UO Thursday

mommymeg143 · July 2014

sj+cm131 said:

wildflower75 said:

sj+cm131 said:

I am kinda bummed that the OP from that 3rd tri thread earlier this week got banned. I am not saying that she didn't deserve it. I understand why she got banned and completely agree that she went over the line in her comments. Outside of her horrible remark, I found it to be a rather entertaining train wreck to read and now we won't know what's next in the story...

She crossed the line and I couldn't deal with seeing her screen name any more... I wrote directly to Bump Jackie about banning her!

I am not saying that she doesn't deserve to get banned. She totally deserved it (and so much more!)

I am just saying that she has an interesting train wreck of a life and we won't know the next part to the story. Will she find a doctor? Or just walk into the ER someday because her water broke? And how will her stepson treat the baby? Will she stay with her husband?

I tend to have a weird fascination with some of these BSC posts. Reading their threads is like watching reality TV.

I figured that this was a UO, that's why it is here. I also totally understand those of you who have no tolerance for her after the remarks she made.

----Quote Box Fail----

It's almost like finishing a book and needing to know what happens next.

krgriffin26 · July 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

Maelara said:

sj+cm131 said:

I am kinda bummed that the OP from that 3rd tri thread earlier this week got banned. I am not saying that she didn't deserve it. I understand why she got banned and completely agree that she went over the line in her comments. Outside of her horrible remark, I found it to be a rather entertaining train wreck to read and now we won't know what's next in the story...

It went from entertaining to completely out of line and needing to be dealt with the second she brought abbyful's father into it. I couldn't stomach going past page 2 because it made me so sick.

As horrible as she is, I really hope she gets help. I mean, there are crazies that get flamed every day, but I think she has something seriously wrong with her. It's hard to explain, but normally the crazies seem to know what they're saying is a little out there, but the way she phrased everything I truly think she didn't see anything wrong with what she was saying or think she was at fault for anything in her life. She is going to be a very unhappy person and I don't want to even think about how her child is going to grow up being in that environment (not to mention living with her "Jeffrey Dahmer" SS).

Crap where the heck was I??? I don't remember this chick at all or the convo

marajay6 · July 2014

MeganMullikin said:

wildflower75 said:

sj+cm131 said:

I am kinda bummed that the OP from that 3rd tri thread earlier this week got banned. I am not saying that she didn't deserve it. I understand why she got banned and completely agree that she went over the line in her comments. Outside of her horrible remark, I found it to be a rather entertaining train wreck to read and now we won't know what's next in the story...

She crossed the line and I couldn't deal with seeing her screen name any more... I wrote directly to Bump Jackie about banning her!

I am not saying that she doesn't deserve to get banned. She totally deserved it (and so much more!)
I am just saying that she has an interesting train wreck of a life and we won't know the next part to the story. Will she find a doctor? Or just walk into the ER someday because her water broke? And how will her stepson treat the baby? Will she stay with her husband?
I tend to have a weird fascination with some of these BSC posts. Reading their threads is like watching reality TV.
I figured that this was a UO, that's why it is here. I also totally understand those of you who have no tolerance for her after the remarks she made.
----Quote Box Fail---- It's almost like finishing a book and needing to know what happens next.

I hate cliffhangers!

marajay6 · July 2014

krgriffin26 said:

absolutelymaybe said:

Maelara said:

sj+cm131 said:

I am kinda bummed that the OP from that 3rd tri thread earlier this week got banned. I am not saying that she didn't deserve it. I understand why she got banned and completely agree that she went over the line in her comments. Outside of her horrible remark, I found it to be a rather entertaining train wreck to read and now we won't know what's next in the story...

It went from entertaining to completely out of line and needing to be dealt with the second she brought abbyful's father into it. I couldn't stomach going past page 2 because it made me so sick.

As horrible as she is, I really hope she gets help. I mean, there are crazies that get flamed every day, but I think she has something seriously wrong with her. It's hard to explain, but normally the crazies seem to know what they're saying is a little out there, but the way she phrased everything I truly think she didn't see anything wrong with what she was saying or think she was at fault for anything in her life. She is going to be a very unhappy person and I don't want to even think about how her child is going to grow up being in that environment (not to mention living with her "Jeffrey Dahmer" SS).

Crap where the heck was I??? I don't remember this chick at all or the convo

Go to the 3rd Tri board and look for the thread with way more posts than the others. It is screwed up!

krgriffin26 · July 2014

sj+cm131 said:

krgriffin26 said:

absolutelymaybe said:

Crap where the heck was I??? I don't remember this chick at all or the convo

Go to the 3rd Tri board and look for the thread with way more posts than the others. It is screwed up!

