***FACEBOOK GROUP INFO***

brittandjp

The admins worked hard last night and this morning to work out the kinks for the D14 facebook group. If you haven't already and you'd like to join the group, please fill out THIS FORM. We will begin sifting through requests today and you will be notified by email if you've received an invite.

**When you do get an invite and join the group, please take a moment to do a quick intro--who are you from TB, tell us a quick blurb about yourself, etc. There is a doc to ad this information to as well.

Thanks for being patient!!

-- @BrittP10, @JunkieBrewster, @JaymeeLH, @NikkiMN143, and myself   

(this will be the one and final post providing information and inviting members to join)

This is what we came up with as far as requirements to join and etiquette rules.

NOTE: Please be mindful that we took all suggestions that were given and worked hard to come up with something that would be reasonable, fair, and help the group to be successful. We will look at each request individually and make a decision that meets the requirements and is in the best interest of the group. We did put a soft cap on the group in the attempt to keep it close knit, meaning in extreme/rare circumstances, the admin team may allow another bumpie or two (someone that's been around forever and is well known and liked here, that simply wasn't ready to join the group when it was created).

Group Entry Requirements

Each of the following components are required in order for a member to be added to this group:

1) Active member on TB for a minimum of 2 months

2) Recognized by at least 3/5 admins

3) Spamming posts on TB will not get you recognized

Group Rules

1. Please introduce yourself before you start posting--preferably tell us your BMB name, Team Color and EDD!  We just need a reminder that you're one of us.

2. No selling or solicitations. No self-promotion in the group feed. If you have a business, please leave a note about it in the Files and other mamas can seek you out if they are interested in your services or products.

3. Do not post something and then ask people to "message/follow/friend for more info." This is considered spamming. 

4. Be respectful. We understand some topics can get very heated. Please try to be as respectful as possible when voicing an opinion. Name-calling of any kind will get you immediately removed from the group.

5. This is not the place to give or receive medical advice. Please always consult a doctor if you are worried that it is serious.

6. When you have a question, try searching the group first to see if it's already been asked. On the top right hand corner under the cover photo there is a magnifying glass, click that and enter your question, or a keyword from your question. You can find a lot of information that way!

7. No screencapping or reposting of anything from this group, or from the BMB.

8. Please respect each others privacy; do not share birth stories or other “news” from the BMB without the OP’s permission. Do not post photos that do not belong to you.

9. This is a no drama zone! Do not bring drama from the BMB to our FB group and vice versa.

10. Deleting a post should be a last resort or done by admins only.  If you realize it's offensive or inaccurate, you may delete it, but please notify an admin so we can field any questions that may come our way as a result.  If an admin is the problem, please contact another admin so we can try to resolve the issue at hand.

11. Repeat offenders will be warned, and may be removed from this group, as voted by the admins.

12. No lurking! If you are inactive for more than 30-days without some sort of notice, an admin will remove you! 

 

Please note: This group will have a soft cap of 100 members or will close on November 1st, whichever comes first.

JaymeeLH

If you filled out the form last night please do not fill it out again, thank you!

hellopartyof5

I think something should also be added about the "no fake facebook accounts" - just from what TLD said in the other post.

ETA: but great job ladies

MaineMama

I'm going to have to redact my form from last night. I only wanted to be on the FB group so you would all buy my scented, all natural, nail stickers that make your eyelashes look hideous and you lose weight. Sorries

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brittandjp

Slaps said:

There are a lot of rules

Yes, there are a lot of rules, but most of us have been part of another group and referred to the successes and failures to create this list. We kept the rules as simple as possible, but we all agreed that each of them is necessary.

soulcupcake

For those who joined the board, say, five or six weeks ago, can they be added to the group once they hit the two month mark. That person may or may not be me. 

AngelSong76

I'm pretty sure I went a little overboard, providing two email addresses.  But I wasn't sure if you wanted the one associated with my Facebook account (which I don't really use much anymore) or the one that I will actually check.    So you got two!  

Thanks to the admins for doing this.  

MaineMama

aeonlux said:

For those who joined the board, say, five or six weeks ago, can they be added to the group once they hit the two month mark. That person may or may not be me. 

I'm not an admin, BUT you have been on TB as a whole for more than 2mos, and I vote you a non-lurker

hellopartyof5

I wonder how many applications they're getting, because it might not be a one day thing.  They all have to discuss each applicant.  

JulieSC81

@MissChristineMarie‌ ...i also just sent the form with my regular email and not my fb email (whatever that email is?). I guess someone can let us know if they need the fb email? Oooooooh, pick me! Pick me! :-h

AngelSong76

MissChristineMarie said:

I'm pretty sure I went a little overboard, providing two email addresses.  But I wasn't sure if you wanted the one associated with my Facebook account (which I don't really use much anymore) or the one that I will actually check.    So you got two!  

Thanks to the admins for doing this.  

I just sent one form, but I sent it with my email address and not the one associated with Facebook, so I was ALSO thinking I should send another with my email on Facebook. But, I'll just wait and see if I get an invite today. If not, I'll just have to send another because I want in! ;-)

I sent one form too, just included both email addresses in the email address line.  I'm probably over thinking the whole thing, as usual.  

JaymeeLH

Just a heads up ladies, we're going to try to get through as many today as possible, but as you can probably imagine it can get a little time consuming, and with people at work/doctors appointments/kiddos to take care of, it's going to take a little while for each of us to go through and get 3/5 approval. Please be patient with us, we're working hard! 

bbynixon2

Sent mine in thank you ladies for your hard work on this.

norweigan

MaineMama said:

I'm going to have to redact my form from last night. I only wanted to be on the FB group so you would all buy my scented, all natural, nail stickers that make your eyelashes look hideous and you lose weight. Sorries

For real though, what are those? Ever time I see some picture of someone trying to sell something having to do with eyelashes, the eyelashes look like tarantula legs. It makes me wonder if they can see that too.

Sorry, is this the wrong place to do this?

brittandjp

Yes, it definitely takes time because as much as we'd all love to sit in front of the computer all day, we do have outside lives. We will try to get through as many requests today as possible though!

I really want to reiterate the fact that while we're being selective (requirement wise), it's very much NOT a who do we like, who can sit with us and wear pink on Wednesdays type of deal. If you meet the requirements and we don't think you have a fake profile, chances are you'll make it in.

There were quite a few that mentioned their lurker status and still wanting to join. Unfortunately, you probably won't get an invite. If you don't feel comfortable posting or think that your thoughts are invalid/repetitive here, then why would you want to be a part of another board with the exact same people and conversations? We want to respect the privacy of those that join and unfortunately, that doesn't leave room for lurkers. Plus, we will delete inactive members anyway.

It's really just a place to continue growing our friendships that for most, is more convenient than TB.

Thanks for being patient!

ETA: I just want to clarify-- If you think you might be considered a lurker, it doesn't necessarily mean you are. We are looking into every single request, I promise. If 3/5 of us recognize you, then I wouldn't consider that lurker status.

JaymeeLH

3girlsnthepup said:

Crap! @brittandjp‌ I just realized I submitted the hotmail address that I use for my Tupperware Facebook account, which I think means it will go straight to that FB Profile... (Which I don't want to use, since it lists my business website, phone number, etc.) Can I PM you the right one or submit again??

just submit again with a note next to your email so we know which one to send it to!

Southernpeach80

I don't consider myself a lurker but I don't know how many people would recognize me either. Hopefully my siggy is recognizable enough for 3/5 of you ladies to know me.

JaymeeLH

shinycat said:

Looks good. I realized I did have to turn off the setting that only allows my friends to search me by my email address. Figured I'd mention it here just in case anyone else had the same setting turned on.

we won't be looking you up by your email, there's a setting that allows us to send invites to people through the email they provide us. I have mine set so that only friends can find me by email too and received the invite without issue

caden1206

So, is it an email or a message through fb?

JaymeeLH

caden1206 said:

So, is it an email or a message through fb?

you'll receive an email

brittandjp

@3girlsnthepup, yes, just resubmit another request and make a note next to your name.

Southernpeach80

@summersunshine916‌ lol! I'm glad my accent comes through in my posts...it's part of my charm

brittandjp

RN536 said:

Question and this may be silly. Will everyone basically move over to Facebook and D14 on the bump will become a dead zone? I like keeping up with everyone and if I dont join the Facebook page would hate to miss all the fun!

