).

I wasn't feeling so great yesterday so I took the day off - I was crampy and had a lot of nausea - but after laying down and drinking water, I feel a ton better today.

I got my glucose test out of the way this morning - Fx for good results tomorrow!

AlfiesMOM

ladyamanuet said:

AlfiesMOM said:

I posted last week (or Monday I forget) about the other guy I work with getting a larger raise then me. Well when going through next years budget with my boss today he told me he told me the guy will be getting laid off. I guess we have a real budget crunch and so we have to lay 7 people off. He asked me if I would be up for taking on a little more responsibility next year.... He also said he felt really terrible and was going to put him in for a raise so when his severence gets paid out he is at least at the higher salary. It all makes sense now... glad I didn't say anything! Its the worse part about having access to his email is I only get snap shots of the whole story!!

I hope you are getting a raise for taking on more responsibility though!

And sucks for that guy. And very nice of your boss to raise his salary so he gets a better severance.  Most would not do that

I agree... and that was the weirdest part is he is a REALLY nice guy! That was why I was so confused!! I am getting a raise probably around 5-7% we are going to discuss the details at my performance review next month!

Disneygeek77

DD is on fall break this week and we are doing a staycation instead of going somewhere.  So far it hasn't been bad, but it has been raining a lot so stuff on our list like going to the zoo or pumpkin picking hasn't happened yet.

Like others, I am also excited about Christmas.  I don't know if this is a weird form of nesting or excitement, but I keep wanting to go look at Christmas stuff.  So far we have been to Costco, Garden Ridge, Home Goods and Kirklands.  I always love Christmas stuff, but this year the urge to decorate and bake is much stronger.  

Valm999

Today I have a positive Wednesday random. I went to the little coffee shop in my work building to get tea, and the coffee shop manager gave me free apple and banana for the baby in my tummy lol that was very kind and sweet of her!

Maebb

Two cookie-related FFWCs -

1. I was out of milk for DS this morning, so I stopped by Publix on the way to dropping him off at his DCPs, and I bought milk and also got a free cookie for DS from the bakery. Am I a bad mom for giving him a chocolate chip cookie before he ate breakfast? Lmk.

2. Someone at work brought in these huge (like 4-5 inch diameter) chocolate chip cookies, and I meant to only eat half and save the rest for tomorrow, but I kept breaking off pieces and eating it until I ate the whole thing.

Disneygeek77

We are thinking of getting a pre- lit Christmas tree.  Mine is over ten years old and is looking worn.  Plus it isn't pre lit.  

Does anyone here have a pre lit tree and like it ? I ask because we saw one at Costco we liked and are considering buying it as I know their trees might be gone by December.  Yeah I know, December.

britb618

I am feeling sooo much better today! I woke up and took my daughter for a walk down to the water, which her and I both enjoyed and then once I realized that the walk didn't make me want to pass out from exhaustion I got ready for work. 

I was thinking this a.m. (since I couldn't sleep) that I need to start setting new goals or dreams or something...and this is a good thing. Because I have accomplished everything I had wanted to accomplish by age 30 (which I will be in February). Some are things that I had control over, like getting into law school, passing the bar and becoming a lawyer...and other things were sort of luck, meeting my husband, someone who has the same values as me etc., having a daughter (since I can remember I have wanted a daughter more than anything in the world!) and now having a son. And then purchasing our dream home, which was a little luck and a lot of hard work combined. I feel extraordinarily lucky to have met all of my goals. When the book the secret came out (which I never read) my mom told me that I should have wrote it because I always said if you envision what you want your life to be, you can make it happen. (apparently that is what the book is about, idk) So I always said, law school, law job, engaged 25, married 26, pregnant 27, and done having kids by 30 and wanting a house of our own. Somehow my life has happened on that schedule. The cool thing is that now that I don't have plans, anythings game So I'm really looking forward to seeing what I can dream up for the future! 

Disneygeek77

britb618 said:

I am feeling sooo much better today! I woke up and took my daughter for a walk down to the water, which her and I both enjoyed and then once I realized that the walk didn't make me want to pass out from exhaustion I got ready for work. 