Found it. Never mind. OMG and What the actual fk??? How can she call herself a person and act like that.

cindyNmark2010 · July 2014

UO- I think it's super tacky to have a giant engagement party in a hall and then decide to do a destination wedding where you don't invite half the people from your engagement party. IMHO it's just in poor taste.

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

I can't take a birth plan seriously when it's written in Comic Sans (like this one). Same goes for Papyrus and Jokerman.

krgriffin26 · July 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

I can't take a birth plan seriously when it's written in Comic Sans (like this one). Same goes for Papyrus and Jokerman.

Oh that pretty! Did they have a highschool girl type it for them??? lol

mommymeg143 · July 2014

excitedpreggo12 said:
I absolutely love being sedated. I never get nervous. I think it's cool to be so close to death but able to come back. Missing minutes of my life or not remembering is ok with me as long as it's for that reason.

If they'd allow it, I'd ask to be put under during labor and delivery. That wonderful experience is not needed.

Oh and I'm no fool, I understood the complications will my UO. I wanted to be a trauma surgeon for years and shadowed many Dr's, that's what peaked my interest.

I agree!! The day I had my wisdom teeth cut out was one of the best days of my life. Best sleep I've ever had.

missnacholover · July 2014

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.

Dimples0101 · July 2014

missnacholover said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.

I don't know that it's necessary to write up a birth plan. I guess it depends on how many requests you have and who needs to know about them (doctors, nurses, etc.) We only had requests related to the actual delivery, nothing involving labor. But I went early and didn't have the chance to write anything down. The doctor came in and said it was time to push and everyone was getting ready and I said "Hold on!" And told them what I wanted. It worked out fine. They did what they could of my requests.

abbyful · July 2014

missnacholover said:
My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.

I had a birth plan with DS and will again. It's hard to remember everything when you're "in the moment". And most of the time at the hospital you'll be with nurses you've never met, the doctor just shows up to catch the baby.

cindyNmark2010 · July 2014

missnacholover said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.

Making a birth plan freaks me out...there are just too many variables. I am willing to do as much research as possible and make myself and DH aware of any possible situation but there is just too much pressure to think that things will ever go exactly as planned. Just going to go with the flow!!! And request nachos afterward

ETA - words hard

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

missnacholover said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.

I don't think that's a UO -- at least not to me. I'm not making a birth plan either (just was researching them to see what other decisions twin moms were thinking about). My plan is to totally play it by ear. Maybe it's because I've never given birth before, but I have no preference to certain types of pain relief, I don't have any attachment to laboring a certain way, I don't even have a preference between vaginal or CS. I don't know how my body will react to certain things so I'm just going to go with what feels right at the time as long as it gets me one step closer to meeting my babies.

missnacholover · July 2014

abbyful said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.
I had a birth plan with DS and will again. It's hard to remember everything when you're "in the moment". And most of the time at the hospital you'll be with nurses you've never met, the doctor just shows up to catch the baby.

I should probably clarify that I will have some Diabetes related stuff written down because I'm assuming my Endo won't be there (basically like insulin rates for after birth...more for my reference.)

I guess my issue is that I'm not super "into" making sure certain things happen? I mean, I'd like delayed cord clamping and skin to skin but if it doesn't happen I'm not too worried about it.

I'm clearly a newb at this whole birth thing.

Dimples0101 · July 2014

missnacholover said:

abbyful said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.
I had a birth plan with DS and will again. It's hard to remember everything when you're "in the moment". And most of the time at the hospital you'll be with nurses you've never met, the doctor just shows up to catch the baby.

I should probably clarify that I will have some Diabetes related stuff written down because I'm assuming my Endo won't be there (basically like insulin rates for after birth...more for my reference.)

I guess my issue is that I'm not super "into" making sure certain things happen? I mean, I'd like delayed cord clamping and skin to skin but if it doesn't happen I'm not too worried about it.

I'm clearly a newb at this whole birth thing.

This was exactly what we wanted. And I wanted DH to tell me the sex because we were team green. The couldn't delay the cord clamping because they had to check her out quickly and possibly bring her to the NICU, but I said 'This is what I want, you do what's best for the baby.'

mommymeg143 · July 2014

ClrkKntismyAE said:
I don't think it is necessary to send thank you cards for something that was opened in front of the person who gave it to you. I have never opened something without sincerely thanking the giver and usually hugging them. To then send a card saying how much I appreciate it seems a bit redundant.

I totally agree. Someone needs to send a letter to Emily Post to let her know this. That bitch wants me to send thank yous for everything!!

wallygirl · July 2014

sj+cm131 said:
I am kinda bummed that the OP from that 3rd tri thread earlier this week got banned. I am not saying that she didn't deserve it. I understand why she got banned and completely agree that she went over the line in her comments. Outside of her horrible remark, I found it to be a rather entertaining train wreck to read and now we won't know what's next in the story...