As with my first bmb, I think we'll see a bit of both. Some will stay in both places, others will spend more time on fb since it's easier. But as we've seen, there are quite a few regulars that have no intentions of joining the fb group. As time goes on, we'll continue to get more members here on TB, especially after the babies are born. @rn536

JaymeeLH

I doubt the board is going to die, I think most of us have committed to staying active on here

esr9435

Thanks for setting this up ladies!!

cassiem51

Does the email have to be the one used for my Facebook account?

brittandjp

In general, the bump app is harder to navigate, rather you have it bookmarked or not. You can't see people's siggys or pics, so for some (challenged people, like me) it makes it harder to recognize who is who. The updates don't pop up. And from my experience, it's just overall easier to form bonds with a group of women on facebook in a smaller, more tight knit group vs. TB.

We haven't sent out any invites yet, so don't worry - no one has joined the group other than admins. We're still sorting through requests.

mrsrroberson

I can only mobile bump.. I have no other internet access. That being said the app isn't that mobile friendly. I do fine on it, but it would be nice if it gave you push notifications on people who respond to you and mention you and a view at your whole profile "siggys" and "tickers". But I'll do both.

brittandjp

The website version, IMO, isn't great either. I don't think it's easy to navigate. I encounter more glitches. It takes longer to load pages. I like bumping from my computer because I can open a bunch of threads and once and toggle between them, it's not as easy when I'm mobile. Plus, on TB it seems like there a ton of new people all the time, there isn't a limit on member count, etc., all of which makes it harder to form a more tight knit group. I realize a lot of this has to do with me being lazy, but I like convenience, which is easier for me on fb.

I totally get that the fb group isn't for everyone. Some aren't comfortable. Some prefer TB. That's totally fine with me!! The fb group is for those that prefer the easier access. Even though I prefer fb, I'll still be in and out of here because some of my favorites have chosen not to join.

JunkieBrewster

twolittledogs said:

I must be stupid but I don't see how FB is easier. Do you not have TB saved as a book mark or short cut on your phone? I touch one button and come right to this page.

for me, the trouble with the mobile version is that I don't get notifications, or messaging without going through a really long process to get to them.

JunkieBrewster

RN536 said:

Question and this may be silly. Will everyone basically move over to Facebook and D14 on the bump will become a dead zone? I like keeping up with everyone and if I dont join the Facebook page would hate to miss all the fun!

I do not plan to abandon this one at all, but at times but I am mobile during the day, it is much easier to use fb

nextworldwonder

I didn't even know what people were referring to as "siggy's" and "tickers" until about 2 weeks ago when I logged on from a regular computer for the first time. I've been a member since probably May but I've always just used the mobile app. I find push notifications on fb would be so much easier than always going through pages and pages to see if anyone replied to anything I've posted. On that note though, I post at last 1 response or whatever daily but I don't think I'm very memorable either. I hope I don't fall into the lurker or unknown category :-(

missmissie82

Submitted mine!

ebilbao

I'm going to use both! I like the BMB.

JaymeeLH

@danisgossipgirl‌ the info goes to a form that only the 5 admins have access to, for the time being we are keeping a record of who requests so if someone unrecognizable or a lurker requests repeatedly we know. You can use whatever email you want, you'll receive an email saying that you've been invited to join the group with a link you follow and click join. Fake accounts however will not be tolerated.

JunkieBrewster

For clarity, if people are uncomfortable joining, that is perfectly okay. No one is taking it personally.

Me, I am already in a lot of groups, and not a terribly private person For me, I never gave it a second though. Follow your own comfort level!

leoandethansmom

Ok I have a dumb question. I got the invite and clicked join group then it said a request to join the group has been sent. Is that the way it works or did I somehow mess that up?

JunkieBrewster

danisgossipgirl said:

After the group's been closed to new members, will the google doc be destroyed? Just think for people's personal security they'd want assurance that if someone went off the deep end in a few months that there wouldn't be some master list of emails linked to bump sns. I'm more paranoid about that than just having my name revealed.

We are actually deleting the emails when we send invites. We dont have a need for them after that.

hellopartyof5

Hufflepuff42 said:

Guys...have sent things in, but haven't got a request yet. Do I have things on lockdown more tightly than my pregobrain thinks it does?

The only thing I can think is you either havent gotten the invite yet because they havent invited everyone yet or the facebook invite went to the spam folder of your email.  because you are definitely recognizable @Hufflepuff42

JaymeeLH

Hufflepuff42 said:

Guys...have sent things in, but haven't got a request yet. Do I have things on lockdown more tightly than my pregobrain thinks it does?

I would check your spam folder, your invite was sent last night  ;;)