I must CONFESS!!!

FalconCrest · May 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

Because with both pregnancies I was first too sick to gain weight and then had a restricted diet due to GD I didn't gain much while pregnant. With DD I was down 5lbs at the end, with DS I gained 10. But with both I gained while BFing. I'd do well until I went back to work and then had to eat a ton to keep my supply up while pumping. I'm almost 16 months Pp and currently 50lbs heavier than I was when I got pregnant 2 years ago. And that's having lost over 10lbs so far. It really irritates me when people act like BFing is a magical diet. I had a FFFc but am too tired to remember what it was. Worked till almost 10pm, DS was up from 12-2 since he was not happy about not nursing back to sleep. I can see my boss is already at the office but I just can't muster up the energy

Yes. People would say to me "Aren't you supposed to LOSE weight when you are breastfeeding?" It's really hard to lose weight when you can finally keep food down for the first time in 40 weeks, not to mention that breastfeeding makes you hungry all the damn time.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

NeneCakies said:

My BFF just had the bariatric stomach stapling surgery. I'm supportive of her decision but I don't know what to say or do for her when the very very restrictive diet gets her down or if she becomes tempted to derail her progress later. It feels hypocritical to encourage willpower if I have none myself. So I hope post op counseling is part of the package (I know it was required pre op).

My best friend's brother had this surgery-- he was morbidly obese-- close to 500 lbs (and not a tall guy-- maybe he's 5'6"). He lost about 250 the first year, but slowly started to gain weight back because although in the beginning you can only eat small portions, after a while you can slowly stretch your stomach back out.

Now, about 7 years post surgery, he's back up to his highest weight.

It's hard to tell a grown adult what to do, but I would suggest if your friend waivers in her commitment to the new diet (it's quite a commitment and hard work) to just suggest she stay in counceling. Changing your mind is really only the way to change your body peremanently.

Gl to your friend.

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winecastle14 · May 2014

LovelyRitaMeterMaid said:

I have some! Finally.

I may have ripped up lots of wedding photos and put them in his bags to pick up. And the bag sat out all night and will continue to sit outside until he picks it up. If I find the album I will burn it.

I trashed most of the shit he gave me and put it out for trash this morning.

And I changed his name to Douche Bag in my phone. I will probably go back to my maiden name after this since I never wanted to change my name anyway but was guilted into it.

Oh and I've never given a teacher a gift at the end of the year. Or any of her therapists. I feel bad, but never occurred to me. I'm that busy mom who never remembers that ettiquette shit.

@lovelyritametermaid I understand your frustration and that doing those things make you feel better, but save a couple of pictures. I know you don't want to go back down memory lane, but some day Isla is going to want to see pictures of her parents wedding or just her parents together in general. My parents divorced when I was two and I'm so happy that they did. I know it would have been a miserable life for me if they'd stayed married, but I still like to look back at old pictures of them together and from their wedding since that was a part of my life. HUGS!!

ShakeyJakey · May 2014

It makes me go all HULK SMASH when anyone questions my eating habits but especially while BFing. Yes, I'm hungry again because a 25 pound toddler wants to nurse every 5 minutes!!!!! I know I just ate and I'm glad youre not hungry again yet but IM FUCKING HUNGRY DAMNIT!

ShamyCooler · May 2014

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

MotherOfPearl85 said:

I read one of my books to DD last night instead of reading a kid's book. Two birds with one stone.

When I was on maternity leave, the only things I read to DD were US Weekly and People magazine.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

#divorcediamonds

LOL. I traded in my wedding band and got diamond earrings. However, I don't have a kid's college education to save for....

My mom did save her diamond from her engagement ring and that's what my sister has in her ring.

So basically, I have no clue what to tell you.

EVA116 · May 2014

No confession yet but

@cinemagoddess I downloaded The Last Enemy. Is it any good?

winecastle14 · May 2014

uconnhuskie007 said:

AmberEA14 said:

DD fell asleep on the way home from dinner last night and didn't wake up to nurse before bed like she usually does. She's 18 months so I don't pump at work anymore. I hadn't nursed her since 6:30 that morning. By 11 PM my boobs were rocks and DH had just gotten home from a bball game. I was sofa king tired that I jokingly asked him if he would just suck on my boobs for a minute so I wouldn't have to pump. The confession part...if he would have said yes, I would have let him. Pregnancy tiredness = desperation, yo.

