@somerandomchick it doesn't have to be equal. But if you have a $7000 dress, don't serve me cold apps and have a cash bar. Fake flower aren't for me, but I really don't care what your flowers are. Basically, remember that you are throwing a party, so take your guests into consideration. If you have a low budget and can only afford a cake and punch reception in the church basement, that's fine. But don't have a $7000 dress, flaunt that and then spend $2000 on the rest, kwim?
Eta: or rent a trolley for yourself, spend $5/invite and have your wedding in a location where your guests have to spend $5 to park. For me, just be considerate of your guests when planning how to spend your wedding budget.
Mine is really unpopular. I think it's sad that people think you have to have alcohol to have fun. I don't understand why you have to have a mind altering substance in order to enjoy a party. What does that say about our society that a dry wedding is a lame or boring or not fun? I mean really. I know it's unpopular as one of only like two people on the board that doesn't drink (that I can think of) but whatever.
Alcohol makes me chill out. I'm kind of high-strung most of the time. I also really enjoy a glass of wine with my food. If I'm eating a delicious steak or piece of fish, I enjoy a glass of red or white wine with it.
I knew you would comment on this because I know you don't drink. Have you ever been buzzed/drunk? Just curious
I could care less about how people throw their weddings. I just enjoy going and celebrating. I have been to super formal, super casual, open bar, cash bar, and have always had fun. I definitely like to focus on the couple and what an exciting time it is for them, even more so since I have been married.
Mine is really unpopular. I think it's sad that people think you have to have alcohol to have fun. I don't understand why you have to have a mind altering substance in order to enjoy a party. What does that say about our society that a dry wedding is a lame or boring or not fun? I mean really. I know it's unpopular as one of only like two people on the board that doesn't drink (that I can think of) but whatever.
Alcohol makes me chill out. I'm kind of high-strung most of the time. I also really enjoy a glass of wine with my food. If I'm eating a delicious steak or piece of fish, I enjoy a glass of red or white wine with it.
I knew you would comment on this because I know you don't drink. Have you ever been buzzed/drunk? Just curious
Yes. A lot actually. I was not always the good little Mormon girl. Lol. From about 18 to 27 I drank socially. I don't think I've ever had a drink alone in my life. The last time I drank was my Vegas birthday trip about a month after I turned 27. So almost six years ago. Holy moly I didn't realize it had been that long.
Mine is really unpopular. I think it's sad that people think you have to have alcohol to have fun. I don't understand why you have to have a mind altering substance in order to enjoy a party. What does that say about our society that a dry wedding is a lame or boring or not fun? I mean really. I know it's unpopular as one of only like two people on the board that doesn't drink (that I can think of) but whatever.
Alcohol makes me chill out. I'm kind of high-strung most of the time. I also really enjoy a glass of wine with my food. If I'm eating a delicious steak or piece of fish, I enjoy a glass of red or white wine with it.
I knew you would comment on this because I know you don't drink. Have you ever been buzzed/drunk? Just curious
Yes. A lot actually. I was not always the good little Mormon girl. Lol. From about 18 to 27 I drank socially. I don't think I've ever had a drink alone in my life. The last time I drank was my Vegas birthday trip about a month after I turned 27. So almost six years ago. Holy moly I didn't realize it had been that long.
Was there something that happened on that trip that made you stop drinking?
I don't drink vodka anymore (maybe had it twice in the past 5 years). I realized that it makes me really angry. I always get into a fight with my husband when I have it.
Mine is really unpopular. I think it's sad that people think you have to have alcohol to have fun. I don't understand why you have to have a mind altering substance in order to enjoy a party. What does that say about our society that a dry wedding is a lame or boring or not fun? I mean really. I know it's unpopular as one of only like two people on the board that doesn't drink (that I can think of) but whatever.
Alcohol makes me chill out. I'm kind of high-strung most of the time. I also really enjoy a glass of wine with my food. If I'm eating a delicious steak or piece of fish, I enjoy a glass of red or white wine with it.
I knew you would comment on this because I know you don't drink. Have you ever been buzzed/drunk? Just curious
Yes. A lot actually. I was not always the good little Mormon girl. Lol. From about 18 to 27 I drank socially. I don't think I've ever had a drink alone in my life. The last time I drank was my Vegas birthday trip about a month after I turned 27. So almost six years ago. Holy moly I didn't realize it had been that long.
Was there something that happened on that trip that made you stop drinking?
I don't drink vodka anymore (maybe had it twice in the past 5 years). I realized that it makes me really angry. I always get into a fight with my husband when I have it.
I stick to beer, wine, and the occasional marg .
No. It was already on the decline and I had been sober for a good year or two before that trip. I doubt I would have had any had I not been on that trip. If that makes sense. So I would have been sober for seven or eight years now instead of six. I stopped drinking because I started going to church again. So it was really just a return to my faith that made me stop.
Also, I don't think a casual drink is bad. Everything in moderation. I just think it's sad if you feel you have to drink to have fun at a party. I have plenty of fun at parties without booze. I think I just don't like the idea of drinking to the point where you're cognitively altered.
