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February 2015 Moms
~*~*~UO~*~*~
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Maybe Ill get some for lunch.
You must try it! Order it in sometime when you've been abandoned to fend for your own dinner. Be sure to order veggie pakoras! They're probably as bad as timbits for you, but oh so delicious with tamarind sauce!
Most people try butter chicken curry first, as their main dish. But korma curries are as palatable to most so don't shy away from a korma if it sounds good. If you love spice and have an asbestos mouth, spicy vindaloos are for you.
Now I must have Indian!
According to the estimator when I set up Henry's 529 - 4 years at a state school with housing and living expenses will cost 300,000 dollars when henry goes to college in 2031.
We aren't paying for our kids college either.. nevermind the fact that will have two going at the same exact time. We both paid our own way & are very responsible w/our money bc of it. I think our kids would rather us save for our retirement instead of live in their basement later on (I'm exaggerating, but still). Unless of course we become super rich.. then we'll help them out.
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Me 29/ DH 28
DH- MFI (low count, 2-3% morph)
IUI #1 January - Clomid, Ovidrel: BFN
IUI #2 February - Letrozole, Follistim, Ovidrel: BFP 1st beta-25, 2nd beta-56, 3rd beta-45, miscarriage
IUI #3 April - CD3 U/S 4-10. Letrozole, Follistim, Ovidrel CD11 - Cancelled.. TI w/5 follicles-BFN
IUI #3.1 May - CD3 U/S 5-6, Follistim start 5-11 thru 5-17, u/s 5-18 3 mature w/ a close 4th, IUI 5-20 - BFP!
Beta #1 12dpo - 164 & progesterone - 89!, Beta #2 16 dpo - 1189, 5w3d - u/s shows TWINS!
6/19- u/s showed heartbeats! Baby A 111 & Baby B 118, both measuring 6w1d
7/3- Baby A hb 170, Baby B hb 166 - both measuring perfect.
7/18 - Baby A 165, Baby B 171 - both measuring right on track & moving all around!
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Overall I feel as if people typically want to do whatever their parents did/didn't do for them. But in our circle, we get s@$& for feeling this way since most of our friends had help from their parents. Glad to see it's not as much of an "UO" as I thought.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
I teach at university and I see far too many students who ought not to be there wasting theirs or their parents' money! It is a shame that some people feel like a university degree is necessary when a trade would be much more appropriate, enjoyable, and lucrative for some people.
It is crazy how many of my peers from undergrad are still paying off their degrees while working at a job they could have gotten right out if high school! Sure, some will be promoted further with a degree than without, but I bet a pile of them would be much happier fixing cars or computer networks than selling shirts.
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
10 years isn't too long for some career paths.
Personally I would have stayed in undergrad forever! I loved undergrad because I love learning and being kind of spoon fed! But, I was paying for most myself so I had to make the decisions based on finances.
But there's no corresponding gender bleed the other direction for boys to have a space to emulate traditionally girly things. No one thinks a boy named Jessica is cool, in fact, you'd probably have everyone ask if you're okay in the head, and then question if you actually hate your son. Even if the name was something that, to me, sounds kinda masculine anyway, like Madison. I can feel myself taking this too far, but hey, it's my UO: I think it is just part of a larger insidious sexism that also says it's not okay in any way for boys to emulate girls/women, because of the devaluation of anything associated with femininity.
/rant over
PS even though this is in UO, I still feel a bit uneasy posting it (though I obviously feel strongly) because frankly, I know a lot of people who love "boy" names for their girls and are not consciously trying to be sexist... I guess, for me, I just can't unthink about the above now that it's been thought.
I really don't think you need to never post a new discussion because of the random threads. If you have a topic you want to discuss and get opinions on, by all means post it.
