FFFC

MRoxy0628 · July 2014

AKB090609 said:
DH had rats and a snake growing up. I had pet mice, rabbits, guinea pigs, and hedgehogs. The only thing I've firmly put my foot down about is the crayfish, that thing was way too creepy to be in the room I was sleeping in, especially after I found out the last one he had got out of the cage.

I've had hedgehogs too! I was in my early 20s when I had them.

Holly_1007 · July 2014

My favorite pet story was a group of guys that lived off campus in college. They had a mini alligator.

tinyhumantoe · July 2014

@bobkat22 OMG THE LICKING. It will be the end of me.

And the second I get pregnant, I get so angry with it that I'm afraid I might murder the dog in my sleep. I slept with a wooden spoon when I was pregnant with W so I could repeatedly nudge him with it until he stopped. I say the meanest things to him. I wake up 10 times a night because of the licking.

watercolor5 · July 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I like rats.

Only to here.

We had a pet rat for a few years. They are so much smarter than hamsters/gerbils/mice... her name was Pickles and she litter box trained herself and came when she was called. They only live 3 or 4 years. (We bought her in a pet store, so she wasn't like the vermin living outside.)

@shiggybop Have you heard of "catch them alive" traps? I've used them for mice, and they worked after a couple tries, not sure if they'd work with rats who are smarter. It's basically a tunnel that animal goes down to get peanut butter, but it's on an axis so when they pass the middle, the door swings shut.

tinyhumantoe · July 2014

Holly_1007 said:

I haven't been to the OB since my 6 week pp check up with Colby.

Same! I was due for a pap a year ago.....

Holly_1007 · July 2014

mrssqueegy said:

Holly_1007 said:

I haven't been to the OB since my 6 week pp check up with Colby.

Me neither. Why would you need to go back?

annual pap? My last one was when I was 8 weeks preg. Oops

watercolor5 · July 2014

Holly_1007 said:

mrssqueegy said:

Holly_1007 said:

I haven't been to the OB since my 6 week pp check up with Colby.

Me neither. Why would you need to go back?

annual pap? My last one was when I was 8 weeks preg. Oops

They actually stopped recommending them annually, unless you've had an abnormal one before. Now you're supposed to have one every 3 years, so you're good!

ETA:New Pap guidelines article

tinyhumantoe · July 2014

My doc does paps every 2 years. I definitely got a letter in the mail saying it was time to schedule.

Ignore. Haha.

Eastie156 · July 2014

Hyaline said:

Another non-snark, honest question--how long do Hudson (or other uber-expensive) jeans last with regular wearing and washing?

Because if they outlast my $20 Old Navy jeans by about tenfold, I'd consider them, lol.

Back from spending my entire morning at Verizon for a new (free) iPhone, I haven't had a super expensive jeans in awhile, but my last pair were 7 jeans and were over $100. I used to wash them sporadically and I swear that helped them have a longer life.

watercolor5 · July 2014

DH and I try to communicate on big purchases, so probably $100 or more. We have separate credit card accounts, but joint bank accounts, so we can mostly see what the other buys. I pay most of the bills and do most of the purchasing for groceries, toilettries, home, clothes etc, but he does the investing and future planning, and is the one who brings home the paycheck since I SAH.

I don't tell him prices/purchases on every little thing I get, and just try to keep it all within my set monthly budget. If I spend more in a month than usual, we definitely talk about it. We both analyze monthly spending each month, but in different ways. Control freaks both.

So yeah, I purposefully don't tell him about some things I buy that he would balk at, but I still think the more you communicate honestly about finances with your spouse, the less fighting you'll have about it and the more trust you'll build. Now if I can just put that into practice...

eshee8198 · July 2014

Pokedot said:

MarisaKathleen said:

@tinyhumantoe, I can't personally see us ever having a ferret, especially with the problems we're having with Mavis. My cousins had a ferret room growing up and had 3 and they were nuts! hilarious, but nuts. DH likes to take Nancy with him when he has to go to PetCo for cat food and she L O V E S the ferrets. But she also loves fish, so yea, toddlers. :-) I think fish are a little more up our alley after the cats are gone.

