FFFC

BPer · June 2014

Someone is coming to look at our house tonight after less than 24 hours on the market.

I would have been butthurt if no one called today and wanted to look at our house, and probably would have convinced myself that it was never going to sell and that we were going to be stuck with 2 mortgages.

...I might still feel this way if they don't make an offer.

Pokedot · June 2014

melody921 said:

MississippiCatfish said:

I'm going natural with this birth (ya know, if things go smoothly, yada yada, keep baby safe), but a lot of natural birthers really irritate me. If my epidurals had worked and I hadn't had an awful birth experience with Ed, I'd be 100% on board with an epidural again. No question. I guess my confession is that I feel like a poser in the natural birth community.
I was a natural birth by accident sort for DD. As I was saying, "Yeah, an epidural sounds like a great idea, thanks!" the nurse was saying, "Ohhhh, you're already at 10, no drugs for you."

I was kind of the same. I asked for the epi, they tried 5x to get it to work. I'd go numb on the left, right but never both. They called in the head guy which took 20+ minutes for him to get there. As he's talking to me about risk, blah, blah I said I think I have to push. Sure enough, everyone was out of the room and I was pushing. I'm glad in the end I didn't have it and I'm going to try to go unmedicated again. I didn't get pit after I had DS either. I always heard the placenta was like giving birth again but I remember it coming out a few minutes later and it felt like a huge blood clot when having my period. I did make the mistake of see it and the needle Dr. used to sew me back up. That was a mistake.

MississippiCatfish · June 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

MississippiCatfish said:

LoisLayn23 said:

MississippiCatfish said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Isn't pit or cytotec post delivery to prevent hemorrhaging evidence based though?

Not everyone is going to hemorrhage, though. To me it's like skipping the GBS test and giving everyone antibiotics, just as a preventative. Not necessary.

And usually when the medical profession starts routinely doing things that are unnecessary (just my opinion, not EB), we find out later that the good didn't outweigh the bad.

Not the same. There's no "hemorrhage test".

Uhhh, you don't think your doctor can see if you're bleeding excessively?

I see it more like a vax.
FTR, I'm all for informed consent, this just isn't the hugest deal ever to me. But on a scale of no fucks to a lot of fucks given, I'm about a 2.

Yeah, I don't really care all that much either. I would just be pissed if a drug that I didn't feel like I needed caused me more discomfort. I get why some people would rather just play it safe.

Somewhat related, I don't remember a single RN massaging my uterus after birth. Isn't that weird? I remember being terrified of it because my mom had tears in her eyes when I saw them do it to her after she had my little sister. If my PP pit kept me from that, it might be worth it.

I'm also 100% sure that not one RN or MD looked at my perineum after the stitches were in. The RNs would peek in at my pad to "see if I was bleeding too much," but they would never ask if it had been 1 hour or 8 since I'd changed it. I swear it's a good hospital...

ETA Forgot a word

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BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

shiggybop said:

Lalalala I'm not listening to all this pp talk. I'm going to painlessly pop out my little pink squishy baby then be right back to normal with no bleeding.

Yeah, I was just thinking that, if I was currently pregnant, this talk would be freaking me out a bit.

Pokedot · June 2014

Maybe another FFFC. I've never had Panera. I've wanted to try it but the nearest location is 2+ hours away. When we go there I'd rather get something else. What am I missing?

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

I have no idea why, but the last sentence in this FB post irked me. I don't feel like it should have bugged me. The person who posted it is a complete fuckup ditz.

"I have never had a child inside me at 8-9 months, so I really don't know how it feels, BUT I hope to be running all the way up until I pop (if that time ever comes). I look up to pregnant women that choose not to use the pregnancy handicap parking spots."

melody921 · June 2014

Pokedot said:

Maybe another FFFC. I've never had Panera. I've wanted to try it but the nearest location is 2+ hours away. When we go there I'd rather get something else. What am I missing?

Nothing that's worth driving two hours to eat. It's good. It's not that good.

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I have no idea, but the last sentence in this FB post irked me. I don't feel like it should have bugged me. The person who posted it is a complete fuckup ditz.

"I have never had a child inside me at 8-9 months, so I really don't know how it feels, BUT I hope to be running all the way up until I pop (if that time ever comes). I look up to pregnant women that choose not to use the pregnancy handicap parking spots."

