Thanks!

efgallarday

krystrist2014 said:

"and I will gladly ship a gift through Amazon because all babies should be celebrated."

Is it just me.... or does the WK seem like some kind of uber creepy skin stealer or dude pretending to be a pregnant woman??? Its like this person is bribing the OP to provide their address! 

:-S

It's probably another account of OctoMom or she got her bffs to create accounts to defend her lol

Manateearmz

Am I being judged for using birth control or abstenance responsibly?

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CandEChicago

Manateearmz said:

Am I being judged for using birth control or abstenance responsibly?

Yep. Don't forget she threw abortions in there as well.

Manateearmz

You guys we don't need to spend money on birth control or abortions! As long as somebody throws us multiple baby showers and God is on our side we will be able to pay for kids!

irish2014

bowlwoman said:

bdaphanie said:

Well, then I must have had friends and family who didn't know this rule, because that's how my showers have gone. And actually, it IS kind of a "welcome to motherhood ritual" for a lot of people. Not naked belly dancing in the woods while smeared in mud or Nutella kind of ritual, but a ritual nonetheless.

So, send OP some diapers and let the rest of us play in the sandbox the way we want to.

(Edit: perfect quote box skills fail)

Is it a sign of pregnancy that I'm actually not completely opposed to Nutella smearing rituals?

Also,

leoandethansmom

bowlwoman said:

Honestly, you can have a baby shower at any point with any child. It is not a "welcome to motherhood" ritual. If it was, instead of playing name the baby it would be a line of people giving pointers on how to raise your child.

Well, then I must have had friends and family who didn't know this rule, because that's how my showers have gone. And actually, it IS kind of a "welcome to motherhood ritual" for a lot of people. Not naked belly dancing in the woods while smeared in mud or Nutella kind of ritual, but a ritual nonetheless. So, send OP some diapers and let the rest of us play in the sandbox the way we want to.

@bowlwoman...mmmm Nutella.

irish2014

@leosmom25‌ I'm glad I'm not the only one who caught that

It's really only a few steps from last night's 2nd dinner of Nutella on crackers... =P~

perfectlove09

Holy shit this post is still going!? I thought it ended on page 2 like a week ago lol

amedbery

Yikes - insomnia + busy @ work = just caught up on this. So if @hburgess29‌ has a 16 y/o son who has a 5 month old, that means he got a girl pregnant at age 15 - at the latest. Possibly at 14. I need a hot shower and she needs to step the eff away from this board and anything else distracting her from stopping her minor children from having unprotected sex. Good God.

nottarbt

A couple thoughts:  I think the first child shower is standard, but if your friend wants to throw you a shower now that you're having a boy, that's great and super generous of her.  Not everyone has a friend like that, so feel blessed that you do have a super awesome and supportive friend.  As for the coworker, it doesn't sound like you two are really friends.  I mean, I certainly wouldn't tell a friend that I'm not going to her shower and not giving her a gift because she should be able to buy everything for herself, lol!  But, if a coworker invited me to a shower for a third child, I probably would not feel inclined to go.  But then again maybe just not going is even more rude?  What can I say, I don't like confrontation.  Also, I wouldn't invite a coworker to a shower unless they are someone I would be friends with regardless of being coworkers.  

leoandethansmom

nottarbt said:

A couple thoughts:  I think the first child shower is standard, but if your friend wants to throw you a shower now that you're having a boy, that's great and super generous of her.  Not everyone has a friend like that, so feel blessed that you do have a super awesome and supportive friend.  As for the coworker, it doesn't sound like you two are really friends.  I mean, I certainly wouldn't tell a friend that I'm not going to her shower and not giving her a gift because she should be able to buy everything for herself, lol!  But, if a coworker invited me to a shower for a third child, I probably would not feel inclined to go.  But then again maybe just not going is even more rude?  What can I say, I don't like confrontation.  Also, I wouldn't invite a coworker to a shower unless they are someone I would be friends with regardless of being coworkers.  

