Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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My coworker has two sons. She said her oldest was so still inside, and he's not still at all now (in middle school). The youngest is in fifth grade and I taught him last year. He's the chillest kid I know and she said he NEVER sat still inside. So take heart! It's possible.
DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
I called assuming they would want an appt but they lady I talked to in our county said no. To just show up. So we did, haha rang a doorbell and everything. They also had a pre set time frame on the 4th Saturday of every month. I would recommend nit going during rush hour. We live in a pretty urban area and he warned us we may get interrupted and have to come back since they get called out to the big accidents. Luckily we didn't but something to keep in mind
I am also so pumped for ftm to hear their kids sing along with music. My daughter singing Blitzkrieg Bop made my day.
Sorry @jensavicci, it definitely is too early for emotions and apparently also clear thinking.
In other news, last night DH could feel LO's butt sticking out. He's felt random jabs and hiccups before but never discernible body parts... Suddenly he was like ":-o. There is actually a baby in there!" and was even tearing up about how excited he is to meet her. Until now, he mostly speaks of LO in terms of what she might be like when she is a teenager. I'm pretty sure he finally just realized she is going to be a baby first!
I just mentioned casually that I could go for a sloppy joe, and then he just went for it. It was pretty amazing.
DD had colic until she was about 12 weeks old and after that she has been a super easy kid. I mean she's busy because she's three. She's always busy really, but she's "good"* and just easy. She's never pitched a fit in a restaurant, she really doesn't throw fits period, picks up her toys, goes to bed when she's told, potty trained in less than 48 hours. Everything has been a breeze with her, so I am very nervous that this second one will be my into everything all over the place never sits still refuses to sleep wild thing. Obviously I will love this child just as much no matter the personality but I guess I just get anxious over the unknown. My mom says we should give ourselves more credit for our parenting, but even if that is true at least a part of the way DD behaves is because it's her personality.
*FTR I hate saying kids are just inherently good. Calm well behaved kids to do not always equal "good" and kids who make messes and act out aren't always "bad". I think that's a really damaging way to view kids as "good" and "bad".
I 100% agree. Car seat safety is my jam, yo.
DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
Forrester.
DD born 7.27.2014
BFP 09.2015 - m/c 10.21.2015
This is what I'm watching from my driveway... DH is playing catch with the kids and we let our horse out to eat all of the clover and weeds from the yard. Five years ago, I would've never imagined that this is how I would wait for dinner to be ready. I'm so glad I was wrong.
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”
- J.M. Barrie Peter Pan
married on the sweetest day 10.20.12
Chicken - 07.08.06 | Bubsy - 02.24.09 | Sunshine - 07.16.14
I'm all late but hugs hugs hugs! This is your time to let it out. Just remember, you're almost there! Madeleine (praying I spelt it right) is holding out for her mama. You're so strong and we're all here with you. We can cry, eat all the food and hate everyone together