I need help (graphic/upsetting)

EIsieMae · October 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

texasmama15 · October 2014

Big hugs to you and you're in my thoughts. I'm so sorry you are going through this and hope you are able to find some groups to reach out to. There is lots of support out there so know you are not alone!

ambarnett1 · October 2014

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I have struggled with mental illness (anxiety and depression) since I was a teenager. It is a hard thing, but treatment is best. Again, I am so sorry.

BrittianyM · October 2014

Sending thoughts and prayers your guys way!

amiligrace · October 2014

Thank you to EVERYONE for the amazing kindness and support you have shown me. Today has been so hectic and I am falling behind on my responses. I appreciate every response and it really has made this process easier. The good news is that I made it to my OB appointment today, and my baby has a strong and healthy heartbeat. It was the most beautiful sound I have ever heard! I am going home to stay with my parents for a while so I won't be alone here. @robotpcr‌ @JerseyAKL‌ @coffeeismylyfe‌ @texasmama15‌ @CoPilot2012‌ @gauxie‌ @irishtheatrechic‌ @scatteredtrees‌ @oregonhill @NariaDreaming‌ @marybeth080710‌ @queenhoneybee‌ @ElsieMae

Jillian8488 · October 2014

I am so sorry you are having to go through this. It sounds like you are military, if that is the case there are so many free options you can look into. They usually have counselers on every base and they can help and also direct you to more resources.

amiligrace · October 2014

@Jillian8488‌ my husband is in the military. His superiors have been incredible and I found out I will be able to get counseling back at home. Thank you for your advice. @ramy3‌ thank you for your support. I appreciate the kind words. I have a lot of hope right now!

KellyFM522 · October 2014

I have nothing to say that hasn't already been said. But, I hope you feel the love from this online community, I know the internet can be anti social and anti human sometimes, but if we could all drive to your house to hold your hand and cry with you, we would. We would bring you dinner and do your laundry and wash your dishes. Please wrap your arms around yourself and feel our love for you.

The three of you are in my prayers.

mrsb628 · October 2014

The PP have given great advice so I don't have anything to add there. I wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you and praying for you three.

jwm29 · October 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this. I know that dealing with mental illness can be so hard and I admire your strength right now. The other ladies have offered great advice! Counselling for yourself
Too seems like a great option to explore!

byrs10 · October 2014

Hi, I battle severe depression and have attempted suicide on several occasions. So in a way I know what your husband is going through. Things do get better and psychiatric wards aren't like those in movies. If anything, they are great for a time out. And maybe that's what your husband needs right now. So I would look at the hospital stay as a huge positive first of all!
When he gets out of hospital, there are crisis units all over the country, they can be helpful and give family members peace of mind. They can speak with your husband daily or weekly or whenever they see fit.
Also, getting into talking therapies as soon as possible would be great. I am still on a waiting list and have come of medication due to pregnancy, so it's just a ticking time bomb.
And most of all, never take it personally or think your husband wants to leave your family. It sounds awful but right now he either thinks you are better off without him; or, he isn't thinking of you at all.
Suicidal thinking just strips you of happiness. I bet if he could take a step back and looked at his life with you, he would realise just how lucky he is.
Things will get better, it will take time but they will

I'm here if you need someone.

nykkybaby · October 2014

Just wanted you to know I am saying prayers for all three of you and am here if you need someone to talk to.

LinnyAnn243 · October 2014

I am so sorry for what you are going through. There are so many things one can say....your husband obviously has hurts that he felt he couldn't control. Enjoy your time of healing back home with your parents, just don't forget that your husband and your baby together is still your family and he needs your support, pregnant or not. God will care for you and your baby so just keep up the good work. Your mother in law is hurting and grabbing at straws to understand her son's pain. It's no one's fault that your husband hurts, not hers or yours or anyone's, but she probably cannot see past her own pain. Don't let her comments hurt you too deeply. Pray and ask God to give her peace. Ask God to give you understanding and strength. I promise you he will. Whether you are by yourself or in a group, you are not alone. God is with you always. He is ready to listen and to be there for you, to lift you up, but you have to ask.

