10.5 month old temper

erikawvu

My DD is starting to have temper tantrums. I don't remember my oldest having any at this age. She loves food.. Like, she wants everything. And when I'm eating, I'll give her bites and if I'm not fast enough, she screams a high pitched scream. I usually feed her her meal before I eat, so I know she isn't starving. But she does this with other things (try to take things from her, keep her out of certain rooms, etc)

 What works best for you? I don't know what to do! Other than never take her to another restaurant until she is 5  

Goodysgirl

If DS is hungry while we're cooking or waiting at a restaurant, we will give him something to snack on- puffs, goldfish, fruit.

As for the temper when we take something from him or move him to a new room, we don't do anything. If he gets mad because I took dog food out of his mouth, or took his hand out of the toilet, too bad.  We can distract him pretty easily when he has these mini tantrums.

JumpingJudahBean

DS does this. All. the. time. I think it is part of his personality, he is very demanding. We have 2 remote controls for this reason, other wise he steals it and gets very upset if you take it away. 

As far as food goes, I make sure he has something of his own to keep him away from mine. I bring mum-mums and cheerios where ever we go.  

 

RMiranda09

My DS does this as well - not so much for food, but definitely when we take things from him that he's not supposed to have.  We try to distract him, but he's a persistent little thing.  Everything I've read says to show no reaction and to not overuse the word "no", as they don't have a true understanding of the word just yet and overusing it can be confusing.  I just let him cry it out and walk away.  Usually that works for the most part, but definitely not every time.  You're not alone!

HenHen25

DS has been doing this for months. He does big, epic, throw-yourself backwards and flop around tantrums now. He has also started hitting and biting when he doesn't get his way. Fun times.

Our doctor suggested giving him a warning. A simple "no." Then if he continues to breakdown then we remove him to an area that is safe for him, and ignore him. She said that sometimes they just need the space to get their frustrations out.

It seems to work. The more we interact with him during these tantrums the more worked up he gets. But it doesn't stop them from happening. 

IrishEyes0530

Goodysgirl:

If DS is hungry while we're cooking or waiting at a restaurant, we will give him something to snack on- puffs, goldfish, fruit.

As for the temper when we take something from him or move him to a new room, we don't do anything. If he gets mad because I took dog food out of his mouth, or took his hand out of the toilet, too bad.  We can distract him pretty easily when he has these mini tantrums.

All of this exactly. DS gets mad when I take him away from the fireplace or cat food etc. and he throws himself back. Too bad, he can throw a fit all he wants but it's not going to make me do anything different.

mesmom2011

I validate DD's feelings and give her a safe alternative if she wants something she can't have.  I might say, "I know you want the ___, but it isn't safe.  Here, you can play with this ___."  Recently, she has started giving up things that she has if you say, "May I have that please?"  If she cries, I repeat what I said and give her a few seconds to get over it.  She's pretty easily distracted, so I'm lucky.

As far as the eating goes, I make sure to have something that she can eat if I'm going to be eating something.  She currenly LOVES goldfish crackers and they aren't messy, so I let her have those.