UO anyone?

sweettooth87 · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

We made back our contribution, plus some, but not my parents contribution. FWIW, I tried to get my parents to just give me the monies but it was all or nothing. That being said, we went all out and I don't regret it.

stephl3055 · July 2014

I'm glad most people think birds are disgusting and don't want to own one as a pet. 99% of the population has no business keeping a bird as a pet.

But it does make me sad when I hear how most people view them. I'm on my 3rd bird and they are great.

hlb622 · July 2014

jess.williamson said:

I hate when I load our BMB and it's filled with random polls.
If this is an UO count me in the unpopular crowd
Good grief. People complain when the board is boring, they complain (rightly) when someone decides to be a douchebag and we've got unpleasant drama going on, practically every day someone predicts that the board will be dead soon. At least the polls are lighthearted and got some discussion going. But I guess it's more fun to just complain.
So three polls on masturbation is interesting and fun? Huh

jennlin · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

we made enough just to cover the food, but we had fancy-fancy food.

hlb622 · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

$85/pp for food?! WTF did you eat?!

stephl3055 · July 2014

jennlin said:

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

we made enough just to cover the food, but we had fancy-fancy food.

I'm assuming most of your guests were Asian, right? About 65% of ours were Asian and MIL swore up and down that we would make our money back because "Asians give you more money than white people." *eye roll* Wrong, MIL.

taylormarie923 · July 2014

Wow. I spent $20 per plate and about $60 on whole sale flowers that I made arrangements out of (and separated rose petals for the aisle). All the money spent was on two nights' stay and meals for all the guests, plus all the alcohol.

bkeane619 · July 2014

hlb622 said:

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

$85/pp for food?! WTF did you eat?!

lol thats cheap where I live!

stephl3055 · July 2014

hlb622 said:

stephl3055 said:

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

$85/pp for food?! WTF did you eat?!

I stated that incorrectly. That was for the entire reception, so the room, the food, table, chairs, staff, etc.

For apps we had smoked chicken and mango chutney, mini beef wellingtons, and santa fe spring rolls. We also had assorted fruit and cheese.

For dinner, we had a pasta station with 4 different sauces and pasta choices, a salad station with shrimp and chicken, and a carving station with turkey. They had an event cancel at the last minute so they also threw in a beef tenderloin carving station.

MrsStuessyWI · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

bkeane619 said:

quartermisses said:

UO: If big weddings are your bag and you want to spend all the doll hairs on one, all the more power to you. But I cannot see the appeal when all of that money could go towards a pretty hefty down payment on a house, instead. We spent $5k on ours and in retrospect, I wish we had just gone to the courthouse and been done with it.

#itwassupersmallanyway

#IthinkIhavealreadysharedthisUO

#Ohwell

The key is make your money back from the people who come!

Did anyone make their money back? We certainly didn't. Just our food was like $85/pp and most couples only gave us $100 (most guests gave cash). I didn't expect to make our money back, though.

My friends are cheap apparently. I would have been super happy with $100. No worries though. Our wedding was $5000 (from my parents) plus $400 for my wedding dress.

carawasa · July 2014

Our dinners will be about 80 pp but my parents insist on paying for all the things...which I'm very grateful for! I agree though if I were paying for it it would be a lot smaller! We are hopefully going to make profit from our wedding

jennlin · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

jennlin said:

we made enough just to cover the food, but we had fancy-fancy food.

I'm assuming most of your guests were Asian, right? About 65% of ours were Asian and MIL swore up and down that we would make our money back because "Asians give you more money than white people." *eye roll* Wrong, MIL.

yes, most were asian. in my family, we give cash if the couple is asian-asian, but we give gifts if the couple is asian/non-asian...since that's what "you guys" expect. at least that's how it works amongst us cousins, etc. the aunts/uncles give $500 flat. no matter who you are (as long as you're family). h's family varies--they gave between $100 and $1000.

Phalaenopsis · July 2014

what's all this 'make my money back' stuff. we happily spent money on our wedding so all our friends and family could have a good time helping us celebrate. best day ever, you only do it once, no regrets!

stephl3055 · July 2014

Snowboarderbritt said:

I'm glad most people think birds are disgusting and don't want to own one as a pet. 99% of the population has no business keeping a bird as a pet.

But it does make me sad when I hear how most people view them. I'm on my 3rd bird and they are great.
The people that owned our cockatoo before us kept him in a super tiny cage and lost the key! And they didn't interact with him, so he got lonely and pulled out a ton of feathers. So sad. When we got him, he got a huge indoor and outdoor cage, and got to play on a big play area on top of his cage. I miss him! He was so fun. A good family friend has him now, but they live pretty far away. I think he might outlive me!