"28Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30

Make this your prayer. Let God be yours eyes, because when we go through an experience as painful as this one, we cannot see clearly on out own. I will pray for you, your husband, your baby, your mother in law, and all who surround you. God bless you.

thisbabysactingfresh · October 2014

Knottie45941564 Good morning my dear, just checking in on you! You and your family are on my mind. xo

Morenajuliet · October 2014

Knottie45941564 said:

The good news is that I made it to my OB appointment today, and my baby has a strong and healthy heartbeat. It was the most beautiful sound I have ever heard!

Hey lady,

I was just checking back in . Congratulations on your wonderful appointment news!

amiligrace · October 2014

@KellyFM522‌ the support and kindness here has been incredible. I know that everyone here is generous and thoughtful and would do all the things you mentioned. I really appreciate your kindness. @Starbuck128‌ @mrsb628‌ @jwm29‌ I appreciate your kind responses, and for reminding me to do things for myself and take care of myself. Very appreciated. @byrs10‌ thank you for the great insight. I'm still trying to understand and process everything so it's nice to hear your point of view. I appreciate your response so much. @LinnyAnn243‌ @nykkybaby‌ thank you for the prayers and kind words. I really need them right now. It's comforting to know I'm not alone. @thisbabysactingfresh‌ @Morenajuliet‌ thank you so much for checking in! It's comforting to know I am in your thoughts. I hope all is well with you and your families.

MommySuperHero · October 2014

Mental illness sucks..i know first hand with family members. ((hugs)) I assume your military since you said you were stationed away from family. My ex husband was Army and discharged on mental illness. PLEASE message me if you want to talk...i'm here for you!

tashad18 · October 2014

I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this. I hope he gets the help he needs.

cherrycoke99 · October 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I'm sure it was absolutely terrifying. As the other ladies have said it is very good to hear that your husband will be getting help at the hospital. It will benefit both of you to speak with a qualified therapist. I know it may be hard to sleep alone while your husband is away, but if you can share this with you family and close friends, I'm sure it will be very helpful that you could talk to them. Lots of hugs!!

amandafro · October 2014

I'm very sorry that you are struggling with this. I noticed in one of your posts, you said stationed.... I get that. There is a resource called military one source that you can utilize or call your local on base/post clinic and they should be able to help you or point you in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck with everything. If you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to contact me.

sunnysidexup · October 2014

Lots of love and hugs your way. My DH had depression issues right before we got married - thought things were great so he stopped taking his meds and it spiraled down from there. Almost called off the wedding. You will get thru this and we will be your support system.

gypsyheart85 · October 2014

Love and light being sent your way. I am so very sorry. There has been amazing advice and support on this thread - please take care of yourself.

smurf605 · October 2014

I am so sorry you and DH are struggling through this. As PP said, please don't let anyone tell you that this was your fault. I'm happy to hear that your appointment went well and that you have the support of your own family. ((hugs))

amiligrace · October 2014

@smurf605‌ thank you for the reassurance. It's great to have the support of this community! @gypsyheart85‌ thank you for the reminder to take care of myself. And thank you so much for the love and light! @sunnysidexup‌ I'm sorry that you had to go through that with your husband. I'm glad that you were able to make it through! It gives me hope. @amandafro‌ thank you for the suggestion. His superiors have been so helpful. I am also in contact with social workers at the base in California near my parents home. Very supported @cherrycoke99 it's been so hard to sleep alone. I hated seeing his pillow so I had to hide it. But I am lucky to have a great family. Thank you for your support! @tashad18‌ I appreciate your kind words. It's so appreciated right now. @MommySuperHero‌ thank you for reaching out. It's a relief knowing I have people to talk to, online and in person. I'm glad to know that others can relate to me. I feel less alone.

ahkh0910 · October 2014

I saw that your husband is military. I'm military as well and want to make sure you know about military one source. They provide free counseling to the military member or spouse. Just a heads up!

clprutz · October 2014

Oh geez...I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you. I can say, I've had experience with a close family member's attempted suicide (my mom) three years ago...I wasn't pregnant at the time but, I absolutely know how it feels to be in your shoes. You want to blame yourself, and you feel selfish to allow yourself any sort of diversion/relief. Trust me, you need to take time for yourself. Therapy was a wondrous tool for me. Hopefully you have a strong support system within your family and your husband's. It definitely looks like you have love and support on this site. Take care of yourself and the baby.❤️

ourbabymay · October 2014

Want to check in with you and will be praying for u..message me if you want my email or anything

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