That irks me too. Plus, there are no pregnancy handicap spots. The only ones I can think of are the expectant mother spots at BRU and they are right next to the regular spots. Walking 5 extra feet doesn't make you a hero.

thebanich · June 2014

LOL. I used the pregnant mom spot once or twice so I could make it into the bathroom to puke.

She sounds like a ball of fun.

AKB090609 · June 2014

Pokedot said:

Maybe another FFFC. I've never had Panera. I've wanted to try it but the nearest location is 2+ hours away. When we go there I'd rather get something else. What am I missing?

I have a thing for French bread... I couldn't care less about anything else they have, but give me 2 feet of bread and I'm a happy girl.

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tinyhumantoe · June 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

I've never seen a pregnancy handicap spot.

also, she's annoying I've decided.

hahaha Yes!

And I guess I'm equally as annoying by thinking Oh, just you wait!!

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

My parents are ruining my sister by giving her money. That's not a confession, sorry. She owes my mom around $9k and my mom, a day after bitching about the debt, just bought her a new bathing suit for her Florida trip. Huh?

It all started as a - we have to rebuild you after your divorce - thing. It's been over a year and they just keep funneling money. SO MUCH MONEY.

tinyhumantoe · June 2014

IndigoVader said:

This week has been insane. The demon spawn have been waking up at 5:30 every morning and refusing to nap, then fight at bedtime. I am one tired mother trucker.

EVIL.

Pokedot · June 2014

melody921 said:

Pokedot said:

Maybe another FFFC. I've never had Panera. I've wanted to try it but the nearest location is 2+ hours away. When we go there I'd rather get something else. What am I missing?
Nothing that's worth driving two hours to eat. It's good. It's not that good.

I would just drive 2 hours for it but we go to this town a few times a year and we'll be going in July. Maybe I'll try it then. They also have Chipotle which I'm so excited to have. I love it!

@AKB090609 I'm a freak about french bread too. Well an bakery item really. I'm a carb junky.

hmp1 · June 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

I discussed the things that were important to me (seeing the baby immediately and getting to hold her for a few seconds, having DH go with her and be with her the entire time they were finishing surgery, not having pain meds in my spinal block, getting the cath out, eating food, showering, etc.

Cytotec (what my doc used rectally post surgery) or pit didn't register on the 'big deal' to me scale.

For James' birth, Pit wasn't on my radar. My water broke on its own and I was not going into labor so I just went with what my Dr said to do (start Pit). When telling James' birth story to my new OB while pregnant with Leo, I did state that I would rather not have Pit but am fine with him making suggestions on what he thinks I should do. He did take that time to tell me about pp Pit and labor Pit, which I had never heard before. So that was a good convo to have.

Really the only things on my birth request was: epi asap, clean the baby before handing to me, and delayed cord cutting. The rest I was totally up for suggestions from those taking care of me.

hmp1 · June 2014

BPer said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Yeah but freebies with bonus cards. DO IT.

I know...I tell myself that I already have too many cards in my wallet.

...really I am just lazy. I don't even know where I put the damn thing.

Key ring app. Get it.

AKB090609 · June 2014

hmp1 said:

BPer said:

LoisLayn23 said:

Yeah but freebies with bonus cards. DO IT.

I know...I tell myself that I already have too many cards in my wallet.

...really I am just lazy. I don't even know where I put the damn thing.

Key ring app. Get it.

I really need to use this more, I always forget I have it.

MommaP12 · June 2014

melody921 said:

Hyaline said:

melody921 said:

Hyaline said:

DH and I were talking about what we want to do for our anniversary this year, and this became a conversation about how we had planned to take trips for every five-year anniversary. He'd still like to do this for our ten year in a couple years, but I'm irrationally pissed that a couples trip is unlikely to happen because we have no one willing to watch our kid.

I guess my FFFC is that even though I believe grandparents don't owe their kids babysitting or help or favors like watching their grandkid for a long weekend so mom and dad can get away, I'm disappointed and a little mad that my parents refuse to do so. In that respect, I got the short end of the grandparent stick, and the frustration I feel about that makes me feel really guilty.

Why won't they do it?

