Open letter Tuesday

Kristy774 · May 2014

Let's hear them ladies! Because sometimes TMI Tuesdays is too much for me.

runningmama14 · May 2014

Dear boss and co-workers,

Stop sucking so much. I'm the one that is supposed to have "baby brain". God forbid that actually happens because we will all be screwed if I can't catch your mistakes on every. single. chart.

Signed,
Stressed out to be the only one who isn't a moron!

missnacholover · May 2014

Dear In-Laws,

I am not pregnant with the second coming. Please stop acting like it.

Love,
MNL

NLJ82 · May 2014

I have so many...oh Lord....

Dear InLaws,

Stop being so sheltered that every idea, name, theme I come up with gets a stare in return like my head is on fire or a chuckle. I cannot talk to you people and you wonder why I'm so quiet. I've just given up. If I can get in my hour of visitation time & get out of there...I've done my good deed.

Dear DH,

We're married now....it is OUR money. You make double what I do so stop being a tightwad. I pay bills the same as you, except I have less money to do it with so don't act like your put out if I ask for gas money/lunch on VERY rare occasion. Also, maybe I should name this kid bc you're ideas are atrocious.

Dear Job,

:-&

NLJ82 · May 2014

Dear Me,

Learn how to use your & you're.

Kristy774 · May 2014

Dear Anxiety,

I can't take you anymore. Worrying about the baby, worrying I'm going to get breast cancer, worrying that the kids are going to get cancer, worrying that DH is going to die in a car accident while he away ect ect ect....it's enough. You are making me crazy. Literally.

missnacholover · May 2014

NLJ82 said:

I have so many...oh Lord....

Dear InLaws,

Stop being so sheltered that every idea, name, theme I come up with gets a stare in return like my head is on fire or a chuckle. I cannot talk to you people and you wonder why I'm so quiet. I've just given up. If I can get in my hour of visitation time & get out of there...I've done my good deed.

Dear DH,

We're married now....it is OUR money. You make double what I do so stop being a tightwad. I pay bills the same as you, except I have less money to do it with so don't act like your put out if I ask for gas money/lunch on VERY rare occasion. Also, maybe I should name this kid bc you're ideas are atrocious.

Dear Job,

:-&

We combined our finances probably a year and a half before we were married and it was the best thing we've ever done for our relationship. I would feel resentful because DH always had more money than me (He also makes double what I make) and he'd feel resentful because he'd always have to treat for movies and shit like that because, hi, he makes double what I make. It took a while but after combining finances we both think of it as "Our money" not like he's paying most of the bills or whatever. We still run major purchases by the other person, but it has really, really helped our relationship.

Dimples0101 · May 2014

Kristy774 said:
Dear Anxiety,

I can't take you anymore. Worrying about the baby, worrying I'm going to get breast cancer, worrying that the kids are going to get cancer, worrying that DH is going to die in a car accident while he away ect ect ect....it's enough. You are making me crazy. Literally.

Hugs! I do the same exact thing and it's so awful. I want to know what it's like to not hear from someone and not think the worst.

NLJ82 · May 2014

missnacholover I WISH! He has mentioned it in the past but when it comes down to it he almost acts like "No, it's fine. We both know that if we need to help the other one out, we will". While that's true, he never needs help and when I do he gives it to me but complains every step of the way and wants to know "Well where did all you're money go?!". It's not so bad that it's ruining our relationship...bc honestly it's seldom an issue but it's VERY aggravating and sometimes hurtful. BUT...I'll keep trying ;-)

runningmama14 · May 2014

missnacholover said:

NLJ82 said:

I have so many...oh Lord....

Dear InLaws,

Stop being so sheltered that every idea, name, theme I come up with gets a stare in return like my head is on fire or a chuckle. I cannot talk to you people and you wonder why I'm so quiet. I've just given up. If I can get in my hour of visitation time & get out of there...I've done my good deed.

Dear DH,

We're married now....it is OUR money. You make double what I do so stop being a tightwad. I pay bills the same as you, except I have less money to do it with so don't act like your put out if I ask for gas money/lunch on VERY rare occasion. Also, maybe I should name this kid bc you're ideas are atrocious.

Dear Job,

:-&

We combined our finances probably a year and a half before we were married and it was the best thing we've ever done for our relationship. I would feel resentful because DH always had more money than me (He also makes double what I make) and he'd feel resentful because he'd always have to treat for movies and shit like that because, hi, he makes double what I make. It took a while but after combining finances we both think of it as "Our money" not like he's paying most of the bills or whatever. We still run major purchases by the other person, but it has really, really helped our relationship.