DH had a goldfish his ex g/f got him. That thing lived for 9 years! She got HUGE (see picture below.)She was actually a lot of upkeep. Not as much as the cats but cleaning the tank was a b*tch.

Someone gave us a 6-year-old fish because they were moving out of the country. That damn thing lived for 10 MORE YEARS. At the end I was praying for it to die--I know my husband was sad about it, but I was so damn sick of the thing. It was blind as a bat and had to be fed with a turkey baster. Plus it ate some of my favorite fish in its young and spry days, and i never forgave it.

It was too big to flush down the toilet. Oy.

Eastie156 · July 2014

mnkate said:

Hyaline said:

Another non-snark, honest question--how long do Hudson (or other uber-expensive) jeans last with regular wearing and washing?

Because if they outlast my $20 Old Navy jeans by about tenfold, I'd consider them, lol.

I have a pair of Joe's that are 8 years old - they're well worn but have held up beautifully. Just now the knees are starting to get a bit thing. And my other expensive jeans have also held up really well.

I just really like the way some of the brands fit. I'm curvy so I've always had a tough time finding something that fit my waist AND my hips. When I find something that makes my booty look good, then I spend allllll the $$$.

I have the same issues with pants. I'm pear shaped, so if they fit my arse they don't fit over my thighs and if they fit over my thighs, are huge in the waist. Curvy jeans from ATL, Levi's and the Gap have been my go-to's for years.

Holly_1007 · July 2014

watercolor5 said:

Holly_1007 said:

mrssqueegy said:

Holly_1007 said:

I haven't been to the OB since my 6 week pp check up with Colby.

Me neither. Why would you need to go back?

annual pap? My last one was when I was 8 weeks preg. Oops

They actually stopped recommending them annually, unless you've had an abnormal one before. Now you're supposed to have one every 3 years, so you're good!

ETA:New Pap guidelines article

huh! That is good to know! I've had abnormal paps before womp womp

PenelopePond · July 2014

hmp1 said:

I was an ass to James this morning. He was whining about wanting to ride his bike. I told him no because it was wet outside and he might fall. He got on his bike anyways. I told him I was disappointed that he wasn't using his listening ears. He rode his bike into the grass and slipped out when turning. He was upset and I did the old "I told you so". Parenting at it's finest.

I've done this before, too. Sometimes they need to know that what just happened is something you were trying to help them avoid, and that you weren't just being a jerk.

Pokedot · July 2014

Holly_1007 said:

mrssqueegy said:

Holly_1007 said:

I haven't been to the OB since my 6 week pp check up with Colby.
Me neither. Why would you need to go back?

annual pap? My last one was when I was 8 weeks preg. Oops

I'm to here. I think they only recommend getting one every other year now if you last few were normal. My OB told me that at my last one in February. I got it anyway because I was there, naked, in a gown. Insurance picked it up.

Pokedot · July 2014

eshee8198 said:

Pokedot said:

MarisaKathleen said:

@tinyhumantoe, I can't personally see us ever having a ferret, especially with the problems we're having with Mavis. My cousins had a ferret room growing up and had 3 and they were nuts! hilarious, but nuts. DH likes to take Nancy with him when he has to go to PetCo for cat food and she L O V E S the ferrets. But she also loves fish, so yea, toddlers. :-) I think fish are a little more up our alley after the cats are gone.

DH had a goldfish his ex g/f got him. That thing lived for 9 years! She got HUGE (see picture below.)She was actually a lot of upkeep. Not as much as the cats but cleaning the tank was a b*tch.

Someone gave us a 6-year-old fish because they were moving out of the country. That damn thing lived for 10 MORE YEARS. At the end I was praying for it to die--I know my husband was sad about it, but I was so damn sick of the thing. It was blind as a bat and had to be fed with a turkey baster. Plus it ate some of my favorite fish in its young and spry days, and i never forgave it.

It was too big to flush down the toilet. Oy.

Hahaha! Her name was Kate and yes she was too big also. Just massive actually. She only had one other tank companion and she killed him within a day. I so wanted her to die but I felt so bad when she actually did. DH did as well. I actually think he shed a tear.

