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November 2014 Moms
UO Thursday!
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Re: UO Thursday!
On the same note, my unpopular opinion is of pregnant women (especially on TB) who demand extra respect for their choice to formula feed because they are tired of everyone lecturing them on the benefits of breast feeding. Nobody deserves extra respect for making a poor choice for their baby. It's a doctors job to help you make the healthiest and most informed decision so when they find out that you aren't making the best decision, of course they are going to say something.
If for some reason I had to formula feed I would admit it's not the best choice for my child, not demand special treatment because of it.
Sorry for ranting, breastfeeding is a hot subject for me.
**TW Living Child**
BFP 2/2014 - DS - 10/2014
Agreed100%. Btw we vaccinate according to official schedule.
AMEN!!!! Thank you!
I think most people would agree if you are not choosing the best option for your child, it's a poor choice. Everyone judges for one reason or another, mine just happens to be related to formula feeding. Isn't this the thread for unpopular opinions?
N14 Nov. Siggy: CELEBRATION!
WIC, Im on it and agree with the drs note. Not like the dr wont write one if you just choose to FF. You need a note to get soy milk so why not?
CD, doing it round 2, well half and half. My daycare sucks with it! I used the disposiable liners, told them to just toss them. Never did, just rolled it all up and put it in a pkastic bag in my wet bag. Smh....mind you, I work there. Not in that room though. Im going to let them use disposibles and last diaper change, make it a cd.
Believe it or not, there are TONS of women who choose not to breastfeed because they say it's too much work or they feel awkward doing it. Umm yes, those are are pretty poor and lazy excuses. I am not referring to women who don't have a good supply or can't breastfeed because of work. I am specifically referring to women who just "don't feel like" breastfeeding.
Did you know that less than 20% of women breastfeed after 3 months and less than 40% do before 3 months? Do you really think 60% of women have a legitimate excuse not to breastfeed? I guess before formula was invented all infants just starved to death. You are no more informed if you actually think most women aren't breastfeeding because of reasons outside of their control.
Wow Judegey McJudgerson.
With my first, I was able to breastfeed just fine. And then I went back to work and had to pump Guess what? I didn't respond to the pump well, no matter what I tried - supplements, different pumps, hand expressing, you name it, I tried it, and drove myself absolutely crazy in the process. And eventually, there came a day where I couldn't pump enough to feed my child, and I'd run out of what little I'd frozen before I went back to work. So I had to make the "poor choice" of giving him formula or underfeeding him.
I'm not saying I deserve accolades for giving my kid formula, and I don't deny that breastfeeding is the better option, but to call it a "poor choice"? As if I had a damn choice? That's bullshit.
I sure hope you don't have any problems breastfeeding.
I am going to try breastfeeding but from what I've read it can be very tough for type 1 diabetics to do. Blood sugars get wonky and it's hard on mom. I refuse to further stress myself or my kid out by forcing something that makes us unhappy. I guess I'd be lazy in your eyes.
I'm sorry but this is bs. UO is one thing but this is not just stating an opinion.
Breastfeeding isn't an option for some for tons of reasons. I will attempt to BF because I want to but if it doesn't work, then I'm not going to beat myself up about it.
I am 1 of 4 kids and 3 of us were straight formula because my mom didn't produce. She finally produced with my brother and BFd for over a year. He barely finished high school, has ADD/ADHD and my sister who was only FF is getting her 2nd PHD .
Maybe you should keep your "facts" to yourself because this world is not 1 size fits all. There are always exceptions which keep fact from being fact.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
Yeah I did this until my son's massive dumps started clogging my toilet.
Logan born October 31, 2011
to attack people there. Women who don't breastfeed are lazy? 98% of the
excuses mothers make to not breastfeed "aren't very good." Those are
some pretty strong and unsubstantiated facts right there.
Believe it or not, there are TONS of women who choose not to breastfeed because they say it's too much work or they feel awkward doing it. Umm yes, those are are pretty poor and lazy excuses. I am not referring to women who don't have a good supply or can't breastfeed because of work. I am specifically referring to women who just "don't feel like" breastfeeding.
Did you know that less than 20% of women breastfeed after 3 months and less than 40% do before 3 months? Do you really think 60% of women have a legitimate excuse not to breastfeed? I guess before formula was invented all infants just starved to death. You are no more informed if you actually think most women aren't breastfeeding because of reasons outside of their control.
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Your inflexibility and unwillingness to accept that when it comes to feeding their baby every mother does her best is not going to serve you well.
BF is extremely challenging for some women. Who are you to say if they've given it enough effort and for long enough?
My DS has allergies and reflux and was moved to a hypoallergenic formula that was a Godsend after we struggled with BF for 5 long, excruciating weeks. I never felt like BF was a good bonding experience; DS and I were uncomfortable, tense, and miserable all day every day.
You should take a step back and consider how challenging it is to make the decision to introduce formula when you had planned on BF all along. If BF doesn't work out for you and you haven't softened up on this issue you won't cope well with having to make that adjustment.
I agree with your statement to a degree. My mom just had a series of bad luck when it came to the first 3 of us kids. She kept clogging, getting mastitis, infections, she under produced from day 1 and the doctor made her stop for her health and our health. She kept trying though and had very little problems on #4, finally. She kept trying because she really wanted to BF all of us but it did not happen.