Ditto this, only I'm the main bread winner. We have a pretty detailed budget, but even without doing that, you can still make a good compromise. All money goes on one pot, all bills are paid from that pot, we both get an equal amount of spending money each pay period. If there is a household purchase that clearly benefits one of us over the other, we discuss it. If it's an item that didn't fall into a normal budgeted area, we discuss it. We don't fight about money, ever. Best thing we ever did.

MommaKb710 · May 2014

Dear house Gods,

Please please please let this transaction go smoothly and according to plan.

Signed,
Future homeowner (hopefully)

Dimples0101 · May 2014

Dear friend at BBQ this past weekend,
You bring up something about my hubby's sex life from before we were together in front of all of our friends again and I will choke you.

Dear DH,
No, I wasn't upset about it because pregnant. I was upset because it's a completely inappropriate conversation on many different levels.

Signed,
Next time I won't be so nice about it

missnacholover · May 2014

NLJ82 said:

missnacholover I WISH! He has mentioned it in the past but when it comes down to it he almost acts like "No, it's fine. We both know that if we need to help the other one out, we will". While that's true, he never needs help and when I do he gives it to me but complains every step of the way and wants to know "Well where did all you're money go?!". It's not so bad that it's ruining our relationship...bc honestly it's seldom an issue but it's VERY aggravating and sometimes hurtful. BUT...I'll keep trying ;-)

Nope. Seems like he's treating you like a kid and not an equal.

DH and I have the mindset of "we make $X/year". Just because he makes more than me doesn't mean I don't work as hard.

Although I'm pretty sure he doesn't bump all day, but whatever.

alibearo · May 2014

NLJ82 said:

Dear DH,

We're married now....it is OUR money. You make double what I do so stop being a tightwad. I pay bills the same as you, except I have less money to do it with so don't act like your put out if I ask for gas money/lunch on VERY rare occasion. Also, maybe I should name this kid bc you're ideas are atrocious.

:-&

Eww. I sympathize with this! I too am going through this but in the opposite way. We both have so much student loans it would make everyone in this forum cry to disclose, but my husband has a good six figure lead on me. We make the same amount right now, and for some reason I have paid off all of my credit card debt and remained financially stable for the past 3 years while he has put himself slightly more in the hole!! I want to strangle him! In the not so distant future, because I will be working part time for obvious reasons, he will make more.

I finally had to come to the realization that it is best for out marriage if we combine finances and I take on his debt. It is not his debt, it is OUR debt. Boo. It will come around later and eventually be worth it, I know, it is just hard to swallow now. He has made the wise decision that I will be the primary person 'in charge' of the finances once we begin the combining process.

NLJ82 · May 2014

missnacholover said:

NLJ82 said:

missnacholover I WISH! He has mentioned it in the past but when it comes down to it he almost acts like "No, it's fine. We both know that if we need to help the other one out, we will". While that's true, he never needs help and when I do he gives it to me but complains every step of the way and wants to know "Well where did all you're money go?!". It's not so bad that it's ruining our relationship...bc honestly it's seldom an issue but it's VERY aggravating and sometimes hurtful. BUT...I'll keep trying ;-)

Nope. Seems like he's treating you like a kid and not an equal.

DH and I have the mindset of "we make $X/year". Just because he makes more than me doesn't mean I don't work as hard.

Although I'm pretty sure he doesn't bump all day, but whatever.

LoL....same. my job is very boring and I know in the position he's in...he works harder lol BUT WHATEVER...i'm absolutely treated like a child...almost like I can't be trusted with access to "all that" money. It's very annoying. Oh well, this post will inspire me to have 'That' conversation again tonight. Wish me luck!

alibearo · May 2014

Dear OB/GYN,

Maybe you could give your staff a little update on how to report the correct gender results so we don't go through unnecessary emotional turmoil.

Signed,

Alibearo

missnacholover · May 2014

NLJ82 said:

missnacholover said:

NLJ82 said:

missnacholover I WISH! He has mentioned it in the past but when it comes down to it he almost acts like "No, it's fine. We both know that if we need to help the other one out, we will". While that's true, he never needs help and when I do he gives it to me but complains every step of the way and wants to know "Well where did all you're money go?!". It's not so bad that it's ruining our relationship...bc honestly it's seldom an issue but it's VERY aggravating and sometimes hurtful. BUT...I'll keep trying ;-)

Nope. Seems like he's treating you like a kid and not an equal.

DH and I have the mindset of "we make $X/year". Just because he makes more than me doesn't mean I don't work as hard.

Although I'm pretty sure he doesn't bump all day, but whatever.
LoL....same. my job is very boring and I know in the position he's in...he works harder lol BUT WHATEVER...i'm absolutely treated like a child...almost like I can't be trusted with access to "all that" money. It's very annoying. Oh well, this post will inspire me to have 'That' conversation again tonight. Wish me luck!

