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mrscurlygurl · July 2014

It's already been said by the other ladies @litera‌, but holy fuck do you have every right to be pissed! You absolutely need to contact the office manager, make it clear you cannot be treated or delivered by that doctor again, and you need a follow up visit ASAP. How dare he act like that when other patients are forced into inductions at sometimes much earlier dates? Like, WTAF? I am seething for you.

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emineminem · July 2014

@litera what a shithead!!! I'm furious for you and impressed you were able to not tear him a new one.

ghostof5letters · July 2014

I'm confused how you think you're just going to tell your doctor to schedule an induction for Sunday night. Does anyone's practice actually work that way? Are you citing TB as you medical/OB degree?

His bedside manner seems to blow, but if I'd sorta have a "who does she think she is?" Reaction as well. I mean, come on...

You sound ridiculous here. Not in your anger over his professionalism but in your expectation to demand medical intervention when none is probably needed. You said you wanted to discuss it happening but in the very next paragraph you said you're 90% sure you're scheduling it...

You're coming off like an entitled twat.

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ghostof5letters · July 2014

litera said:

*snipped*

Coming from you Ghost, that does not surprise me at all. If you want answers to your questions, I'll answer you. But let's not jump the gun, like you usually do, in trying to make me look stupid. It's a favorite pastime of yours I've noticed, no matter how passive you think you've been.

He also told me he'd set me up for one whenever I wanted AFTER 39 weeks, that he was, "at my service" when it came to when. So this suggests he'd be fine with it and that yes, that is how the practice works. I know you have one child but I doubt you can call yourself an expert on how all clinics are run. I see posts every day where women are setting their own inductions and that the consensus is that it's generally accepted after 39 weeks for various reasons. I'm not going into my medical history as it's noneyabusiness and like you've said, neither of us are Drs. Suffice it to say, I've had an awesome pregnancy and any deviation at this point, points to supporting one. Such as my high blood pressure, bigger baby and history. Yes, I did say I wanted to discuss induction, as in how it works and what their policy was, their processes, etc. After the Nurse explained it to me, I was down to schedule one. Why this is such an unbelievable chain of events to you, I'm not sure?

So telling me "medical intervention is probably not needed?" uh, again, I think you are the one who assumes TB is her medical degree and certification. What more do you need, a urine sample?

I also think that's hypocritical coming from the chick who has her RCS scheduled so she can (what was it you said in the past? "enjoy a nice dinner the night before without all of the mess?")

Why you feel the need to call me a ridiculous twat when you know damn well I'm not one, is beyond me at this point. Maybe it's best we steer clear of each other in future since you've obviously never been a fan of mine and keep the shit stirring to a minimum.

Per the bolded:

1. I've never been described as, nor claimed to be passive. That was pretty direct.

2. Totally got your medical/OB degree from TB. Thanks for making that clear.

3. Probably, is way different than definitely. Based on everything you've written you're just over being pregnant and your doctor has shown nothing indicative of needing an induction at this point in time. If your blood pressure was a major concern, I'm sure it would have been discussed or the nurse would have fought harder on your behalf. She didn't, therefore I I'm skeptical of how dangerous of a scenario this is.

4. Totally not my quote, nor my reasoning for scheduling it. I have no desire to experience labor, and due to a medical fluke (IMO, clearly my doctor and his insurance company felt differently) was given the option for a c-section and RCS. I'm pretty sure (even with your TB medical degree) that i wouldn't get approved for CS so that I could enjoy a nice dinner out. Heck, we don't even have plans tomorrow night. As for my first c-section, we had pizza the night before. LOL

5. You sound ridiculous and are acting like an entitled twat. Totally different than calling you a ridiculous twat.

6. ETA - I've got no idea where your hostility with me is coming from other than the fact that I think you're being ridiculous in this post. Maybe I'm just dense or not very receptive, but I didn't find us grating against each other over the past 9 months. *shrugs* go figure.