I was thinking this a.m. (since I couldn't sleep) that I need to start setting new goals or dreams or something...and this is a good thing. Because I have accomplished everything I had wanted to accomplish by age 30 (which I will be in February). Some are things that I had control over, like getting into law school, passing the bar and becoming a lawyer...and other things were sort of luck, meeting my husband, someone who has the same values as me etc., having a daughter (since I can remember I have wanted a daughter more than anything in the world!) and now having a son. And then purchasing our dream home, which was a little luck and a lot of hard work combined. I feel extraordinarily lucky to have met all of my goals. When the book the secret came out (which I never read) my mom told me that I should have wrote it because I always said if you envision what you want your life to be, you can make it happen. (apparently that is what the book is about, idk) So I always said, law school, law job, engaged 25, married 26, pregnant 27, and done having kids by 30 and wanting a house of our own. Somehow my life has happened on that schedule. The cool thing is that now that I don't have plans, anythings game So I'm really looking forward to seeing what I can dream up for the future! 

I understand and I have been blesssed as well.  My new goals now involve travel.  Regional travel every year, Disneyworld by 2017, then Alaska and then Europe.

honeybeee3

ExcitedMama2 said:

Disneygeek77 said:

We are thinking of getting a pre- lit Christmas tree.  Mine is over ten years old and is looking worn.  Plus it isn't pre lit.  

Does anyone here have a pre lit tree and like it ? I ask because we saw one at Costco we liked and are considering buying it as I know their trees might be gone by December.  Yeah I know, December.

I got a 7.5 foot prelit from home depot last year and I love it! Easy to set up, looks realistic enough, and each section lights up as you connect it to the base.

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Pre-lit trees are awesome!!! It's amazing how great they look- as long as you get one that looks somewhat real and isn't 'cheap' looking. I definitley reccomend them!

Eta: if your going to get one, I recommend spending a little more. The more expensive trees look more realistic and the lights don't go out as easily. My mom had a really nice one and it lasted 9 years before she had any issues with lights going out.

Disneygeek77

See Costco's tree seems really nice.  They have realistic plastic needles instead of the cheapie paper needles.  Their trees also can have white, colored or blinking lights.  

Hmmmm, what to do, what to do.  I am usually the one that puts the lights on the tree and every year my hand gets little cuts on it.  Every year I say " Next year we will get a pre lit tree " and I have been saying that for a few years now.  

Disneygeek77

We actually put our tree up pretty early, not going to say when because people will think we are crazy, but a real tree wouldn't last until Christmas.  At least I don't think it would.  I am considering buying real garland though.

See, the tree we like at Costco alternates between white and colored lights and I really like that because we usually do colored lights every year.  Hmmmmmm.

honeybeee3

Don't get me wrong, I love real trees too! I grew up in the redwoods of California, I mean how could I not love real trees? I think both real and fake are great for Christmas- I love all things Christmas!!

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ExcitedMama2 said:

All this talk about Christmas decorations makes me want to go get those cinnamon pinecones and put them all over the house. I love those things.

I LOVE these.

We can't really do real trees  Both H and I have pretty bad allergies and a real tree makes us flare up.  So we usually do fake. Every so often we re-try and really regret it as we sneeze for weeks and get itchy eyes. Really frustrating. I love all trees, though. There are some super nice fake ones that look real.  We alternate colored & white lights each year.  I love both so we switch it up.  AHHHHHHHH CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!

mmur76

I'm debating going to pre-natal yoga tonight.  I signed up for a group of classes a few weeks ago (paid for 8 classes, but you don't have to go in succession).  I went once and it seems like something keeps interfering (it's only on Wednesday nights).  If I go tonight I will have to run right over after work & a meeting.  I know I will feel better if I go, but the thought of just going home seems so much more appealing right now.  Not sure why this is weighing on my mind so much... #firstworldproblems

southernyankeegirl

Now I want to decorate our bushes with Christmas lights.  I feel like I need to wait until after Thanksgiving, though.... at least until after Halloween...

I LOVE real trees and colored lights.  I know it's busy, but I love the happy chaos of colors.  This year we'll be doing a fake tree (my brother and his fiancee bought us a fake tree back when we were living in Miami and real trees were redonkulously expensive) just so I don't have to worry about clean up if LO arrives early before we have a chance to put it away.

britb618

I bought christmas lights last year that play christmas music and the lights dance to the music! Ah! They only came in colored lights though, my daughter absolutely loves them! Got them on amazon You can turn off the music so its not like it continuously plays if the lights are on. 

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ExcitedMama2 said:

Annoying conversation with a random friend on FB...that I personally told I was pregnant like a month ago...