I haven't been on that much in the last couple of weeks and I definitely missed that drama. Was the thread here or on the 3rd tri board?

cindyNmark2010 · July 2014

@wallygirl 3rd tri board

LongIslandMama1114 · July 2014

I wouldn't even know where to START with a birth plan. Some of the things I've heard mentioned on this thread alone make me nervous because I have NO idea what they are!

Panic mode setting in... :-O

missnacholover · July 2014

Dimples0101 said:

missnacholover said:

abbyful said:

My UO. I'm not making a birth plan. *shrug* I'm going to discuss things with my doctor (I would like delayed cord clamping) but I'm not going to have a specific plan or anything written down. Should I?

I am, however, totally making a playlist and downloading a shitton of apps to the iPad for entertainment.
I had a birth plan with DS and will again. It's hard to remember everything when you're "in the moment". And most of the time at the hospital you'll be with nurses you've never met, the doctor just shows up to catch the baby.

I should probably clarify that I will have some Diabetes related stuff written down because I'm assuming my Endo won't be there (basically like insulin rates for after birth...more for my reference.)

I guess my issue is that I'm not super "into" making sure certain things happen? I mean, I'd like delayed cord clamping and skin to skin but if it doesn't happen I'm not too worried about it.

I'm clearly a newb at this whole birth thing.

This was exactly what we wanted. And I wanted DH to tell me the sex because we were team green. The couldn't delay the cord clamping because they had to check her out quickly and possibly bring her to the NICU, but I said 'This is what I want, you do what's best for the baby.'

Yup, that's how I imagine I will be.

DH is the type that tends to get ideas in his head about how things will go down and if they don't go exactly according to plan, he gets bummed out. So I think if we had a birth plan and it didn't go that way (does it ever?) it'll stress him out, which will in turn stress me out.

lisaren · July 2014

My birth plan didn't say what to do or not do it was more for informational purposes.
Low lights, skin to skin, delayed cord clamping, mirror, no visitors once I was over 5 cm dilated, enya playing, no vaccs at birth with exception of eye ointment, no food allowed in my room, breast only..
I cannot remember everything but basically just more information than anything. It actually helped me feel a little sense of control over labor and delivery and of course in an emergency everything would have been handled accordingly.

lisaren · July 2014

My UO.
Jennifer Aniston is not cute.

wildflower75 · July 2014

Another UO:
I think that if you're going to get upset that someone "stole" the name you picked out for your baby then you shouldn't have announced it in the first place!

lizzielu82 · July 2014

My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

I think the Selfie song is the stupidest fucking song in the entire world. I cringe every time I hear it. I lose respect for people when they're all about the Selfie song. It's not funny, it's a sad commentary on society.

I wish selfies were never invented, partially because of that song.

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

lisaren said:

My birth plan didn't say what to do or not do it was more for informational purposes. Low lights, skin to skin, delayed cord clamping, mirror, no visitors once I was over 5 cm dilated, enya playing, no vaccs at birth with exception of eye ointment, no food allowed in my room, breast only.. I cannot remember everything but basically just more information than anything. It actually helped me feel a little sense of control over labor and delivery and of course in an emergency everything would have been handled accordingly.

I'm curious how you knew you wanted things handled? Did you have a birth plan with your first or was this something that you developed after going through the birth process and kind of knowing what you preferred?

mommymeg143 · July 2014

lizzielu82 said:
My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.

Most of the chalkboards are DIY projects. Take an old mirror, paint it with chalk paint and *tadah* chalkboard!! It was a super cute idea but like chevron prints, is WAY overused now.

lizzielu82 · July 2014

MeganMullikin said:

My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.
Most of the chalkboards are DIY projects. Take an old mirror, paint it with chalk paint and *tadah* chalkboard!! It was a super cute idea but like chevron prints, is WAY overused now.

Maybe the two trends will collide with a chevron-style chalkboard! @-)

lisaren · July 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

lisaren said:

My birth plan didn't say what to do or not do it was more for informational purposes.
Low lights, skin to skin, delayed cord clamping, mirror, no visitors once I was over 5 cm dilated, enya playing, no vaccs at birth with exception of eye ointment, no food allowed in my room, breast only..
I cannot remember everything but basically just more information than anything. It actually helped me feel a little sense of control over labor and delivery and of course in an emergency everything would have been handled accordingly.

I'm curious how you knew you wanted things handled? Did you have a birth plan with your first or was this something that you developed after going through the birth process and kind of knowing what you preferred?

I had help from my MW and talking in depth about how I wanted my birth experience. Already having three I knew more what I did want. Especially after the birth.
EC birth was much more laid back and the whole environment was more tranquil compared to my other baby's. And I contribute a lot of that to my MW and my approach leading up to labor and during labor.

lizgrace03 · July 2014

Is there a birth plan template that anyone would recommend in particular? I see there are a lot online but I wondered if anyone has had any success with one particular template over another?