Look, you're over being pregnant, you said it yourself...over, and over, and over, and over again. We get it. Most 38 weekers are over it. WE GET IT. You're just stomping your feet and acting like a baby because you didn't get your way.

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ghostof5letters · July 2014

I think your logic is pretty shaky and frankly, why you are starting shit with me over something like this only proves that you mostly only speak up when you can be a bitch. In the real world, not something to be proud of. Online, I see it gives you a false sense of superiority. I don't like you enough to argue so I'll have live with that.

Not starting shit, just not coddling you and giving you the response you're demanding as you stomp your feet and act like a child.

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ghostof5letters · July 2014

Also for the sake of science, I just reviewed my last 30 responses on TB.

Of those, only 6 are questionable. 3 are funny/snarky and 3 could be bitchy, the others are encouraging, or engaging in conversation.

All of the discussions I started (outside of one Trolling Tuesday) were all well received and engaging.

I'm not sure where your opinion of me is coming from, but you're quite hostile.

ghostof5letters · July 2014

litera said:

@ghostof5letters‌ I'm sure you were coming from a place of tough love and concern. Add another gif and call me a foot stomping child one more time, I'm sure that'll make it true. We're done here.

ichamommy · July 2014

I don't... Ummmm..... Yeah.... It's like the co-captains of the football team are sparring.... Can't... Look... Away....

emineminem · July 2014

ichamommy said:
I don't... Ummmm..... Yeah.... It's like the co-captains of the football team are sparring.... Can't... Look... Away....

I'm about to submit our sacred random thread to Trolling Tuesday... Woo saaaa!

ghostof5letters · July 2014

missquela said:

ichamommy said:
I don't... Ummmm..... Yeah.... It's like the co-captains of the football team are sparring.... Can't... Look... Away....
I'm about to submit our sacred random thread to Trolling Tuesday... Woo saaaa!

Aug 2015 would love you for it.

MonkeyJD · July 2014

I am stupidly annoyed that the slip cover I ordered from IKEA won't be here until tomorrow when it was originally supposed to be delivered today. I want to put the nursery rocking chair together

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marsalisails · July 2014

@litera‌ - i have a slightly different take on that HR RN. I feel like she set you up. Instead of telling the doctor that you wanted an induction, I feel like she should have backed her ass up and simply said that you were concerned about your symptoms (hbp) coupled with your medical history, and we're looking at some education on options. Or what would be appropriate.

The fact that she jumped to obviously what the doctor felt was self-diagnosis, was the catalyst for the whole shebang, it seems. He then could have actually looked at your chart to see what the deal was and it could have avoided the whole situation.

You never know, but my point is, I wouldn't let her off the hook so easily. If she started in a gossipy tone that said "the chick in room 3 wants to be induced because of slightly elevated bp", the tone was set.

cuntasaurusrex · July 2014

@litera Calling .5cm "dilated" seems like reaching to me. I've also gotten the impression that you're straight up done with being pregnant now.. maybe your intention was to discuss and you came off more as asking/demanding? And the nurse probably shouldn't have made the call to discuss scheduling the induction with you, because it's obviously not up to her, and just sets you up for disappointment. However, his bedside manner is appalling, and you have every right to complain about that. I would be back up in that office today for a second opinion and bitchfest.

Let us know what they say!!

MonkeyJD · July 2014

@MSUDucks‌ We are actually converting a chair we already have into a rocker. It's so comfy and we just bought a rocker base and a white EKLUND slipcover.

ETA: they updated my shipping and it will in fact be here today. Yay FedEx!!!

knitsandgiggles · July 2014

Here's random for you - I had nutella for the first time yesterday and really don't see what the big deal is.

SuperTinkerham · July 2014

@litera holy crap. I would've completely lost my shit. The fuckery there would've gotten ugly. It's his job to discuss options. Not shame you for asking questions. Ugh.

cuntasaurusrex · July 2014

@knittylady that's a UO, and one that's liable to get you cut.

ichamommy · July 2014

aliletz said:
@knittylady that's a UO, and one that's liable to get you cut.