Honestly, they're really not kid people. They love DD, but they aren't super-comfortable caring for children. And I don't think they got much help, so they have this outlook of "we did our part raising you, it's your turn now."

That sucks. My parents didn't get help, but I think my mom went the other way with it and now offers to help when she can. And my ILs, who are local, are always clamoring to babysit.

This is us too, I'm very grateful. My mom didn't get help from anyone with my sisters because they were twins (we are 10 years apart), and no one wanted to "touch that with a 10 foot pole" so now she is like "Grandmas should always help with their grandkids!" and my ILs are just super awesome and love seeing the kids. Both sets are local and I never take for granted how lucky we are to have 2 sets of grandparents at the ready to babysit. My ILs are babysitting tomorrow night while we go to a comedian/dinner and I can't wait.

Can't come up with a FFFC, but will think about it at lunch!

L8kissie · June 2014

Not only did I see my placenta after dd, I made the nurse bring it over to allow me to take a picture of it. Dd had tied an overhand knot in her cord. It was cool and scary all at once. I still look at it in wonder.

AKB090609 · June 2014

As frightening as my birth experience with DD was (emergency c section under general and DD in the NICU for 4 hours after I woke up with zero updates) I'm more scared of being awake this time.

melody921 · June 2014

IndigoVader said:

I am not I made the right decision when it comes to using proper anatomy terms with the boys. All I hear is penis penis penis, agina, agina agina, oh, and boobies.

They'll get tired of the words. I am an advocate for teaching proper words rather than some childish nonsense.

AKB090609 · June 2014

I have another: Everyday I start a poll to have you all pick out a name for this baby. DH and I have made zero progress and he won't roll the dice to pick something off our list, but he insists that the baby needs a name (or at least narrow it down to two choices) by the time she's born.

I am worried that you will all hate me for asking a bunch of 'internet strangers' (I don't think of you all that way) to name my kid. I just don't see anything changing in the next 5ish(!!!!) days to get us to agree.

melody921 · June 2014

AKB090609 said:

I have another: Everyday I start a poll to have you all pick out a name for this baby. DH and I have made zero progress and he won't roll the dice to pick something off our list, but he insists that the baby needs a name (or at least narrow it down to two choices) by the time she's born.

I am worried that you will all hate me for asking a bunch of 'internet strangers' (I don't think of you all that way) to name my kid. I just don't see anything changing in the next 5ish(!!!!) days to get us to agree.

DO A POLL! I love baby names.

hmp1 · June 2014

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

I have another: Everyday I start a poll to have you all pick out a name for this baby. DH and I have made zero progress and he won't roll the dice to pick something off our list, but he insists that the baby needs a name (or at least narrow it down to two choices) by the time she's born.

I am worried that you will all hate me for asking a bunch of 'internet strangers' (I don't think of you all that way) to name my kid. I just don't see anything changing in the next 5ish(!!!!) days to get us to agree.

DO A POLL! I love baby names.

Yes, I think it has been proven time and time again that there are plenty of us here that love talking baby names. Do it!

hmp1 · June 2014

BobKat22 said:

All this birth talk has me thinking. I looked up a doula to see what exactly they do and what they cost. I had no idea they cost that much! I don't think that's something I would ever consider.

Even without the cost, it isn't something I ever gave a second thought. The less amount of people around me the better. But I also have no desire for a med-free birth.

MRoxy0628 · June 2014

I'm on summer break and I take a nap almost everyday with my daughter.

I don't know that this is a confession, but whenever I see a female construction worker, I think "What a bad ass!"

KKSBeans · June 2014

All these birth tales remind me of mine. I had pp pit because of bleeding and my "massages" weren't bad at all. I was scared to pee after the fact because I was afraid it would burn, even though I just had a natural birth with a second degree episiotomy. I get up from the bed to the wheelchair to go to the post partum unit, all this blood shot past my pad and all over the floor and the nurse, truly dumbfounded, was like " where is that coming from ?" Are you fucking kidding me ? My ears lady.
Speaking of cleaning baby up first, they delivered K straight on to my chest. About 6 hours later I had this weird rash looking thing on my wrist. I thought it was from pitocin or something .... nope, dried blood and amniotic fluid. I felt super clean.
And was I the only one they did a "hemorrhoid check" to ? Roll over on your side and let me spread your ass cheeks to see what's going on. No dignity left after that one.

watercolor5 · June 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I have no idea why, but the last sentence in this FB post irked me. I don't feel like it should have bugged me. The person who posted it is a complete fuckup ditz.

