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  • Octobermommy101012Octobermommy101012 member
    efgallarday said:

    But guyz she's a pore single mother!!!!

    Idk what pore (we all have pores) you're talking about, but if its poor, I struggle financially (like most people, it's just harder when you do it alone). I'm not wanting sympathy. I HAVE started stocking up on everything. Walmart is awesome because they sell $6 packages of diapers. Which makes it much easier for me to afford them. Thank you to the responses that weren't judgemental and rude. As that is the last thing I'm looking for. Or any pregnant woman for that matter. I grew up celebrating all births so i honestly didn't know that a lot of people only celebrate the first. Excuse my ignorance. I really appreciate the positive responses, so thank you all for your honesty. I hope you all realize that things you say actually affect a person's day. Only you can choose whether it's positive or negative. Life is about loving. Not hating. I wish everyone happy and healthy pregnancies. Best of luck.
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  • CryssteenCryssteen member
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  • hburgess29hburgess29 member
    I think you pregnant or not pregnant catty mothers should be ashamed if yourselves! Woman have baby showers for expecting mothers for many reasons. Not just because your entering "mommy hood " for the first time. I'm so glad I'm not apart of this "clique". Almost every single one of your are bullies! An when did you all become expert moms or perfect people? Who are you to judge a person? The reason you all bully expecting moms on here cause in real life you would not have the guts it say the crappy stuff you say to someone face. I'm sure you all have boring life's!
    Congrats to the woman who is having her 3rd unplanned baby boy. Who cares what these catty, unsupportive, no life having bitches say. Sincerely mom of 16,13 y/o boys, 8y/o girl an 27w3d pregnant w boy(4th baby). Also grandma of a 5month old. And NONE of my babies were planned. I don't care what any of you think, post what you want behind the computer because I know none of you "PERFECT PEOPLE" and or "PERFECT MOMS" would say any of this CRAP to my face. Have a good day shitting on people. Karma does bite back!
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  • kimba1976kimba1976 member
    hburgess29 said:
    I think you pregnant or not pregnant catty mothers should be ashamed if yourselves! Woman have baby showers for expecting mothers for many reasons. Not just because your entering "mommy hood " for the first time. I'm so glad I'm not apart of this "clique". Almost every single one of your are bullies! An when did you all become expert moms or perfect people? Who are you to judge a person? The reason you all bully expecting moms on here cause in real life you would not have the guts it say the crappy stuff you say to someone face. I'm sure you all have boring life's! Congrats to the woman who is having her 3rd unplanned baby boy. Who cares what these catty, unsupportive, no life having bitches say. Sincerely mom of 16,13 y/o boys, 8y/o girl an 27w3d pregnant w boy(4th baby). Also grandma of a 5month old. And NONE of my babies were planned. I don't care what any of you think, post what you want behind the computer because I know none of you "PERFECT PEOPLE" and or "PERFECT MOMS" would say any of this CRAP to my face. Have a good day shitting on people. Karma does bite back!
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  • CandEChicagoCandEChicago member
    hburgess29 said:

    I think you pregnant or not pregnant catty mothers should be ashamed if yourselves! Woman have baby showers for expecting mothers for many reasons. Not just because your entering "mommy hood " for the first time. I'm so glad I'm not apart of this "clique". Almost every single one of your are bullies! An when did you all become expert moms or perfect people? Who are you to judge a person? The reason you all bully expecting moms on here cause in real life you would not have the guts it say the crappy stuff you say to someone face. I'm sure you all have boring life's!
    Congrats to the woman who is having her 3rd unplanned baby boy. Who cares what these catty, unsupportive, no life having bitches say. Sincerely mom of 16,13 y/o boys, 8y/o girl an 27w3d pregnant w boy(4th baby). Also grandma of a 5month old. And NONE of my babies were planned. I don't care what any of you think, post what you want behind the computer because I know none of you "PERFECT PEOPLE" and or "PERFECT MOMS" would say any of this CRAP to my face. Have a good day shitting on people. Karma does bite back!