This.

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alyssa719 · July 2014

I've accepted that I'll be pregnant forever, but it just dawned on me that our puppy needs to have her flea/tick treatment done 2 days before my EDD... What happens if we forget in the mess of everything?!?! Ugh.

Now there's more pressure to ensure that this is all documented in her care sheet (she's spending a couple days with grandpa at his house) just in case. I can see myself headed to the hospital and being like, "HONEY!! Don't forget to give Maggy her tick treatment first!!!" because I am a f'ing maniac.

ETA: Also, I am assuming that I will give birth somewhere around the due date, and/or that I won't give a shit about life after 39w.

MonkeyJD · July 2014

@alyssa719‌ I did our dog yesterday. My big thing is I want to get him groomed before the baby arrives because they'll shave him so he won't shed for weeks. I'd like to wait until the week I'm due but I'm afraid I'll run out of time.

alyssa719 · July 2014

DH gave her a bath last week, and I may give her another one if we go to VA this weekend because they have Unleashed (you pay $10, they supply the tub, shampoo, conditioner, brushes, towels, treats, etc) and it's super easy to just scrub her down again. I need to do her nails at some point, it's true...

jnnfrrose6 · July 2014

S/O dogs and grooming, I came home from being told I was having my RCS the next day to find my dog with poo all over her (awesome) so I got to bathe her before I could even focus on the holy crap I'm having a baby tomorrow stuff.

With DS, I was in L&D making boarding and grooming arrangements for the dogs since we didn't know when it would be needed. It was awesome to come home to freshly groomed pups.

chevronseven · July 2014

@litera‌ I didn't get the impression you were upset because he didn't want to schedule an induction. You were upset because of how he treated you, correct? He humiliated you in front of other hospital staff and potentially other patients, he patronized you by deferring to your husband and making a joke about your "irrational" thoughts, and he dismissed your questions and concerns when he pointed out how far behind he was and cut your appointment short (after he was already late getting in to see you). I don't know, maybe you did come off seeming like you were demanding an induction at your chosen date and that's what could have set him off, but even so, that does not give him the right to treat you that way. He should have gently and professionally explained why he doesn't think it's a good idea. You (slash your insurance company) are paying a LOT for his services. He's your doctor not your father, it's part of his job to treat you with respect and dignity no matter how "stupid" of a question he thinks you're asking. The fact is that you DON'T have a medical degree like he does, which is why you wanted to DISCUSS the options and have your questions answered by an expert. Unless you were arguing with his reasoning, I don't see any way you were the one in the wrong there.

emineminem · July 2014

And speaking of flea/tick treatment, my puppy is up to date on advantix (due next week for a dose) so why did I pull THREE ticks off of him last night? Poor thing! Seriously, any idea or suggestions for future avoidance of this problem?

ichamommy · July 2014

Alright, since we are already talking about dogs here... My yorkie is having the WORST time adjusting to life with a baby in the house. I'm taking him to the vet today after 2+ days of pooping and vomiting and now it's turned to vomiting/pooping blood. Not sure what to do, he is normally healthy as a horse... seriously. My dog NEVER has issues so this is extremely obviously correlated to the new baby in the house. Hoping the vet can offer some help/DRUGS.

ghostof5letters · July 2014

ichamommy said:

Alright, since we are already talking about dogs here... My yorkie is having the WORST time adjusting to life with a baby in the house. I'm taking him to the vet today after 2+ days of pooping and vomiting and now it's turned to vomiting/pooping blood. Not sure what to do, he is normally healthy as a horse... seriously. My dog NEVER has issues so this is extremely obviously correlated to the new baby in the house. Hoping the vet can offer some help/DRUGS.

The blood is really concerning. I hope his anxiety eases up soon. When we moved, my dog became a neurotic lunatic for a few months. It was horrible.