One our 3 cats are done I think I'm done with animals for a long while. I've always had cats growing up and just had to get some when we bought our house. They were my babies. Then DS came a long and I'm pretty sure the love to dislike ratio is a bit off. I'm so sick of cleaning up barf, hearing them fight with one another and ruin our stuff. We've got a LONG time before we're pet free. My guess, minimum of 10 years.

L8kissie · July 2014

Maybe I'll see if Dh can look for those kind of traps.

I was gifted two goldfish from a student. They also got huge and ate others. I was not fond of them at all.

tinyhumantoe · July 2014

I get really upset at the fair goldfish and bunny giveaways.

Hyaline · July 2014

Eastie156 said:

mnkate said:

Hyaline said:

Another non-snark, honest question--how long do Hudson (or other uber-expensive) jeans last with regular wearing and washing?

Because if they outlast my $20 Old Navy jeans by about tenfold, I'd consider them, lol.

I have a pair of Joe's that are 8 years old - they're well worn but have held up beautifully. Just now the knees are starting to get a bit thing. And my other expensive jeans have also held up really well.

I just really like the way some of the brands fit. I'm curvy so I've always had a tough time finding something that fit my waist AND my hips. When I find something that makes my booty look good, then I spend allllll the $$$.

I have the same issues with pants. I'm pear shaped, so if they fit my arse they don't fit over my thighs and if they fit over my thighs, are huge in the waist. Curvy jeans from ATL, Levi's and the Gap have been my go-to's for years.

I think I'm just lucky that cheap jeans fit me, lol. A lot of pricier ones I've tried were worse fit-wise, so I've never really ventured out of cheapish jeans. Old Navy's fit me perfectly.

I tend to buy like two pairs and then wear them on a near-daily basis for a few years, then bump them to "crappy jeans" status for stuff like painting. I think that's why I've never even considered investing in better jeans.

Flamingemu · July 2014

watercolor5 said:

So yeah, I purposefully don't tell him about some things I buy that he would balk at, but I still think the more you communicate honestly about finances with your spouse, the less fighting you'll have about it and the more trust you'll build. Now if I can just put that into practice...

We have not fought about money since we joined accounts. Just knowing we can see the others spending took away the urge to argue about it. No idea why, but it helped.

BPer · July 2014

Flamingemu said:

BPer said:

Flamingemu said:

I don't tell DH about things I buy all the time. They just show up in the house or the laundry and he never notices.

Me too, my LOFT haul yesterday was one for the books, I'll call it nesting. I probably wouldn't have felt guilty were it not for the 4 boden dresses, 4 Banana Republic dresses, and $175 I spent at next direct in the last few weeks.

Didn't you just do a dress purge? Closet to empty? haha

Just getting back. Yes, yes I did. I've bought more than I got rid of in the great dress purge of '14.

BPer · July 2014

I've been on ML for just over 2 weeks, and have maybe spent a day or two relaxing. I kept thinking "today could be the day", so I'd run around, clean up, run errands, etc.
Well, today was my last opportunity to just sit in bed and watch crappy tv, and I spent it running around with my sister hoping to get things started before Sunday. Now I'm pissed at myself.

ShadowsRainFalls · July 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

eshee8198 said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I thought i was a big baller for getting 11-13k steps/day on my fitbit. It's been so hard! Well I looked at a friend's friends. They are averaging 15, 20, 33, and 39k steps a day. What??????!

I shoot for 5K. Now I feel even lazier than I did before.

Oh, before this week I was always under 5k. I can go through a day with 1k steps if I'm not trying to get steps in $:\$ ">

On another note.... my fitbit flex doesn't count my treadmill desk steps because my arms aren't moving when I'm typing. It is upsetting me enough that I am considering buying a pocket fitbit. I have slacked a bit at work just to move my arm some while I'm walking.

I mean, I've been crashing the stroller on my walks because I try to push it one handed and the three wheel bastard can't drive straight. I'm giving myself carpal tunnel in the right wrist just so my steps count, haha.

No worries though, I'm sure I'll be back to being a sloth in the next week or two. I can never stick with things.