Mine is really unpopular. I think it's sad that people think you have to have alcohol to have fun. I don't understand why you have to have a mind altering substance in order to enjoy a party. What does that say about our society that a dry wedding is a lame or boring or not fun? I mean really. I know it's unpopular as one of only like two people on the board that doesn't drink (that I can think of) but whatever.
I agree.
We had sparkling apple juice & a champagne toast only. The rest was lemonade, tea & coffee. Our ceremony & reception was a brunch buffet.
I think bottle propping is lazy. I understand there are circumstances where it would be necessary, but I don't understand why you can't sit there and hold your baby and feed it for a few minutes if those circumstances don't apply to you. Chores can wait... right @michandfranktakes2 ?
And also babies have drowned in their own formula because of bottle propping at young ages.
I have nothing witty to say, I'm slightly pickled today. But if propping a bottle meant that he'd actually drink from the bottle? Sign me up. I can't get milk into this child more than an ounce or two a few times a day.... And who says that propping a bottle means leaving the room?
We plan to redo our wedding in the next few years. Since ours was such a catastrophe.
There will be an inexpensive dress, paper flowers, and most likely no alcohol.
Oh, we also plan to do it at the zoo.
I can't wait.
If I were to plan my wedding now I would totally have a fabulous boozy brunch! I loved my big wedding, but getting tipsy with brunch food would have been just as awesome. And much less work or money!
Also we had no flowers and did open bar for beer/wine/water/soda but anything else was cash. I felt that was a good compromise. The wedding we'd been to the year before ours was total open bar and DH's friends are bad at moderating. I felt like they wouldn't be able to get as sloppy on beer and wine.
I think that's an excellent compromise! I don't think it's a big deal to do a totally dry wedding or partial open bar. It's just tacky to require your guests to pay for their refreshments at your wedding (i.e. a full cash bar, nothing included).
I had a dry wedding, in Wisconsin. It was a short ceremony outdoors at a botanical garden, followed by lunch for 40-50 people in a room overlooking the gardens. We had excellent food, and drinks included a flavored lemonaide bar, iced tea, sparkling cider, coffee, etc. DH wanted to avoid alcohol entirely to prevent certain alcoholic family members from getting drunk and fighting.
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I think my wedding was so perfect. It was all about us. We paid so we did it our way. I planned every detail to be personal and inclusive of our guests. My friend got married 3 months before us and spent 4x what we spent and her wedding was cold and impersonal. Her and her husband are constantly talking divorce.
My sister never sent out thank you cards from her wedding. At one point she said she was only going to send to people who gave them a great gift (big amount of cash). I totally side eye that. My thank you cards were out within a week or two.
We had a "cheap" wedding. FIL bought some kegs and other liquor and drinks. It was self serve. We had Arbys roast beef and ham and other dishes family helped make. Ot saved us money. Not "classy" but it worked for us. Pretty laid back.
Our friends got married in 2008. They had a buffet with pizza, spaghetti and such. I loved it. I love laid back weddings.
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Another "cheap" wedding here. We had fake flowers in the bouquets for the girls and me. We didn't have a lot of money for our wedding and spending money on sonething that is going to die is stupid imo. I got to keep my bouquet. The rest of the decorations were pinwheel that I hand made.
We plan to redo our wedding in the next few years. Since ours was such a catastrophe. There will be an inexpensive dress, paper flowers, and most likely no alcohol. Oh, we also plan to do it at the zoo. I can't wait.
I used to work in catering at WP zoo. The weddings there were ridiculous! So expensive and amazing. Everyone always had so much fun.
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Eta: or rent a trolley for yourself, spend $5/invite and have your wedding in a location where your guests have to spend $5 to park. For me, just be considerate of your guests when planning how to spend your wedding budget.
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I knew you would comment on this because I know you don't drink. Have you ever been buzzed/drunk? Just curious
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Was there something that happened on that trip that made you stop drinking?
I don't drink vodka anymore (maybe had it twice in the past 5 years). I realized that it makes me really angry. I always get into a fight with my husband when I have it.
I stick to beer, wine, and the occasional marg
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We had sparkling apple juice & a champagne toast only. The rest was lemonade, tea & coffee. Our ceremony & reception was a brunch buffet.
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@KateJuly2013 Also,
Speaking of extravagant weddings -
https://www.elle.com/news/culture/extravagant-weddings?src=ai&mag=elm&dom=fbp#slide-1
My friend got married 3 months before us and spent 4x what we spent and her wedding was cold and impersonal. Her and her husband are constantly talking divorce.
Yep. We got married mid 30's and my credit card was being swiped for the bill. Ohhh...the miles. Gotta love all the miles I got
We had a "cheap" wedding. FIL bought some kegs and other liquor and drinks. It was self serve. We had Arbys roast beef and ham and other dishes family helped make. Ot saved us money. Not "classy" but it worked for us. Pretty laid back.
Our friends got married in 2008. They had a buffet with pizza, spaghetti and such. I loved it. I love laid back weddings.
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