"I have never had a child inside me at 8-9 months, so I really don't know how it feels, BUT I hope to be running all the way up until I pop (if that time ever comes). I look up to pregnant women that choose not to use the pregnancy handicap parking spots."

It bugged you because it's judgmental. It bugged me too.

Hyaline · June 2014

watercolor5 said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I have no idea why, but the last sentence in this FB post irked me. I don't feel like it should have bugged me. The person who posted it is a complete fuckup ditz.

"I have never had a child inside me at 8-9 months, so I really don't know how it feels, BUT I hope to be running all the way up until I pop (if that time ever comes). I look up to pregnant women that choose not to use the pregnancy handicap parking spots."

It bugged you because it's judgmental. It bugged me too.

Was this just a status? Who feels the need to randomly exercise-level-shame others on Facebook? Especially pregnant people?

I don't have any issue with someone sharing--in context--a plan to be active through pregnancy. But "Oh hai, webz, prego people who don't run or whatever are lazy. And you're a lazy prego if you use the prego parking space. FYI" is asshattery.

Flamingemu · June 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I have no idea why, but the last sentence in this FB post irked me. I don't feel like it should have bugged me. The person who posted it is a complete fuckup ditz.

"I have never had a child inside me at 8-9 months, so I really don't know how it feels, BUT I hope to be running all the way up until I pop (if that time ever comes). I look up to pregnant women that choose not to use the pregnancy handicap parking spots."

I worked out until the bitter end because I could. It was a mental (psychotic? ha)thing with me. I would never expect normal people to do the same. I still used every frickin Expectant mother spot I could. I even had DH drop me off in front on particularly bad days.

You would have judged that person wheher you liked them or not because it was a shitty comment.

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AKB090609 · June 2014

shiggybop said:

I don't know how I'm going to last 4 more hours til dh get home. We have colored, we watched Elmo's world, we attempted a puzzle that ended in time out for throwing a cow at my head, he helped me hang a shelf and do laundry, we're sitting in the playroom while he plays on his toy piano, and I'm not feeling well enough to go out to do anything. Any ideas?

Do you have tile floors? If so a bucket and ice cubes... Going on 45min over here.

hmp1 · June 2014

shiggybop said:

I don't know how I'm going to last 4 more hours til dh get home. We have colored, we watched Elmo's world, we attempted a puzzle that ended in time out for throwing a cow at my head, he helped me hang a shelf and do laundry, we're sitting in the playroom while he plays on his toy piano, and I'm not feeling well enough to go out to do anything. Any ideas?

Do you have a balloon? Keep the balloon off the floor is always a fun game at our house. I just sit on the floor and hit it to him. He picks it up when it does hit the floor.

BeebopandBuddy · June 2014

I just yawned and drooled onto my pants. I think it's time to go home.

Edited: Much better gif

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thebanich · June 2014

GO HAVE A BABY @shiggybob

<---- helpful

willy_gert · June 2014

I had three interviews today. People are fucking nuts! Seriously one lady was about to cry when I told her some of the things she may deal with. The other person kept insisting that she had a heart for children.... Insisting to the point that it was getting creepy. The other lady was nice and I liked her, but I'm just not sure how she is going to fit into the existing team.... UGH!

My confession: I ordered a large pizza and a cinnamon pizza after my interviews and have been eating it in my office ALL ALONE. Okay, so I only ate three pieces but still....

<------ HUGE ASS COW

AKB090609 · June 2014

shiggybop said:

@hmp1‌ my child will sadly be deprived of balloons because my large dog thinks they are satan. I've locked her up and she still goes nuts because she knows the sound of the latex. Haha. I'm going to dig out the beach ball though and see if that passes some time. @AKB090609‌ maybe we'll do some ice cubes in the tub. Mh bought fish shaped ice cube trays and I can't bring myself to put those in a drink, so this may be the perfect solution. I knew I could count on S12!

If your going to make them special for play add food coloring it should buy you even more time. Plus you can throw them in a water table/kiddy pool = hours of entertainment (and a tie-dyed kid but w/e)

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