    @hburgess29‌ -wow have you been stalking me?! Cause you so nailed my life...I do nothing in my life. Please pray that I can do something worth while with my life so I can be a good mother. Bless your heart.

    Actually...what i say here is what i would say this to people to their face. Telling OP she is being rude to try to dictate people's responses and she is probably overly sensitive to be on this board....same goes for you.


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  • ManateearmzManateearmz member
    I'm not a housewife. Nor am I bored.

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  • Kmm1023Kmm1023 member
    LadyThrice said:


    Manateearmz said:

    Wait is her 16 year old a father? I'm so lost. How is she a grandmother?

    1. I became an expert the minute a baby fell out of my body, doesn't everyone?

    2. I think you're confused as to what bullying is. But way to downplay what kids are going through by comparing it to what is going on here.



    I was wondering the same thing.

    And yup @hburgess29, I will feel a moment of judgement about the fact that your teenage son has a child. Judgement is not always negative. AND I would say this to your face.

    This! I don't know maybe go to sams club and buy some damn condoms for yourself and I guess your 16 year old!!!!
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  • rshamosrshamos member
    Wow. 
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  • sysakbabysysakbaby member
    Octomom has been posting today ... I think she just abandoned this thread.

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  • JCM285JCM285 member
    I haven't had the chance to read this entire thread (just the first and last pages) because I am not a bored housewife. But my two cents related your original post is that if someone is throwing the shower for you, it wasnt necessary for your friend to decline the invitation in a rude way. Also, I wouldn't let it bother me too much and would expect more people to react the same way (whether they say it to your face or not) to you having a second baby shower. Like I said, that's just me but where I live, second baby showers are unheard of and it would be very taboo for someone to have one. I'm not sure if that's the case by you, though. All said and done, I would be ticked off by her rude tone but I wouldn't let it ruin my day.
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  • efgallardayefgallarday member
    Op came here "not asking for sympathy" and then gave all these reasons why we should feel sorry for her. We weren't bullies, we just picked up on her BS.

    Ps, I own and operate my own business at home and am a housewife, so what does that make me??? I don't even know who I am anymore! I am so glad I have internet strangers to tell me I'm bored and have nothing to do.
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  • RicKeyBabyRicKeyBaby member
    There's a certain peace to contentment. If you are lacking something, God will supply it through the people in your life who love you and know your situation. At least that's my personal take on it (sorry to sound so churchy). A friend is throwing you a shower, and that's wonderful, be happy for the ones who DO care! Now as for your coworker, if she doesnt want to buy you anything....perhaps still offer for her to come no gift required. Then if she doesnt come that's on her....not you. I think a shower is a celebration of a new life, not an opportunity for gifts so the option not to bring one shouldn't be looked down upon. If I were you, I'd probably still go to her shower and bring a small/inexpensive gift just to be the bigger person. Yes, your justified in your feelings.....come on! We're all pregnant and sensitive here. It's ultimately about how you act on those feelings that shows your character. I'll keep your baby boy in my prayers that God will supply all the support you need. ♡♥♡
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  • ColeyCannoliColeyCannoli member
    katehgee said:
    There's a certain peace to contentment. If you are lacking something, God will supply it through the people in your life who love you and know your situation. At least that's my personal take on it (sorry to sound so churchy). A friend is throwing you a shower, and that's wonderful, be happy for the ones who DO care! Now as for your coworker, if she doesnt want to buy you anything....perhaps still offer for her to come no gift required. Then if she doesnt come that's on her....not you. I think a shower is a celebration of a new life, not an opportunity for gifts so the option not to bring one shouldn't be looked down upon. If I were you, I'd probably still go to her shower and bring a small/inexpensive gift just to be the bigger person. Yes, your justified in your feelings.....come on! We're all pregnant and sensitive here. It's ultimately about how you act on those feelings that shows your character. I'll keep your baby boy in my prayers that God will supply all the support you need. ♡♥♡
    I think you'll find that the "God will provide" or "it's all in God's plan" sentiment doesn't go over too well here. There are lots different people from all walks of life on these boards, and we all have very different views on religion, spirituality, etc. I, for instance, am religious and even run a youth group. But I sure as hell don't think that God is providing for my baby, or any future babies I may have. I know that my husband and I will be providing for them. I believe that God gave us free will, and if we're acting like jackasses he's not going to swoop down and say "you made some bad choices. Here's $5,000 to pay your bills."
    Yeah... I know you meant well RicKeyBaby but this concept has always bothered me. It erases those who seriously need help who do not have friends and family to pick them up. It's morbid to say but there are children who didn't make stupid life mistakes but will still starve to death tonight. And there are families that will be torn apart because they didn't get any extra from god or the universe when they needed it. I understand that you are just trying to get the OP to appreciate what she has and will have, despite what her coworker told her. But the "god will provide" line just always irks me. And as @Katehgee said, I wouldn't expect god to pay my bills if I was being stupid about them. If a friend or family member helps me, that's just dumb luck and love, not something supernatural.
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  • LizaMcCrackingLizaMcCracking member
    Wow. This has been soooo entertaining.