Just not the ones that you can logically know if everyone of the hundreds of people on the board posted their own thread for it would be super annoying and out of control (sex, I felt the baby, aw our announcement, I have an ultrasound/appt today, etc)
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
My comment was saying you may get more responses if you post in the daily thread, at that point you had around 127 views and no responses. I was just trying to be helpful that people tend to want to chat about random stuff/commiserate, etc in the daily threads and you may get more feedback there.
do what you want, but if you post every little thought that pops into your head as a new thread don't be frustrated when you get crickets.
We aren't paying for our kids college either.. nevermind the fact that will have two going at the same exact time. We both paid our own way & are very responsible w/our money bc of it. I think our kids would rather us save for our retirement instead of live in their basement later on (I'm exaggerating, but still). Unless of course we become super rich.. then we'll help them out.
We don't plan to pay for our kids' college either. Everyone in our families is horrified. We might help them out senior year if they have kept their grades up and been responsible.
DH and I both saw so many of our college friends get bogus degrees because they thought those classes were easy or fun and they didn't have to pay for it. Now they can't get a decent job and they blame the economy.
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*stuck in the box!*
Nope. She started out in Biology (2 years), then moved to a different state and did 2 years of an undeclared major, then decided on Environmental Soil Science as a major & Spanish as a minor - that took 4 years. Now she's on year 2 of her masters program. She's supposed to graduate in November. I think.
I feel compelled to respond to the boy-name for girl thing and I want to preface by saying I completely hear you and your message of a larger subtext of sexism in name selection. Additionally, I by no means am trying to convince anyone because I love the names I am considering and understand their personal meaning which my child will hopefully cherish as well. (I love discussion not fighting! Please read it this way!)
I have openly shared my love of boy names for girls and this is where context and reasoning is important. I do not like the names that I like simply because they are boy names... But rather their personal familial meaning as well as their "sound." The sound component for me separates it because the boy names I like have similar sounds to girl names. Charlie (Ashley, Brittany, MacKenzie etc) is one. And Elliott (Charlotte, Bridgette etc) have effeminate sounds which removes, for me, their masculinity and would still befit a girlie girl. Identity issue averted? Maybe.
I am not a tomboy by any means, though I participate and am empowered by sports, as I feel athleticism is a universal interest and source of accomplishment for many.
And finally, speaking to the point about the lack of equality on the boy's with girl's names portion, there I have no argument. I agree. There is a discrepancy there. Having said that, I do know that as a parent I may not name my son a unisex name (just as I would forgo "Butch" or "Hank" or anything uber masculine) because as a parent you have a right to personal preference, but I would support their choices to explore typical "girl" hobbies, clothes etc and let them share with me if those interest are simply curiosity or perhaps a larger question of identity.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
On the Beyonce topic, I'm not much of a fan. Although her VMA's performance was pretty good.
But what the hell is a "surfbort"?
I think its in her drunk in love song? I THINK.
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TTC 10+ | Stage 4 Endometriosis
3 Laparscopy's
BFP - 06.15.2014
EDD - 02.16.2015
I guess here's where I am now: I personally have no connection to any names that are traditionally boy names (I have a daughter, and don't know yet about this pregnancy, so we might be in the situation of naming a girl again). But, to take one of my examples, I LOVE football and most other sports too. I'm pretty sure that my enjoyment of football has nothing to do with wanting to be cool or wanting to emulate men, either in general or in my life. I like football because I like football. You like names like Charlie and Elliott because you do! I would never tell you you're wrong or misguided for liking them (and if it seemed that way from my other post, I sincerely apologize.).
So I guess what I'm struggling to articulate is that my real problem is with society being so accepting of choices that go one way, but not the other.
PS @jennwilhoite -- thanks for your response! Ashley was actually a male name first, but according to Wikipedia (that bastion of accuracy -- perhaps someone else has a better resource?), "...it gained popularity as a female first name in the United States in the late 20th century. Its sudden rise in popularity is generally attributed to the emergence of the female soap opera character Ashley Abbott on The Young and The Restless in 1982." I'm still wondering if there is a female name that has regularly started to be used for males?
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15