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March 2015 Moms
wishiwaspreggo
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Vent and GTKY - Tacky shit
wishiwaspreggo
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I have a friend, and she's dear to me, but she's pissing me off right now so I wanted to vent. So she's a little fertile myrtle and declared last winter that she wanted to get pregnant in March. Boom, she got pregnant in March just like she wanted and talked about it all the time. She has a daughter and wanted a sister for her so she kept talking about how it better be a girl and that she was irritated the baby is going to be born in November because she hates the birth stone. You can imagine how awesome this was to hear when I was in the thick of TTC spending thousands of dollars at my fertility clinic for the chance to have a baby of EITHER sex, but there you go.
She's always been kind of insensitive so I didn't say anything. Well, she found out later that she's having a boy and of course she's disappointed. She complained about not having anything for a boy in her house. She's had several friends who had sons so I figured she would be fine with everyone giving her their old stuff. I even took several bags of boy clothes to her house from my cousin even though she gave them to me for OUR kid but I figured since I don't know the sex there's no use in hoarding clothes I may or may not want.
She sent us a message asking us to host a baby shower for her because she didn't want to host one for herself. I, personally, was appalled. Another friend in our group was, too. But everyone else seems to be perfectly happy doing it and one is even looking at ideas on Pinterest and we're expecting 30 people to show up to this thing. THIRTY!! For a second baby!! Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but this seems totally 100% gift-grabby, which it is, essentially. But the culture of this area (we call it The Region) seems to believe this is perfectly normal.
I just found out I was an admin on the Facebook invite page and I'm gritting my teeth in annoyance. I want to voice my opinion and I complain to C about it (she's not very happy either) but then this girl has gone through a lot and she's done a lot for us so I'm keeping quiet.
But I wanted to bitch about it somewhere.
Let's turn this into a GTKY!!! What's the tackiest thing you've ever experienced? Believe it or not, I have worse stories but I'll save those for another time. For now I want to hear your faux pas from tacky family and friends 
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Re: Vent and GTKY - Tacky shit
So my mom is going to use a text to tell them about the baby after my appointment tomorrow.
Married December 2011 TTC#1 Since November 2013
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My tackiest experience was unfortunately my own bridal shower. My SIL hosted it, and one day asked me if there was a special item I wanted not on my registry. I thought about it and told her our camera broke, so I guess it would be nice to get for our honeymoon.
Around comes the shower, and I get like 3 wrapped presents, which I thought was weird. Then I opened the envelopes.... turns out my SIL told my guests to bring cash instead of presents. She told all of them that I preferred cash so I could buy a camera. I. Was. Mortified.
Not sure if this counts as tacky or just cruel. My mother and father divorced when I was 16. Five years later my father brought the engagement ring he bought for his soon to be fiance to my mother's funeral to show it off to my uncle (my mother's brother) and other family. He did not see anything wrong with this after being questioned about it.
For suzyq0525
Okay, you win. Even after thinking about my worst story, you totally win.
The bride assigned gifts to you? For THREE parties? Because she didn't want "random gifts not on the registry"? WHAT?! You are much, much classier than I would have been. I would have put a dollar store candle in a box, wrapped it beautifully, and presented it to her on her wedding day. And I would have included a note that said "I found this on your registry and I just knew you would love it!" What a bitch! Was this someone you were close to? Were you asked to be part of the bridal party? Because really, on the bridal party should be required to attend the shower, bachelorette party, and wedding. Wow.
And then your SIL "ranked" her gifts?! Way to make everyone in the damned room feel like shit!!!! I would've walked out. That is so fucking rude. What if someone made a beautiful handmade quilt and spent months on it and she just tossed it in the "cheap" pile? That would break my heart.
If I were you, I'd give her shitty Christmas gifts for the rest of your life. Damn.
But seriously, your friend sounds obnoxious.. To put it nicely. Very gift grabby and she sounds super entitled. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
Mine would be what my mom did over the weekend. I posted about it in the random thread over the weekend, but she frequently acts like an entitled bitch and that she's better than you. I called her out for the ALS challenge and she posted a video of herself in a raincoat that covered her and she said "I'm going to do this MY way" and opened a giant umbrella over her head. Then my SIL proceeded to pour the ice water over the umbrella and my mom didn't get a drop on her. I joked with her about how that didn't even count and she started insulting me calling me a silly little girl for challenging her challenge, and then proceeded to throw a fit that this is why she doesn't post things on FB because of negative comments. /:) She wouldn't survive M15 after 5 minutes...
I also have many more from other people, but that's the most recent.
I am not big on baby showers, but I know both sides of the family will want to have one. So I gave my mom, my mil, and my fil my mothers information and just requested that they have the shower in a centrally located place so that both sides don't have to drive to far to attend.
Family parties always stress me out to no end. Only because both of our parents are divorced so you end up always hurting someone's feelings. Someone can't be around the other, and instead if focusing on the occasion, they focus on their own misgivings and insecurities of their own failed marriage. It's soo obnoxious and tiring.
Sorry went on a tangent I wasn't intending to go on. I just have a lot of pent up aggression towards our family.
OP that sounds like a swell friend there
Tackiest thing I experienced was my best friends baby shower that her cousin hosted. They have a very large family and expected about 50 guests. In each invite there was confetti - which immediately irritated me when I opened it, and then in the invite not only were we told to bring diapers but also what size diapers and what size clothes to bring. Since there were so many guests expected they didn't want all the same size. I was angry that I had to be told what size outfit to buy.
DD 12.2010
Here's mine - two of my cousins and I all got married the same year.
Wedding 1 was HUGE 300+ people. A distant cousin was invited with her husband and two daughters. The daughters were probably around 15 and 16. It was the first time many of us even met them.
Wedding 2 (smaller event) is approaching and distant cousin is only invited with her husband. She calls my my aunt and asks if a certain much older guy was going to be at the wedding. My aunt said "yes he's actually A's (the groom) brother. Distant cousin replies "oh good! Can I bring DD1 and DD2, DD2 thought he was cute and really wants to be introduced to him." Keep in mind she is only 15 years old!! My aunt totally caught of guard said well he has a girlfriend but sure you can bring your daughters.
Fast forward to my wedding (also a smaller event) and distant cousin pulls the same shit!! My mom also caught off guard agreed that her daughters could come to my wedding as well. When she found out the guy her daughter was after was not invited to my wedding she asks my mom "does J (my H) have any cute single friends coming?" I mean what the actual fuck are you doing trying to whore out your teenage daughter to 30+ year old men!? Anyway then this little hussy shows up on a bright white sparkly dress. And she pretty much bulldozed my girlfriends so she could catch the bouquet.
Needless to say they were never invited to any other family events.
Totally. Fucking. Tacky.
Mine isn't tacky but it is the most trashy thing I have ever witnessed, so I must share. Thought you guys might enjoy.
My sister got married a couple of years ago and she was 8 months pregnant at the time of the ceremony. She invited me early so we could spend time together but she ended up making me decorate the "reception hall" single handedly with ONLY hand picked flowers. This turned into me in a ditch while my sister yelled what I'm doing wrong at me from a safe distance. Needless to say it ended up looking like a bunch of shitty shrubs were taped to the walls, because they were. Also the fold out tables we covered in old mismatched bedsheets. I shit you not.
It took place 5 hours north of any major city, in Minnesota in late October, outside on the beach of Lake Superior, in the rain. For those of you unfamiliar with the climate, it was perfectly cold enough for the rain to be juuuust on the edge of being ice. Also when I say beach I mean "random spot on the side of the highway" so everyone just pulled over and climbed over the guard rails.
Afterwards we all went to the aforementioned "reception hall", which I'm almost positive was an abandoned old town hall, and realized that we were all soaking wet, freezing and this building IS NOT HEATED. There were also no bathrooms, one outhouse, so almost all 100+ people had to pee outside. We later came to realize that the wedding dinner was "potluck" and nobody was fully informed, so we all ate the nuts and crackers that somebody scrounged up. To top it all off, my sister had found her dress in a lost and found, hand dyed it brown and tried to hand alter it to fit her. It ripped and fell almost completely off of her 8 month pregnant body halfway through the first dance. I still to this day have no clue why any of this happened. I'm truely boggled.
This is literally the biggest cluster fuck I have ever heard of in my entire life. Okay, you win worst wedding story EVER in my book. And I thought I had the worst story. Wow.
=D> Congratulations, that sucks harder than anything I could possibly imagine for any wedding ever! An outhouse? Seriously??? And no dinner?
This girl I went to HS with and am FB friends with just recently got married. She is a blur of tacky. I'm just going to list of some of the tackier FB gems.
Posting updates about her weight leading up to the wedding. 127...118, "I'm almost human-looking again!"
Asking for people to pitch in on her electric bill and watch her kids for free,then the next week talking about going to blow her entire paycheck on her wedding dress and shoes.