    All I have to say is no one gets the right to moan and complain about where they are in life when the very choices they have made themselves have gotten them there. Moreover, people shouldn't use their self-induced circumstances as an excuse FOR ANYTHING!

    Work for what you want, fight for who you love and search your heart for a little self respect and character.

    Orrrrr....you can wallow in your own pile of crap and compare yourself to people who have made healthy decisions for their life and planned ahead. Who knows, these people may have been born into the very situation you have put you and your innocent children into. But the cream always rises. So...good luck and I hope you can gain some perspective.
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  • Mrw218Mrw218 member
    God helps those who help themselves imo. Seconding previous free will comment. Not a bored housewife. Thoroughly enjoy the days when I am bored. Currently suffering from insomnia and hellish heartburn. Vag is leaking from profesterone pessary and butt hurts from constipated poop today. Yay pregnancy. Don't think anyone solely judged her for having 3 unplanned pregnancies. It's the three unplanned with everybody shower me with shit and my friend is a bitch bc I know she has enough money to get me a good gift cuz she lives a good life and I got her something. I don't know how op's convo with her friend went down but if a friend asked me why I wasn't going to their shower directly and insinuated I should be getting a gift for her I'd probably amp up the judgey bitch too. So if that's what happened then no your friend is not a bitch you started the shit. Now if it was casual convo and she said that all judgey then yes she's being a bitch and it isn't very friend like. I probs wouldn't go to your third shower and doesn't mean I'm boycotting or judging you and baby. I can be happy for you, emotionally support you, and we can have play dates and have fun with each other. The shower isn't the only way to show that emotion with friends. Resentment is annoying. My parents made good choices. They gave me a blessed life but also taught me well so as a teen and adult I in turn made good choices for my life and dh and I intend to do the same for our child. I had an ex that would lose his shit every time I'd even mention about a fun family vacation we had or when I tried to talk about my life in any way bc his resentment made him feel like I was saying his family and life weren't as good. Make sure when u say you KNOW she throws it in your face that it isn't just you reflecting your resentment on yourself. She is allowed to be happy about her life and choices and to share those happy times with her friend without worrying about you hating her for it. Her parents are allowed to give her what they want. Their money, their daughter nothing to do with you.
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  • beaniousmaximusbeaniousmaximus member
    Your friend definitely sounds like a bitch. However, the other posters are right. Usually a baby shower is for the first pregnancy. You CAN have another one...but I wouldn't expect everyone to buy you gifts (regardless of whether they are just diapers) every time you get pregnant. As far as how successful your friend is...I don't know why that concerns you? If you can't afford to get her a gift...then don't. This whole thing really shouldn't be bothering you as much as it is. If you feel like she's a shitty friend, drop her. 
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  • bdaphaniebdaphanie member
    Wow, this is why I don't post on here. These women are crazy. Honestly, you can have a baby shower at any point with any child. It is not a "welcome to motherhood" ritual. If it was, instead of playing name the baby it would be a line of people giving pointers on how to raise your child.
    These people are secretly judging you and your life choices. And to that I say, ignore them. So what you were young and made dumb decisions. I'm sure most of them did the same but either they had birth control or abortions so we will never be able to judge them back.
    I know it seems like your friend is being mean but in the end, would your real friend say that to you? This is an easy example of how to weed self centered people out of your life. Be polite at work and that's all.
    And congratulations on your king, and I will gladly ship a gift through Amazon because all babies should be celebrated.
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  • MGWCMGWC member
    No matter how either of you got to the current places you are in life, no one has a right to act superior to anyone else.
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  • bowlwomanbowlwoman member
    edited October 2014
    bdaphanie said:

    Honestly, you can have a baby shower at any point with any child. It is not a "welcome to motherhood" ritual. If it was, instead of playing name the baby it would be a line of people giving pointers on how to raise your child.

    Well, then I must have had friends and family who didn't know this rule, because that's how my showers have gone. And actually, it IS kind of a "welcome to motherhood ritual" for a lot of people. Not naked belly dancing in the woods while smeared in mud or Nutella kind of ritual, but a ritual nonetheless.

    So, send OP some diapers and let the rest of us play in the sandbox the way we want to.
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  • bowlwomanbowlwoman member
    edited October 2014
    alissendis said:


    bowlwoman said:
    And actually, it IS kind of a "welcome to motherhood ritual" for a lot of people. Not naked belly dancing in the woods while smeared in mud or Nutella kind of ritual, but a ritual nonetheless. 

    Although I'm sure if we look hard enough we could find someone, somewhere whose shower was pretty much this. XD


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  • CandEChicagoCandEChicago member
    MGWC said:

    No matter how either of you got to the current places you are in life, no one has a right to act superior to anyone else.

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  • CandEChicagoCandEChicago member
    bdaphanie said:

    Wow, this is why I don't post on here. These women are crazy. Honestly, you can have a baby shower at any point with any child. It is not a "welcome to motherhood" ritual. If it was, instead of playing name the baby it would be a line of people giving pointers on how to raise your child.
    These people are secretly judging you and your life choices. And to that I say, ignore them. So what you were young and made dumb decisions. I'm sure most of them did the same but either they had birth control or abortions so we will never be able to judge them back.
    I know it seems like your friend is being mean but in the end, would your real friend say that to you? This is an easy example of how to weed self centered people out of your life. Be polite at work and that's all.
    And congratulations on your king, and I will gladly ship a gift through Amazon because all babies should be celebrated.

    @bdaphanie‌ - wow in addition to telling us that most of us had abortions... are you going to tell us that any miscarriages we had were fortunate as well?


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  • efgallardayefgallarday member
    bdaphanie said:

    Wow, this is why I don't post on here. These women are crazy. Honestly, you can have a baby shower at any point with any child. It is not a "welcome to motherhood" ritual. If it was, instead of playing name the baby it would be a line of people giving pointers on how to raise your child.
    These people are secretly judging you and your life choices. And to that I say, ignore them. So what you were young and made dumb decisions. I'm sure most of them did the same but either they had birth control or abortions so we will never be able to judge them back.
    I know it seems like your friend is being mean but in the end, would your real friend say that to you? This is an easy example of how to weed self centered people out of your life. Be polite at work and that's all.
    And congratulations on your king, and I will gladly ship a gift through Amazon because all babies should be celebrated.

    Not everyone has casual sex and needs an abortion or birth control and gets knocked up, just because "they're young." Oh and the baby I lost to miscarriage was definitely wanted and you have got some nerve assuming everyone here is privileged. Maybe most of us just use fucking common sense.

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