TugboatSheila · July 2014

livelaughlove88 said:

@litera‌ I didn't get the impression you were upset because he didn't want to schedule an induction. You were upset because of how he treated you, correct? He humiliated you in front of other hospital staff and potentially other patients, he patronized you by deferring to your husband and making a joke about your "irrational" thoughts, and he dismissed your questions and concerns when he pointed out how far behind he was and cut your appointment short (after he was already late getting in to see you). I don't know, maybe you did come off seeming like you were demanding an induction at your chosen date and that's what could have set him off, but even so, that does not give him the right to treat you that way. He should have gently and professionally explained why he doesn't think it's a good idea. You (slash your insurance company) are paying a LOT for his services. He's your doctor not your father, it's part of his job to treat you with respect and dignity no matter how "stupid" of a question he thinks you're asking. The fact is that you DON'T have a medical degree like he does, which is why you wanted to DISCUSS the options and have your questions answered by an expert. Unless you were arguing with his reasoning, I don't see any way you were the one in the wrong there.

That's the impression I got too while reading.

I would have been really upset by the "deferring to DH" thing he did and the "we were just talking about you" comments. I don't think bedside manner is the MOST important thing when it comes to a doctor, sometimes not sugar coating things is really the best option. But, in this situation making his patients feel patronized to the point that you didn't feel your needs were met, medically, is a problem. Even if, maybe, it was an isolated incident.

He could have been pissed at the RN for something, within reason (I don't know much about inductions so I don't really know what happened here) but that doesn't make it ok to breeze by your concerns or questions as if they don't matter.

I've noticed in the practice I go to (3 OBS and 1 CPN are there) that, while I'm comfortable with any of them delivering my baby, the CPN and 2 of the doctors just seem to go about things a little better than the other Dr. 3 out of 4 of them never make me feel rushed (even though I KNOW they are busy), they always answer my questions fully and don't make me feel like I'm some stupid silly FTM, even though I'm sure I've asked stupid, silly things. The other one isn't horrible but he's just not as good at the things I just listed as the other ones.

honeybee434 · July 2014

Whoever said the first poop after c/s was the worst is wrong. The 2nd and 3rd were much worse than the first was. Surely I have to start going uphill with the 4th. I don't want to know what's at the bottom of that hill if it's any lower than I've been.

TugboatSheila · July 2014

honeybee434 said:

Whoever said the first poop after c/s was the worst is wrong. The 2nd and 3rd were much worse than the first was. Surely I have to start going uphill with the 4th. I don't want to know what's at the bottom of that hill if it's any lower than I've been.

I have heard in general the first few poops suck so hardcore.

I can see me now sitting on the toilet, having a meltdown in the very near future haha

dobbyisfree · July 2014

Im scared. My water broke at 9, and Im chugging along on the pitocin, with not too much in terms of pelvic changes... but my bp is creeping up and theyre going to put me on magnesium. And I almost want to say just take the baby because if this goes on and it gets worse... ugh. Pre-e you ruin everything. :-(

ghostof5letters · July 2014

amlonica said:

Im scared. My water broke at 9, and Im chugging along on the pitocin, with not too much in terms of pelvic changes... but my bp is creeping up and theyre going to put me on magnesium. And I almost want to say just take the baby because if this goes on and it gets worse... ugh. Pre-e you ruin everything. :-(

I'm sorry, that sounds terrible.

Soon2BMrsN · July 2014

mrscurlygurl said:
Last night putting my first baby to bed with this big 'ol inside baby taking up space...and I'm crying after putting him down. I didn't think it would affect me like this. Eating my words now.

Aw, I did the same thing the night before DS2 was born and I'm pretty sure I'll cry tonight too (DD to be born tomorrow!)

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ghostof5letters · July 2014

Soon2BMrsN said:

Last night putting my first baby to bed with this big 'ol inside baby taking up space...and I'm crying after putting him down. I didn't think it would affect me like this. Eating my words now.
Aw, I did the same thing the night before DS2 was born and I'm pretty sure I'll cry tonight too (DD to be born tomorrow!)

At 4am this morning I tried to snuggle with my toddler. She wanted no parts of me.

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