I don't really understand why people who do not consider themselves super active are getting upset. I have also been "on this board since the beginning" when I first found out I was pregnant...I even did an intro I don't check everyday and sometimes just skim/lurk when I do have time to check. I know that I'm not on here regularly so I didn't even request to join since I doubt any of the admins would recognize me.
I totally get why some people want to have a fb group at this point because some of these ladies have been getting to know each other for months and want to interact with more privacy.
**steps off soap box**
I will add my two cents here. Yes, I filled out the form and requested membership; however, I don't know if the admins will recognize me. I respond and read regularly but mostly in response to PgAL threads and certain questions, rather than interacting with specific people on a regular basis (ie, I rarely "quote" or "tag" people in my posts and only recognize mainly those in the PgAL threads).
But...as a second-time mom, I've been around the Bump block a little bit. My March 2011 BMB moved to Facebook with ~250 members. We didn't restrict membership, but required everyone to state their name from TB (kept a FB document for reference) and weeded out those who weren't active pretty quickly in the beginning. I would say that I maybe only "knew" (recognized them and looked for their posts to keep up with them) 1-2 members on TB at the time we moved to FB. And I think that was pretty common amongst the group, except for the few rare exceptions (like the 3-4 girls who started our FB group were already Bumpie BFFs). But now, nearly 4 years later, the 120 of us or so who remain are SUPER close. Almost all of us are actual FB friends and many of us have met IRL and have regular meet-ups. The support provided to one other is amazing, and I'd hate to see folks excluded from the group because they didn't post enough or interact enough on TB. Plain and simple, it is far easier/preferable for many of us to post on FB than it is on TB. If they don't interact enough or seem creepy on FB, fine, you're out. We had periodic weed-outs of lurkers for the first 1.5 years or so. Now we're down to people we really know so if someone is quiet for awhile, we usually know why (big life changes, depression, etc.).
Anyway, that's all. I understand WHY some of you want to restrict membership and screen new members, but I just wanted to provide a different perspective in that you can weed out pretty quickly and easily once on FB, rather than trying to piece together and approve everyone from TB. Not trying to start drama by any means, just another viewpoint.
Jimmie, mama to Zoey (March 2011)
Losses 5/13, 8/13, and 3/14.
Expecting another GIRL! Carter Grace due on 12/25.
@jayellekaye I understand what you're saying, but it was the general consensus when we originally posted about starting the group that we wanted to keep it to D14 bumpie regulars because on facebook people have access to your full name which is a lot of trust. If we let just anyone who happened to pop in and say they wanted to join the group, we'd be not only giving out our own (5 admins) full names, but allow potential creeps access to the full names of everyone else who has joined the group with the understanding that it was intended solely for the regulars. This group doesn't have to be the sole D14 facebook group, anyone is welcome to start another one obviously, but this group specifically was created for our regular posters to get to know each other in a more "intimate" way.
Let's not forget that there were at least one or two facebook groups created months ago. If you weren't accepted to this one because you're new and we didn't recognize you, you're more than welcome to do a search and go find the other group or two that was created when our sticks were still wet.
I honestly felt bad saying no at first because I do understand that mobile bumping is hard or maybe you just joined this past month. But the reality is, this group is for regulars that already know each other via TB. I'm starting to get frustrated at all of the new people that NO ONE knows that are upset they didn't get an invite. If we do not know you, we decided it was in the best interest of those members that did join to decline your request.
We realized that not all were sent a PM via TB to let you know you received an invite and to check the email you provided. We will be working on this over the next day or so. However, we do not have the time to send PM's if you didn't get an invite. If you are upset or have a question about your request, please feel free to PM one of us.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
If newbs/lurkers want to join, why not just make an effort to update sigs and profile pics and contribute to the board a lot until the deadline, then try again? Seems pretty simple.
Looking forward to the potential increase of BSC that comes with this.
Edit: Let me clarify... the increase of BSC on D14.
If newbs/lurkers want to join, why not just make an effort to update sigs and profile pics and contribute to the board a lot until the deadline, then try again? Seems pretty simple.