@tinyhumantoe Why don't you put your fitbit in your pocket or tucked into your waistband while you work/walk so it can count them? When I would push the stroller and walk/run, I would do that and it would count them!

ShadowsRainFalls · July 2014

I feel so much shame over my FFFC. I have thought of sharing it for months and months..but I hate getting flamed.

Greylan rarely drinks straight water. He refuses it...but once, a long time ago my mom gave him some crystal light iced tea..and he loved it, so now he drinks that instead of water. We do the take and toss cups with 1/3 crystal light raspberry tea and the rest water.

It has no sugar in it..which I guess is good bc it's better than sugary juice (which he also hates..watered down or not) It's also got essentially no caffeine, but it's aspartame, which research hasn't really been done on how it affects children.

I have serious guilt over this....but I keep giving it to him.

watercolor5 · July 2014

harti09 said:

Based off of some posts around here and the fact that I feel like I'm in a weird SAHM funk, I requested to join my town's MOMS club. We're attending an open play date next week.

I'll all sorts of nervous about it - like I had dreams about it last night. Part of the nerves is just wondering if they'll like me and if I'll fit in. A big part of it is the kids though and I hate that. They're still not speaking at all (not even ma-ma or da-da). I'm doing my part and we're lined up for evaluations, but I just feel like it's going to be the big elephant on the playground. DS has some really awkward movements sometimes too and I just don't want to go there with strangers right now. I hate the curious looks even more.

I need something to do during the day though, so I'm biting the bullet and giving it a chance and hopefully I'm making a big deal of nothing. Ugh, I really hate that what others may think bothers me in the slightest. It shouldn't and I know that, but it still does. I think it's because the kids are involved and I'm such a momma bear. Big ole vent.

I totally get where you're coming from- that kind of situation among strangers sets off my anxiety big time too. If it's a group worth joining though, they won't judge based on child development at all. If they can't see your kids are great, they aren't worth having around. I think every parent has things they feel self-conscious about, pertaining to their kids.

Julia is low weight percentage, and I feel guilty literally every time a stranger asks how old she is. I tell them 7 months all apologetically and then explain that she's super small for her age. We need to just go easy on ourselves and realize that all we can do is our best for our kids, and that it's good enough. I love my moms groups, so hopefully it will be a great experience for you and you'll make friends!

MississippiCatfish · July 2014

@harti09‌ I joined my local moms group about a year ago and did not fit in. Did not feel welcomed. Only one person initiated a conversation with me at the freaking NEW MEMBER BREAKFAST. Two play dates were cancelled when I was the only one to RSVP (never saw that happen to others in the event email chains). All this to say - big fat whatever. Either they didn't like us or they're jerks. Either way - their loss. We're awesome. I'm sure you're awesome. If it doesn't work out, you'll move on and never really think about it again:) you know your kids are amazing no matter what - good people will see that!

Eta autocorrect fails

Holly_1007 · July 2014

ShadowsRainFalls said:

I feel so much shame over my FFFC. I have thought of sharing it for months and months..but I hate getting flamed.

Greylan rarely drinks straight water. He refuses it...but once, a long time ago my mom gave him some crystal light iced tea..and he loved it, so now he drinks that instead of water. We do the take and toss cups with 1/3 crystal light raspberry tea and the rest water.

It has no sugar in it..which I guess is good bc it's better than sugary juice (which he also hates..watered down or not) It's also got essentially no caffeine, but it's aspartame, which research hasn't really been done on how it affects children.

I have serious guilt over this....but I keep giving it to him.

I'm not going to flame you, it seems like you know that it probably isn't the healthiest thing to be giving him since you feel guilt over it. I can, however, offer you some suggestions if you want to get away from using that stuff. Have you tried putting fresh fruit or even just ice cubes in his water? Look into an infusion pitcher, I bet you would both love it!

Holly_1007 · July 2014

harti09 said:

Based off of some posts around here and the fact that I feel like I'm in a weird SAHM funk, I requested to join my town's MOMS club. We're attending an open play date next week.