You're KTFU??! Did I know this?! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! sQUEEeeeee!

@uconnhuskie007 yep, just got a BFP on Sunday so still very early. I'm already SO tired and hungry though. Didn't hit me this early last time. Thanks!!

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

Sorry @privacywanted

EVA116 · May 2014

I peed a little while playing volleyball last night. WTF!?

ShamyCooler · May 2014

Helenahhandbasket said:

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

This is my thought as well. Obviously I don't expect I could sell the rings for as much as they appraised for, but still they appraised for a good amount...so that would be nice to put away for DD for the future. That's more important than a ring with no meaning to her.

winecastle14 · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

@shamycooler IDK what I'd do either. While I think it'd be cool to see the rings, I doubt I'd actually wear them because it would just feel a bit strange. I bet they'd just sit in a box and collect dust like they are doing now. After thinking about it, I'd probably sell them and use it to buy her something she'll actually use

[Deleted User] · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

This is my thought as well. Obviously I don't expect I could sell the rings for as much as they appraised for, but still they appraised for a good amount...so that would be nice to put away for DD for the future. That's more important than a ring with no meaning to her.

They might not sell for what they appraised for, but they will sell for probably more than what they were purchases for. Platinum/Gold/Diamonds all gain value over time.

I was able to sell my engagement ring on consignment for just under what we bought it for.

littlestjerry · May 2014

@EVA116‌, I pee myself A LOT when I play soccer.

ShamyCooler · May 2014

@DragonBlood13 Thank you, that's good to know! I'm going to have to start really looking into selling it. I know her dad doesn't plan on putting money away for college for her, and I'd really like to do that.

NeneCakies · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:
Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

@ShamyCooler‌ sorry for these circumstances. I'll share that my grandma had my mom's wedding rings after the divorce (exchange for a loan I think) and she intended to bequeath the rings to me and my sister. She did and mine didn't fit and wasn't my style at all. I don't have the ring today because my mom swooped in and took it from me (very rudely). I have a different ring of my grandma's instead that I can't wear and need to get redesigned. Sentimentalism has its place but can be impractical sometimes. I think a savings account would be a good idea.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

A few weeks ago, the director of the girls daycare took me aside and told me that we needed to have N evaluated for developmental delays. I asked her what she meant by developmental delays and she said the teacher has had some concerns about her behavior over the last 6 or so months and that they would get us some information about it. They also said she shouldn't go to preschool until the delay is resolved.

So I went into Mother's Day weekend thinking my daughter had developmental delays that we didn't even know about and I felt like the most horrible mother ever. Not even noticing my own daughter was having issues.

The following week, we finally got the teacher's notes and information about how to have N evaluated.

The developmental delays consisted of:

1. Putting markers in her mouth;

2. Painting her face;

3. Not sitting quietly during circle time; and

4. not wanting to down for her nap.

N is 3.5 years old. Everyone I've talked to has said this is normal for 3.5 year olds. Not all kids do it, but a lot do.

I was pissed. The DC has labeled N as being delayed for doing normal jerk-kid stuff. We called the school district to ask them about her need for an evaluation and their response was essentially, "Yeah, no. This is not a delay, but we will assess her anyway just to make sure." So they're sending us some paperwork to fill out and they may be able to schedule an assessment in a few months.

This all went down the same weekend as the shit hit the fan in the groups but before we knew of Dolores's involvement and it also coincided with Mother's Day. That was one of the worst weekends of my life.

I just needed to get that off my chest.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

EVA116 said:

No confession yet but
@cinemagoddess I downloaded The Last Enemy. Is it any good?

YES.

wiggyslilsis · May 2014

Effing mobile bump is being all slow and laggy and not pushing the buttons I want pushed. How am I supposed to read through the FFCs if I can't love tit or get to the next page?

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

AYFKM @cinemagoddess?? That's some bullshit. i would have been so mad. I would have been pissed that the teacher considered that behavior enough to even bring it up as a delay. Fucking...

