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blondolphn · July 2014

Can't there be some compromise? LIke getting used Thomas the train stuff? Or letting your child save up for the special things they want and still having some of the more generic things?

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nanabanana06 · July 2014

The whole point of a birthday is to be special for the birthday person. So, just because YOU don't like branded things your going to tell the child no if thats what they choose? It's not about you. It's about them. Sure, there's plenty of kids that do choose colors or animals or what not for their themes and possible presents. However, what if your childs most favorite thing on the planet is something like Star Wars. If it meant the world to them to have a Star Wars party for their birthday you'd tell them no? Just cuz you don't want something with branding on it? That isn't making their day or party special.

I know I vowed when my kids were conceived I'd make all of their costumes. If Rosie found a costume of something I couldn't make, I'd buy it for her. There are just some things I cannot make. Some things just aren't the same.

joyfultrex · July 2014

blondolphn said:

Can't there be some compromise? LIke getting used Thomas the train stuff? Or letting your child save up for the special things they want and still having some of the more generic things?

I think this is where I fall on the whole issue. We just did DS 1st birthday yesterday. There was no theme. We got together our families and some of my friends with kids a similar age came over and we played in the back yard. It worked for us. I don't see the point in spending tons of money for a specific character cake because you are going to eat it. I would try to make a themed cake myself though if the kid really wanted it. We don't really do themed parties in my family. We celebrate being together. If DS really wanted a toy from a movie though he would get it for a special occasion, not all the time though.

mrshudson618 · July 2014

nanaosaki06 said:
The whole point of a birthday is to be special for the birthday person. So, just because YOU don't like branded things your going to tell the child no if thats what they choose? It's not about you. It's about them. Sure, there's plenty of kids that do choose colors or animals or what not for their themes and possible presents. However, what if your childs most favorite thing on the planet is something like Star Wars. If it meant the world to them to have a Star Wars party for their birthday you'd tell them no? Just cuz you don't want something with branding on it? That isn't making their day or party special.

I know I vowed when my kids were conceived I'd make all of their costumes. If Rosie found a costume of something I couldn't make, I'd buy it for her. There are just some things I cannot make. Some things just aren't the same.

My whole point is to raise my kids in such a way that it wouldn't "mean the world" to them to have whatever theme at their party or toy or whatever. If for whatever reason at the (very young) age of 4 they THOUGHT that it would mean the world to them, then yes, I would still say no, and it would be an important lesson to them, as they would still have just as much fun playing with their grandparents and cousins at their small, non-themed party with their homemade cake.

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mrshudson618 · July 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:
Dude. They're 4. Everything means the world to them.
It's also the age where you can say no and they won't hold it against you and life goes on. But you're not teaching them any valuable lesson either way.

Exactly. When everything means the world to you, it doesn't REALLY mean the world to you.

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Into+the+Kitty · July 2014

I think that we can all agree that regardless of your position on branding/licensed characters/consumerism, each and every single one of us are just terrible parents who are making every parenting choice incorrectly and screwing up our children's lives one birthday party at a time.

https://fox8.com/2014/03/29/major-birthday-meltdown-i-dont-want-4/

Thank god our kids will have therapy available to them.

joyfultrex · July 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:

blondolphn said:

Can't there be some compromise? LIke getting used Thomas the train stuff? Or letting your child save up for the special things they want and still having some of the more generic things?

I think this is where I fall on the whole issue. We just did DS 1st birthday yesterday. There was no theme. We got together our families and some of my friends with kids a similar age came over and we played in the back yard. It worked for us. I don't see the point in spending tons of money for a specific character cake because you are going to eat it. I would try to make a themed cake myself though if the kid really wanted it. We don't really do themed parties in my family. We celebrate being together. If DS really wanted a toy from a movie though he would get it for a special occasion, not all the time though.
Whether we did a themed character cake or not it would still cost the same.

If this were the case for me, then they would get whichever they preferred. The cake of choice in our house is a wonderful homemade chocolate cake that happens to be egg and milk free. We can't find an affordable replacement.

and just because a pic of the cake from yesterday in all of it's chocolatey goodness. It's not pretty, but it is so yummy.

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Into+the+Kitty · July 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:

It's true. I pride myself on my horrible parenting decisions.

+1

The only thing I pride myself on more is judging and shaming others for their horrible parenting decisions. I'm the best worst mom out there.

joyfultrex · July 2014

theultimatesak said:

joyfultrex said:
If this were the case for me, then they would get whichever they preferred. The cake of choice in our house is a wonderful homemade chocolate cake that happens to be egg and milk free. We can't find an affordable replacement.

and just because a pic of the cake from yesterday in all of it's chocolatey goodness. It's not pretty, but it is so yummy.

hey! all of our bday cakes have to be milk and egg-free too! i have two recipes i like, but i'm always looking for another good one. could you pm me your recipe?

of course, will do after the baby sleeping on me wakes up.

stoneycakes · July 2014

Chickypoo2468 said:

Chickypoo2468 said:

It's true. I pride myself on my horrible parenting decisions.

+1

The only thing I pride myself on more is judging and shaming others for their horrible parenting decisions. I'm the best worst mom out there.
The only reason I even became a mom was so I could judge other parents without them being all "you don't even have kids"

CLLDLL · July 2014

This thread was awesome. CLLDLL was here. That's all.

nanabanana06 · July 2014

I know this is dea, but I want to clarify something. I did not mean that kids who did not grow up with Disney oozing from their butt were going to be weirdos. I said that all the ones that I personally knew growing up that weren't allowed to watch Disney movies and weren't allowed to have character stuff were the kind of conservative nerdy kids. One was my best friend in Junior High. She was a very nice, smart girl, but due to how strict and sheltered she and her friends were she was very socially off. Not saying thats how every kid will be that didn't grow up with an Ariel themed party or sumshit. It's just an anecdote.

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