Good luck!! Do you think it would help him if you kept separate accounts and each deposited $X in it per pay for "do as you wish" money?

missnacholover · May 2014

Kllopez1221 said:

Dear FI, I know you said you didn't mean those things you said to your friend. And that you were drunk when you said them. But they were still extremely hurtful, and it makes it really hard to trust what you tell me. It's not something that I'm just going to forget either. Sincerely, Hurt.

Hope everything is OK.

sweetbabyrahe · May 2014

Dear co-workers,

How bout you do your job so that I can focus on just doing my job. Because FYI, I only get paid for doing my job...unless you want to forego part of your salary when I handle your shit.

Signed,

the responsible one

mander82 · May 2014

Dear Family,

I know my belly is huge. No, I am not having twins. Yes, I know I have a long way to go. Yes, I know I look very pregnant already. Please stop already, I am afraid I am going to have to birth an abnormally large baby.

xoxo,

Not even 4 months pregnant lady.

Dear zits.

Get the fuck off my back.

K, thanks, bye.

milanese0521 · May 2014

Dear coworker -
Stop being an asswipe by bringing your burned ass popcorn from the cafeteria to the open office space everyday at about 2:30. I'm not the only one it annoys on a daily basis....

Kristy774 · May 2014

((((Hugs)))) @Kllopez1221‌

terberell · May 2014

Dear Ankles,

I appreciate your enthusiasm but let's leave the swelling to my boobs and belly.

Sincerely,

It's Not Even Summer Yet

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

Kllopez1221 said:

Thanks @kristy774 and @knitsmagee We'll be ok. Men can just say really stupid things sometimes. He's been trying really hard to make it up to me.

sorry to hear

guys can be really stupid and insensitive sometimes and it really hurts. i hope you guys work it out soon.

emoxymoose · May 2014

kyliedaniellexx said:

Dear Brother in law: Please stop being a proud, pretentious pighead and let us move in with you. She isn't coming back and we want to help you with the bills. Plus, we are all so worried about you. Drinking bleach cleaner at 1am didn't stop SO and I from literally running to your apartment in our pajamas last week to force you to go to ER. We are so worried it is going to happen again and you won't talk to any of us. I know you are mad at all of us right now but we all love you and we're really just trying to help. Signed with love.

Oh my goodness! I hope everything turns out ok!

AnnieRoo13 · May 2014

Dear MIL,

Yes we have new information about birth and babies now. It doesn't make it wrong and you don't have to act shocked because that's not how things were done "in your day". Things are done differently now because in a lot of ways we have better research and information. I will still listen to what you have to say, but I'm not going to stop correcting your misinformation.

Also, I'm never going to rub my nipples with a washcloth to "rough them up" for when baby gets here so STFU.

Hugs and kisses,

AnnieRoo

p.s. Just because BIL and SIL did it with their girls doesn't make it the right option for us. I don't even really like them anyway xo

venussapphire · May 2014

We combined our finances probably a year and a half before we were married and it was the best thing we've ever done for our relationship. I would feel resentful because DH always had more money than me (He also makes double what I make) and he'd feel resentful because he'd always have to treat for movies and shit like that because, hi, he makes double what I make. It took a while but after combining finances we both think of it as "Our money" not like he's paying most of the bills or whatever. We still run major purchases by the other person, but it has really, really helped our relationship.

I cannot understand how married people keep their finances separate. when we bought our house we combined our finances. my thought is we are working towards a common goal

mander82 · May 2014

Dear coworkers,

I dressed according to the weather today, shorts and a tank top. You suck for not dressing right and freezing my ass out with the air conditioner.

I can't help it you dressed like its 40 degrees when its over 80 with high humidity.

Yours truly,

Goosebumps.

mander82 · May 2014

NinerGirl52 said:

mander82 said:

Dear coworkers,

I dressed according to the weather today, shorts and a tank top. You suck for not dressing right and freezing my ass out with the air conditioner.

I can't help it you dressed like its 40 degrees when its over 80 with high humidity.

Yours truly,

Goosebumps.
Man, what kind of cool job do you have? On the rare occasion I go into an office its full business attire!! :P

********* Stuck in quote box*********

its actually a small office for shipping/warehouse.    There are only 3 of us in here, its very casual because we do go out and help the shippers ship, but mostly we just do freight quoting and billing, so we do A TON of emails for the entire company.

Freight=Going Postal.     ha ha ha ha ha!!!!

cindyNmark2010 · May 2014

Dear NY Commuters,

Most of you suck, but a few in particular today.

Every single person on the subway....yes that announcement said you should give up your seat to the elderly, disabled or pregnant. Thanks for letting me and the ready to pop woman next to me stand though. It was really pleasant being pushed around by the hoardes of other commuters getting on.