Looking forward to the potential increase of BSC that comes with this.
I started a Facebook group several months ago. We're small still with 15 members and we understand why lots of ladies aren't active participants on this board. Plus, facebook is just easier for a lot of us to navigate, we're already using it frequently, and TB is just one more thing you have to check if you want to keep up with what's going on. Anyway if you're rejected by these "cool kids" or would rather join a different group feel free to PM me and I'll add you to our existing group. It's secret, no one on Facebook will see that you've joined and all that jazz. I'll try to check my PMs as often as I can, but bear with me if it takes a little while.
I started a Facebook group several months ago. We're small still with 15 members and we understand why lots of ladies aren't active participants on this board. Plus, facebook is just easier for a lot of us to navigate, we're already using it frequently, and TB is just one more thing you have to check if you want to keep up with what's going on. Anyway if you're rejected by these "cool kids" or would rather join a different group feel free to PM me and I'll add you to our existing group. It's secret, no one on Facebook will see that you've joined and all that jazz. I'll try to check my PMs as often as I can, but bear with me if it takes a little while.
I started a Facebook group several months ago. We're small still with 15 members and we understand why lots of ladies aren't active participants on this board. Plus, facebook is just easier for a lot of us to navigate, we're already using it frequently, and TB is just one more thing you have to check if you want to keep up with what's going on. Anyway if you're rejected by these "cool kids" or would rather join a different group feel free to PM me and I'll add you to our existing group. It's secret, no one on Facebook will see that you've joined and all that jazz. I'll try to check my PMs as often as I can, but bear with me if it takes a little while.
I remember when msfelts started her Facebook page. I'm pretty sure that post was her very first post on the D14 forum. Was creepy then. Still is. I'm concerned with the lack of internet awareness some of the lurkers appear to have....
I mean, I join lots of FB groups in general, so thats not creepy to me. This place was a lot of personal details, etc, so I can see having issues with putting names to faces.
I started a Facebook group several months ago. We're small still with 15 members and we understand why lots of ladies aren't active participants on this board. Plus, facebook is just easier for a lot of us to navigate, we're already using it frequently, and TB is just one more thing you have to check if you want to keep up with what's going on. Anyway if you're rejected by these "cool kids" or would rather join a different group feel free to PM me and I'll add you to our existing group. It's secret, no one on Facebook will see that you've joined and all that jazz. I'll try to check my PMs as often as I can, but bear with me if it takes a little while.
I actually remember this poster and the start of this facebook group. I think it's a nice option for some people who are dying to do the bump thing on facebook, but who most of the regulars aren't comfortable or familiar with. It might satisfy some of the newb "please let me get in" people... And, since they don't really know us, it shouldn't matter to them which facebook group they join.
^^^YES. All of this.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
Re: ***FACEBOOK GROUP INFO***
Let's not forget that there were at least one or two facebook groups created months ago. If you weren't accepted to this one because you're new and we didn't recognize you, you're more than welcome to do a search and go find the other group or two that was created when our sticks were still wet.
I honestly felt bad saying no at first because I do understand that mobile bumping is hard or maybe you just joined this past month. But the reality is, this group is for regulars that already know each other via TB. I'm starting to get frustrated at all of the new people that NO ONE knows that are upset they didn't get an invite. If we do not know you, we decided it was in the best interest of those members that did join to decline your request.
We realized that not all were sent a PM via TB to let you know you received an invite and to check the email you provided. We will be working on this over the next day or so. However, we do not have the time to send PM's if you didn't get an invite. If you are upset or have a question about your request, please feel free to PM one of us.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
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You're welcome. It's been a little boring, anyway
I'm a frequent lurker/infrequent poster.
I feel like it's pretty much an "instant in" to the FB group, no?
D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
point taken
Edited: how many t's in tits?
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D14 November Siggy Challenge: The feels of 3rd trimester...
I try! I've been lurking and trying to drop a few love tits here and there so you guys don't think I fell off the face of the planet.
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BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14