Inorite? DH and I spent the weekend worried that we had missed something and watching her behavior like a hawk. It didn't seem out of the ordinary at all but we thought since they were around different kids all day, they might have some insider knowledge or something.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

ShamyCooler said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

This is my thought as well. Obviously I don't expect I could sell the rings for as much as they appraised for, but still they appraised for a good amount...so that would be nice to put away for DD for the future. That's more important than a ring with no meaning to her.

Yes-- also just as an aside-- I used to work in the NYC diamond district-- so if you decide to sell to a jewelry store, please don't be shocked at what you are offered.

What a diamond apprasies for is not what anyone would pay for it (jeweler or otherwise).

Furthermore, what a jeweler can buy a diamond for (say, from a large diamond wholesaler) is less than what he would sell it for (hte retail price of a ring-- so what your H paid for it), so expect the amount you are offered for a diamond (of any size) to be about one quarter of the apprasial value-- so basically "wholesale". That's pretty standard.

If you think about it in terms of "I didn't pay for this diamond" -- it's free money.

If you think about it in terms of -- hey-- my H paid 5K for this ring and I am being offered 1500-- you will feel ripped off. I promise though, wherever you go, that's standard.

If you want to MAYBE get slightly more than wholesale, you can try selling on ebay, but then you have to go through the whole process of listing the item/ sifting through replies/ dealing with strangers and IMO it's not worth it.

This is just a general FYI.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

DragonBlood13 said:

ShamyCooler said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

This is my thought as well. Obviously I don't expect I could sell the rings for as much as they appraised for, but still they appraised for a good amount...so that would be nice to put away for DD for the future. That's more important than a ring with no meaning to her.
They might not sell for what they appraised for, but they will sell for probably more than what they were purchases for. Platinum/Gold/Diamonds all gain value over time.

I was able to sell my engagement ring on consignment for just under what we bought it for.

While gold is more $$ than it used to be per ounce, this is not true.

If the sale was a private sale, I think you can get more money.

But there no reason for a jeweler to buy a ring from someone at retail or near retail when they can buy whatever they want wholesale.

The only case in which this would happen is if your ring is an unusual cut/ fancy shape/ fancy color and they already have a buyer for it in mind (meaning a regular customer that has asked him to source a special stone and is willing to pay a preminum for the service.)

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

MermaidsMagic said:

CinemaGoddess said:

MermaidsMagic said:

AYFKM cinemagoddess?? That's some bullshit. i would have been so mad. I would have been pissed that the teacher considered that behavior enough to even bring it up as a delay. Fucking...

Inorite? DH and I spent the weekend worried that we had missed something and watching her behavior like a hawk. It didn't seem out of the ordinary at all but we thought since they were around different kids all day, they might have some insider knowledge or something.

I would legitimately worry about the teacher's skills. Those things aren't yet developmentally appropriate. If some kids can do it, great, but not all can.

I'm not sure if it's the teacher or the class N's in. They had to split up the girls because they were fighting too much. K is in the one for their age group and N is in one for slightly older kids.

Another concern they had was that N doesn't play with other kids very much. She's always been on the shy side but once she's used to being around other kids, she plays with them.

I mean, I don't always want to hang out with other people. Sometimes I just want my own space to do my own thing.

I'm not delayed.

EVA116 · May 2014

I am so sorry @cinemagoddess. We are in the opposite boat over here. DD's pediatrician wants her to be evaluated for ASD and her preschool has never mentioned once that they see an issue.

She is getting evaluated in August. It sucks. I watch every move she makes and analyze it. I hate that and try so hard not to do it.

EVA116 · May 2014

Oh and another pedi we saw did not think there was an issue. I am so confused with everything. But she is happy healthly and thriving so what could it hurt to have an eval.

EVA116 · May 2014

ChickenOnSunday said:

EVA116 said:

I peed a little while playing volleyball last night. WTF!?

Diving for a ball?

Jumping up to hit it. It was an awesome hit though.

Helenahhandbasket · May 2014

AuburnGirlSC said:

I have diamond earrings and a diamond pendant from an x-FI. I don't know what to do with them. I should sell them but I haven't. I don't know why. They are really nice but I don't really feel like I can ever wear them again. I just hate to sell them.