It's unfortunate that most people keep them in tiny cages and don't interact with them. Why would you spend thousands of dollars on a pet to lock it away in a small cage? I'm glad your family was able to offer him a better life.

hartsl01 · July 2014

Weljadraak said:

missgpsu said:
DH and I went on a quest to find a restaurant with beef wellington after watching Hells Kitchen

Did you find it?! IDK where you're at but in NYC he has a restaurant called MAZE and they have it!! It's $82. FI KNOWS it's a necessity for me to eat at one of his restaurants. I'd prefer Vegas but wouldn't cry about eating at an exceptional restaurant and pay crazy amounts of money for a fabulous night. I've never gone fancy before so I need this. /excitedGRramble

All the more reason for a GTG in Vegas!! He's got a restaurant in Caesars and Paris. And I want to go to Vegas.

ncase2 · July 2014

Paid for our own wedding, so we didn't spend a lot on it. All the doll hairs went towards the honeymoon!
No way did we make back what we spent - idk who you all invited to your wedding, but apparently I need some new friends and family lol
I've never had beef wellington
I love Frosty's more than any other milkshake or ice-cream type dessert. #klassy

Not an UO, just a random thought. Is there anything considered TMI on this board still? I don't really think so, and I laugh whenever I see someone post "maybe TMI". Let's face it - we've discussed (at length) our vaginas, birth, bewbs, sex, SO's size, frequency, foreplay, more sex, periods, bowel movements (that first after-birth experience, specifically. Also, pooping on the table), circumcision, porn, masturbation, and more sex. Besides DH, the only one who knows more about all this is my gyno.

#haveourmensessyncedyet

#tmiisdead

jennlin · July 2014

Phalaenopsis said:

what's all this 'make my money back' stuff. we happily spent money on our wedding so all our friends and family could have a good time helping us celebrate. best day ever, you only do it once, no regrets!

it was just a bonus. we weren't expecting it as income or anything.

DETrent · July 2014

UO: I don't care for liquor, and I like cheap wine.

My wedding was roughly $3K, with cake only, and no bar. We got married and got out.

My MIL has a bird that she's had for 25 years. I hate when she lets it out because birds creep me out.

Also, sex/masturbation polls FTW!

dovetail223 · July 2014

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

Phalaenopsis · July 2014

jennlin said:

Phalaenopsis said:

what's all this 'make my money back' stuff. we happily spent money on our wedding so all our friends and family could have a good time helping us celebrate. best day ever, you only do it once, no regrets!

it was just a bonus. we weren't expecting it as income or anything.

yeah, exactly. it happens but it shouldn't be expected.

Weljadraak · July 2014

NRyan55 said:

Picky eaters grind my gears. If you are an adult then eat like one. My H's BFF came to visit and brought his new GF, she only ate Kraft Mac n cheese, chicken fingers with ketchup, grilled cheese with Kraft singles, and scrambled eggs. THATS IT!! I wanted to punch her right in the face, she won't last long.

wtf, is she a toddler?

bkeane619 · July 2014

jess.williamson said:

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

To you maybe. That's common courtesy IMO. If I had a wedding in a different area and spent $200 pp I might agree but it's all relative to where you live.

Weljadraak · July 2014

I just don't understand picky eaters. I want to scream at them "DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE MISSING OUT ON?"

dovetail223 · July 2014

bkeane619 said:

jess.williamson said:

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

To you maybe. That's common courtesy IMO. If I had a wedding in a different area and spent $200 pp I might agree but it's all relative to where you live.

You didn't have to have a big expensive $200 pp wedding, it's what you wanted...most people can't afford to give a $400 cash wedding gift these days no matter where you live.

(I don't mean you specifically - just using the general term 'you')

jnsmith85 · July 2014

Weljadraak said:

Emilyusc211 said:

I think you want Gordon Ramsay to touch your boobz.

He's a married man! ...but I am dying for a taste of his beef wellington.

I have eaten the wellington at one of his restaurants in Vegas, it was okay.... but I don't have a very sophisticated pallet either so maybe that's why.

eta: It was at his Restaurant "Steak" in Vegas. Everything else was aaammmaaaaazing. His toffee pudding is to die for.

hlb622 · July 2014

bkeane619 said:

jess.williamson said:

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

To you maybe. That's common courtesy IMO. If I had a wedding in a different area and spent $200 pp I might agree but it's all relative to where you live.

This interests me. How do guests know how much to give until they show up then? I'll be honest, I've only been to a handful of weddings and ours cost us about $1,000, but I didn't expect the guests (only family attended) to reimburse us for their plate in gifts/cash.

#smalltowngirl

bkeane619 · July 2014

jess.williamson said:

jess.williamson said:

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

To you maybe. That's common courtesy IMO. If I had a wedding in a different area and spent $200 pp I might agree but it's all relative to where you live.
You didn't have to have a big expensive $200 pp wedding, it's what you wanted...most people can't afford to give a $400 cash wedding gift these days no matter where you live. (I don't mean you specifically - just using the general term 'you')

Standard $ amount given here is $150 pp so couples $300. There are certain people I know who could not afford that and certain out of towners as well. There were people who gave more so that it offset the others.

muffyvonmuff · July 2014

bkeane619 said:

jess.williamson said:

jess.williamson said:

I think it's bad manners to have an expensive wedding and expect your invited guests to give you enough money to cover their plate. If it happens that way great, but to go into it expecting that is tacky.

