The fact of the matter is there is always going to be a hot topic for a few weeks and there will be people to complain about it. Both sides of this complaint has been voiced about 156 times since we got pregnant.
Re sleep threads? Who is posting about how much they hate them in the thread @dani+california. I'm really curious. I may have love titted a comment about hating the sleeping threads and I do. I let DD sleep whenever she wants and she seems to be a good sleeper but those threads always make me feel like I'm doing something wrong. Or we should have more of a routine. Or be more consistent about where she sleeps. Or she is going to do a 180 and be wide awake for 7 days straight because she doesn't go to bed at the same time every night and I'm still swaddling and she is not put down sleepy but awake and and and other things I'm not doing.
I'm speaking specifically about the sleep thread I started to ask a question, and @LalaMama81 said how annoyed she was of sleep threads (which she has every right to be, but again...don't read them?) and it got a bunch of lovetits. There have been other times too, but this is the most recent one that comes to mind.
Don't feel bad. She does that to like every question anyone ever asks. At least it seems like that to me.
Really? Because I haven't noticed that at all. I think this comment was vey immature.
I'm sorry, you're right the way I said that was immature. It has been my experience recently that some people make statements or ask questions and the response they get from her is less than helpful or friendly and it seems to be a recurring theme.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions about posters and there are times I really disagree with her advice or delivery but I think she is helpful and the sweeping generalization is unfair. No one was more helpful to me than lala when I was trying to bf. although I ultimately gave up she had a lot of really great advice and was nothing but encouraging. I agree I have seen her offer tons of educated support.
Re sleep threads? Who is posting about how much they hate them in the thread @dani+california. I'm really curious. I may have love titted a comment about hating the sleeping threads and I do. I let DD sleep whenever she wants and she seems to be a good sleeper but those threads always make me feel like I'm doing something wrong. Or we should have more of a routine. Or be more consistent about where she sleeps. Or she is going to do a 180 and be wide awake for 7 days straight because she doesn't go to bed at the same time every night and I'm still swaddling and she is not put down sleepy but awake and and and other things I'm not doing.
I'm speaking specifically about the sleep thread I started to ask a question, and @LalaMama81 said how annoyed she was of sleep threads (which she has every right to be, but again...don't read them?) and it got a bunch of lovetits. There have been other times too, but this is the most recent one that comes to mind.
Don't feel bad. She does that to like every question anyone ever asks. At least it seems like that to me.
Haha...I used to get my knickers twisted about a lot of comments I'd read or receive from @LalaMama81, @dandelionhater and @AprilMay9. (Back in the early days of TB.) They're very blunt and opinionated.
But then I came to realize they're typically quite educated about the topic at hand and also fucking hilarious. Now every time I see that they've posted I'm all 'ehehehehe' when I click the link, even if I still disagree with some of their views.
I used to think the same way, but then I realized TB would be incredibly boring and lacking that special something if blunt and opinionated people didn't exist. We'd all just be sitting here like "After you, madam." "Oh, no, no, no. After you, madam, I insist."
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I can't speak for lala but I got the impression in that thread that it wasn't frustration at danis question,but there was a lot of nonsense posted in response - not even what a14ers had done, but other methods and advice being discussed in theory.
I can't speak for lala but I got the impression in that thread that it wasn't frustration at danis question,but there was a lot of nonsense posted in response - not even what a14ers had done, but other methods and advice being discussed in theory.
Cant figure out how to bold on mobile "but there was a lot of nonsense posted in response" Should I get butt hurt at this? Nah got better things to worry about!
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I get that the sleep threads might give some people anxiety about how their kids sleep and what they're doing right/wrong, but the sleep threads are meant for those who are struggling. If your kid is sleeping well, why would you do anything to change it? Just keep on keeping on.
And while waking every two hours at night might be normal for a baby, it's wasn't my kid's normal one month ago so I know he's capable of sleeping longer and I don't think there is anything wrong with trying harmless things to see if it helps your child sleeps. Just because it's "normal" doesn't mean you shouldn't try things to make it better, you know?
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Since we keep talking about dumb phrases, I hate when people say "bad news bears." I have no clue what it means or what bears have to do with unfortunate news.
Back to the weight stuff - maybe it's a cultural thing (I'm multiracial), but I don't think stick thin is a compliment. A lot of models end up with 12 year old boy bodies, and that wouldn't be my ideal look. That said, no matter what your body looks like, there is a person out there that thinks it's hot, so I think you should just own the shit out of it. Don't get me wrong, I'm self conscious about my pouchy tummy from birth, but my husband thinks I'm sexy and my wide hips got a little wider and I'm all for that. "Real women have curves" isn't wrong, it just depends on the viewer. I just saw a show about a guy who dates with a fat fetish that was into women so big that they couldn't leave the house. There is indeed someone for everyone.
ETA - not to say stick thin is bad, it's just not my ideal body type. But obviously it is for some.
I've always been a thin person, but I do have a butt, so I don't typically get the "omg are you anorexic?" comments like I did when I was younger. I just never really know how to react or what to say when people say things like "you're so skinny. I hate you"and those type of comments. It just gets awkward. I feel like I can never say or do the right thing, especially around friends who I know struggle with weight
I've always been skinny with a butt. I get "you've got a big butt for a white girl," as well as comments about being too thin. It's made me really self conscious getting both sides of the coin. In my head I'm hearing, "you're quite fat for a skinny girl."
Since we keep talking about dumb phrases, I hate when people say "bad news bears." I have no clue what it means or what bears have to do with unfortunate news.
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I've always been really thin from being a cross country runner (and yes, suffered from an ED) but I'm healthy now and have been for years. It's still really uncomfortable to hear comments on my body, especially after pregnancy. My boss said, "I can't believe THAT THING had a baby four weeks ago" (this was four weeks pp). I'm supposed to be proud of that because that's what our culture says? That's just how my body is. I didn't do anything but do what I always do. Bleh. Fat, skinny, tall, short, muffin top or junk in the trunk...commenting on bodies is lame and not cool beans and is bad news bears. :-)
My real UO: I f**king hate the expression "happy mama, happy baby!" and how its used to condone shitty parenting choices.
Totally agree about the happy mama happy baby.. While I do support moms taking care of themselves, it can be used to make some really bad, selfish parenting decisions ( I should add this does not apply to things like how you feed/diaper/etc)
happy mama, happy baby is a lot like "happy wife, happy life" for me... often used to justify bad behavior.
While I agree that sometimes "happy mama, happy baby" can be used to justify bad parenting, there are more occasions where mum is worked too hard, sacrificing everything she has to make sure everyone else is healthy that then end up very sick. I have seen it time and time again where mum comes in very very sick after taking care of everyone before herself.
Yes motherhood is about sacrifice but there is a point where you HAVE to put yourself first in order to look after everyone else. You are no good to anyone else if you are falling over too sick.
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I am a vegetarian (well, pescetarian) that has no issues with meat eaters. It drives me nuts when meat eaters apologize to me for ordering chicken off the menu or something as if all vegetarians are super judgmental assholes who are offended by your eating habits. Order that burger. Yes I will have that fry that touched it. We're not all a walking vegan joke.
That said, I *do* think a lot of issues would be solved if everyone just ate 1/2 the amount of meat they are eating. Americans especially way over-portion meat and eating so much of it for every meal is having terrible effects on the environment. Da welp.
YESSSSSSSSS. I have a friend that actually asks permission to order something that has meat in it, even though everysingletime I tell her that I wouldn't even notice if she had. Another thing that drives me crazy is when people get so damn defensive about eating meat when I never even put it up for debate. OR when they call me a hypocrite for wearing leather. I don't, and the things people actually assume are leather are, in fact, not either. If you're sitting on it yes it is, otherwise it's synthetic.
This!! Or when you mention being a vegetarian or eating less meat, the inevitable, "I could never be a vegetarian, I can't eat salads that often!" Um, yes. Because salads are ALL I EAT. Lettuce. All day every day.
I don't know that I'd say Americans get more uptight about things than other people, but I'd imagine that with the population of America being made up of people from so many different cultural backgrounds that the possibility of cultural disputes (circumcision, etc.) arises more often.
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Back to the weight stuff - maybe it's a cultural thing (I'm multiracial), but I don't think stick thin is a compliment. A lot of models end up with 12 year old boy bodies, and that wouldn't be my ideal look. That said, no matter what your body looks like, there is a person out there that thinks it's hot, so I think you should just own the shit out of it. Don't get me wrong, I'm self conscious about my pouchy tummy from birth, but my husband thinks I'm sexy and my wide hips got a little wider and I'm all for that. "Real women have curves" isn't wrong, it just depends on the viewer. I just saw a show about a guy who dates with a fat fetish that was into women so big that they couldn't leave the house. There is indeed someone for everyone.
ETA - not to say stick thin is bad, it's just not my ideal body type. But obviously it is for some.
Just wanted to say I love your $0.02 @Rogue237 because you legit have the body of a super hero. Ow ow owwww!
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happy mama, happy baby is a lot like "happy wife, happy life" for me... often used to justify bad behavior.
While I agree that sometimes "happy mama, happy baby" can be used to justify bad parenting, there are more occasions where mum is worked too hard, sacrificing everything she has to make sure everyone else is healthy that then end up very sick. I have seen it time and time again where mum comes in very very sick after taking care of everyone before herself.
Yes motherhood is about sacrifice but there is a point where you HAVE to put yourself first in order to look after everyone else. You are no good to anyone else if you are falling over too sick.
Obviously I'm not saying moms shouldn't take care of themselves and make themselves happy. I think taking time for yourself and doing things that make you happy are extremely important. It's the phraseology that's obnoxious, and, often, the women who use those words are using them to justify some sort of parenting shortcut.
As @AprilMay9 pointed out, I do see the phrase used in regards to FF a lot, and I am NOT at all talking about that sort of choice.
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Everyone is entitled to their own opinions about posters and there are times I really disagree with her advice or delivery but I think she is helpful and the sweeping generalization is unfair. No one was more helpful to me than lala when I was trying to bf. although I ultimately gave up she had a lot of really great advice and was nothing but encouraging.
I agree I have seen her offer tons of educated support.
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ETA - not to say stick thin is bad, it's just not my ideal body type. But obviously it is for some.
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YESSSSSSSSS. I have a friend that actually asks permission to order something that has meat in it, even though everysingletime I tell her that I wouldn't even notice if she had. Another thing that drives me crazy is when people get so damn defensive about eating meat when I never even put it up for debate. OR when they call me a hypocrite for wearing leather. I don't, and the things people actually assume are leather are, in fact, not either. If you're sitting on it yes it is, otherwise it's synthetic.
This!! Or when you mention being a vegetarian or eating less meat, the inevitable, "I could never be a vegetarian, I can't eat salads that often!" Um, yes. Because salads are ALL I EAT. Lettuce. All day every day.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Obviously I'm not saying moms shouldn't take care of themselves and make themselves happy. I think taking time for yourself and doing things that make you happy are extremely important. It's the phraseology that's obnoxious, and, often, the women who use those words are using them to justify some sort of parenting shortcut.
As @AprilMay9 pointed out, I do see the phrase used in regards to FF a lot, and I am NOT at all talking about that sort of choice.