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The SAH parent vs working parent situation is such a situational kind of thing. I am sure sometimes handing them off right at the door makes sense and sometimes letting the working parent decompress for a bit makes sense.
Why is this a debate?
I agree, it is situational. For our family it would be unfair for me to expect DH to completely take over so I can have alone time. He has a stressful job. It's better for us to work together until bed time.
Bedtime here isn't finished until 10 or 10:30 most nights.
I've worked and SAH. Mostly SAH but helped see SOs side when the role were reversed for a while, and he saw my side too. I missed my kid but I still wanted to relax after work. When SAH I wanted to poop alone and make dinner in peace. It's up to each couple to figure out what works in terms of breaks. I get enough and SO hears it when I don't. I usually get my breaks after LO is in bed but SO is perfectly capable of doing bedtime by himself.
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DH starts being on duty when he gets home on Saturday and Sunday. I still do a ton - last night I cooked dinner, bathed C and put her down for bed. DH picked up the living room.
If he doesn't take over at least for a few minutes after he gets home - I'll lose it. But that may be the PPA talking.
The second part is absolutely normal. I may or may not have PPA but I need at least 5 minutes alone.
Lately we have been doing one person does bed time, the other cleans. Like a quick pick up of the living room, kitchen, etc
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We're going to see my biological father this weekend (thank jesus for my brunch with Mabes and Pobre to keep my sanity).
I was trying to figure out what to do while we're up there. He just suggested that we take my kid to a biker rally.
Um. No.
Wut?
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There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
Hey you know... sometimes people with anorexia have the twisted desire to be noticeably anorexic and unhealthy. It's kind of like showing a meth head "The Faces of Meth" sometimes only makes them crave more.
You don't have to be thin to have anorexia. I get that ppants' comment seemed disgusting and insensitive, but I actually kind of wonder if there's more to the story that we're not seeing.
I can see this side of it as well, so I shouldn't have come off as harshly as I did. It just rubbed me the wrong way because of my own personal experiences.
This is why I only made a short comment to @ppants. I don't think she meant it maliciously but was just unaware of how hurtful something like that can be. I was giving her the benefit of the doubt.
There was a lot of stuff I didn't realize was wrong or hurtful (like sex vs gender or that gyp was offensive) until I came on TB.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
Some days I need a break way more than DH. Some days he needs a break more. Whoever needs it gets it. But normally we do work together. Then again, I feel like figuring out who needs a few minutes more is part of working together. Because sometimes that 5 minutes gets me a second wind and I can then let him decompress for a while without flipping my shit, and vice versa.
I agree with you on this. There are days when I just need 5 friggin minutes to breathe.Sometimes those few minutesto myself gives me the push I need to get through dinner time/bath time/bedtime. Although I will add that lately, I've been pretty damn tired and DH has been doing an awesome job at picking up the slack. I owe him.
We're going to see my biological father this weekend (thank jesus for my brunch with Mabes and Pobre to keep my sanity).
I was trying to figure out what to do while we're up there. He just suggested that we take my kid to a biker rally.
Um. No.
Wut?
lol like I have no idea what makes him think this is a good idea or the appropriate place to take a freaking 2.5 year old.
It's not like either me or DH are into motorcycles... my dad has a few but it's not like I'm some biker aficionado to the point of ever attending a biker rally.
I mean... wut.
Yeah, not an appropriate place for a child to be exposed to motorcycles for the first few times, to me anyway. My mom's boyfriend rides and Lo looks at it and watches it drive by but he wouldn't want to take LO to Bike Week.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
I still think that a working parent should give a SAH parent some time to themselves. Working parent gets legally dictated breaks and lunches as well as any commuting time. SAH parent may not get that break time regularly.
I agree. But it sounded to me (and my boat is similar a lot of the time) that the SAH parent is "off duty" the second the working parent comes home and doesn't come back "on duty" until the next day.
In my case I don't mind taking the kids to play for an hour or two so there is alone time. But I shouldn't have to do everything by myself every minute I'm home.
I disagree with commute considered down-time across the board. I live ten miles from my home and it takes me 45 minutes to get there. It's not fun, it's stressful.
I never said they should get a full night to themselves. I said "some time".
And not everyone drives for the commute, so it is a legit break for parents of have public transit as an option.
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I have diamond earrings and a diamond pendant from an x-FI. I don't know what to do with them. I should sell them but I haven't. I don't know why. They are really nice but I don't really feel like I can ever wear them again. I just hate to sell them.
Sometimes I feel as though I should start reading Harry Potter. However the Potheads scare me and I don't want to turn into one.
I mean a lot of people read a lot of series but the Potheads seem to take it overboard. I know no one calling themselves one of the Cullens or Lannister for instance. The Potheads seem to think they are in the book.
I scared.
Twilight fans are WAAAAAAAY crazier than Harry Potter fans.
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One of my favorite netbattles was between P&CE and The Twilight board over on TN.
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I don't understand being scared by Harry Potter fans.
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One of my favorite netbattles was between P&CE and The Twilight board over on TN.
oh god... what was the basis? That the twilighters were mutants ?
Oh jesus no. It was that the twilighters had an unhealthy obsession with the kid who played Jacob.
And that they were idiots for loving Twilight so much.
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I have to admit that Harry Potter does make you really wish that magic and a magical community was real.
"Muggle" becomes a legit insult.
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Sometimes I feel as though I should start reading Harry Potter. However the Potheads scare me and I don't want to turn into one.