"J and I are throwing our own joint bridal shower, everyone's invited! We made a registry on Amazon, and hometown peeps (she moved across the country) can just send cash or gift cards. Thanks!!! Oh and we need help throwing it too, so let me know if u can help!! It's going to be a blast!" Registry included such items as TVs and exercise equipment.
The actual wedding ended up taking place on an inner tube in the river. Their "wedding picture" is her in a white bikini, veil, and dirty tennis shoes and him in a pair of shorts with no shirt, kissing in what looks like a park...directly in front of a trashcan. For real. I saved the pic but won't post it because I'm not that big of a dick.
The other one was a girl I went to beauty school with. I hadn't kept in touch but we were FB friends. About a year after we graduated she got KU with her 3rd boy and decided to throw herself a shower. She invited people via group message in FB, then when pretty much no one came, she sent us all a message calling us bitches and that now she's going to have to buy everything herself and knows who her real friends are now.
Tackiest thing ever, the day after my grandma died one of my relatives started going through the house making a pile of the things she wanted saying "E always wanted me to have this." Little did she know that my grandma kept very detailed notes about who was supposed to get what.
We had reserved tables that only my family seemed to observe while dhs mothers side sat across the room.
My fil's wife showed up to the wedding drunk. They only stayed up till we cut the cake and then they had to escort her out before she caused a scene. My fil and his wife also missed the rehearsal dinner for reasons they never explained nor apologized for.
My mils side also all left quickly after dinner to make the 3 hour drive back to their home town when I had made hotel reservations for all of them to stay. Bleh. Whatever. I had a wonderful wedding beyond those few snafus.
Let's see, the tacky thinks my MIL did before my wedding is an endless list. She came to the bridal shower thrown by my family and repeatedly told everyone how she thought my wedding was very inconvenient, that she had considered skipping it bc it was very close to a weekend trip she had been hoping to take with her husband. She also talked non-stop about how the whole family was much more excited by her granddaughters wedding which was scheduled for two months after my wedding. Flash forward a week or two and she was on a campaign for us to allow the granddaughter to get married at our wedding. Like a double fucking wedding!!! She called me and DH several times to discuss this and shared that she has kept her 50 years of wedding planning experience a secret but now she felt it was her duty to share her knowledge and help us make the best wedding for her family by allowing the "time honored tradition" of a double wedding. She told me it was the only way I would be accepted into the family. Those were some of the last conversations we ever had.
My tacky story is from my baby shower when I was pregnant with DD1. My mom and sisters put together a fantastic party and my grandparents were even able to travel from out of state to attend. It was amazing with all of my closest friends and my awesome family. So I opened a gift and it was from my out of state cousin. It was just a piddly little gift she sent so that she could send a card that had instructions for me to read out loud. So I read the card and she announced her pregnancy to all of my friends that didn't even know her and my family at my baby shower. I just thought it was tacky to take a day about my family starting and turn it into being about her. She has always been an AW.
I guess that isn't so bad, but it the worst I can think of.
@kelseypie Inner tube wedding? Lol think of all the money we could have saved on weddings!
@vargasgurl I might know of a similar story and I was fiancé #1 who returned the ring. I guess he gave the exact same ring to his wife and a year later she found out that he had originally given it to me and was furious. So she demands another ring and he buys it for her. The story goes (and obviously I'm hearing it third hand) that she then decides she doesn't like ring #2 as much as #1 and asks him to have a third ring made with the diamond from the first. I have to admit I found this all a little amusing :-)
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And my sister also planned, set up the date & time for her bridal shower & bachelorette party because she lives out of town & it would be easier for her to do it... She has also planned the timeframe for her baby shower (winter break when she comes into town), but she's not KTFU yet
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Sucks that some people can be so self centered and obnoxious
Mine is basically about my brother's tacky girlfriends who basically guilt tripped him into missing my 16th,18th,21st and 22nd birthdays ... I'll be surprised if him and his girlfriend will even show up to my baby shower or bring my niece.
Not tacky enough compared to some of the stories you guys shared but i'll probably have more as time goes on!
One site helped them gather money for a down payment for their first house (lol). Here's a sample registry page as a demo so you can see what it looks like: https://www.hatchmyhouse.com/weddings/reagan-myers-william-knapp. You mouse-over different aspects of the house, and "buy" one for them. They get the cash.
The other option was to pay for things for them to do on their honeymoon, including the plane tickets and hotel. Here's another demo registry: https://www.honeyfund.com/SampleRegistries
Both of these last options were just "cute" ways to ask for money. Both my mom and I were mortified.