Why don't you re purpose them?

Are the earrings in a plain setting? Have them re set in a different setting. Or, take all three diamonds and make a right hand ring.

Or save them for your DD.

RE selling them:

I don't pretend to know what size they are, but it's probably not worth selling them (to a jeweler) if they aren't at least a half carat each (if you read my response to shamy you will see why).

Try selling them on ebay maybe?

winecastle14 · May 2014

We get to leave work at 2 today, but I am still about to go take an hour lunch. Sorry not sorry since I've been here for 3 years with no raise other than the minuscule yearly bump.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

Thanks guys. I'm still pretty upset about it and we're still keeping an eye on her, but talking to the school district helped alleviate our concerns a bit.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

Yeah, so 2014 has been pretty shitty for us.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

I'm watching Band of Brothers because it's a Damien Lewis/Ron Livingston kind of day.

NarwhalBacon · May 2014

@mischiefmanaged611‌ We have a place called Burger Bar here. Damn now I'm hungry.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

Helenahhandbasket said:

DragonBlood13 said:

ShamyCooler said:

Helenahhandbasket said:

ShamyCooler said:

Along the lines of saving/getting rid of stuff from your marriage after a divorce, I'm really torn as to what to do about my wedding rings. I'm tempted to sell them so I have extra money in savings or to put towards a college/savings fund for DD. But everyone tells me I should save them for her because she would probably like to have them down the road.

I can't imagine what she'd want with them in the future, but right now, they're sitting in my jewelry chest...waiting.

Sell that shit.

Put the money away for her if you want, but I can't imagine why she would want them either.

My parents divorced when I was young and my mom kept her gold wedding ring. (she sold her diamond engagement ring).

She gave me the wedding ring when I was 18. I was like-- why are you giving me a piece of jewelry from a marriage that didn't work out? (I didn't say that to her- just thought it).

I sold the ring shortly after myself. It meant nothing to me.

This is my thought as well. Obviously I don't expect I could sell the rings for as much as they appraised for, but still they appraised for a good amount...so that would be nice to put away for DD for the future. That's more important than a ring with no meaning to her.
They might not sell for what they appraised for, but they will sell for probably more than what they were purchases for. Platinum/Gold/Diamonds all gain value over time.

I was able to sell my engagement ring on consignment for just under what we bought it for.

While gold is more $$ than it used to be per ounce, this is not true.

If the sale was a private sale, I think you can get more money.

But there no reason for a jeweler to buy a ring from someone at retail or near retail when they can buy whatever they want wholesale.

The only case in which this would happen is if your ring is an unusual cut/ fancy shape/ fancy color and they already have a buyer for it in mind (meaning a regular customer that has asked him to source a special stone and is willing to pay a preminum for the service.)

I am talking about selling on consignment, so it is a private sale. I just use the jeweler as an inbetween.

I was able to get back 90% of what we paid for it. The 10% was approximately what it cost to make the ring, which he couldn't get back for me.

Of course the trade of my wedding band to the earrings was just a trade...no cash exchanged.

EVA116 · May 2014

When I was 12 or 13 we use to prank people and say

"Hi this is Baskin Robins 31 flavors. If you can name 31 flavors in 31 second, we will give you 31 dollars and 31 cents."

People really tried to do it sometimes.

CinemaGoddess · May 2014

EVA116 said:

When I was 12 or 13 we use to prank people and say
"Hi this is Baskin Robins 31 flavors. If you can name 31 flavors in 31 second, we will give you 31 dollars and 31 cents."
People really tried to do it sometimes.

I just tried to do this.

billybumbler · May 2014

@cinemagoddess I'm sorry, it sounds like DC doesn't know what they're talking about.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@CinemaGoddess‌ I'm sorry you guys jad to deal eith that. I feel like the careless assumption they made re: your DD is straight up crossing a line. I'd be fucking ragey too. What bullshit. My kid is only 16 months and that even sounds to ME, like normal 3-4 yr old behavior. I'm side-eyeing the shit out of that dc teacher.

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