I have known many ladies that production has been an issue for. Even with stimulation and pumping stimulation it just didn't work for them. They went to FF because they would rather their child eat than starve with 1/3 of the supply they should be getting.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
I FF my DD. It's not a fucking poor choice. It was my only fucking choice. I tried EVERYTHING FOR FUCKING MONTHS to get my breast feeding to work. Ever hear if a supplementor from medela? I had to tape, yes tape (which for your ever loving wisdom, rips a fucking layer of skin off every single time) tubes to my breast every single time I breast fed so my DD could get formula and breast milk as I didn't have enough. She was expelling too much energy and not gaining weight. So I had no choice. So poor choice? Yes, keeping my baby alive was a poor choice, wasn't it?
The kicker? After months and months of trying everything, I find out I didnt actually have enough breast tissue to breast feed. Want to know why?!? Because I almost died TWICE while pregnant with DD. And guess what! Your body would rather keep you alive than fucking produce breast tissue and breast milk.
Breast isn't always best. Especially when your own sanity is at risk. Breastfeeding doesn't just come naturally to everyone. Your comment is very ignorant, go educate yourself better because obviously you are only looking at webpage that support your opinion.
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
*I won't judge your choices as long as you aren't putting your or my child in danger. If you're going to birth at home unassisted, I'm judging the shit out of you.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
I was told I probably would not be able to bf. I tried and exclusively did for 2 weeks after she born, loved it, but her weight was dropping and I was told to supplement with formula. I could not pump or feed her more than an ounce, and after sucking down a 4 ounce bottle that's not ok for a hungry baby.
I was working a minimum wage job at the time and thank god was able to receive WIC.
She is also very intelligent and hardly ever gets sick. Crazy, I know.
I highly doubt you or your child is any better for breastfeeding. This time around, I will still bf however much I can. No WIC though, and that damn formula isn't cheap.
If you ask, I will tell you it was too hard to breastfeed my first.
It was TOO HARD.
Was I lazy? No.
Two days after I got out of the hospital, I was projectile vomiting and went to the ER. I forgot my pump at home. The ER staff wouldn't let me borrow one. I was there for 12 hours.
I still tried. I did everything I could for the next two weeks. My son was attached to my breast nearly 24/7. I was getting zero sleep. I had the baby blues bad because I wasn't allowed to breastfeed anywhere outside of my bedroom, so I felt like a prisoner (I lives with my parents, my brother and dad and uncle didn't need to see my boobs according to my mom). On top of that, when I started crying because my son stopped latching, my now ex told me it was a good thing because breastfeeding is disgusting. So that's what I had to deal with. After trying everything for another week to get him to latch again while pumping constantly to keep up with his demand, I decided crying over feeding him and constantly being stressed because I couldn't pump enough to keep him fed wasn't worth it.
But usually I don't tell that story. I just say it was too hard and /story.
Logan born October 31, 2011
You are an asshole. Wtf? And yea, I just called you a name because you deserved it. I FF both my boys and your opinion on BF is whack. I'm not even getting in to why I did because your not worth me typing it out, but I'm going to assume your calling me lazy and that's far from what the fuck I am. How dare you? I mean really, who do you think you are? WAIT GUYS! I figured it out! Alicia Silverstone is on our BMB. Seriously, STFU.
I don't think that it was that BF vs FF was mentioned. It's that someone as an asshole about it.
Agreed! This is bullshit! Not that we will be on WIC, but I still feel like people will judge me for not breastfeeding and that really sucks. I for one really hope I can breastfeed, but unfortunately I had to have several lumps removed from my breasts before I got pregnant. They told me that due to where some of the incisions are and some of the stuff they cut out that I may not be able to. So in order for me to be healthy I had to chance not being able to breastfeed!
We cloth diaper. Its not hard and we have no problem with daycare. We use biodegradable liners so when DS poops that gets dumped in the compost at home and the trash at daycare or if we are out.
I am a STM but I think its really unfair to say a FTM can't have an opinion just because they don't have experience yet. I have plenty of opinions on things I have no experience with. I think there is a huge difference in having an opinion and being a judgy asshat who doesn't listen openly to others opinions. I can respect your opinion without agreeing. This world would be a pretty boring place if everyone agreed on everything.
My UO stems from the mommy group I am a part of on FB. So maybe it doesn't apply here and I really hope it doesn't. I am beginning to think their are alot of women out there that really sell themselves short. If my husband did half the stuff these woman in my mommy groups husbands do he would be out the door in two seconds flat. I get everyone has bad moments and does douchy things from time to time but when you vent about your husband being an asshat every other day you need to stop venting on the internet and do something about it.
We cd and our old daycare would just put it in the wetbag as is and I cleaned then out when we got home. Changing childcare this time around, so hopefully I can get the new place to do the same.
I think it comes from being a loss momma, holidays and special days are awful. There's enough sadness/envy to deal with day to day but these days are x1million worse. Add in all the announcements = full on ugly cry and huge meltdowns.
That being said, I don't judge people for doing it, I just wish people weren't so cliche by doing these things.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
I would never want to put another barrier, such as getting a doctor's note, in front of a woman struggling to feed herself and her family.