@estamos_tomamos I will very seriously ask around for pictures. There wasn't a photographer but people had cell phones. They have to exist!
Actually, this is the sort of thing I'd do for my own wedding registry *ducks*
The reason being C and I have everything we need to make a home! We've been together an entire decade. Anything we've ever wanted or needed, we've already bought for ourselves.
Wow. There are tons of tacky/bad situations on here. I can't believe people sometimes...
Well, my tacky situtation occured just recently. My husband and I were baptizing my daughter and we were throwing a small brunch at our place afterwards as a reception. So as background info, my MIL asked if she could do anything to help. I mentioned if she wanted, we would really appreciate it if she could bring a fruit salad. She said she would and she was overall just happy to pitch in. (I normally don't ask for help and do all planning and prep on my own which is why she was ahppy to help). So the night before the baptism, my MIL comes over to our place with my SIL to cut the fruit for the fruit salad. My SIL lives down the street and she instantly says, "I didn't want her to cut the fruit at my house because I didn't want her to make a mess." Then she says, well "Why is she doing this anyways? I had the Ninas and Ninos do everything for my daughter's baptism". (lie, I was there and they only brought a cake.) I told her that her mom asked to help and that was the end of that.
Then I go to the back room and put my daughter down to sleep. I have a very small house and can hear everything still being said in the kitchen. So my SIL starts talking to a family friend visiting and says to her, "I don't like her name (my daughter). Her name is too long. It's Adrianni, not even Adrianna. They should have named her something else. It's not a cute name..."
To change the topic, our family friend asks my SIL if she wanted other kids. She first says she doesn't and then she goes on a rant on how much she thinks it's a bad idea to have more than one kid and basically continues her talking shit spree. (she knows i'm pregnant with baby #2).
So my husband gets home and sees that something is bothering me. He asked me what was up and I told him what his sister had said. He texted her and she instantly called yelling at me. Asking why I was saying she was talking shit when she wasn't. I was like you were! You're in my house, the night before my daughter's baptism and decide to talk hella shit while I'm putting her down. It's hella rude. There's no need for it. Basically she continued to say she wasn't talking shit and she was just voicing her opinion. She made it seem like I was just being sensitive because I was pregnant. I told her that the family friend she was talking to also thought what she had said was hella rude and inappropriate. So not only does she call me at like 11p, she then calls our family friend's bf and tells him to control his woman and started calling her two faced. She kept them up yelling about how she wasn't being rude or out of line well past midnight.
After this, she sends a text to my husband saying how she was sorry for what she said. "She didn't mean anything by it and I blew it out of proportion because I must be hormonal." She never apologized to me or our family friend.
...in laws....
My wedding weekend, I get a call from my sister that she can't come to Disneyland with the rest of the bridal party because she got arrested! But that she'd do me the favor and bail herself out so she can make the wedding.
Then come the actual wedding day, she shows up late complaining the whole time. Goes to get ready, asks for scissors and cuts the straps on the bridesmaid dress she chose and turns it into a halter style dress, complaining all the time about how much she hates it and it doesn't fit right (she didn't take it to get altered and rejected ALL other dresses until she finally picked this one herself--she had new breast implants and didn't like how the dresses looked on them), then she pulls out her 6 inch LITERAL stripper heels to wear with the dress -.-
Then by the time we made it to the offsite reception hall she'd changed into her hot pink Juicy Couture track suit with bikini top underneath--which then led to my Dad changing out of his suit and into casual clothes, essentially ruining the father daughter dance pictures etc.
I think that qualifies as tacky...
~~~~For SuzyQ and all our loss moms~~~~
Met: 02.2007 / Engaged: 11.21.2009 / Married: 07.09.2010
EDD: 03.02.2015 / Scheduled Delivery Date: 02.25.2015
I didn't find out about my bil and his baby mamma being pregnant till i saw a cryptic message on fb.
I had to call my mil to ask if they were expecting. My bil didn't have the guts to tell us his gf of 4 months was pregnant.
Now here's the best part! My bil is now paying for a paternity test, because there is a question on when did she get pregnant, and his baby momma was especially secretive about her pregnancy, even to him. Oh and let's not forget about her little opiate addiction.... But I digress..
My mil and family had openly supported the idea of throwing a bay shower for her and my bil, however when it came time to make the invitations she only gave names and phone numbers to some 30 people?! My H's aunt, who was going to host, backed out because she was soo done dealing with her!
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