8 pages of this thread, most of which don't pertain to the actual post. Read the threads people!!!! Just let it die.  

bdaphanie

All the responses to my post prove my point. Most of you who are for one trying to judge me, and don't know me of course, are just Internet bullies. The same kind of women who get on FB and proclaim how much better you are than someone else. The same meek women who can't be a boss at home or in the workplace so they get online and become gangstas. My feelings are mine so if I want to be a WK I most certainly will. The sad part is all she asked for is your opinion on one topic. She didn't ask "can you go through my story and pick the part that you feel strongly about and tell me how you feel". Just remember nasty mouth people that you get what you sow.
And to the smart fool that said I must have had abortions and no birth control that's why I said that to her, actually I never got pregnant as a teen. I got pregnant when I was married. My kids were planned. But omg, I actually know people that have had these things happen to them. That's life idiot, you don't always get to plan everything. Have a great day ladies

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JRod13

I knew I was surrounded by g's...totally ups my street cred. Thanks ladies

CandEChicago

bdaphanie said:

All the responses to my post prove my point. Most of you who are for one trying to judge me, and don't know me of course, are just Internet bullies. The same kind of women who get on FB and proclaim how much better you are than someone else. The same meek women who can't be a boss at home or in the workplace so they get online and become gangstas. My feelings are mine so if I want to be a WK I most certainly will. The sad part is all she asked for is your opinion on one topic. She didn't ask "can you go through my story and pick the part that you feel strongly about and tell me how you feel". Just remember nasty mouth people that you get what you sow.
And to the smart fool that said I must have had abortions and no birth control that's why I said that to her, actually I never got pregnant as a teen. I got pregnant when I was married. My kids were planned. But omg, I actually know people that have had these things happen to them. That's life idiot, you don't always get to plan everything. Have a great day ladies

Wait? I am missing something. You accused US of having abortions and birth control.

bowlwoman

Hufflepuff42 said:

Gee. I never knew pointing out the particulars of the first amendment as is relates to public boards was nasty, but this confirms the point I made in that post. I give out polite information, I get painted with a broad brush. Way to prove my point. 

As an informationist, giving out information and educating is part of my job as well as part of my personality. It is not my fault that you choose to reject it and paint me with a negative brush because I politely give it to you. Nor is it my job to make it stick, You give the information you are presented. The reciever chooses what to do with it. I wasn't even responding directly to you, just putting out my experiences and a PSA, but I guess if the shoe fits... 

This next .gif is not unwarranted, given how you're using that broad brush.

Oh, yeah, where is your J.D. or M.L.I.S. from, again?

At least she DID use proper grammar, usage, and mechanics. Makes my little, cold, grammar-gangsta editor heart proud.

sysakbaby

I use the internet ...

efgallarday

bdaphanie said:

All the responses to my post prove my point. Most of you who are for one trying to judge me, and don't know me of course, are just Internet bullies. The same kind of women who get on FB and proclaim how much better you are than someone else. The same meek women who can't be a boss at home or in the workplace so they get online and become gangstas. My feelings are mine so if I want to be a WK I most certainly will. The sad part is all she asked for is your opinion on one topic. She didn't ask "can you go through my story and pick the part that you feel strongly about and tell me how you feel". Just remember nasty mouth people that you get what you sow.
And to the smart fool that said I must have had abortions and no birth control that's why I said that to her, actually I never got pregnant as a teen. I got pregnant when I was married. My kids were planned. But omg, I actually know people that have had these things happen to them. That's life idiot, you don't always get to plan everything. Have a great day ladies

Can someone translate this for me???? Seriously. Wtaf?

Octobermommy101012

Let me clarify.... I am upset at what she said. As it was hurtful and something I never expected to hear from a friend. I do NOT care about the gifts. I will always find a way to get my children everything they need. The baby shower my friend is throwing is nothing but a celebration of the life I'm bringing into this world. And good food of course! I ONLY want people to attend to see them, talk, have a great time, and basically just have adult time eating good food! It suckered that she doesn't want to be a part of my special day. The other thing that upset me was just the fact that she said I SHOULDNT get to have a shower because I SHOULD be able to afford everything for my children. IT IS NOT ABOUT THE GIFTS. IT IS ABOUT FRIENDS BEING THERE FOR EACH OTHER WHEN THEY SHOULD BE.

sysakbaby

Hufflepuff42 said:

I may be a Hufflepuff, but a .gif of Neville defeating Nagini is defiitely apropos at this juncture.