I'll all sorts of nervous about it - like I had dreams about it last night. Part of the nerves is just wondering if they'll like me and if I'll fit in. A big part of it is the kids though and I hate that. They're still not speaking at all (not even ma-ma or da-da). I'm doing my part and we're lined up for evaluations, but I just feel like it's going to be the big elephant on the playground. DS has some really awkward movements sometimes too and I just don't want to go there with strangers right now. I hate the curious looks even more.

I need something to do during the day though, so I'm biting the bullet and giving it a chance and hopefully I'm making a big deal of nothing. Ugh, I really hate that what others may think bothers me in the slightest. It shouldn't and I know that, but it still does. I think it's because the kids are involved and I'm such a momma bear. Big ole vent.

good luck! There might be some snarky bitchy moms, but you might meet some great ones too! Colby has stage fright in large groups and hardly talks, he is so busy playing though that I don't think anyone besides myself has ever really noticed.

MississippiCatfish · July 2014

ShadowsRainFalls said:
I feel so much shame over my FFFC. I have thought of sharing it for months and months..but I hate getting flamed.

Greylan rarely drinks straight water. He refuses it...but once, a long time ago my mom gave him some crystal light iced tea..and he loved it, so now he drinks that instead of water. We do the take and toss cups with 1/3 crystal light raspberry tea and the rest water.

It has no sugar in it..which I guess is good bc it's better than sugary juice (which he also hates..watered down or not) It's also got essentially no caffeine, but it's aspartame, which research hasn't really been done on how it affects children.

I have serious guilt over this....but I keep giving it to him.

I give DS1 juice sometimes. I buy cranberry/cranraspberry juice and fill maybe 1/6th of the cup with juice and the rest with water - he loves it and I personally don't fret about 1/4 cup of juice here and there:)

KKSBeans · July 2014

My kid will only drink milk and water. I would love if she would drink juice so I could get her off Miralax. Pseudo related, but actually just wanted to bitch lol

Hyaline · July 2014

MississippiCatfish said:

I feel so much shame over my FFFC. I have thought of sharing it for months and months..but I hate getting flamed.

Greylan rarely drinks straight water. He refuses it...but once, a long time ago my mom gave him some crystal light iced tea..and he loved it, so now he drinks that instead of water. We do the take and toss cups with 1/3 crystal light raspberry tea and the rest water.

It has no sugar in it..which I guess is good bc it's better than sugary juice (which he also hates..watered down or not) It's also got essentially no caffeine, but it's aspartame, which research hasn't really been done on how it affects children.

I have serious guilt over this....but I keep giving it to him.
I give DS1 juice sometimes. I buy cranberry/cranraspberry juice and fill maybe 1/6th of the cup with juice and the rest with water - he loves it and I personally don't fret about 1/4 cup of juice here and there:)

DD gets juice all the time. It's V8 100% juice so I feel like she's actually getting vegetables, lol.

I wouldn't give Crystal Light, just because it is mostly processed nothing and I'd rather give juice. That said, I think the flameiness surrounding giving kids juice (watered down, in moderation, 100% juice) is absolutely asinine.

Honestly, aspartame IMO is NOT better than "sugary" juice--if that juice's sugars are natural fruit sugars from the fruit itself. Added sugar is unnecessary. I would see if he'll transition to juice and water instead.

I guess what it boils down to for me is that there's nothing flameworthy about a kid not preferring water, but I do think parent should make the healthiest choices possible for their kids, and Crystal Light is not the healthiest choice possible.

watercolor5 · July 2014

I feel way more comfortable giving my kids sugar than aspartame. One is a nutritional building block that the body can break down and we know the effects of it. I don't believe it's bad in moderation. The other is a chemical that is most likely a carcinogen. I get that it's easy to fall into bad habits- man I wish Sophia had never learned that ketchup exists, but I think the crystal lite is probably one worth weaning off of. I'd totally move to a very watered down juice over that, though if you can flavor water with whole fruits, like berries or the infuser Holly mentioned, all the better.

Sophia's choice of drink is water or milk. The only time I do juice is when she's constipated or when we're out to eat and that's what's available. She has gone through phases of not liking milk, but I continued to offer it at 2 meals per day, and she went back to drinking it. If you make a stand that the choices available are the healthy ones, eventually he'll get thirsty and drink.