Lady With the Cane...yes I see your cane, I also see you're wearing heels, not leaning on said cane and RUNNING down the wrong side of the steps, so no, I will not move because I'm visibly fricking pregnant. So instead of cursing me out you should step to the right like you're supposed to and the people behind you will deal with it, just like the people behind my waddling butt will. It's common NY courtesy.

Yappy Yaps on my bus....Please STFU, because no one wants to hear your yap for the next hour after dealing with all of the other rude commuters. Especially me. Plus I'd like to get home in one piece and you're distracting the driver.

Love,
Tired, Cranky, and Hating Your Rudeness

Dear Self,
You need to find a job closer to home.

akatiegrl · May 2014

Dear sister-in-law,

How can you not realize how completely inappropriate it was for you to go announce i'm having a girl on facebook?!? That was not your news to tell! I had only known for 15 minutes for goodness sakes! And who cares if your brother didn't specifically say "don't tell anyone", It's common sense!!!! You don't do that! How dare you take that away from me and not even have the decency to apologize!

Dear acne,

Please leave me alone! I am trying so hard to enjoy being pregnant and you have made me afraid to even go in public. This is miserable. And I don't want to be miserable anymore!

TeeJ526 · May 2014

Dear coworkers,

I appreciate you not outright aaking, but please stop finding ways to get closer to me so you can get a closer view of my belly. Yes, I can tell that you're trying to guess if I'm pregnant or getting fat and you look ridiculous.

Dear Oreo and Felix (my cats),

For the love of all that is good, please stop trying to hijack my body pillow. It's for me; not for you, so stop waiting until I get up in the middle of the night to go the bathroom to stretch yourselves across it.

With love,
TeeJ

Dimples0101 · May 2014

akatiegrl said:
Dear sister-in-law,

How can you not realize how completely inappropriate it was for you to go announce i'm having a girl on facebook?!? That was not your news to tell! I had only known for 15 minutes for goodness sakes! And who cares if your brother didn't specifically say "don't tell anyone", It's common sense!!!! You don't do that! How dare you take that away from me and not even have the decency to apologize!

I would go batshit.

Sunshinehippymama · May 2014

Dear house;

Please be less of a horrendous thing to prepare for my family to live in. I appreciate you and all since i haven't had my own roof over my head since i had that apartment when i was 18... But if you could be a little less dusty and filled with junk and smell a lot less like cat pee where I've been cleaning for the last consecutive month... That would be great! I need to create my space for our family and you are making it awefully difficult.

Dear other half;

I'm so happy we get to live together, finally and we get to make this home our home together. But please be easy with me and very forgiving, i am not my hormones and i know you see them a lot anymore. Please always remember why we fell in love and learn how to deflect anything horrible i may say. I'm not easy to live with, i know this, but i promise you, if you can get through this with me, i will be the best i can be for you.

Dear son;

I love you with all my heart, and i know you are about to go through a huge life change when your sibling arrives, please be patient as i will just be learning how to raise two of you and daddy doesn't exactly know what its fully like to have one child yet let alone 2. And also as you are noticing, i have a new job as well, sweet heart i am so sorry for anything i am missing because of it, and i promise not to take clients in months of big life events of yours. I will make up every bit of time lost that i can in every way that i can! Understand that I'm gone a lot because i love you and I'm determined to ensure that your stinky hippy mommy can ALWAYS provide for you

akatiegrl · May 2014

Oh believe me @Dimples0101 and @Getzy512 i did. I was so upset! I still am!!! She even tagged us both in it, just to make sure it showed up on our pages also. I was livid. And also cried, a lot. I made her take it down but the damage was done.

lisaren · May 2014

@Kllopez1221‌ love to you my friend. Men can be asshats sometimes.

Dimples0101 · May 2014

@akatiegrl‌ - I'm so sorry! That is so completely out of line. I'm mad for you.

lisaren · May 2014

We actually just went to separate accts about 1 yr ago and it's much better!!! He actually pays the majority of the bills, he's the main money maker, my money is for play and my car payment, because I'm a car snob

When we were combined, it was not pretty. Now, it's much much much better.

FirstBabyDoyle · May 2014

lisaren said:
@Kllopez1221‌ love to you my friend. Men can be asshats sometimes.

This. Complete fucking asshats. (( @Kllopez1221‌ ))

MrsC430 · May 2014

Dear Dunkin Donuts,

My cravings for your blueberry muffins are getting out of control. At 460 calories a pop... my ass will be the size of a freight train come November. Kindly hide them, or "run out" when you see me coming!

Sincerely,
Muffin ass

lisaren · May 2014

Open letter to AE. I want my new shoes NOW damnit!!!!!

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