For you my dear:

Octobermommy101012

Sucks.... not suckered. Damn auto correct

CandEChicago

Octobermommy101012 said:

Let me clarify.... I am upset at what she said. As it was hurtful and something I never expected to hear from a friend. I do NOT care about the gifts. I will always find a way to get my children everything they need. The baby shower my friend is throwing is nothing but a celebration of the life I'm bringing into this world. And good food of course! I ONLY want people to attend to see them, talk, have a great time, and basically just have adult time eating good food! It suckered that she doesn't want to be a part of my special day. The other thing that upset me was just the fact that she said I SHOULDNT get to have a shower because I SHOULD be able to afford everything for my children. IT IS NOT ABOUT THE GIFTS. IT IS ABOUT FRIENDS BEING THERE FOR EACH OTHER WHEN THEY SHOULD BE.

riansmommie

Nice try with the back peddling OP! You ended your original post with you want a shower for clothes, diapers and wipes.

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CandEChicago

Then why even bother telling us about your friend's fabulous life? I don't begrudge my friends of any success or gifts that come their way. I also had people not attend my shower...so should I assume they are not there for me?

riansmommie

Also way to wait a week to come back and try to defend yourself. Sorry but your jealousy is still showing.

Octobermommy101012

No, my friend is asking for diapers, wipes, and clothes for me. This is not my idea. But it is appreciated. Gifts are a bonus!!!!!!!

riansmommie

I just want a shower for clothes and diapers and wipes. ... is that wrong of me?

These were your exact words from your original post. Once again, nice try but the internet doesn't forget.

sysakbaby

@hufflepuff42 Hmm ... for the broken one I shall give you two!

Manateearmz

Octobermommy101012 said:

No, my friend is asking for diapers, wipes, and clothes for me. This is not my idea. But it is appreciated. Gifts are a bonus!!!!!!!

But....but....you got her a gift.

sysakbaby

@Octobermommy101012 ... I can't even. If you are really her friend you should be talking to her about these feelings, not posting on an internet forum. If you aren't really her friend then let it go, obviously you aren't on the same page about the shower thing or your lifestyles.

You should also re-read what you've written.

hellopartyof5

Here's the thing, if you wanted people to come support you or w/e, you would just have a regular get together without mentioning the baby.  Showers are literally meant to "shower" the MTB with gifts.  

CandEChicago

Octobermommy101012 said:

No, my friend is asking for diapers, wipes, and clothes for me. This is not my idea. But it is appreciated. Gifts are a bonus!!!!!!!

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Octobermommy101012 said:

I have a Co worker and friend who is 6 weeks ahead of me in pregnancy with her first child. She's married, has a house, her mom buys her clothes, or anything she wants for that matter, goes on a vacation every year (usually a Disney Cruise that her parents pay for But this year it was Vegas), and just did everything right in her life (for being 25) and also being incredibly spoiled. I, on the other hand, have done things not quite so conventionally. My 2 daughters, though not planned, are the greatest blessing. Especially since their biological father is a drug addict and abused me and so much more. He has nothing to do with them. The child I'm pregnant with was also not planned, but I'm estatic for. It's a boy!!!! The dad and I are a work in progress, but i have a full time job, an apartment, a vehicle, and i have to work my ass off for everything i have or need. I'm not financially ready (single income) to have 3 children, but that's how my life has gone. I'm not complaining or asking for sympathy, but she told me that if I have a baby shower that she's not going to it or getting anything for my son. Though I'm expected to go to hers. All because I "should be able to buy everything needed myself". I think it's pretty shitty that a 'friend' would say this! Especially since I'm having a boy and i only have girl stuff! I just want a shower for clothes and diapers and wipes. ... is that wrong of me?

OP....did I misquote you? Please see bold.

Octobermommy101012

My my my... don't you all have jobs or family's to care for than making such a huge deal over a question that was already answered? I appreciate everyone taking tIme to respond.

CandEChicago

Octobermommy101012 said:

My my my... don't you all have jobs or family's to care for than making such a huge deal over a question that was already answered? I appreciate everyone taking tIme to respond.

Nope. I have no life.

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CandEChicago

Actually...you haven't answered my question. Did I properly quote your original posting regarding wanting a diapers, wipes, etc shower?