Holly_1007 · July 2014

Oh, hey cheese!

MississippiCatfish · July 2014

mrssqueegy said:

MississippiCatfish said:

ShadowsRainFalls said:
I feel so much shame over my FFFC. I have thought of sharing it for months and months..but I hate getting flamed.

Greylan rarely drinks straight water. He refuses it...but once, a long time ago my mom gave him some crystal light iced tea..and he loved it, so now he drinks that instead of water. We do the take and toss cups with 1/3 crystal light raspberry tea and the rest water.

It has no sugar in it..which I guess is good bc it's better than sugary juice (which he also hates..watered down or not) It's also got essentially no caffeine, but it's aspartame, which research hasn't really been done on how it affects children.

I have serious guilt over this....but I keep giving it to him.
I give DS1 juice sometimes. I buy cranberry/cranraspberry juice and fill maybe 1/6th of the cup with juice and the rest with water - he loves it and I personally don't fret about 1/4 cup of juice here and there:)

She's not giving the Crystal Light occasionally as a treat. It is all the time in place of water. It's no different than watered down pop all the time.

I wasn't defending her choice (or flaming her for it). Just offering something that works for me.

L8kissie · July 2014

Where's LL? I went away for a week and now she's missing. :-S

Strawberry water is amazing. An orange sliced and put into a gallon of water with a vanilla bean is like an orangesicle (sp?).

MississippiCatfish · July 2014

L8kissie said:
Where's LL? I went away for a week and now she's missing. :-S

Strawberry water is amazing. An orange sliced and put into a gallon of water with a vanilla bean is like an orangesicle (sp?).

With a vanilla bean!?!? Water with orange slices is my #1 favorite drink but the vanilla bean...hmm, I'm going to need to try that.

pharmer78 · July 2014

@BPer, after that previous confession of dress numbers, I went home and counted my closet collection...and stopped when I got to a jaw-dropping amount. I have since stewed over "my dress problem" but realized I still have dresses from 10-15 years ago that I need to purge. And I wear dresses all the time, even when I'm at home all day by myself. In other words, I'm right there with you!

L8kissie · July 2014

I totally fished the vanilla bean out and used it to scent some sugar afterward. The water is a Rachal Ray recipe. It's my favorite.

bosha711 · July 2014

I'm late to this one, but I am just catching up after playing hooky from work to take the kids to a waterpark, which is my FFFC #1.

FFFC #2 is that there were a few days last week where I thought I was pg & instead of freaking the f out like I should have been, because I've been pretty adamant about being done, I actually found myself daydreaming about a new tiny squish! All the new babies on IG are turning me soft!

MH & I discuss purchases over like $100. I've never thought to fib about how much things cost.

I give dd a splash of juice in her water when she asks for it, which is maybe once every other day. NBD to me. Ds didn't even know what juice was at this age. Oh well.

Crystal light tastes nasty to me, so by that alone, I would never buy it or give it to my kids.

I had a goldfish for 4 years & he died when we moved into this house. I cried like a fucking baby. I was 8 months pg with ds & I had just lost my dad. It was all too much for me! But honestly, this fish was totally awesome. He'd come to the corner of his bowl all excited when he saw me, he'd splash at the surface & he was so cute! He was the very first "person" I told I was pg. lol. I miss him so much!!

I haven't bought "nice" jeans in forever bc I feel like it would be accepting that my current weight is actually my reality & it's really depressing! So I will continue to buy cheap "temporary" jeans & live in denial.

I think I covered everything.

BPer · July 2014

cheeseandrice said:
I'm only on page 1 here, but I'm confused by the "hehehe I sneak purchases past my husband. and hehe he has no idea how much credit card debt I have". That would be a serious issue in our relationship. Talk about fucking up the whole trust thing.

No one is racking up $5k in credit card debt and not telling their husbands, so call off Dr. Phil. I really don't see how having separate credit cards is different than separate accounts + a joint account. We both make money, we both buy what we want. I'm sure he doesn't want to know how much I spend on clothes, and I don't want to know that the bourbon he's drinking is $300 a bottle. It's really not a trust issue.

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