Her: "Hey!  When is your daughter due?"

Me: "Son But end of January."

Her: "The mom isn't going to back out, right?"

Me: "??"

Her: "You're adopting aren't you?"

Me: "I'm still on an adoption wait list, but I'm also pregnant.  The baby I'm pregnant with is due in January "

Her: "Oh!  When did you get married?!"

Me: "I'm not married."

Her: "Oh...does the dad even know?!"

"when did you get married?" wtf kinda comment is that! because you have to be married to have a kid? That came off as super rude. Assumptions..... you know. people can be so annoying.

britb618

@emmyg65, can we see a wedding pic  

AEM371

I have too many things swirling around in my brain lately, I can't focus on anything!

I'm super thrilled about my girl making her debut in like 12 weeks--BUT--it's really starting to sink in. And by "it" I mean the fact that in order for her to be here, I ACTUALLY have to go through labor. FOR REALS. No backing out. Is anyone else suddenly not feeling ready for this?!!

britb618

@excitedmama2, wow, just wow. what a rude person! Your better than me for just xing out of the convo. 

bkmama

Christmas is my favorite holiday by far. Baby girl is due 1/1 but is consistently measuring a few days ahead of schedule. Maybe (hopefully?) she'll be born right around the lull between Christmas and New Years. 

I grew up going to farms to pick out a real Christmas tree, and the smell of real pine in the living room is a favorite memory. I live in the middle of the city now, so not sure if/how I can get a real tree, but this year seems special enough to warrant the effort of looking for one...

I am also a colorful lights preferrer BUT I really admire the elegance of an all-white tree. So pretty.

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ladyamanuet said:

MusicFanatic said:

ExcitedMama2 said:

Annoying conversation with a random friend on FB...that I personally told I was pregnant like a month ago...

Her: "Hey!  When is your daughter due?"

Me: "Son But end of January."

Her: "The mom isn't going to back out, right?"

Me: "??"

Her: "You're adopting aren't you?"

Me: "I'm still on an adoption wait list, but I'm also pregnant.  The baby I'm pregnant with is due in January "

Her: "Oh!  When did you get married?!"

Me: "I'm not married."

Her: "Oh...does the dad even know?!"

"when did you get married?" wtf kinda comment is that! because you have to be married to have a kid? That came off as super rude. Assumptions..... you know. people can be so annoying.

I hate people.

People assume this LO is an accident because J and I aren't married.  And keep asking when we are going to get married.  We don't need to be married because we are having a child.  And we were TRYING to have a child.  We didn't tell you about it because frankly our sex life is none of your damn business

This always rubs me so wrong.

My sister found out she was pregnant just a bit ago and isn't married, and they were trying for 11 months. They've been together for what seems like ages, they've just decided they don't want to get married yet. Their business.  And I'm sure she'll get the same questions.. "when are you getting married?"... because, you know, it's supposed to be the thing to do?   I know so many single mothers or unmarried mothers (or mothers in long term relationships that simply don't want to marry yet or ever) so it never hits me well when people make assumptions like this.

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@Excitedmama2 - we have a mish mash tree usually.  I have ornaments on my tree that my mom gave me when I moved out/got married. I have ornaments my niece made me when she was little. I have ornaments I liked and bough. Some from friends.  Crazy tree filled with all sorts.. and that's how I love it!

Lanatir

Driving home from the store today someone was seriously in my lane coming around a curve and as they were going downhill/I'm coming uphill.

I don't remember much of anything other than DD had actually passed out in the car, like JUST passed out, and apparently my instincts were to move over onto the white line, hit the breaks, and hit the horn.

I didn't realize I was still on the horn until after the stupid blue pickup was past me and DD was saying "What happened?"

The most ridiculous part?  I felt more pissed off I lost a chance at DD napping because she didn't fall back asleep after that than I was upset about almost being in an accident...  Rationally, and looking back on it a few hours later, I'm like "holy crap I don't remember much but yellow lines under the passenger side of the blue truck and then the horn sounding."  Toddlers waking you up at 6 AM sucks.

Maebb

Christmas tree preference - I love a real tree (we climb the mountain and pick it out ourselves, and then the guy cuts it down with a chainsaw, lol), white lights, and a mix of all kinds of ornaments, mostly sentimental.

Lanatir

@LadyAmanuet-- ugh job hunting.  I hope it goes well!  Andplusalso-- white lights FTW.