I guess my UO would be that I don't think it's all that bad to have a Honeyfund. I have lots of friends who had them and actually liked being able to give money online.

MrsC430 · July 2014

My UO- I'm dreading the day our girls ask me to take them to Chuck E Cheese. The one near us is popular, but it's sketchy & gross :-S Maybe they all aren't that way?

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

lizzielu82 said:
My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.

I'm always jealous of how nice the handwriting is on those chalkboard announcements. Mine would look like a 3 year kid scrawled it.

abbyful · July 2014

MrsC430 said:
My UO- I'm dreading the day our girls ask me to take them to Chuck E Cheese. The one near us is popular, but it's sketchy & gross :-S Maybe they all aren't that way?

Maybe a FFFC, but I have never been to a Chuck E Cheese.

lizzielu82 · July 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.
I'm always jealous of how nice the handwriting is on those chalkboard announcements. Mine would look like a 3 year kid scrawled it.

Mine too - maybe it's more of a handwriting jealousy issue than anything. I'm also impressed by the fruit drawings, in the case of the pregnancy updates. If I had to draw an eggplant, it would just end up looking like a weirdly shaped circle.

uncharted01 · July 2014

lizzielu82 said:

My UO - chalkboards are overrated*. I'm over them being used for pregnancy progress pics, engagement announcements or anything else. Where does one even buy a chalkboard? I've never seen them for sale in an actual store.

*exception for all the N14 moms - your chalkboards are elite in terms of usage and overall cuteness factor. This is more of a UO for the randoms on Facebook that seem to have run out of ideas in terms of communication.

I guess I need a new siggy picture!

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hehe

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

wildflower75 said:

Another UO:
I think that if you're going to get upset that someone "stole" the name you picked out for your baby then you shouldn't have announced it in the first place!

I'd be more worried about not announcing a name and having someone use it because they didn't know you were going to use it.

absolutelymaybe · July 2014

lissydee said:

Regarding birth plans--I don't think they are necessary per se. What I do think is necessary is to research your options and know the risks and benefits associated with certain interventions that you may be considering. IMO being a FTM is no excuse to go in uninformed. You have 9 months to prepare--read the literature, blogs and ask the appropriate questions of your provider, the hospital/birth center and staff. What I find extremely odd is that many women willing to choose to remain ignorant of the process when at one of the most important thing a we will ever do with our bodies and is (or can be) such a defining moment in our lives. It has been shown time and time again that how a woman views her birth experience has a great impact on her post partum period (in terms of infant bonding, breastfeeding--if this is something you are choosing--and whether she is at risk for post partum mood disorders). I mean, we research baby products and gear to no end, but not how process of giving birth? It just strikes me as entirely odd and we are so blasé about it. Birth matters. Big time.

Do I count as an ignorant FTM if I've done research and still don't have an opinion about most things related to my babies' birth? Or maybe I do have an opinion (the opinion that I just don't care what happens, I'm along for the ride)? I'm a really laid back, go-with-the-flow type of person anyway, so I think that may be part of it.

I don't think it's wrong to have a birth plan. I mean, obviously I was researching them and learning more. It's just not my style.

missnacholover · July 2014

lissydee said:

Regarding birth plans--I don't think they are necessary per se. What I do think is necessary is to research your options and know the risks and benefits associated with certain interventions that you may be considering. IMO being a FTM is no excuse to go in uninformed. You have 9 months to prepare--read the literature, blogs and ask the appropriate questions of your provider, the hospital/birth center and staff. What I find extremely odd is that many women willing to choose to remain ignorant of the process when at one of the most important thing a we will ever do with our bodies and is (or can be) such a defining moment in our lives. It has been shown time and time again that how a woman views her birth experience has a great impact on her post partum period (in terms of infant bonding, breastfeeding--if this is something you are choosing--and whether she is at risk for post partum mood disorders). I mean, we research baby products and gear to no end, but not how process of giving birth? It just strikes me as entirely odd and we are so blasé about it. Birth matters. Big time.

Just because I don't have a specific plan or strong opinions on what I would like to happen doesn't mean I don't think birth matters or I'm uninformed. I'm just not that particular about how things go down and have full confidence in my medical team to make the best decisions for me and my child. I don't feel the need to have a "Plan" written down.

dr_pr · July 2014

Regarding birth plans, I did research my options when I was pregnant with DD, and I decided that I would do whatever was necessary to get her delivered safely. That meant (to me) NOT coming up with a detailed plan that may not be followed if something went wrong. The only thing I cared about was skin-to-skin, and that's the hospital's policy anyway. So I came in with very few expectations, and let events take their course. That's what I'm doing with Artoo as well.

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