To you maybe. That's common courtesy IMO. If I had a wedding in a different area and spent $200 pp I might agree but it's all relative to where you live.
You didn't have to have a big expensive $200 pp wedding, it's what you wanted...most people can't afford to give a $400 cash wedding gift these days no matter where you live. (I don't mean you specifically - just using the general term 'you')

Standard $ amount given here is $150 pp so couples $300. There are certain people I know who could not afford that and certain out of towners as well. There were people who gave more so that it offset the others.

I always felt $100 per person is standard no matter what wedding I go to I give at least that. If Im in the wedding more or if they are a really close friend. I had open top shelf bar, steak, lobster and a band. If I were to go out to a nice place to dance all night drink a bunch and eat expensive food I would spend way more then what Im giving. $100 each isn't much IMO.

Chrisanna0508 · July 2014

Wow...we didn't really get money as a gift, but rather actual gifts. Maybe this is regional as well?

Amjoy25 · July 2014

comeongetdown said:

Oh, and FTR, I loved the polls

^^Dis. I even read them to my husband...at one point I stopped polling him, and he was like "ask me more questions"!

bkeane619 · July 2014

Chrisanna0508 said:
Wow...we didn't really get money as a gift, but rather actual gifts. Maybe this is regional as well?

I think so. I remember us talking about it last year. I only got one gift and it was from someone from TX.

carawasa · July 2014

NRyan55 said:
Picky eaters grind my gears. If you are an adult then eat like one.

My H's BFF came to visit and brought his new GF, she only ate Kraft Mac n cheese, chicken fingers with ketchup, grilled cheese with Kraft singles, and scrambled eggs. THATS IT!! I wanted to punch her right in the face, she won't last long.

Im a picky eater... Sort of. Not that picky... It's more a texture thing. I like fancy foods but sometimes they gross me out. Prime rib? Nope nope nope bleh ew. I'm pretty sure I'm going to get my buffalo chicken tenders at my wedding while my guests eat al the fancy food

I used to love steak but lately it skeeves me out. I can't chew and have juices flowing simultaneously in my mouth. I think you have to be me to understand my troubles.

Amjoy25 · July 2014

missgpsu said:

I am going to see my ILs for the next 5 days. They run a milkshake stand at fairs and carnivals all summer. My UO: Milkshakes are better than alcohol

https://cdn02.cdnwp.celebuzz.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/27/2.gif

stephl3055 · July 2014

Chrisanna0508 said:

Wow...we didn't really get money as a gift, but rather actual gifts. Maybe this is regional as well?

I think it's regional and also dependent on the ethnicity of the guests. My BFF is Pakistani, and they always give cash. My DH is Vietnamese and his family also gives cash as well. My family, I'm white, gives gifts.

Amjoy25 · July 2014

tyrannosaurusbeck said:

missgpsu said:

I am going to see my ILs for the next 5 days. They run a milkshake stand at fairs and carnivals all summer. My UO: Milkshakes are better than alcohol

Do their milkshakes bring all the boys to the yard? #hadtobedone

BTW, I agree!

I wanna love tit this because the bolded is awesome, but I am personally offended by misspgsu's UO.

carawasa · July 2014

stephl3055 said:

Chrisanna0508 said:

Wow...we didn't really get money as a gift, but rather actual gifts. Maybe this is regional as well?

I think it's regional and also dependent on the ethnicity of the guests. My BFF is Pakistani, and they always give cash. My DH is Vietnamese and his family also gives cash as well. My family, I'm white, gives gifts.

your DHs family gives dong for wedding gifts. teheheh I couldn't help myself

muffyvonmuff · July 2014

Gift are for bridal showers and cash at a wedding. Thats how NYC does it at least.

ncase2 · July 2014

Most of the people who attended my wedding could not afford to give $100. We also got mostly gifts, not cash. I don't think anyone should be "expected" to give you a gift because you decided to get married. I invited people I wanted to share the experience with, but didn't have any expectation of getting an expensive gift.

DH's family is mostly low-income, so many gifts we get from his side are hand-made, which I think is awesome. We got a really cool wooden bench his uncle made for us and it's probably one of the best and most used wedding gifts we got (other than my wine glasses

)

Amjoy25 · July 2014

carawasa said:

I have to help my dad set up a wedding on Saturday... This chick is having TEN THOUSAND dollars worth of flowers. WTAF!!?

Oy, imagine the funeral for all those dead flowers Phoebe would throw #friendsreference

bkeane619 · July 2014

has615 said:
Gift are for bridal showers and cash at a wedding. Thats how NYC does it at least.

That is correct on LI too

Want a personalized experience?

UO anyone?

Re: UO anyone?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards