BDSM is sexual... Bondage/dominance stuff. I really don't know much more than that but I really don't appreciate the sexual reference when we're talking about children. Not cool.
Good points? Like about the spanking and leashes, or something else?
I was actually thinking of the some of the points you made about healthcare/prenatal care in the maternity post. But anything you say will be now tainted as trying to get a rise out of people and say things for shock value.
Well that's not logical. I'm a multifaceted person just like you. My interests and conversations will be diverse.
Or you will be forever known as the crazy sex chica who gets all judgy on everyone else but can't look at herself and realize she is being a bit ridiculous.
I just came across this and it reminded me of this thread. Just to clarify I really have nothing against Stargirl's siggy. I mean I'm jealous because she's in way better shape than me but that's my own issue.
This is completely off topic, but as I was scrolling through and had to keep seeing OP's signature about running a marathon over and over and over, I couldn't resist posting this:
(Don't get me wrong, I have many friends who have ran marathons and I'm super impressed with their accomplishments. I just had to throw in this for OP)
When you train that hard for something, it's something you are proud of. I've run 3, and I met my sub 4 goal on my last one. I can't run them anymore because of knee surgeries. I miss it. FTR, I never shit my pants running though.
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It was not meant to offend you, sorry. It was meant to be a joke and light hearted ribbing...I would have posted the same thing if you had put up a badge bragging about something else.
That's honestly awesome that you accomplished this. Most people here have probably worked hard toward a lot of other really difficult goals, but they don't feel the need to broadcast it in their signature - that's what made me think of the bragging meme. Anyway...sorry.
To me, it depends on the restaurant. If I'm at a casual place like Applebee's then I don't really have room to complain, but if I'm at a nice restaurant and it disturbs my peaceful date night, I'd be irked.
PCOS--TTC since 11/2010:
5 cycles of Clomid: all BFN, 1 cycle of Follistim:CP
1 year break thanks to deployment.
1 cycle Follistim: BFN, Lap to remove peritubal cyst May 2013
2 cycles Follistim + trigger: BFN, Gonal F +IUI April 2014: BFP!!!!!!
And on that note, I very much support the idea of child-free planes and restaurants. Let the folks who are bothered by children have their child-free zones. (Plus, it's a nice break for parents who want an adult night out.)
This totally! As a mom of a rather busy toddler, it's cool with me if certain restaurants want to be considered "kid free zones". I'm not offended and I'd steer clear of them anyway (especially if they are of the nicer restaurant variety). That said, we do pretty much what previous posters do, go to dinner earlier (with the early birds) when it's less crowded, keep her busy with walking around and use the ipad/iphone when she's eating to slow her down and keep her entertained.
No, but the ones who are going to be perfect parents are the most hilarious people on TB.
"I will NEVER use a leash. My child is not an animal."
"I will NEVER give my child non-homemade solid foods."
"I will NEVER allow my child to have an epic fit in the middle of Target, complete with arm flailing and revenge peeing."
Wait just one god damn minute. THEY REVENGE PEE?!
That's the one take-away I've gotten from this thread. And now this future FTM is going to cry herself to sleep and question her life choices.
Oh yes! Luckily, DD has never done this in public. But she has had a few revenge pees right before age 3 (She was potty trained at 2.5). She would kick and scream tantrum for some reason - get up.. look at me and just pee on the floor. Get Ready.
ETA It got to the point where she would start to tantrum - and I'd pick her up and put her on the toilet and tell her to pee before continuing her meltdown. 50% of the time she would pee.. the other she would just kick and scream.
For all of you that think harnesses are "dehumanizing" you've obviously never dealt with twin 2-year olds. My boys are great about holding our hands, and when it's both DH and I, most of the time they are fantastic. But, when it's only one of us or we are in a busy place with lots to see, they play off each other, so if one tries to run the other one will too, usually in a different direction. We got child harnesses for those occasions that there's only one parent there to keep both with us. Or, if it's a really busy mall, zoo, etc we use them so someone can't snatch our kid and run away with them. I know in a "perfect" world we wouldn't have to worry about that, but in this world, you do!
Before I had 2-year old twins my sister told me how her friend's 3 or 4-year old was trying to run away at the state fair and she bought a dog leash and clipped it onto her daughter's backpack. At the time I was appalled that she would use a dog leash! Now, I harness my kids whenever we are going to a busy place, or if I'm by myself and we will be walking any distance. It's for their safety as well as my piece of mind. I guess I just shouldn't leave the house then right?
I'm glad for all of you that have perfect angels that never run away or act up (or anticipate that with proper parenting you will) but that's not reality for most of us, especially moms of multiples. You may be able to devote all of your attention to one child in public, but two is twice as hard. You can't possibly judge another parent without being in their exact shoes and dealing with the exact child that they have.
ETA: words are hard without caffeine
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For all of you that think harnesses are "dehumanizing" you've obviously never dealt with twin 2-year olds. My boys are great about holding our hands, and when it's both DH and I, most of the time they are fantastic. But, when it's only one of us or we are in a busy place with lots to see, they play off each other, so if one tries to run the other one will too, usually in a different direction. We got child harnesses for those occasions that there's only one parent there to keep both with us. Or, if it's a really busy mall, zoo, etc we use them so someone can't snatch our kid and run away with them. I know in a "perfect" world we wouldn't have to worry about that, but in this world, you do!
Before I had 2-year old twins my sister told me how her friend's 3 or 4-year old was trying to run away at the state fair and she bought a dog leash and clipped it onto her daughter's backpack. At the time I was appalled that she would use a dog leash! Now, I harness my kids whenever we are going to a busy place, or if I'm by myself and we will be walking any distance. It's for their safety as well as my piece of mind. I guess I just shouldn't leave the house then right?
I'm glad for all of you that have perfect angels that never run away or act up (or anticipate that with proper parenting you will) but that's not reality for most of us, especially moms of multiples. You may be able to devote all of your attention to one child in public, but two is twice as hard. You can't possibly judge another parent without being in their exact shoes and dealing with the exact child that they have.
ETA: words are hard without caffeine
I don't have a leash because I don't really need one (I was blessed (?) with a kid who is typically good in public, she just sprouts her devil ears at home). H is totally against them. But if my kid ran away or if I had twin two year olds that I had to wrangle myself - Sorry H! Leash it is! That's one thing I don't envy about twin Moms. I thought I wanted twins.. until the terrible 2.5s-Early 3s. Though I know most of the time twins are blessings
I don't have a leash because I don't really need one (I was blessed (?) with a kid who is typically good in public, she just sprouts her devil ears at home). H is totally against them. But if my kid ran away or if I had twin two year olds that I had to wrangle myself - Sorry H! Leash it is! That's one thing I don't envy about twin Moms. I thought I wanted twins.. until the terrible 2.5s-Early 3s. Though I know most of the time twins are blessings
I always laugh when people say "oh, I want twins". I always say "take mine for a day, that will change your mind". My boys really are well behaved most of the time. But when one of them has a bad day, or worse yet, both of them have a bad day...watch out!
TTC #3 since 8/2012 DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010 BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013 BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014 My charthereAll ALers welcome!
I don't have a leash because I don't really need one (I was blessed (?) with a kid who is typically good in public, she just sprouts her devil ears at home). H is totally against them. But if my kid ran away or if I had twin two year olds that I had to wrangle myself - Sorry H! Leash it is! That's one thing I don't envy about twin Moms. I thought I wanted twins.. until the terrible 2.5s-Early 3s. Though I know most of the time twins are blessings
I always laugh when people say "oh, I want twins". I always say "take mine for a day, that will change your mind". My boys really are well behaved most of the time. But when one of them has a bad day, or worse yet, both of them have a bad day...watch out!
Oh oh oh pick me! I always wanted twins! And I still do... One of my family's BFFs has a set of twin boys and they were 3 for my wedding and we had them the whole week. My ovaries were DYING. haha. And a friend from college had 2 sets of twins under 2 (yes, her husband jokingly refers to her as "Shotgun Ovaries") and I just couldn't get enough of the circus of it. 4 kids right at 10 months apart interacting was SO exhausting but SO MUCH FUN!
Now, I'd probably hate my life past week 15 or 20 of pregnancy and the first few months when you get like 6 hours of sleep a week, but idk. Also, stupid twin questions! I've always wanted to tell someone who asked "Oh, are they twins?" "Oh shit, they're triplets where's the third one?!?!" Or "They're triplets, but I leave the ugly one at home." just to watch people look mortified that I answered their questions with something like "Leave me alone."
Oh oh oh pick me! I always wanted twins! And I still do... One of my family's BFFs has a set of twin boys and they were 3 for my wedding and we had them the whole week. My ovaries were DYING. haha. And a friend from college had 2 sets of twins under 2 (yes, her husband jokingly refers to her as "Shotgun Ovaries") and I just couldn't get enough of the circus of it. 4 kids right at 10 months apart interacting was SO exhausting but SO MUCH FUN!
Now, I'd probably hate my life past week 15 or 20 of pregnancy and the first few months when you get like 6 hours of sleep a week, but idk. Also, stupid twin questions! I've always wanted to tell someone who asked "Oh, are they twins?" "Oh shit, they're triplets where's the third one?!?!" Or "They're triplets, but I leave the ugly one at home." just to watch people look mortified that I answered their questions with something like "Leave me alone."
Yes, once you have twins people think that's an open invitation to ask all sort of questions like "did you have infertility?" or "were they born naturally?". SMH My husband's favorite to the twins question is "No, but they are both mine, one with my wife and one with my girlfriend". He's smart enough to not say it when I'm with him though. LOL
TTC #3 since 8/2012 DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010 BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013 BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014 My charthereAll ALers welcome!
@Stargirlb I just have to say that I'm so glad you're not in July '14 and I feel sorry for these ladies for having to read your posts for the next 200+ days. We have ladies that go against the grain, myself included, but we don't go overboard with it and don't suggest that our way is the best way. I'm glad for your siggy because without it, I would think you were a FTM by your ignorance. Have fun with her, Dec '14, although I wouldn't be surprised if she gets banned and falls off her high horse.
well this has been a fun thread to read. i have a few judgy "not my kid" things that i've totally eaten my words on since DS was born, but i can't say that i was dumb enough to go public with that nonsense.
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I still don't know who she wanted to be the subject of her BDSM photo...but she's an AW so I'm betting it was herself and praying she wasn't talking about her kid. Cause even as a joke that mess isn't funny.
@Stargirlb I just have to say that I'm so glad you're not in July '14 and I feel sorry for these ladies for having to read your posts for the next 200+ days. We have ladies that go against the grain, myself included, but we don't go overboard with it and don't suggest that our way is the best way. I'm glad for your siggy because without it, I would think you were a FTM by your ignorance. Have fun with her, Dec '14, although I wouldn't be surprised if she gets banned and falls off her high horse.
We're being mistaken for D14 and that makes me a sad panda.
We're being mistaken for D14 and that makes me a sad panda.
Meeeeeee toooooooo.... I'll take a free jump ahead 4 weeks! hahaha.
Wait, maybe not... Being like 37 weeks pregnant around Christmas might get me out of seeing my ILs...
:-?
By jove, that must happen!
Sweet jesus I want in on this jump ahead if it means avoiding the in-laws! Then again...they're going to want to meet their grandkid...not sure this is a win-win....
Whether she was talking about herself in a pic or her kid, either way the implication is we're "into BDSM" because some of us use harnesses or spanking with our children.... it's still gross and over the line, because it implies we use certain tactics with our children to appease our sexual gratification. Fucking gross.
More and more I feel like she's a troll. So. I'm just not going to take anything else she says seriously.
Whether she was talking about herself in a pic or her kid, either way the implication is we're "into BDSM" because some of us use harnesses or spanking with our children.... it's still gross and over the line, because it implies we use certain tactics with our children to appease our sexual gratification. Fucking gross.
More and more I feel like she's a troll. So. I'm just not going to take anything else she says seriously.
yeah, as someone who has swatted her kid on the butt on occasion AND used a leash (DS's is a cow backpack though, not a monkey, ha), the BDSM comment really pissed me off too.
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Whether she was talking about herself in a pic or her kid, either way the implication is we're "into BDSM" because some of us use harnesses or spanking with our children.... it's still gross and over the line, because it implies we use certain tactics with our children to appease our sexual gratification. Fucking gross.
More and more I feel like she's a troll. So. I'm just not going to take anything else she says seriously.
I've been thinking this, too, so I haven't even been giving her posts the time of day. Glad someone else is having the same thoughts.
Re: Toddler/restaurant rant
Stargib- you are trying way to hard in the shock and aw category. Just stop.
You have had a few good points throughout your posts, points that will never be taken seriously, if you keep posting crap like this.
Just stop.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
I was actually thinking of the some of the points you made about healthcare/prenatal care in the maternity post. But anything you say will be now tainted as trying to get a rise out of people and say things for shock value.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Good luck to you.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
When you train that hard for something, it's something you are proud of. I've run 3, and I met my sub 4 goal on my last one. I can't run them anymore because of knee surgeries. I miss it. FTR, I never shit my pants running though.
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It was not meant to offend you, sorry. It was meant to be a joke and light hearted ribbing...I would have posted the same thing if you had put up a badge bragging about something else.
That's honestly awesome that you accomplished this. Most people here have probably worked hard toward a lot of other really difficult goals, but they don't feel the need to broadcast it in their signature - that's what made me think of the bragging meme. Anyway...sorry.
Before I had 2-year old twins my sister told me how her friend's 3 or 4-year old was trying to run away at the state fair and she bought a dog leash and clipped it onto her daughter's backpack. At the time I was appalled that she would use a dog leash! Now, I harness my kids whenever we are going to a busy place, or if I'm by myself and we will be walking any distance. It's for their safety as well as my piece of mind. I guess I just shouldn't leave the house then right?
I'm glad for all of you that have perfect angels that never run away or act up (or anticipate that with proper parenting you will) but that's not reality for most of us, especially moms of multiples. You may be able to devote all of your attention to one child in public, but two is twice as hard. You can't possibly judge another parent without being in their exact shoes and dealing with the exact child that they have.
ETA: words are hard without caffeine
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
My chart here All ALers welcome!
BFP#1 EDD 04.20.2010, SUNSHINE baby boy born 03.31.2010
BFP#2 EDD 12.07.2014, natural mc 04.09.2014 at 5w3d
BFP#3 EDD 01.14.15, RAINBOW baby girl born 01.16.2015
jan'15 january siggy challenge: baby fails
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We're being mistaken for D14 and that makes me a sad panda.
Totally agree.
BFP#1 EDD 04.20.2010, SUNSHINE baby boy born 03.31.2010
BFP#2 EDD 12.07.2014, natural mc 04.09.2014 at 5w3d
BFP#3 EDD 01.14.15, RAINBOW baby girl born 01.16.2015
jan'15 january siggy challenge: baby fails