I mean a lot of people read a lot of series but the Potheads seem to take it overboard. I know no one calling themselves one of the Cullens or Lannister for instance. The Potheads seem to think they are in the book.
I scared.
I am kind of an exception to this. I've seen each movie once. They were good, but I don't need to watch them again. ETA: I've read each book at least three times. The earlier ones I've read at least 7-8 times. But again, I'm not dying to go to Harry Potter world, etc.
I think the books are just incredible. The story is so compelling and interesting. In the beginning (like the first 2.5 books), it's a little more childish, but by the middle of the third book, it starts getting more serious.
By the seventh book, you are dealing with very very real emotions and adult things (death of friends, parents, etc.)
Her writing is amazing. The book has so much fun nuance and detail and things that they could just never capture in the movies.
If you promise to read it, I will send you the box set tomorrow mbenny.
You need to see the movies and the books as two different parts of the same story. You can't really compare the two. The movies are their own timeline, almost, with all the storyline exclusions and the plotline makes sense if you just watch the movie.
Then you read the books and realize there is a HELL of a lot more going on behind the scenes than you realized just by watching the movies.
It's a beautiful thing, really.
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Sometimes I feel as though I should start reading Harry Potter. However the Potheads scare me and I don't want to turn into one.
I mean a lot of people read a lot of series but the Potheads seem to take it overboard. I know no one calling themselves one of the Cullens or Lannister for instance. The Potheads seem to think they are in the book.
I scared.
Twilight fans are WAAAAAAAY crazier than Harry Potter fans.
Maybe it is regional. Again, I know no one that likens themselves to being a vampire or werewolf but I know grown people who think they go the the school in HP.
Yeah. It's definitely regional, then.
People come here from all over the world to see where Bella and Edward fell in love.
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Sometimes I feel as though I should start reading Harry Potter. However the Potheads scare me and I don't want to turn into one.
I mean a lot of people read a lot of series but the Potheads seem to take it overboard. I know no one calling themselves one of the Cullens or Lannister for instance. The Potheads seem to think they are in the book.
I scared.
Twilight fans are WAAAAAAAY crazier than Harry Potter fans.
Maybe it is regional. Again, I know no one that likens themselves to being a vampire or werewolf but I know grown people who think they go the the school in HP.
Yeah. It's definitely regional, then.
People come here from all over the world to see where Bella and Edward fell in love.
Sometimes I feel as though I should start reading Harry Potter. However the Potheads scare me and I don't want to turn into one.
I mean a lot of people read a lot of series but the Potheads seem to take it overboard. I know no one calling themselves one of the Cullens or Lannister for instance. The Potheads seem to think they are in the book.
I scared.
Twilight fans are WAAAAAAAY crazier than Harry Potter fans.
Yeah. It's definitely regional, then.
People come here from all over the world to see where Bella and Edward fell in love.
All of you with two-parent households (or a co-parenting relationship in any way) are eating crackers right now. It's been a long, long week.
It wasn't always like that and sometimes still isn't.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
I got my spray tan (or spay tan, for those of you in the know). I told the lady I was breastfeeding and she asked how old LO is. I told her 3 months. He's four months. I didn't forget. I lied. She was in full view of my almost naked body and I thought my body's current state was more acceptable for 3 months post partum than 4.
OMG- I got a spray tan once before I was even pregnant & was gaining weight from my fertility drugs (and the chocolate too), and she asked me how far along I was. I thought I was going to die, so I didn't want to make it worse by saying I wasn't even pregnant, so I said I just gave birth a month ago. Then she asked me if it was a boy/girl and the freaking name. I made it all up, and got out of there real quick!
Do other states require training for DC teachers? Like recognizing abuse and basic child development and other things. In FL they do and they talk about how to approach it with the parents and know what is appropriate for what age. Some of these stories make me mad. I'm pretty sure I could notify some kind of regulatory body if they came at me with some BS about my kid being delayed because she puts markers in her mouth and doesn't want to take a nap. Because that shows me they have no idea what they're talking about.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
DH asked me to buy a birthday card for his mom, which I hate doing because I feel like he should pick it out. I ended up just getting a pretty one with a poem or something, but I was tempted to get these because she hates Obama with the fire of 10,000 suns.
My ILs are the ones who have Obama toilet paper that they got from someone at church. So very disturbing.
There’s a lightningin your eyes I can't deny Then there’s me inside a sinkingboat running out of time Without you I'll never make it out alive But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
Re: I must CONFESS!!!
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It's usually 10 in our house, too.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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Lately we have been doing one person does bed time, the other cleans. Like a quick pick up of the living room, kitchen, etc
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
There was a lot of stuff I didn't realize was wrong or hurtful (like sex vs gender or that gyp was offensive) until I came on TB.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Yeah, not an appropriate place for a child to be exposed to motorcycles for the first few times, to me anyway. My mom's boyfriend rides and Lo looks at it and watches it drive by but he wouldn't want to take LO to Bike Week.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
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I KWYM. I have stuff from exes too that just sits in my jewelry box, but none of it is that nice.
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Then you read the books and realize there is a HELL of a lot more going on behind the scenes than you realized just by watching the movies.
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Please to suggest where I should eat.
No fish and I will have my kids with me.
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Yeah. It's definitely regional, then.
Oh my.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
My ILs are the ones who have Obama toilet paper that they got from someone at church. So very disturbing.
Harry Styles = Life Ruiner
There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
Without you I'll never make it out alive
But I know, yes, I know we’ll be alright
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
Fuck you guys.